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    The Love List: A Guide to Getting Who You Want
    The Love List: A Guide to Getting Who You Want
    The Love List: A Guide to Getting Who You Want
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    The Love List: A Guide to Getting Who You Want

    By Elena Murzello

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    Elena Murzello cannot imagine going to the grocery store without a list. As she strolls through the aisles, she relies on her list to make sure she gets her must-haves and to help keep her from grabbing items she does not need. It was with this theory in mind that, at age twenty-one, she created a list of characteristics for a potential lifelong mate that still guides her love choices to this day.

    In The Love List, Elena shares her real- life experiences as well as information gathered from more than a hundred single, divorced, and married men and women about the qualities they look for in a life partner. Abstracting details from her interviews she created a process that anyone can use to create his or her own lists. Along with introspective questions to ponder, Elena includes sample lists of characteristics, the top three traits both men and women seek in a partner, an exploration of different types of relationships, and ways to diversify a portfolio of suitors.

    The Love List provides practical tips and personal stories to encourage single people to look deep within, take risks, and learn to rely on their own unique lists while searching for the perfect mate.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateSep 4, 2013
    ISBN9781491700730
    The Love List: A Guide to Getting Who You Want
    Author

    Elena Murzello

    Elena Murzello is a multifaceted, multi-tasker, and certainly a “go-getter”. She is a registered nurse, actress, writer, traveler, design engineer and soon-to-be MBA grad. Elena was born in Wetaskiwin, Alberta and now is a city girl living in Vancouver, British Columbia.

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      The Love List - Elena Murzello

      Copyright © 2011, 2013 Elena Murzello.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      ‘’The Love Puddle’’ By James Laughlin, from THE SECRET ROOM, copyright ©1997 by James Laughlin. Reprinted by permission of New Directions Publishing Corp.

      iUniverse books may be ordered through booksellers or by contacting:

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      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models, and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      ISBN: 978-1-4917-0071-6 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4917-0072-3 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4917-0073-0 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2013913284

      iUniverse rev. date: 9/3/2013

      CONTENTS

      Preface

      Introduction

      The Ideal

      Why The List?

      The List: Help Or Hindrance?

      Potato Soup Versus Lobster Theory

      How Does The List Work?

      The List

      Development Of The List

      The Science Behind The List

      Women And Mating

      Men And Mating

      List Gone Wrong

      Waiting: The Crazy Cat Lady Lingers

      Master’s Degree In Love

      Operations—The Process

      Strategy, Or What’s Your Game Plan?

      Diversifying Your Portfolio

      Reallocation Of Resources

      Return On Investment (Roi)

      Interview Notes

      Thoughts

      Shout-Outs

      References

      THE LOVE PUDDLE

      is not deep but it’s

      usually muddy. If you

      stray into it you won’t

      drown but you may come

      out of it looking like

      a tramp and with your

      feelings more dishevel-

      led than your trousers.

      You may feel guilty or

      feel betrayed or even

      disgusted, you’ll wonder

      why you walked through

      the love puddle instead

      of going around it. But

      you know you’ll do it

      again—that’s for sure.

      A poem by James Laughlin (Secret Rooms: Poems, 1997)

      PREFACE

      Okay, here it is. I don’t have any writing credits to my name. I somehow coerced my high school English teacher to give me an A during my final semester of school. I think I told her that English was bringing down my GPA and I deserved an A. Not because my writing was stellar or because my well-rehearsed performance of a witch in Macbeth was fit for Broadway—I deserved an A because I had heart. I still have heart, and this is why I’m writing this book. I really believe that we live in a time where anything is possible and nothing is too good to be true. And for a non-writer to go on to be a published author is, well, crazy. But we live in a crazy world. Welcome!

      I don’t think that I’m a guru or that I know it all. What I’m about to tell you is nothing new. In fact, I’m pretty sure you have heard it all before, maybe from your mom or your best friend or a helpful taxi driver. What I’m about to tell you has been rehashed several times over like a well-worn T-shirt that is a snuggly companion as you watch a romantic comedy on a rainy day.

      Just so it’s clear: this book is based on my real-life experiences and the research I have done through books, articles, and interviews. In fact, I interviewed more than a hundred men and women regarding their own relationships and the lists they used to find their partners. They were single, divorced, newlyweds, and married people. Friends, friends of friends, and even strangers. Throughout the book, I will share poignant points of their stories. Stories are great, stories help us grow, and stories may remind us that some disheartening things are really just petty in the grand scheme of life.

      Let’s be honest—there are thousands of books on relationships. Instead of reading several books, you can read my notes and get a handle on the literature available. This is not supposed to be a purely academic book. It’s supposed to be a thought-provoking yet concise guide.

      There are no names to protect the privacy of my interviewees. But their stories will be so familiar to you that you will feel like you might know them—and you just might. But don’t go around pointing the finger. You’ll lose friends that way. Of course, I might lose friends too. Yikes.

      Don’t

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