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We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love
Written by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Narrated by Matthew Boston
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"If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationship will be successful-not just for starters, but for the long run."
An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union.
Committing fully to a loving partnership-a "we"-can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you'll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?
"All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times."
In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You'll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love.
An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union.
Committing fully to a loving partnership-a "we"-can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you'll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?
"All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times."
In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You'll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Jam packed with helpful details! Brilliant! I’ll keep it handy and reread it! I’m a couples counselor and I’m recommending this book to my clients.
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