Almost overnight we had become CARERS

I had just broken up for Easter of my second year at Oxford University when my oldest brother, Miles – a loving, formidably intelligent 29-year-old – suffered a brain injury. He was on a snowboarding trip in Austria and landed badly from a jump. He died, briefly, in a helicopter above the piste. Then he was resuscitated and taken to hospital in Innsbruck, where he spent a month in a coma. At 19, my life had changed irrevocably.

My family – mother, stepfather, brother, sister, father – and I flew