Follow You, Follow Me: Why Social Networking is Essential to Ministry
By John Voelz
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Ethical business: Subprime mortgage lenders
A healthy meal: Stadium nachos
Words of wisdom: Twitter
We don’t often associate social networking with good things. The conventional wisdom, as it were, is that Twitter, Facebook and the like are engaging and fun, maybe dangerous, and definitely a big, shallow waste of time.
When it comes to faith, is there any value? Some point to horror stories of illicit behavior simplified by the connections it creates. Others point to its effectiveness as a tool for networking Christians with prayer chains and referrals. But what is really going on here? By now we can acknowledge that social networking is not going away.
Maybe you have resisted all social networking, you consider tweeting a frivolous fad and your Facebook account is dusty. Maybe you post several times a day. In either case, do you understand the power and depth of this new medium—in community building, spiritual formation, and yes, even evangelism?
John Voelz
John Voelz is a tamed rebel, writer, artist, songwriter, painter, musician, aggravator, and pastor. His love of all things creative in tandem with a severe angst towards mediocrity and religiosity has given him a unique platform as a voice in the church local and worldwide. He is the lead pastor known as The Curator at Westwinds in Jackson, Michigan where he lives with his wife and kids.
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Follow You, Follow Me - John Voelz
FOLLOW YOU, FOLLOW ME
WHY SOCIAL NETWORKING IS ESSENTIAL TO MINISTRY
Copyright © 2012 by John Fred Frank Voelz III
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Voelz, John.
Follow you, follow me : why social networking is essential to ministry / John Voelz.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-4267-4196-8 (book - pbk. / trade pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Internet in church work. 2. Online social networksxReligious aspects—Christianity. I. Title.
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MANUFACTURED IN THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA
So, Why Me and Why Now?
Twitter Sunday
Cyberconfessionals
Not Everyone Thinks This Is a Great Idea
More Ways to Use Social Networking in Church
Uh-oh, How Do I Respond to This?
Conclusion
The School Passing Period
Three Categories and Three Questions
What Is Behind the Community Question?
What Is Behind the Question of Distraction?
What Is Behind the Question of Time?
Conclusion
Growing Up Blind
Fearing Technology
Imagined Fears
Real Dangers
Conclusion
The Provincial Life
In the World, Not Of It
Sharing the Gospel in Social Networking
The Church Lobby
Cyberproxemics
The Engagement Bell Curve
This Is Not the Place to Fight
Authentic Self, Authentic Space
The Prayer Chain
The Ultimate Social Network
Bible Bullies, Water Guy, and the Hope Whisperer
Church Culture and Leadership
True Social Networking
Final Words
Getting Norma to try Twitter at first was an exercise in futility. She didn't want someone knowing what she did all the time and finding out things about her in order to drain her bank accounts and show up at her house uninvited.
I wasn't proud of my initial response to her. I thought I was going to shoot soda out my nose from laughing. I told her if anyone wanted to show up at her house uninvited there were a hundred thousand people in town and another hundred thousand on a NASCAR race weekend that just had to drive by. She didn't need a Twitter account to invite a home invader. The way I handled her opposition did not help Norma in any way and probably made her more paranoid. I apologized.
It didn't help that poor Norma often had her computer heisted by people (not me) in the office who played jokes on her, such as changing her desktop to a picture of George W. Bush eating a kitten or installing software that allowed them to control her keyboard from their smartphones.
Here's the thing: Norma is not a fuddy-duddy. She is the assistant of my copastor David McDonald. She has worked at Westwinds—the church where we pastor—for more than twenty years. She's actually pretty hip and is one of the most fun-loving and adventurous people I know. She has a smartphone. She uses Facebook. She can work a GPS. She uses a Mac and a ton of creative software. She's really funny. She likes to go to parties. She likes to try new things.
Some people will try to make the distrust or fear of Social Networking into an old person's
ailment. Norma is twenty or more years older than I am. She didn't trust Twitter at first, but not because of her age. Just because you get the senior discount at your local pancake house does not make you shallow or boring or unwilling to try new things. Norma didn't trust it because she didn't understand it. She feared it because it wasn't explained to her properly.
One of our friends won't allow her daughter to have a Facebook account because of stalkers and perverts.
Her daughter is in her teens. She wants to have an account to connect with all her friends at church. Furthermore, the church uses Facebook to update the teens on what is happening next with events and missional activities. Her mom (our friend) insists it will only lead to trouble once her daughter posts pictures online and allows anyone with ulterior motives to take a close peek into her life.
Our friend is protective of her daughter. She loves her. And let's face it; stalkers and perverts are not a myth. They exist. Our friend doesn't understand how Facebook works, however. She doesn't understand that Facebook has privacy settings that can be enabled so that not just anyone can see her daughter's profile. Some of her fears could be put to rest if she would seek to understand.
These are real feelings. They can't just be pointed to and laughed at by forward-thinking, early adopters. The world is changing faster than parents can say "Sesame Street." National media do not help with sensationalistic stories of cyber hate crime and virtual schoolyard bullies who influence suicide.
As such, we need someone to address the real questions, present real answers, tell real stories of redemption, and offer real hope to a world that has been caught in the quick current of changing communication.
I don't have the time for that Facebook and Twitter nonsense.
I've heard these words a hundred times over from people just like me, in similar work, life, and ministry situations. I've heard it from young and from old. From the cool
and the unlovely.
Mac and PC. From geeks, techies, and the folk who are just starting to think that the Internet might be a big deal one day after all.
I've heard other critiques and responses: It's a passing fad.
It's a pornographic cesspool.
I don't do that Twinkle-Twizzle thing.
I don't need to know about your gas problem or how late you woke up.
I don't want everyone knowing my business or when they can rob my house.
And one of my favorite backhanded holier-thanthou responses, I'd rather spend my time praying for those who use Facebook than actually using it.
I try to remind myself that these critiques and responses usually come from one of two places: fear or tradition.
In the long list of distractions that hold the church back from its mission, most fit cozily into these two categories. They aren't inherently evil, but they can thwart opportunity, make us bitter, distance us from our neighbors, breed cynicism, and turn us from a city on a hill into a curio shop in an alley.
Even people committed to ministry sometimes fear change and what they don't understand, are cynical of technological trends, have a hard time adapting to new customs and expectations of the world around them, and maybe don't understand why they even need to adapt to something new when they already feel taxed and exhausted and stretched.
There are real answers to fears from adapting to a changing world. The answer is not, Shut up and deal with it.
I wrote this book because I want to help you. I want to fill in the gaps. Answer the questions. Face the fears. And mobilize you for success in ministering through and enjoying Social Networking.
I've read many books that use a lexicon that resides in the lofty world of labels such as postmodernity
and post-Christianity.
These books often talk about Social Networking, Social Media, and the Internet as part of the postmodern shift. Although these are helpful and I believe necessary, we cannot merely throw Social Networking into a postmodern pool. It has its own identity.
I need to fess up. I was an early adopter. I was one of the first people I know of to sign up for Facebook or Twitter. Most rolled their eyes at me—except for the nerds, geeks, and other early adopters. I have always been a fan.
However, as an early adopter and eager experimenter I have tried, failed, and succeeded many times over with different applications of Social Networking. I've had a fair amount of traffic in the blog world with my blog at JohnVoelz.com, and I've had the privilege of working in a church environment that is very welcoming to new strategies and taking risks. Our church, Westwinds, has sparked the attention of Time magazine, Fox News, A Current Affair, Newsweek, the Wall Street Journal, and many Christian publications such as Christianity Today, Relevant, and Collide. In this process I have met many with opposing views, from apathetic to antagonistic, who are willing to converse about their stance on innovation, trends, culture, media, technology, and especially Social Networking.
As a pastor, I believe part of my role is to be an aggravator in the church at large—to get other pastors and church leaders to think about where we are and where we are (or should be) headed. In my conversations with pastors of all flavors, I've heard a high degree of apathy or disdain toward Social Networking.
I joined the world of Twitter in 2007 under two different names— one for my church and one for the leadership team that I am a part of. In January of 2008, I created the name shameonyoko
as my Twitter username and began tweeting for myself—not just for the organizations that I am associated with. Since then, in no small part because of the attention our church received from hosting what is possibly the first ever Twitter Church,
where we used Twitter on multiple screens during the worship service, Twitter has been a part of my ministry life and conversation on a daily basis.
I'm a father and a grandfather—an extremely young-looking and vibrant grandfather who also believes in self-fulfilling prophecies. I've seen my oldest child experience the birth of the Internet and the appearance of the computer as a commonplace utility, source of entertainment, and communication device in our home.
My youngest two children have grown up with the Internet and Social Networking. They are as normal to them as growing up with television was for me. I've watched my granddaughter growing daily via the Internet and recently celebrated her birthday live via iChat and Facebook.
Until eight years ago, I never dreamed I'd have conversations about sexting, sharing dirty pictures and videos, trash talking, hate crimes, or virtual bullying. As a father and a pastor who counsels many families, I believe I have something to say to parents.
You don't have to be a teacher in the communication field to know students are communicating differently. The classroom battle cry Stop passing notes
has become I'm going to confiscate your smartphone.
Many battles fought on the playground were birthed in cyberspace. Educators and influencers need tools to talk about this new language without children feeling shamed for using the technology we've given them.
It has only been a few short years since graduate-level students worked on a typewriter and met in the library. Now, notes are shared, concepts are discussed, and professors and classes are evaluated through Social Networking. Professors need to be part of and influence this new conversation. Social Networking is a great way to get ideas into someone's head
rather than just get the idea out of ours.
One of the best ways to understand new ideas or concepts, be they theological, technological, or cultural, is through metaphor. Throughout this book I offer a series of metaphors for understanding Social Networking. Some are familiar to church folk, such as the church lobby and the congregational prayer chain. I offer other metaphors too, such as the brief period in the hallway between classes at school and the provincial life captured in Disney's Beauty and the Beast. These images help us compare and contextualize this new space to worlds with which we are familiar.
Social Networking has scars. It has holes. It might not fulfill every task to the degree it advertises or like some people wish it would. But it's a thing.
It is not living and breathing, but it is a vehicle. Sometimes it's a tool. Sometimes it's a platform. Sometimes it's a care station. Sometimes it's an information source. Sometimes it's a connection point. Sometimes it's a bulletin board. But more than all these things, Social Networking is a new way of communicating, and it is not going away.
I found myself leading a struggling church the day I arrived at Westwinds. After a year of healing, mending wounds, and performing triage, we forged a team leadership model where three of us worked in tandem to lead a church committed to the idea of thinking differently. We rewrote the church values to reflect imagination, permission, authenticity, and community.
As such, we find ourselves trying things that have never been done in church. Many garner national attention. Positively inclined media quickly labeled us early adopters,
gifted,
movers and shakers,
and mavericks.
These labels are flattering but only partly true. We think what makes Westwinds special has