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Dear Therapist: I Survived Cancer, but Now I’m Afraid My Husband Resents Me

He regrets retiring early to take care of me when I was diagnosed.
Source: BIANCA BAGNARELLI

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Dear Therapist,

My husband and I both retired two years ago, after I was successfully treated for breast cancer. I’m enjoying my retirement, but he isn’t. After my surgery, I had to have radiation treatment at a location that’s a subway ride away plus a long walk from our home. He decided to retire early so that he could drive me to the radiology clinic. I didn’t really want him to retire, but I told him I would support any decision he made. Now, two years later, he’s so depressed that he sits around the house moaning and groaning that he “never should

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