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Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
Written by Sandy Hotchkiss and James F. Masterson
Narrated by Amanda Carlin
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In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation.
Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.
Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.
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Reviews for Why Is It Always About You?
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Easily the best book I've read on narcissism. The author clearly explains how narcissism can arise, how it is healthy at certain stages of childhood development, how to deal with it in others, and how to recognise it in yourself. The final chapter gives examples of common narcissistic parenting styles that have become popular in contemporary Western culture, explaining why they are unhealthy and, in each case, what a healthy parenting style is.
This book deserves to become as much a classic as Christopher Lasch's Culture of Narcissism.1 person found this helpful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Incredible, so eye opening and offering a fresh and empowering perspective for framing my own life experiences and ongoing recovery of authenticity. The knowledge is enriching and especially instructive as to how to be a parent to my own children. Recommended for parents, recovering alcoholics and addicts, and those surrounded by highly narcissistic individuals or those seeking understanding of their own narcissistic tendencies
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Awesome great book helped me a lot thank you so much