Urut Batin : Tips To Last Longer In Bed

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Many men know that trying to last longer while having sex can be difficult.It is and frustrating also especially when man climaxes before pleasing his woman. So, here I will share with you some tips on how to last longer while having sex.

Are you sick of the embarrassment of orgasming way too early during sex?

Are you worried that your partner may leave you for someone else who can satisfy her needs?

Do you afraid that your partner will cheat on you, due to your inability to last long enough to give her an orgasm?

Well you are not alone, a recent online poll found over 70% of males would like to last longer in bed. In this article we'll be addressing the topic of how to last longer in bed, and we'll look at a few techniques that you can useto boost your staying power instantly.

Ending premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed is vital if you are to become a better lover and one who is able to satisfy his partner sexually. It takes on average about 20 minutes for most women to achieve an orgasm through intercourse alone. Also even without the problem of premature ejaculation, most men will climax after only a good five minutes of sex.

How can you fill this obvious gap?

What can be done to have longer lasting sex and end the problem of premature ejaculation?

The Facts

Premature ejaculation is the cause of many marriage and relationship breakdown's as unsatisfied sexual partners may look elsewhere to seek a more fulfilling sex life.

One reason why men might not be able to last longer in bed is the age. It is known that young males in their late teens and early twenties tend to get over excited when it comes to sex. It is understandable that this happens, since at a young age not much thought goes into the actual act of having sex. Instead a young male may solely be thinking of his own ego and in order to satisfy it only feels the need to bed as many girls as possible in the shortest space of time. If that has been the case then a habit of ejaculating quickly may have been formed early on.

An old man could be in this embarrassing position if he weren't in a relationship for an extended period and so turned to masturbation to relieve his sexual urges. This situation creates the habit to ejaculate without thinking about satisfying a partner, so the sole aim may have been to ejaculate as soon as he possibly could in order to avoid expending too much time and energy.

First of all, you need to realize why you have troubles with erections. One hand is that your testosterone levels begin to decrease. Testosterone is a hormone that influences sexual and athletic performance. It begin to decrease, mainly after the age of 30.

On the other hand, the reason could be the fact your blood circulation isn't what it used to be. Erections are caused by blood flow pooling in the penis, so lack of blood pressure and circulation directly affects the strength and size of your erection.

May be you're the one having problems keeping a solid erection during intercourse. It is bad, but not the worst thing in the world. First of all you shouldn't feel ashamed. Statistics show that half of all men aged 40-70 years experience some form of sexual problem.

The Techniques

a)Exercise and Effective Massage Treatment

It is a fact that an effective massage treatment can remove blood stasis or other blockage in any parts of a body. When done accordingly by a specialist, it will furthermore increase the blood circulation , allowing the maximum possible blood flow to the penis.

But it will come to certain circumstances that you will not be able to control the heightening sensitivity and the maximum pleasure that leads to a premature ejaculation. Some people would just masturbate and ejaculate before having an intercourse, hoping for a longer intimate session that will follow afterwards. But they don't realize that they'll just wasting their energy and have been doing it all wrong from the beginning! To practise jelqing, manhood massage and any other similar exercises will actually help to lower the heightening sensations and all those sexual arousals before having an intercouse. Try this and you will know!

One of the keys to lasting longer in bed is to control your breathing to a relaxed manner. Breathing and ejaculation are linked. When you are having sex with your partner your breathing starts off slow, as you and your partner get more aroused you'll notice that your breathing starts to speed up, the more aroused you get the the more your breathing speeds up until you reach a climax and ejaculate.

Nothing more, nothing less, just a 15 minute a day training. Relax and increase your body awareness There are very many techniques out there to help you relaxand be more able to 'feel' your body. As an alternative healing practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques. Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex.

b)Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.

Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding which is itself a step towards mastery .Focus on your pleasure during sex,during exercise or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the commuter/bus.

There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As youbecome more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable. This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.

As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it. Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them. Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.

Learn the erotic tantric massage and apply it to your partner.

c) Stop thinking

Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment withtechniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up. Experience all of thisintense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it! The key is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.

d)The PC muscle and Kegel

In the middle of your stream of urine, stop and start the stream several times. PC muscles are the muscles you just used. Note, that at first you may also squeeze your anal muscles. As you become experienced, try to separate out different muscle groups that you are able to exercise by squeezing

Kegel workouts can provide men with stronger erections.There are said to be significant benefits for the problem of premature ejaculation from having more muscular control of the pelvis.. It is also possible that strengthening the pelvic floor may allow some men to achieve a form of orgasm without allowing ejaculation, and thereby perhaps reach multiple"climaxes" during sexual activity..In men, this exercise lifts up the testicles, also strengthening the cremaster muscle, as well as the analsphincter, as the anus is the main area contracted when a Kegel is done. Thisis because the pubococcygeus muscle begins around the anus and runs up to the urinary sphincter.

f) Thrust and press whenever necessary

To excite her, you can press the end of your penis against the head of her clitoris. This excites her but has the advantage that as you aren't thrusting,you are going to last longer. Let her use your penis to tap her genitals, and many women like this as a part of foreplay. When you do

penetrate her, let your penis rest in the entrance to her vagina rather than thrusting it in straight away.

Her most sensitive parts are in the entrance to her vagina, and if you enjoy shallow thrusts rather than deep ones, you will not only last longer when you are making love in bed, but you will get greater pleasure yourself when you finally do orgasm - a longer build up to orgasm always feels better during sex.

When you first feel the heightened sensitivity and energy in your penis that you know you'll soon explode, don't panic! Too many men are pushed over the edge,right to ejaculation, because they mentally begin to panic when they feel they're close to orgasm. Panic phrases rush through their heads, like: "Uhoh, I'm gonna blow!" and "Not again, this is going to be embarrassing." Instead of letting these counter-productive thoughts fill your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm, instead calmly say in your head:"Okay, I'm close to ejaculating.

The most sensitive part of your penis is the top of the shaft and especially the head. To decrease its stimulation (without stopping the 'action') slowly and deeply thrust into your partner, as far as you can go and she can pleasurably take.

Then, gently grind your hips, wiggling your pubic bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8 inches down from your belly button) on her vagina. To her,this seems and feels like a wonderful stroke variation, which gives herexternal clitoral stimulation (the number one way to make any woman orgasm).

However, behind the scenes, it's momentarily decreasing your stimulation,enabling you to last longer. This happens because when you plunge deep intoher, your penis enters a wider area of her vagina, which lessens its contact and stimulation.

Then, to cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead of thrusting in and out,which further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or so,your arousal levels will have dropped enough for you to restart your thrusting.

By using this technique, you're able to control your urge to pop withoutstopping sex and while giving your partner extra sexual stimulation.

k)Positions

Having said that, lasting longer isn't just about finding new ways to enjoy sex, or new positions that help you last longer - it's also about you having the right mental attitude, a positive approach to premature ejaculation, inwhich you are optimistic about the likelihood of you being able to control your ejaculation.

Make foreplay into a sexual encounter that teases and promises of the delights to come: the longer you extend the initial phases of the sexual encounter,the more rewarding the later stages of thrusting and ejaculation will be.Indeed, it's at this stage of sex that you might like to consider giving your partner an orgasm - see the advice above if you want to know why this helps inthe matter of lasting longer.

When you have fun in bed, and when you make sex last longer by extending foreplay, there's also the benefit of increased intimacy between you. Just relax and focus on what you are doing together - not on the sex part, because that may well increase your nervousness and cause you to develop anxiety whichwill only make you come quicker.

It is a known fact that certain sexual positions will you help last longerthan others during intercourse. Positions where your partner is on top will begive way less stimulation to the penis and therefore sex should last a little longer than in positions like the doggie style for example. Some sexual positions are better to make her climax than others. The biggest trick is figuring out the best position for your girl, because every woman's body is different. There are women who can only climax with clitoral stimulation and others who can wildly orgasm from penetration alone. The following 8 sexual positions seem to work for the majority of women. Please try them all and pick your favorite!

i)Missionary The missionary position works for many women because it allows for deeppenetration. For additional stimulation, use your fingers on her clitoris whileyou thrust in and out.

ii)Missionary With A Twist If you want to spice up the missionary sex position, lift her legs up ontoyour shoulders while you penetrate her vagina. This opens her up for evendeeper penetration and makes stimulation of her g-spot easier.

iii)This is your mission Perhaps it is not the most explosive of sexual positions and, hey, it may not even merit the "Best Position in the Bedroom"award. This position, nonetheless, is most helpful for men who want to prolongcoitus.

Speaking of coitus, you can try practicing coitus interruptus, which entailsdeliberately withdrawing your slimy guy from her vagina prior to ejaculation andholding it. Soon afterward, you may insert your little guy back in and continue on your merry way.

Remember that the instant she lifts her legs in the air or you lift your own body, you may end up feeling more intense sensations. We, therefore, recommend that you begin with body-to-body missionary and slowly work your way up with variety.

iv)Ride 'emcowgirl

Although some guys lose control, considering they don't have any power when the woman on top does all the maneuvering, many men find a woman's back-and-forth thrusting (rather than up and down) very comfortable.

Allowing her to take control of the situation can help you concentrate on keeping your orgasm at bay. As well, you get to watch your sweetheart bounce around while she does her thing.

Once the thrusting thing becomes child's play for you, you can try letting her squat. But be warned: The squatting position is likely to make you lose your mind (and your semen) a lot faster. That's because her vagina tends to hug your penis rather tightly, and your genitals and hers are the only two body parts that are touching.

v)Doggy Style This sexual position allows for maximum penetration and very easy access to her clitoris. All you have to do is reach around her while you penetrate, and there it is. Doggy style also gives the woman the ability to control the speed of thrusting, pushing back or pulling forward as her orgasm gets closer.

vi)Girl On Top Many women like to be on top because this gives them room to move their bodyaround until they find the sweet spot. This sexual position also gives easy access to the clitoris for easy stimulation and wild orgasms to follow.

vii)Face to Face Another great position that'll help most men last longer in the sack is the "sitting inside each other" position. You sit with your legs crossed and she sits atop you doing the same and controlling the tempo.

The great thing about this position is that you get to rub her back or pull herby the shoulders and suck on her breasts with ease. As well, she can bite into your neck or rub your back while you both enjoy a constant sexual pace.

When you become accustomed to this situation and learn adequate penis control, then you can give her some new instructions and get her to squat up and down on your member while she puts her hands on your knees for balance.

viii)Front-to-back This position should usually be reserved for morning sex.With her back facing you, lift up one of her legs and insert yourself inside her warm fleshy area.

Although the initial feeling may be that of tightness, if you brace yourself,the feeling will become more comforting. Many guys are able to control themselves and last longer in this position.

The Final

You can easily and quickly re-train your body and re-condition your mind toejaculate only when you are ready to do so. You can be able to go as long as you or your partner would like and as hard as you want in any position you choose.

Sex is about giving and getting satisfaction. Being able to last a little longer by just laying there just won't do. There are much better ways of ending premature ejaculation and having longer lasting more satisfying sex.

One of the finest anti-premature ejaculation strategies is to ensure she has an orgasm first. Since women do not "come down" from their orgasm as fast as men, she will still be interested in more sexual activity with you after she has come, so you can ensure sex lasts longer, that your lovemaking continues for longer, and that you are a longer, better lover in bed!

If you have already ejaculated, you're bound to last longer next time - andyes, you have to stay awake rather than drop off to sleep. When you've come,kiss and cuddle until she and you are aroused again, then make love for a second time. True, you may find the sensation of making love to your partner when you have already ejaculated in her vagina very arousing and exciting: even so, hopefully the fact that you are going for a second orgasm will mean you last longer during sex.