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    Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
    Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
    Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
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    Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

    By Lyn Kelley

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    New, updated version 2021. Therapist and Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley gives you the real lowdown on closed men. Rate your man on the "emotional unavailability scale." Why he shuts down emotionally, how to get him to open up, how to connect with him, how to create more intimacy, and how to make him fall deeply in love with you. She will help you understand his psyche, how to know if you should stay or leave. Plus: The best 15 strategies to handle an emotionally unavailable man. Here's what you'll discover:
    Introduction:
    Definition of emotionally unavailable
    When you change, he changes
    Whether or not your relationship can endure has to do with these 10 things

    Chapter One: Common Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Man
    Why is he so afraid?
    Signs of emotional unavailability

    Chapter Two: What Causes Emotional Unavailability?
    Learned behavior
    Passivity
    Passive resistance and passive aggressiveness
    Weak and helpless men
    Passiveness or weakness as a control strategy

    Chapter Three: How Stunted Is He? A Continuum
    Values vs ability
    Quiet and reserved personality type
    Conflict avoiders
    Secretive
    Hot and cold
    In another relationship
    Shiny ball syndrome
    Alcohol and addictions
    Control, anger and hostility

    Chapter Four: Why We Are Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men
    How EUM hook us in
    The 4 reasons women choose EUM

    Chapter Five: How You May Be a Cause of It
    Change your perception
    Why complaining doesn't work
    K.I.S.S. (Keep It Short and Sweet)

    Chapter Six: How to Connect With an Emotionally Unavailable Man
    Best ways to get more intimacy
    15 Strategies proven to work

    Chapter Seven: How to Know if You Should Stay or Leave
    Are you in love with HIM or a FANTASY?
    You have the right to feel loved
    Speak in simple truths
    Would couples therapy help?

    Chapter Eight: How to Break Up With an Emotionally Unavailable Man
    Talk and walk
    Should we just take a break?
    You deserve to be happy

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    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLyn Kelley
    Release dateJul 3, 2011
    ISBN9781465726407
    Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them
    Author

    Lyn Kelley

    As a Motivational Coach and Speaker, my goal is "to empower people move to the next level of success in their lives." Many people have asked for more information about me and why I am qualified to motivate others. So here's a little bit about me and how I got here. It all started back in Fresno, CA where I was born and raised. As a child I knew I had a calling to help people be happier and live better lives. I knew this because I was keenly observant of people. I observed people and how they lived their lives. At age 10 a friend's family invited me to a musical show called "Up With People!" This show had a major impact on me, and brought up my passion to help people be happier. Although my parents didn't care about my grades, I received all A's in school except I always failed Oral English. I couldn't get up in front of the class and speak. What kept me going in school was my desire for a career in the helping/teaching profession, so I could help others become more successful. The females in my family were discouraged from going to college, so higher education became my way of rebelling. I earned my B.A. in Education from CSU Fresno. During college I had some wonderful professors who took me under their wing and encouraged me to speak in class. I learned that I enjoyed teaching and actually had a gift that had previously been repressed. I went on to get my teaching credential and taught Jr. and Sr. High School for 7 years. I went from a shy little girl who couldn't speak in front of the class to a big girl who couldn't STOP speaking in front of the class! Teaching adolescents was an amazing experience! I found that I wanted to work with them more one-on-one, so I went back to college to become a counselor. I received my M.S. in Counseling/Psychology from the University of Miami and became licensed as a Marriage & Family Therapist. Initially I set out to get a wide range of experience. I worked in a children's psych hospital in dual diagnosis, managed a residential treatment program for severely emotionally disturbed teenage girls, conducted biofeedback therapy for a pain management center, and worked in social services in the areas of foster care, child abuse and family reunification. Once I became licensed I worked in a private counseling practice for 7 years. I specialized in relationship counseling. During this time I realized that coaching, writing and teaching were what I really loved to do, s...

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      Emotionally Unavailable Men - Lyn Kelley

      Thank You for purchasing this E-book!

      Welcome to

      Dr. Lyn Is In

      Author, Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., CPC

      Certified Professional Coach

      "My mission is to empower people to move to the next level of success in their relationships."

      What others are saying about Dr. Lyn’s

      Dear Jane Series

      "Dr. Kelley tells it like it is. I’ve read all of her books on relationships and feel I have grown by leaps and bounds due to her honest, straight, real information. She writes like she is talking to her best friend. All the strategies I’ve used so far that she suggests have worked for me! I feel so much more confident in dating now, and I’m not wasting time with men who are wrong for me. This was worth more than 100 times the cost of the books to me. I highly recommend her books."

      --Tanya Murray, San Diego, CA

      "I have read two of your books; The 12 Biggest Mistakes and How to Cure a Commitment Phobic. Both were brilliant and really well written. I really enjoyed them and will recommend them to my friends for sure."

      --Michelle, Worcestershire, UK

      "Lyn Kelley has done a superlative job of explaining why people fail at their relationships and how they can stop this self-sabotage. She explains how to know which men are ‘manageable’ and which men are not. She gives concrete, simple ways to get even the most difficult men to surrender to you. She showed me how I was actually pushing men away from me rather than moving them toward me. I now know what I’ve been doing wrong and am committed to changing myself! I highly recommend this book."

      --Michelle Rodriguez, Orlando, FL

      "Thanks so much for replying to my email. I must say that some of your insights in this book on Emotionally Unavailable Men are amazingly perfect and exactly how I feel! It was nice to have an author and coach not only give me the spot-on details for ‘him’ but also for ‘me’ and is what made me realize you are in touch with the human psyche more than any others that I’ve read."

      --Martha Furguson, UK

      Emotionally Unavailable Men:

      How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      By Lyn Kelley

      Published by Lyn Kelley and distributed at Smashwords

      Copyright 2021 Lyn Kelley

      Smashwords Edition, License Notes

      This e-book is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This e-book may not e re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each person. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      More e-Books by Lyn Kelley distributed at

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      Dear Jane Series:

      Book 1: The 12 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Dating & Love Relationships

      Book 2: How to Cure a Commitment Phobic

      Book 3: How to Turn a Player into a Stayer

      Book 4: Controlling and Manipulative Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 5: Self Centered and Narcissistic Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 6: Addicted Men – Drugs, Alcohol, Porn and More: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 7: Low Achieving Men - Passives, Wimps, Dreamers: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 8: Cheap Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 9: Men who Lie and Cheat: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 10: Emotionally Unavailable Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      Book 11: How to Break Up, Survive and Thrive

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      Bad Dick, Good Jane: How Good Girls Get Bad Boys to Behave, Fall in Love, and Commit

      How to Stick With Your Diet and Exercise Program

      How to Motivate People! The 3 Magic Keys to Unlock Anyone’s Hidden Motivation

      The 7 Self-Sabotages: Why People Sabotage Themselves and How to Stop It

      Self Coaching: How to Become Your Own Life Coach in 12 Easy Steps

      The Magic of Detachment: How to Let Go of Other People and Their Problems

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      I offer telephone and email coaching.

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      Emotionally Unavailable Men:

      How to Spot Them and Handle Them

      By Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC

      Table of Contents

      Introduction

      Definition of emotionally unavailable

      When you change, he changes

      Whether or not your relationship can endure has to do with these 10 things

      Chapter One: Common Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Man

      Why is he so afraid?

      Signs of emotional unavailability

      Chapter Two: What Causes Emotional Unavailability?

      Learned behavior

      Passivity

      Passive resistance and passive aggressiveness

      Weak and helpless men

      Passiveness or weakness as a control strategy

      Chapter Three: How Stunted Is He? A Continuum

      Values vs ability

      Quiet and reserved personality type

      Conflict avoiders

      Secretive

      Hot and cold

      In another relationship

      Shiny ball syndrome

      Alcohol and addictions

      Control, anger and hostility

      Chapter Four: Why We Are Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men

      How EUM’s hook us in

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