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    Resolve Shame And Guilt Workbook
    Resolve Shame And Guilt Workbook
    Resolve Shame And Guilt Workbook
    Ebook61 pages49 minutes

    Resolve Shame And Guilt Workbook

    By Kosjenka Muk

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    If you were controlled through intense shaming and blaming as a child, you might feel it's obvious and natural to feel ashamed and guilty even in situations in which few people would see reason for it. It might be difficult for you to explore different perspectives and to find out who or what to trust. You might have lost your ability to consider and trust your own feelings and judgment.

    With this program, you can explore the causes and consequences of your patterns of shame and guilt, and then focus on changing your mental conditioning and building a different perspective of yourself and the world. Persistent work can bring you significant relief and change of emotional patterns.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherKosjenka Muk
    Release dateMar 15, 2016
    ISBN9781311554147
    Resolve Shame And Guilt Workbook
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    Kosjenka Muk

    Kosjenka (pronounced Kos-yen-ka) Muk is a special education teacher and Integrative Systemic Coaching trainer from Croatia, EU. Her curiosity for and exploration of human psychology and potential started at age 15, and ever since she used every opportunity to expand her knowledge. Since 2003, she coaches individuals and couples, as well as teaching her workshops on topics of self-esteem, happy partnership, verbal self-defense and others. She also has wide experience working online with clients from over 20 countries worldwide. As a trainer of Integrative Systemic Coaching method, her teaching experience includes 8 European countries, as well as Canada, USA (Hawaii), and Mexico. While she loves to travel, she also enjoys living in nature and tries, with variable success, to grow all kinds of unusual plants in her garden and crack more or less spontaneous jokes. You can read many of her articles on http://iscmentoring.eu/km/articles/, or, if you enjoy thoughtful conversation, join Integrative Systemic Coaching Facebook group.

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    • 3/5
      Seems as if some pages are missing.... would be great to be able to finish the book.
    • 1/5
      All of these "exercises" are essentially just meditations in written form. The first instruction is always the same: "sit comfortably and close your eyes". Then it proceeds with very specific, detailed instructions that build off of the one before it. In short: you have to read reach instruction one at a time. How is one meant to close their eyes and clear their mind while following complex WRITTEN instruction?? This would work well as an audiobook, but it's just impractical and frustrating as an ebook!
    • 5/5
      Honestly, I couldn't thank enough the author's work on this book. Many are completely and spontaneously unaware about the guilt and shame practices deployed within the family, friends and wider society. As a reader myself, I didn't know how much these things would cripple one's confidence and self-esteem. Worth a read for parents, educators, caretakers, students and health care specialists.

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    Resolve Shame And Guilt Workbook - Kosjenka Muk

    Introduction

    Shame and guilt are heavy emotions which can result in social dysfunctions, anxiety, psychosomatic issues, even self-destructive behavior. They are commonly caused by a manipulative upbringing, in which children are controlled through shame and guilt instead of approached through dialogue, reason and consistency. Shame and guilt are difficult emotions to bear, so people often mask them with defensive mechanisms, such as aggression. Thus some people have difficulties recognizing and accepting the existence of shame and guilt inside them. Furthermore, shame and guilt may be the most important causes of depression.

    With this program, you can explore the causes and consequences of your patterns of shame and guilt, and then focus on changing your mental conditioning and building a different perspective of yourself and the world. Persistent work can bring you significant relief and change of emotional patterns.

    If you were conditioned through intense shaming and blaming, you might feel it's obvious and natural to feel ashamed and guilty even in situations in which few people would see reason for it. It might be difficult for you to explore a different perspective and to find who or what to trust.

    People who are brought up in shame and guilt might have lost their ability to consider and trust their own feelings and judgment. If you feel self-doubt during exercises, accept it, explore it, and if possible explore this doubt while doing the exercise. It is important to recognize if your (self-)doubt comes out of fear and shame (in which cases it's likely childish), or if it comes out of sense of curiosity and balance (in which case it's probably healthy).

    To achieve an optimal success with this program, it is crucial to repeat the exercises regularly. Our subconscious minds contain emotional and mental habits that were enforced for decades, and are often based on early childhood experiences and interpretations. Such deeply ingrained habits are not likely to change if you only exercise occasionally. Therefore I recommend that you apply this program regularly for a long period of time.

    Function and mechanisms of shame and guilt

    A common characteristic of shame and guilt is that these emotions are primarily focused on our self-image and perception of our own nature, while anger, sadness, joy for example are primarily related to our experience of the world around us and our relationships.

    Shame and guilt, just as any other emotion, can appear as mature – appropriate to the situation and motivating, or as immature – suppressed in childhood, inappropriate, exaggerated considering the situation, and often destructive, either to oneself, or, through defensive mechanisms of anger and spite, to the environment.

    Although shame and guilt are related and often felt together, the difference between these emotions could be summarized as: shame is focused on our definition of our personality, our mental functioning, even our core identity, while guilt is primarily related to our behavior in the external world.

    In their healthy version, these emotions help preserve our relationships and enable

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