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The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self-Not Just Your "Good" Self-Drives Success and Fulfillment
Written by Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener
Narrated by Jeff Cummings
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About this audiobook
In The Upside of Your Dark Side, two pioneering researchers in the field of psychology show that while mindfulness, kindness, and positivity can take us far, they cannot take us all the way. Sometimes, they can even hold us back. Emotions like anger, anxiety, or doubt might be uncomfortable, but it turns out that they are also incredibly useful.
For instance:
• Anger fuels creativity
• Guilt sparks improvement
• Self-doubt enhances performance
• Selfishness increases courage
• Mindlessness leads to better decisions
The key lies in what the authors call "emotional agility," the ability to access our full range of emotions-not just the "good" ones-in order to respond most effectively to whatever situation we might encounter. Drawing on years of scientific research and a wide array of real-life examples including sports, the military, parenting, education, romance, business, and more, The Upside of Your Dark Side is a refreshing reality check that shows us how we can truly maximize our potential.
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Todd Kashdan
Todd Kashdan, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at George Mason University. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and Washington Post, and on NPR and PBS. He lives with his wife and twin daughters in Fairfax, Virginia.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book is an incredible tool to help people find the importance of emotions and feelings. I highly recommend this book to anyone who needs a mindset shift.