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    Anxiety in Relationships - Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy and Attachment, Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts and Fear of Abandonment
    Anxiety in Relationships - Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy and Attachment, Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts and Fear of Abandonment
    Anxiety in Relationships - Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy and Attachment, Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts and Fear of Abandonment
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    Anxiety in Relationships - Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy and Attachment, Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts and Fear of Abandonment

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    Are you worried that your anxious tendencies might be ruining your relationship? Here's what you can do…

    Do you constantly worry about what your partner is doing, such as who they are hanging out with and whether or not they are being honest with you?

     

    Has your trust been destroyed in previous relationships, now making it difficult for you to trust again?

     

    Do your concerns and worries leave you feeling frozen and anxious, causing you to be unsure of what you should think or say?

    40 million Americans suffer from anxiety-related issues each year, and more than 20% of these people say it either affects or has ended their relationships.

     

    We live in a fast-paced and busy world these days--one with constant distraction and movement. One where our relationships are sometimes so wound up as a result that it's hard for us to keep up.

     

    You may have experienced some variant of emotional trauma in the past--most of us have--and it's reasonable to carry this forward with you, but it doesn't have to control you.

     

    You can overcome your negative tendencies and move past your own fears and insecurities. With the right tools and techniques, you can redirect your focus away from anxiety to a place of self-empowerment and love.

     

    In Anxiety in Relationships, you'll discover:

    • How to stand boldly within your truth and why this is the most important 1st step towards freedom
    • Why negative thoughts can actually be a good thing, and how to use them to your advantage
    • The 5-step path to overcoming your insecurities and no longer letting them control you
    • How to turn your insecurities into your most endearing qualities, no matter how bad you think they are
    • The secret to effective communication and how this could save your relationship
    • Why expressing your fears to your partner is essential for a healthy relationship, and what you can do regardless of how difficult it might seem
    • How self-love will literally force your partner to treat you differently
    • 6 of the most powerful ways to cope with, address, and ultimately release all of your fears

    … and so much more.

    With just minutes a day of active focus, you can set yourself upon a new path.

     

    Just because anxiety has always been a part of your life and has always infected your relationships with others, it doesn't mean it has to continue this way.

     

    Even if your anxiety is a new and powerful thing that you don't quite understand, you can move past it and into a truly loving relationship of mutual trust and admiration.

     

    The limiting nature of your fears and insecurities are actually creating a space for you to grow, for you to become something more. By embracing your own inner power and strength, you can move forward into a life unrestrained by anxiety, with relationships that make you feel free.

     

    If you're ready to take back your power and show your partner the love you are truly capable of giving, then add this book to your cart right now.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherKara Lawrence
    Release dateAug 15, 2020
    ISBN9781393402534
    Anxiety in Relationships - Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy and Attachment, Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts and Fear of Abandonment

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      When I found this book, I didn’t know what I needed, I just knew that I needed something. I am thankful that I took the time to read it and follow what it says. I didn’t rush through it as I took my time to write its words and apply it to my life. I came to find that I have anxieties even in friendships that I never noticed till I sat and wrote what it guided me to think about. It’s a good start for someone who knows nothing about beginnings, but needs to take a step forward.

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    Anxiety in Relationships - Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy and Attachment, Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts and Fear of Abandonment - Kara Lawrence

    Anxiety in Relationships

    Restore Your Love Life by Eliminating Negative Thinking, Jealousy, and Attachment While Learning to Identify Your Insecurities, Overcome Couple Conflicts, and Lose Your Fear of Abandonment.

    Kara Lawrence

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    Table of Contents

    Introduction

    A Journey vs a Step-by-Step Guide

    Relationship Hacks vs Relationships Being Hacked

    Lacking Accountability and Stable Ambiguity

    Chapter 1: Unpacking Your Backpack of Anxieties and Acknowledging Your Truth

    Unpacking Anxiety

    But What Exactly Is Anxiety?

    Fear vs Anxiety: A Little Neuroscience

    Did You Mention Neuroscience?

    But How Do I Know When My Fear and Anxiety Is Going to Break My Back (and Possibly My Relationship)?

    Recap and Self-Assessment

    Self-Assessment: Where Do I Reside on the Anxiety Disorder Spectrum?

    Let’s Look at Nature: The Amygdala in Other Animals

    Anxiety and Its Family Relations

    But What Should I Do With My Anxiety?

    How to Tell If You Are Not Standing in Your Truth

    Tips for Stepping Into Your Truth

    Chapter 2: How to Get Rid of Negative Thoughts

    And, Action!

    Wait, What? I Have a Pain-Body?

    Chapter 3: Own Your Insecurities

    Matchmaking Discussions Over Matcha

    Appreciate Your Sexual Polarities and Stop Competing With Your Partner

    Listen and See Your Partner From a Perspective No One Else Can

    Don’t Get Lost in the Us-Work - Continue the Me-Work

    Outwitting Your Insecurities

    Chapter 4: How to Properly Understand Your Partner

    The Lowdown on the 5 Love Lingo’s

    But How Do I Know My Partner’s Love Language?

    Essentials for a Healthy Relationship and How to Implement Them

    Understanding: A How To on Becoming

    Understanding: Better Emotional Communication

    Loyalty

    Respect

    Trust

    Chapter 5: Self Love Is a Necessary Prequel

    The Lowdown on Attachment Theory

    Securely Attached: Jamie

    Anxious-Ambivalent: Nancy

    Anxious-Avoidant: Luke

    Anxious-Disorganized: Missy

    Reparenting

    Reparenting Explained

    Give to Yourself What You Didn’t Receive as a Child

    Reparenting: The Pillars

    5 Guidelines to Start Reparenting:

    Mirror Neuron, Mirror Neuron on the Wall...

    Chapter 6: Release All FEAR

    How Can I Identify If Fear and Anxiety Are Ruining My Relationship?

    Ways to Cope With and Address Your Fears

    How to Overcome Your Fears

    Conclusion

    References

    Introduction

    "N othing binds you except your thoughts; nothing limits you except your fear; and nothing controls you except your beliefs." - Marianne Williamson.

    Have you ever felt like you are constantly ruining your relationships but are not sure why or how to stop? Do you feel like anxiety might be the third wheel in your love affairs? Does it feel like your past relationships that have gone astray are long gone, but the rejection still lingers? Do you develop anxiety about the fact that you have anxiety? Have jealousy and codependency become major obstacles to overcome in your previous relationships?

    Let me tell you something dear reader, you are not alone. And you have it within you to lay down your baggage and release the trauma that has been shackling you down. I firmly believe in the words of Marianne Williamson when it comes to many aspects of life, but especially when it comes to our relationships - most notably our romantic relationships.

    My sincere hope is that this book will be a game changer for you. Being a woman in my 30s, I’m very exceedingly aware of the challenges associated with meeting a partner in this day and age. I have a keen interest in spirituality and mindfulness. I find human bonding, communication, and attachment fascinating. Through a great focus on philosophy and psychology, I’ve been able to take a deeper look into many issues, interactions, and mindsets that most people would consider mundane. Yet I found these interests and insights that I am sharing with you of immense value in my life. In a sense, this book is a product of the work I’ve done for myself and the mindset and practices I share have been a game changer in my own life. This book shares a journey of empowerment and self-awareness that guided me towards a complete release from all past emotional trauma, which enabled me to enter new relationships with little to no baggage. I’m inviting you to join me on a journey of discovering a true, new you so that you will be ready to attract a new partner.

    A Journey vs a Step-by-Step Guide

    I DELIBERATELY REFER to this book as a journey, because in essence, that is what it is. This book is definitely not a 7-Step-Guide to the perfect relationship. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Relationships are dynamic. The path to a healthier relationship may require different things from the people in the relationship. For some, it means getting off their butts and into the action. On the flip side, you also have people that have been running around from relationship to relationship and who have been consumed by action. These folks are in dire need of silence and space to think and allow themselves to feel.

    There is no quick fix when it comes to relationships. Flourishing relationships are not a thing we find or do, they are a destination we journey towards. It is a journey you will embark on daily and no person or couple’s path looks exactly the same. Thus, rather than a map with specific stops and a planned route, I want to equip you with the right tools in your backpack so that you can overcome any hurdle, whether your partner has joined you already or whether you are still en route to meeting them.

    Relationship Hacks vs Relationships Being Hacked

    IT IS MY FIRM BELIEF that we are so enveloped by pictures of perfect relationships that are thrown at us through the media - especially social media - that we have no clue as to what the picture of a good, healthy and wholesome relationship looks like. We are so brainwashed by pictures of perfection on our phones, that we have forgotten about the flawed, but authentic pictures in our hearts.

    Our attention is being hacked. Our brains are becoming all the more fragmented and distracted. We are not paying enough attention to what is literally happening in front of us - very often because of our smartphones and devices. With all the constant messaging with a focus on perfection, what happens is that we often want perfectly planned steps to guide us closer to perfection. But steps are a finite number, because after 7, our eyes tend to glaze over and our focus drifts. This is why I don’t want this book to simply be 7 steps to a happy love life and relationship.

    This book asks you to take stock and work on your introspection. It asks you to look away from perfection and acknowledge your flaws so that you may reach a place of authenticity and truth.

    When did you last stop to think about the picture you created in your relationships? Take a moment with me and ask:

    ●  How am I doing in my relationships in general (not only your romantic ones)?

    ●  What do my relationships look like when it comes to my family, parents, siblings, and friends?

    ●  How much attention have I really paid to relationships in my life?

    ●  How much am I attending to other markers of success in my life in comparison with the amount of attention I pay to my relationships?

    ●  What work have I done thus far to better equip myself to be a good partner (parent, sibling, friend, etc.)?

    ●  Am I really showing up for myself and for others when it comes to the relationships I have?

    ●  Am I holding myself accountable in my relationships?

    With all the relationship hacks and convenient quick fixes out there, it's time we take a look at the ways in which these messages actually hack our attention. We have allowed our thoughts and beliefs to seek and prefer quick easy solutions - often found outside of us. Again, as in the quote we kicked off with: We allow our beliefs to control us. We have allowed ourselves to buy into the belief that there are quick fixes for relationships and that somehow it’s ok to place the blame for our unhappiness on external causes. And then we’re surprised by the fact that we feel lonely and abandoned by others. You can lay these beliefs down now, and remember that you have great power within you: You can change your beliefs, and you do not have to be bound by your thoughts. However, it’s going to take time, energy, patience, and accountability to unlock this power inside of you. It’s easy to hold others accountable for what they are or are not doing in relationships. But what are you doing to hold yourself accountable for the role you play in your relationships and your subsequent levels of happiness and fulfillment?

    It is time for us to take our relationship accountability up a few notches. Accountability in relationships is really going through a difficult time. Why? Because these days we can ghost people. From the palm of our hands. One moment we were having hours of conversation, the next moment: Gone. Deleted. Someone doesn’t exist anymore. When things get uncomfortable, we have the power to swipe away the discomfort and just delete the relationship. Humans have always been exposed to rejection, but ghosting is taking rejection to the next level.

    And when we’re not ghosting people, we sort of simmer by remaining elusive. How many times have you heard these kinds of phrases? "We really should get together sometime.

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