Killing Yourself Successfully?: A Practical Guide to Coping with Stress
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This book is entitled Killing yourself successfully? It is its intention to ask whether you are not your own dream and vision killer. Are there no issues you would have addressed differently in your life, in another persons life or in your church or community, but feared untested opinions? Many people tell themselves what will people say about me?
This book acknowledges that there are setbacks in life and that life is full of many stressors. It however proposes that stress can be turned around to be a stepping stone towards success. For indeed, half a glass is either half full or half empty, depending on how you look at it. How you look at it depends on your circumstances. Your circumstances depend on what you are full of inside you.
This book will give you the courage to confront your inner side to live and let live. Killing yourself successfully? is the title given to this book purposely. Its focus is men and women, boys and girls and the aged who are going through hard times in their lives, those who are depressed, stressed and who sometimes wish the earth could break and they vanish into its womb.
The main assumption in this book is that there are people who are stressed. It is further assumed that the majority of those undergoing stress choose to do so, willingly or unwillingly; with full knowledge or ignorant. Given another side of life and chance with different facts they can decide to live happily. Sorrow and happiness is a personal decision.
Some however get advice to get rid of their stressors, and yet refuse to act.
This book aims at challenging those who are undergoing stress in their lives to decide to live happily. If they dont, they have chosen to kill themselves successfully. It is those who refuse to face their problems head on. If you are one of them, this book is for you!
Thivhilaeli Simon Nedohe
Thivhilaeli Simon was born on 17 April 1963 at a village called Khalavha in Venda, Limpopo Province, in the Republic of South Africa. He grew up in the village, looking after cattle and goats, catching birds and locusts for relish, like any other boy. His rite of passage was in June1972 where he spent a month at the traditional circumcision school.
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Killing Yourself Successfully? - Thivhilaeli Simon Nedohe
KILLING YOURSELF
SUCCESSFULLY?
Second Edition
A practical guide to coping with stress
Thivhilaeli Simon Nedohe, PhD
Copyright © 2013 by Thivhilaeli Simon Nedohe, PhD.
First published in Makhado, Limpopo Province, South Africa
on desk top by T. S. Nedohe 2004
Third Print: December 2008
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the copyright owner.
This is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously, and any resemblance to any actual persons, living or dead, events, or locales is entirely coincidental.
Rev. date: 10/05/2013
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CONTENTS
Preface
Acknowledgements
Chapter 1 Introduction
Chapter 2 2.1 What is stress?
2.2 Eustress
2.3 Distress
Chapter 3 Causes of Stress
3.1 Introduction
3.2 Signs of stress
3.3 Conclusion
Chapter 4 Work-related Stressors
4.1 Case study 1: Vuledzani
4.2 Chronic work-related stressors
Chapter 5 Life-related Stressors
5.1 Case study 1: Marandela
5.2 Case Study 2: Ntakadzeni
5.3 Other life-related stressors
Chapter 6 Community-related Stressors
6.1 Case Study 1: Mpho
6.2 Case Study 2: Nndanganeni
6.3 Other community-related stressors
Chapter 7 Church-related Stressors
7.1 Church involvement
7.2 Case Study 1: Tshamano
7.3 Case Study 2: Mrs Phamuphamu
7.4 Other church-related stressors
Chapter 8 Political-related Stressors
8.1 Case study 1: Comrade Zakes
8.2 Other political-related stressors
Chapter 9 Stop Killing Yourself!
9.1 Case study 1: The butterfly
9.2 What does this signify?
9.3 Temporary stop
9.4 Where most stress comes from
Chapter 10 Different Ways of Coping with Stress
10.1 Eliminate the stress or change your response to it
10.2 Use the coping resources available to you
10.3 Develop new coping resources
10.5 Express your feelings
10.6 Identify your sources of stress, and develop an approach to reduce or eradicate them
10.7 Find someone you can trust, and tell them how you feel
10.8 Find ways of relieving stress
10.9 Take charge of the situation by being proactive rather than avoiding the problem
10.10 Be kind to your body
10.11 Set smart objectives and goals
10.12 Take personal responsibility for the quality of your life
Further Reading
Other Book by the Same Author
PREFACE
Killing Yourself Successfully? is the title given to this book purposely. Its focus is men and women, boys and girls, and old people who are going through hard times in their lives, who are depressed, stressed, and who sometimes wish the earth could break, and they could vanish into its ‘womb’.
The main assumption in this book is that