7 Caregiver Landmines: And How You Can Avoid Them
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A caregiver’s journey often contains beliefs and behaviors that act like emotional landmines and can cause serious damage. Avoiding these landmines, while finding a path to safety, requires caregivers to hear from someone with experience they can trust. Author and radio host Peter Rosenberger draws upon three decades of caring for his wife through a medical nightmare to discuss seven caregiver landmines that wreak havoc in a caregiver’s life. Helping them navigate to a place of safety, 7 Caregiver Landmines equips fellow caregivers to live a healthier, calmer, and even more joyful life—because “healthy caregivers make better caregivers!”
Praise for Peter Rosenberger and Hope for the Caregiver
“With tenacity, tenderness, and humor Peter Rosenberger brings hope to those who find themselves in the overwhelming and sometimes lonely role of caregiver.” —Amy Grant, Grammy Award–winning singer/songwriter, author and actress
“In a world hung up on trying to make sense out of hard times, Peter drives the point home that ‘we don’t have to understand—God understands, and that’s enough.’ This is THE book for caregivers, written by one with scars and immense credibility.” —Jeff Foxworthy, comedian, author, television host
“Peter Rosenberger was the keynote speaker at the NYS Caregiving & Respite Coalition™’s annual conference. Through humor, he gave practical advice to caregivers living the care partnering experience. More importantly, he brought hope to professionals and family caregivers who deal with the struggles of caregiving day in and out.” —Ann Marie Cook, President/CEO of Lifespan
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Reviews for 7 Caregiver Landmines
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I wish that I would have found this book sooner. Earlier this year I lost my husband of 47 years after a seven-year long battle with Lou Gehrig’s disease. I was his sole caregiver. Through our struggle with this horrible disease I experienced the explosions and was scared by the shrapnel repeatedly of each of the “land mines” discussed in this book. I still carry the wounds and scars from the battles I faced. Although I am no longer a caregiver, this book has offered much needed help in understanding and healing from the trauma I faced but never admitted.
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The writing style is appropriately pleasant and light, and that alone is quite soothing for a frayed caregiver. What turned me off was the inclusion of Christianity. It is presumptuous and off-putting. He also glibly skims over excuses, as he calls them, such as not having insurance, a reality for some of us, which does, in fact, prevent doctor’s visits. Some of us cannot socialize either. My mother is bed-bound. So, leaving the home is impossible. I appreciate some of it and like the cool, breezy style but he comes off as clueless when he makes some of these remarks.
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7 Caregiver Landmines - Peter W. Rosenberger
Introduction
What does it feel like to be a caregiver?
It’s kind of like coming to a road, looking both ways—and then getting hit by a plane!
For more than thirty years, I’ve been a caregiver for my wife through a medical nightmare that continues to bring new challenges—often daily. This journey shows no signs of slowing down. Along the way, I’ve had ample time to make virtually every mistake one can make as a caregiver.
Through this journey and through all the mistakes, I’ve also gained hard-won wisdom and experienced teachable lessons on the challenges, predicaments, and heartache of the caregiver. One of those teachable moments came following a snowmobile excursion in the forests of Montana with our youngest son, Grayson.
Ten miles from the paved road in a tiny town in Montana, my in-laws’ home backs up to the national forest. No stranger to snowmobiles, Grayson and I headed into the mountains and traveled deep into the vast Montana wilderness one afternoon. Trails are marked by reflectors posted periodically on trees, and if you are not paying attention, it can be easy to miss one of those markers.
Although logging many hours on those trails, this day was a windy one, and the fresh snow covered any tracks made by previous riders. Speeding along the trail, I missed a marker. Finding ourselves on a slope, in a deep snow drift, my machine sank into the soft powder and quickly became stuck.
Getting a sled out of deep snow is not too bad if you have two people, but to complicate matters, we were lost. We’d have to work to get the machine freed and somehow make it back up the hill (in the soft snow) and find the marker. So, if we spent all our energy digging the machine out of the snow, we still ran the risk of getting stuck in an even worse place—unless we knew where the trail lay and could get our bearings there.
As we pondered our situation, the sun slowly sank over the peaks, and the temperature dropped. The wind howled, and snow whipped around us. I admit feeling more than a little unsettled. Not thinking about the house, not even thinking about five miles down the mountain, I simply wanted to find that next marker. The only goal was to navigate to a place of safety and get my bearings.
After a systematic search using Grayson’s machine, which he kept away from the soft drifts, we found the marker. Then, we worked together to free my sled from the deep snow. With my heart racing, I gunned the machine, felt it take hold, and made a beeline for the marker and the trail—where I knew the packed snow would make it easier to navigate and provide a haven to catch my breath. Successfully feeling the packed snow of the trail, Grayson and I safely headed down the mountain.
Now, how does any of this relate to this book—and why was this a teachable moment for me as a caregiver?
As caregivers, we often find ourselves stuck in precarious