A Complete Guide to

Assertive Living
Robert Alberti
And

 Assertiveness

is a tool for
making your relationships more
equal and more comfortable.

This

book offers step by step

training to help improve your
relationship with others through
better communications skills

 This

book gives us:

Background information
Examples
Procedures
Is this book for someone who
cant stand up for themselves?
No , everyone .. can do with a hand
at getting along better with others.

 It

is about equality as a style

It is about dealing with upsets
honestly , directly on an equal
footing.
To retain a sense of power and
control in your own life without
trying to control others
Its not about getting your way
Nor getting back at people.
Nor turning the other cheek
Nor manipulation of others

Daily life situations where

assertiveness is needed
How

do you respond to the following

situations?
You want to cut down a telephone
sales pitch
A coworker puts you down
Your spouse gives you a dirty look
A neighbor blasts his stereo till 3 am
One of your children snap at you

The assertiveness
alternative:

Have you ever felt helpless,

powerless, and ineffective?

Do you sometimes get pushy in an

effort to make yourself heard?
Is it difficult to make your wishes
known to others ?

Assertiveness is an alternative to
personal powerlessness and
manipulation,
This programme will help to develop
your self confidence and respect for
others.
Definition of assertiveness
Assertive behavior promotes equality in
human relationships, enabling us to act
in our own best interest, to stand up for
ourselves without undue anxiety, to
express honest feelings comfortably, to
exercise personal rights without
denying the rights of others.

Assertiveness and personal

power

Do you have difficulty in saying no to

persuasive people?
Are you able to express warm positive
feelings to someone?
Can you comfortably begin a
conversation with a stranger at a
party?
Have you ever regretted stepping on
someones toes in trying to gain your
own objectives?

Barriers to self expression:

Many

people do not believe they

have the right to be assertive
Many people are highly anxious
or fearful about being assertive
Many people lack the skills for
effective self expression

In the latter part of the

book we will find:
Examples of behaviors that are:
Aggressive
Assertive
Nonassertive

How can you benefit from

this book?
Learning to make assertive responses will
help:
Reduce anxiety
Physical complaints such as:
Asthma, rashes, general fatigue,
headaches, stomach disturbances
You can be healthier, more in charge of
yourself in relationships, more confident
and capable, more spontaneous in
expressing your feelings. More likely to
be admired by others.

But what is your motive for picking up this

book?

Are you looking for help in specific areas?

In what way would you like to be different?

End of unit 1