Balancing Act: Are we setting our kids up to do the one thing we haven't taught them to do well: Fail?

I spent a recent Thursday evening in a little bookstore filled with parents who gather monthly to talk about raising resilient kiddos.

We shared stories about life's slings and arrows and when (and whether) to help our children dodge them. We swapped book recommendations - Meg Jay's "Supernormal" and Wendy Mogel's "Voice Lessons" came up, among others. We decided everyone should see "Eighth Grade."

We talked about the parts of parenting that feel most contradictory and complicated - the parts for which we relied on one set of habits