SexLIFE Manual

Health and Wellness Crew

Seattle University

Table of Contents

Introduction. 2
Research and Data ... 3
Learning Objectives4
Committee Descriptions and Tasks.5
Definitions 9
Spaces.10
Stops Facilitation Questions.22
Assessment.23
Recommendations for the Future25
Appendices..26

Introduction
Welcome to the Health and Wellness Crew (HAWC) of Seattle Universitys The
Game of SexLIFE manual. This is a document that we have provided for other
institutions to implement a version of this program in their wellness departments. This is
a program devoted to sexual health education in a fun, engaging, and memorable way.
You are more than welcome to tweak any parts of the program needed in order to align
with your institutions capabilities and mission. We just ask that you please cite us in
your usage of the program. We hope you have a fun time planning SexLIFE and please
contact HAWC@seattleu.edu if you would like any pointers.

Research and Data

Research for SexLife was primarily done through finding research-based assessments
that surveyed young adults on college campuses. Valuable surveys asked about students
gender identity, sexual activity, sexual orientation, masturbation, sexual assault, alcohol and
drug use before sexual activity, if prophylactics were used during sexual activity, sexually
transmitted infections, and values regarding sexual activity. The National College Health
Assessment, produced by the American College Health Association, tests for a variety of these
variables in different depths for the national college population and for our campus specifically.
Research journals could also be helpful, because they often provided a deeper look at one of
these topics and where the activity intersected with another topic.
While the National College Health Assessment supplied the best data for our college
campus specifically, having multiple sources for topics allowed for a larger variety of questions
to be formed and represented a broader audience in some cases. Spirituality and sexual activity
was an area that was a struggle to find a wide range of researched questions because most
were focused on Christian values. As a Jesuit university, this would meet the needs of most of
our students, but we also communities of Buddhists, Hindus, amongst a range of others that
may not have been able to connect with these values. In order to engage with all students, the
more diverse and inclusive you can be in the language and variety of the questions your game
is made of, the more open the communication can between students in the game.

Learning Objectives
Rationale: 62% of Seattle University students report having at least 1 sexual partner in
the last year, 58% of students report having oral sex in the past 30 days, 40% of
students report having vaginal sex in the last 30 days.
Learning Objective 1: 75% of participants will discuss sexual health topics with a peer
health educator to correct misperceptions and to help clarify student values around sex.
Learning Objective 2: Participants will be able to recall and choose ways to reduce STD
transmission; including getting tested routinely, being abstinent, using barrier methods,
etc.
Learning Objective 3: All participants will be able to identify and recall two or more
sexual health resources on and off campus

Committee Descriptions and Tasks

Logistics
Committee Tasks
Coordinate space with Conference and Events Services
Coordinate catering
Create music playlist
Utilize poll everywhere
Order supplies from Office Max
Design and purchase stickers for Pay Days
Design and order Stop signs
Coordinate camera use with Media Production Center
Coordinate any technology needs with Office of Information Technology
Ensure all of the materials are in the office at least 1 week prior to event
Advertising
Committee Tasks
Write event description and create clear language for recruitment
Create a tag line for event
Coordinate with graphic designer
8.5 X 11 posters
24 X 36 large posters
Facebook cover
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Quarter sheets
Digital display
Add event to the Campus Calendar and Campus Announcement
Create a Facebook event
Design a roll down
Reserve information tables and coordinate tabling
Advertise at other team events throughout the quarter
Order all materials through campus printing
Utilize team to recruit for the event
Participant Recruitment
Committee Tasks
Determine specific groups and offices to reach out to on campus
Email student clubs
Present at student athlete team meetings
Make connections and build relationships (Green Dot Butterfly Model)
Coordinate flyers at front desks
Chalk the Quad
Hang posters and host tabling in residence halls
Game Development
Committee Description
Committee Tasks
Design room layout
Go through list of tiles and assess which ones to keep, edit, or replace
Create new tiles if needed
Coordinate with Education Content to discuss what is needed for each tile
Finalize stops and facilitation questions throughout the game
Coordinate Pay Days throughout game
Determine final space organization
Design finalized tiles
Order finalized tiles from campus printing
Develop game rules sheet
Develop interactive activities throughout the game
Table tiles onto posterboard
Educational Content
Committee Description
Committee Tasks
Coordinate with Game Development to see what information is needed for each space
Coordinate with Research and Assessment to translate research and data findings into laymans
terms
Ensure every tile has educational content
Compile resources and develop a resources sheet
Design and order definitions posters (see page 8)
Design and order six posters with the most important data and research
Collaborate with campus partners (e.g. Health Center staff)
Research and Assessment
Committee Tasks

Review last years research and data findings to ensure information is still accurate
Highlight at least six National College Health Assessment sexual health data points that are
specific to Seattle U
Coordinate with Game Development to understand tile themes
Find at least 10 articles or best practices for each theme
Synthesize findings and send to educational content
Decorations
Committee Tasks
Create wall decor
Purchase table cloths for each table
Utilize decorations the office already owns (e.g. Christmas tree, Halloween cauldrons, etc)
based on event theme and time of year of event
Coordinate with Conference and Event Services to determine best lighting
Ensure there are 3D materials throughout the game
Note: try to be as sustainable as possible with decorations
Student Coordinator 1
Position Description
Position Tasks
Assign team members to each committee in partnership with Student Coordinator 2
Create due dates for all committees
Meet with each committee individually for committee updates
Hold committees accountable for filling out program planning guide
Manage and allocate event budget
Weekly meetings with advisor
Ensure the program is feasible, successful and in alignment with the universitys mission
Assign team members to tasks and stations at the event
Set learning objectives and outcomes in partnership with advisor
Send University Divisional staff an email about what the event is, the learning outcomes, how it
connects to a Jesuit-Catholic mission, relevant research and data, in partnership with advisor
Coordinate peer health facilitation trainings for everyone facilitating stations
Student Coordinator 2
Position Tasks

Meet with each committee individually for committee updates

Hold committees accountable for filling out program planning

guide
Act as the contact between Conference and Event Services and catering
Manage Poll Everywhere during the event
Create vision board to organize decorations

Definitions
Sexual Values: your core beliefs around the importance and worth of sexual activities,
in order to inform your own actions, limitations, and desires.
Intimate and Sexual Activity: physically intimate actions including- kissing, folding,
masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, and vaginal sex.
Intimacy: the emotional and physical connections between partners.
Spirituality: how you live out your life to find meaning according to your personal
beliefs.
Consent: positive, unambiguous and voluntary agreement to engage in specific sexual
activity throughout a sexual encounter. Consent cannot be inferred from the absence of
a no- a clear yes, verbal or otherwise is necessary.
Reproductive Health: mutually agreed upon pregnancy prevention and promotion
methods where all partners have equitable responsibility.

Spaces
1. Sex Before Marriage or Sex After Marriage
2. Take a moment to reflect on why you value sex before marriage
-Its important to know your values before engaging in intimate acts
3. Reflect on how your familys values impact your values
-Its important to understand how our spheres of influence impact our own sexual values.
4. Have a positive conversation with your family regarding sexual values
-Having an open and honest conversation about sex with a family member you trust can
provide support and assistance in making decisions about your own sexual health.
5. Reflect on how you express affection
Want to take an assessment on how you express love? Check out The 5 Love
Languages
6. Discuss intimacy with someone from CAPS
-Students seek counseling and psychological services for a wide variety of reasons.
-These services are provided free of charge to students enrolled in classes.
7. Consider reproductive health options that you would be comfortable with
-Its important know all of your options.
-Choose an option that fits you and your partner(s) needs.
8. Reflect on how social and cultural norms influence your decision
-Societal expectations impact our sexual values and perceptions on sex.
9. Consider how you will navigate social and peer pressures around sex
-Reflect on the motivation behind your values
-Contemplate ways to roll with resistance from peers.
10. Discuss intimacy with someone from Campus Ministry
-Campus Ministry is a great confidential resource - stop by their office on the first floor
of the Student Center to learn more!
11. Take a moment to reflect on why you value sex after marriage
-Its important to know your values before engaging in intimate acts
12. Have a conversation with your partner(s) about your sexual boundaries
-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health.
13. Have a positive conversation with your family regarding sexual values
-Having an open and honest conversation about sex with a family member you trust can
provide support and assistance in making decisions about your own sexual health.
14. Have a conversation about your sexuality with a friend
-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with a friend can strengthen your relationship
-It can also help you understand your own values
15. Reflect on your attitude about vaginal sex
-Its important to know your values before engaging in intimate acts

16. Communicate with partner(s) about your sexual values

-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health.
17. Reflect on how your sexuality impacts your identity
-Sexuality can be a salient identity, so its important to deconstruct how this impacts the
way we interact with peers
18. Identify how sex could negatively impact you
-There can be emotional and/or physical consequences from sex
-Understanding these consequences before engaging can lead to more fulfilling sexual
experiences
19. Self-reflect on your motivation for having sex
-Fill in the blank for yourself: I am having sex because...
20. Reflect on your attitude about masturbation
-Fill in the blank for yourself: I masturbate because....
21. Consider how college has impacted your sexual values
-Contemplate ways to roll with resistance from peers.
-Have there been changes in your sexual values since starting college?
22. Consider the connection between intimacy and spirituality
-Remember that intimacy is defined as the emotional and physical connection between
partners
-Spirituality is how you live out your life to find meaning according to your personal
beliefs
23. Share one sexual value you hold with your group
-Its important to know your sexual values!
24. Consider how prior sexual experiences impact your sexual values
-History impacts our emotions and beliefs around sex
25. Consider how your family has influenced your sexual values
-Its important to understand how our spheres of influence impact our own sexual values.
26. Consider how your spheres of influence impact your sexual values
-Societal expectations impact our sexual values and perceptions on sex.
27. Consider sexual values on a Jesuit-Catholic campus
-Does it impact you personally? Why or why not?
28. Attend interSEXions at OMA with Campus Ministry
-interSEXions is a discussion group from the Office of Multicultural Affairs at Seattle
University that focuses on the topics of relationships, religion, spirituality, sexuality and
acceptance.
29. Consider the connection between emotion and sex
-Sometimes sex and intimacy are not mutually exclusive so its important to recognize
the emotional aspects of sex
30. Consider how contracting an STD could impact you currently
-STDs can impact you physically, mentally, and emotionally.
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-How could it impact your future sexual experiences.

31. Reflect on how your previous sex education impacts your sexual values
-Whats one thing you remember from your previous sex education?
-Why does it stand out to you?
32. Reflect on your attitude about anal sex
-Know your sexual values.
33. Reflect on social medias influence on your sexual values
-Its important to understand how our spheres of influence impact our own sexual values.
34. Consider sexual health on a Jesuit-Catholic campus
-How do you feel the way SeattleU addresses sexual health on our campus?
35. Discuss Masturbation
36. Reflect on your attitude about oral sex
-Know your sexual values.
37. Engage in a conversation about differing sexual values
-Its important to understand that everyone has different values
-Be prepared to answer critical questions regarding your sexual values.
38. Consider how you can understand and accept sexual values different than your own
-Its important to understand that everyone has different values
-Be prepared to answer critical questions regarding your sexual values.
39. Payday: Ornaments and Stickers
40. Have a conversation with your partner(s) about what you do and dont like sexually
-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health
41. Get Herpes tested before being sexually active with a new partner
-Its important to know your status! You and/or your partner(s) can get tested at the
Student Health Center (Bellarmine lobby) or at the STD Clinic/Public Health-Seattle &
King County at Harborview.
42. Have a conversation about how to make sexual activities enjoyable
-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health
43. You send an unwanted sext
-It is important to still get consent even when using technology.
44. Get annual physical exam
-Seattle University Student Health Center offers annual physicals at a low cost.
-Visit http://www.seattleu.edu/student-health/ or visit the center in the Bellarmine Lobby
for information about how to make an appointment and other services offered!
45. Monogamy or Multiple Partners
46. Ask your partners status
-Remember that some STD tests are not accurate immediately after exposure, so getting
tested often is important
-Knowing your partners status can help reduce STD transmission
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47. Have a conversation that you are seeing other people

-Communication is key!
-Clarification is important to be on the same page with a potential partner
48. Dont know your partners sexual histories
-Having a conversation with ones partner(s) about their prior sexual history is an
important aspect of maintaining ones own sexual health and promoting an open, honest
relationship.
-This can be a hard conversation to have, but it is important to discuss with your partners
about possible contraction of STDs.
49. Decide with partners your STD prevention methods
-Its important know all of your options.
-Choose an option that fits you and your partner(s) needs.
50. Did not get STD tested after each new partner
-Getting tested for STDs after each new partner is important in practicing safer sex!
51. Communicate your sexual boundaries with partners
-This ensures that both partners have the same expectations of the relationship.
-Asking for consent sets up the relationship for great communication in the future and
establishes boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
52. Ask for consent before engaging in new sexual activity
-Always ask for consent! This ensures that both partners have the same expectations of
the relationship.
-Asking for consent sets up the relationship for great communication in the future and
establishes boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
53. Express to your partner what you dont like sexually
-Not communicating about sexual preferences may lead to unpleasant or negative
feelings later.
-The decision to enter into a sexual relationship is entirely up to you, and you always
have the right to say "no" at any time to anything that you don't feel comfortable with.
54. Asked partners consent before kissing
-Asking for consent before kissing is just as important as asking for consent before sexual
activity.
55. Do not communicate your sexual values with your partner
-By discussing your sexual values, both of you can be on the same page
56. Get tested with partner
-Remember that some STD tests are not accurate immediately after exposure, so getting
tested often is important
-Knowing your partners status can help reduce STD transmission
57. Do not express to partner what you like/enjoy sexually
-Giving consent is just as important as asking for consent
58. Have a conversation sharing implications of being monogamous
-Communicate your expectations of the relationship
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59. Discuss future family options and expectations with partner

-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with a friend can strengthen your relationship
60. Get HIV tested before being sexually active with a new partner
-Over time (and without effective treatment), HIV gradually destroys the body's defenses
against disease, leaving it vulnerable to many infections and cancers that would not
normally develop.
-Its important to know your status and get tested routinely.
61. Asked partner(s) for consent before being intimate
-Asking for consent before becoming intimate ensures that both partners have the same
expectations of the relationship.
-Asking for consent also sets up the relationship for great communication in the future
and establishes boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
62. Communicate with partners about your sexual values
-Not discussing your sexual values may lead to negative feelings later
-By discussing, both of you can be on the same page in terms of sexual values and level
of comfort.
63. Talk with a spiritual leader about reproductive health
-It is important to understand what reproductive health methods are in alignment with
your spiritual values.
-On-campus, Campus Ministry is a good place to start this confidential conversation.
64. Dont know new partners sexual history
-Having a conversation with ones partner(s) about their prior sexual history is an
important aspect of maintaining ones own sexual health and promoting an open, honest
relationship.
-This can be a hard conversation to have, but it is important to discuss with your
partner(s) about possible contraction of STDs.
65. Get tested for Gonorrhea and Chlamydia before being sexually active with a new partner
-Gonorrhea and Chlamydia are the most prevalent STDs on our campus. It is important to
know your status.
66. Talk to your doctor about STD prevention options
-There are a lot of myths about STDs and STD prevention.
-Your doctor will be able to give you accurate and up-to-date information about STD
prevention that will work best for your lifestyle.
67. Discuss Abstinence
68. Did not get an annual physical exam
-Regular health exams and tests can help find problems before they start.
-They also can help find problems early, when your chances for treatment and cure are
better.
-(CDC, 2014)
69. Asked partner(s) consent before initiating a new sexual position
-Always ask for consent!
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-This sets up the relationship for great communication in the future and establishes
boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
70. Your partner(s) contract an STD
-Remember the most common symptom of an STD is no symptoms at all. Get tested!
-Remember accurate and consistent use of STD prevention methods.
71. Get testicular exam
-36% of SU males have performed a testicular self-examination in the last 30 days.
(NCHA, 2013)
-Testicular exams can help find problems early, when your chances for treatment and cure
are better.
72. Consider your role at SU in sexual misconduct prevention
-Intervene when something doesnt look right - bystander intervention prevents sexual
assault from occurring
-Want to practice different bystander intervention methods? Come to the HAWC office
and chat with a Peer Health Educator.
73. Have unprotected sex
-Unprotected sex can increase your risk of STD transmission
-If you have unprotected sex, its important to get tested.
74. Talk to your doctor about your reproductive health
-As well as giving you accurate and up-to-date information about reproductive health,
your doctor can also recommend you to other resources in the community that will be
able to assist you in the reproductive health methods you choose.
75. Communicate your familys sexual values with your partner(s)
-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with your partner(s) can strengthen your
relationship
76. Was intimate with partner(s) while under the influence
-Remember that consent cannot be given while under the influence of drugs and/or
alcohol
77. Discuss Oral Sex
78. Asked partner(s) consent before initiating oral sex
-Asking for consent before initiating oral sex ensures that both partners have the same
expectations of the relationship.
-Asking for consent also sets up the relationship for great communication in the future
and establishes boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
79. Dont know your partner(s) sexual values
-Not discussing sexual values with your partner can cause differing expectations
-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with your partner(s) can strengthen your
relationship
80. Get breast exam
-Clinical breast exams are an important part of early detection.

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-The Seattle University Student Health Center offers annual exams and womens health
services.
81. Did not get HPV tested before being sexually active with a new partner
-Talk with your partner and suggest going together to get tested
82. Do not use STD prevention methods effectively
-Using STD prevention methods incorrectly can drastically decrease their effectiveness.
Accurate and consistent use is key for STD prevention methods.
83. Get annual pap smear
-Preventative care is one of the most important ways to maintain your health and a pap
smear can detect cervical cancer early.
-When you turn 21, pap smears will become a routine part of your annual physical.
84. STD Plinko
85. Communicate your status with your partner(s)
-Talk to your partner(s) about your status and their status before being sexually active
86. Get tested for STDs after new partner
-It is important to get tested before being sexually active with a new partner
87. Have a conversation with friends on how they can protect themselves
-Being knowledgeable in different STD prevention methods will benefit your own health
and the health of your social sphere
88. Continue to accurately use STD prevention methods
-Correct and consistent use of prevention methods is key
89. Dont know your partner(s) sexual histories
-If you did not discuss your partner(s) sexual history becoming sexually active with
them, it is important to get tested for STDs.
90. Ask partner(s) to get tested
-It is important to get tested before being sexually active with a new partner
91. Get STD testing every 6 months
-It is important to get tested before being sexually active with a new partner
-Remember that some STD tests are not accurate immediately after exposure
92. Have unprotected sex
-Unprotected sex increases your risk of contracting STDs
93. Continue to consistently use STD prevention methods
-Accurate and consistent use of prevention methods is key
94. Consider whom you choose to disclose your positive STD status to
-STDs can impact you physically, mentally, and emotionally. To reduce STD
transmission, its important to disclose your status to any potential or past sexual partners.
95. Ask partner(s) to get tested
-Sexually transmitted diseases are more common on college campuses. The only way to
know if you or anyone else has an STD is to get tested.
96. Consult medical clinician

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-Your doctor will be able to give you accurate and up-to-date information about sexual
health, and can help you determine healthy practices that will work best for your lifestyle.
97. Decide on how to keep as healthy as possible
-STDs can impact you physically, mentally, and emotionally. Its important to talk to your
doctor, who will be able to give you accurate and up-to-date information about sexual
health, and can help you determine healthy practices that will work best for your lifestyle.
98. Communicate what sexual activities you are comfortable engaging in
-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health.
-Remember, its important to always ask for and give consent before engaging in a new
sexual activity
99. Did not use STD prevention method effectively with partner(s)
-Accurate and consistent use of prevention methods is key
100. Communicate your status with your partner(s)
-Having a conversation with ones partner(s) about their prior sexual history is an
important aspect of maintaining ones own sexual health and promoting an open, honest
relationship.
-It is important to discuss with your partner(s) about possible contraction of STDs.
101. Consider how this could impact other areas of your life
102. Consult local resources
-The Student Health Center located in Bellarmine Hall is free and confidential
-Check out Gay City, Lifelong AIDS Alliance, and King Countys Teen Clinic for offcampus resources in our community
103. Discuss Anal
104. Dont know partner(s) sexual history
-Having a conversation with ones partner(s) about their prior sexual history is an
important aspect of maintaining ones own sexual health and promoting an open, honest
relationship.
105. Decide to be abstinent after being sexually active
-Abstinence is the only 100% effective way to prevent STDs
-37% of SU students have had no sexual partners in the last 12 months
106. Payday: Cookies and Stickers
107. Learn how to support those affected by HIV by visiting Lifelong Aids Alliance
-Lifelong's mission is to empower people living with or at risk of HIV/AIDS and/or other
chronic conditions to lead healthier lives.
-Lifelong Aids Alliance is located between 10th and 11th on Pike just a few blocks from
campus
108. Get STD tested at King Countys Teen Clinic
-The clinic runs on a sliding scale for payment
-Check out their website to find more about their services:
http://www.kingcounty.gov/healthservices/health/locations/teenclinics
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109. Explore www.bedsider.org

-A sexual and reproductive health network that provides free information about different
methods and where you can find them
-You can also call them for free info at (888) 321-0383
110. Join Wingmen
-Seattle Us student organization for men who want to end sexual violence on campus
and in our community
-Email SA-espiritj@seattleu.edu for more information
111. Get STD tested at the Student Health Center on campus
-The Student Health Center is located on the first floor of Bellarmine Hall (206-296-6300)
-Participate in Healthy Relationships Week
-Keep a look out for events February 8th-14th, 2015
113. Get tested at Gay City
-Gay City is a multicultural gay mens health organization for HIV/STD testing on Pike
Street
114. Shop at Lifelong Aids Alliance Thrift store
-Located close to campus on 11th and Union
-All sales from donated items fund Lifelongs work of providing services to people with
HIV/AIDS and other chronic conditions in our community
115. Attend Take Back the Night
-Join us at an event to empower survivors of sexual assault
-Put it in your calendar in your phone: April 28th, 2015
116. Discuss sex and stress
117. Talk with a HAWC member about sexual health
-We are a group of student volunteers who are trained as certified peer health educators.
-We are here to answer your questions, offer support, and provide resources for you!
-You can give us a call or stop by our office in Student Center 380 across from the Bistro
118. Visit King Countys Teen Clinic to know your family planning options
-The Teen Clinic provides sexual and reproductive health methods and info as well as
pregnancy tests
-You can call their South Seattle location at 206-296-4650
119. Meet with CAPS to discuss sexual health values and experiences
-Counseling and Psychological Services or CAPS is a free and confidential service
located in Pavilion 120 between Bellarmine Hall and the Library
120. Discuss your personal connection between sex and spirituality with a minister at Campus
Ministry
-Ministers at Campus Ministry are confidential resources on campus - stop by their office
on the first floor of the Student Center to learn more
121. Save the Sexual Assault Resource Line number in your phone
-King County Sexual Assault Resource Center (KCSARC)
-Phone: (425) 226-5062, 24-HOUR LINE: (888) 998-6423
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-Website: http://www.kcsarc.org
122. Attend interSEXions
-Intersexions is a discussion group from the Office of Multicultural Affairs at Seattle
University that focuses on the topics of relationships, religion, spirituality, sexuality, and
acceptance.
123. Call Public Safety for sexual misconduct response
Make sure you have Public Safetys numbers in your phone!
o Emergency: (206) 296-5911
o Non-Emergency: (206) 296-5990
124. Consult with Harborview Center for Sexual Assault and Traumatic Stress
-Provides counseling and physical exams following a sexual assault.
-Call for a consult if you are helping a friend who has experienced a sexual assault. (206)
744-1600
125. Share an on-campus resource with a friend
-Awareness of campus resources is important for overall campus community health
126. Talk with a HAWC member about sexual health
-We are a group of student volunteers who are trained as certified peer health educators.
-We are here to answer your questions, offer support, and provide resources for you!
-You can give us a call or stop by our office in Student Center 380 across from the Bistro.
127. Take the Its On Us pledge at itsonus.org
-Take the pledge and make a personal commitment to help keep people safe from sexual
assault.
128. Meet with someone from CAPS to discuss sexual expectations in a relationship
-Counseling and Psychological Services or CAPS is a free and confidential service
located in Pavilion 120 between Bellarmine Hall and the Library
129. Learn new methods of bystander intervention
-Bystander intervention can play a key role in preventing a sexual assault from occurring.
Intervening in a situation might mean distracting a potential aggressor or inviting an
intoxicated friend to leave a party with you.
130. Talk with someone at OMA about your sexual identity
-The Office of Multicultural Affairs is dedicated to the promotion of a campus
community that appreciates, encourages, and celebrates diversity
131. Share an off-campus resource with a friend
-What off-campus resources have you checked out?
-Awareness of resources is important for overall community health
132. Explore Seattle Us sexual misconduct website
-Learn about SUs policies and procedures regarding sexual misconduct
-http://www.seattleu.edu/deanofstudents/sexual-misconduct/
133. Discuss sex and spirituality
134. Call Harborviews Center for Sexual Assault & Traumatic Stress

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-Provides counseling, consultations, and physical exams following a sexual assault and is
only a few blocks from campus!
135. Learn more about anti-retroviral medication
-Anti-retroviral medication can suppress and stop the progression of the HIV virus
-Visit Lifelong AIDS Alliance to learn more about anti-retroviral medications and how to
access them
136. Visit the Office for Wellness and Health Promotion
-Located in Student Center 380
-Meet our graduate assistants, study with us, and enjoy our safe space!
137. Talk with a HAWC member about sexual and reproductive health.
-We are a group of student volunteers who are trained as certified peer health educators.
-We are here to answer your questions, offer support, and provide resources for you!
-You can give us a call at or stop by our office in Student Center 380 across from the
Bistro
138. Learn more about STD transmission
-Visit www.goaskalice.columbia.edu
-Come visit HAWC!
139. Tell your male identified friends about Wingmen and their role in bystander intervention
-Wingmen is Seattle Us student organization for men who want to end sexual violence
on campus and in our community
-Email SA-espiritj@seattleu.edu for more information
140. Know the confidential support services on campus
-Many support services on campus are private, but only three are confidential:
Student Health Center, Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), and
Campus Ministry
141. Learn how to support someone diagnosed with HIV at Lifelong AIDS Alliance
-Lifelong's mission is to empower people living with or at risk of HIV/AIDS and/or other
chronic conditions to lead healthier lives.
-Lifelong Aids Alliance is located between 10th and 11th on Pike just a few blocks from
campus
142. Join Wingmen
-Wingmen is Seattle Us student organization for men who want to end sexual violence
on campus and in our community
-Email SA-espiritj@seattleu.edu for more information
143. Tell a friend about confidential resources on campus
-Many support services on campus are private, but only three are confidential:
Student Health Center, Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), and
Campus Ministry
144. Apply for the HAWC team
-Applications come out Winter Quarter!
-Interested? Well be holding info sessions!
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145. Payday/ Assessment/ Resource Sheet

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Stops Facilitation Questions

1.
2.
3.
4.

Why did you make the decision to take the path you chose as a group?
What are ways masturbation could contribute to your understanding of your body?
How do you define abstinence?
What are some of the differences between oral sex and vaginal/ anal sex in relation to

sexual health
5. What are some of the pros and cons of anal sex?
6. Is sex a healthy de-stressing technique?
7. Can one of you share how you see sex and spirituality as related (either you or a
friend)?

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Assessment
Please rate your overall level of satisfaction with this program
Very Satisfied
Satisfied
Dissatisfied
Very Dissatisfied
The thing I liked most about SexLife was

The thing I liked least about SexLife was

What are 3 ways you can reduce STD transmission?

1.
2.
3.

Regardless of your STD prevention methods, the most important thing is accurate and
consistent use.
True
False

As a result of this event, I am better able to articulate my sexual values.

Strongly Agree
Agree
Disagree
Strongly Disagree

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I believe there is a spiritual component to sexual health.

Strongly Agree
Agree
Disagree
Strongly Disagree
What are two resources for sexual health information (on or off campus)?

1.
2.

How often should a sexually active individual get STD testing? Check all that apply.
After each new partner
At least every 6 months
Before each new partner
Only after vaginal sex

During this program, I spoke with at least one Health and Wellness Crew (HAWC)
member.
True
False

Would you recommend this program to a friend?

Very Likely
Likely
Unlikely
Very Unlikely

Additional Comments:

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Are you a NCAA Student Athlete?

Yes No

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Recommendations for the Future

Life Spaces Recommendations

Make the connection clearer for participants between sex and spirituality
Enhance the discussion at the anal sex stop because it was very short
Reword the masturabation discussion question
Planning Process Recommendations
Show people pictures or videos to help potential participants vizualize the event during
recruitment
Conceptualize early on how to market what happens during the game
Ensure marketing accurately reflects how long it takes to play the game
Create a SexLIFE model for tabline
Have time at team meetings to meet at sub-committees
Start decorations early on in the process
Come up with large topics (e.g. STDs, masturbation, anal sex, oral sex, values clarification, etc)
prior to coming up with board spaces, educational content, and research
Have educational content and research as one larger committee
Other Recommendations
Switch discussion stations midway through the game since its challenging to talk about one
topic for the duration of the game
Consider moving the date so its not as close to finals week

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Appendices
Space Stops Facilitator Guide

Space Stops
Facilitator
Guide

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Sex before marriage or sex after marriage

Question: Why did you make the decision to take the
path you chose as a group?
Follow up question: what are some of the pros and cons of that
choice?

Before marriage
i. Pros
- Able to connect with your partner on a physical
level
- Can help you better understand your own
sexuality
- Can help you identify what you like/ dont like
sexually
- Pleasurable
ii. Cons
Possibility to be emotionally unprepared for the intimacy
May not align with you or your partner(s) values
Increased risk for pregnancy and STD transmission
After marriage
i. Pros
Lower risk of STD transmission with monogamy
Can be a shared connection
Gift of self- ability to share something with someone youre choosing to spend
the rest of your life with
May align with your sexual values
Can be in alignment with faith based values
ii. Cons
Partners may not have the same values
There are societal pressures to have sex
The expectation may not match the reality
Sexual incompatibility

Masturbation

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Question: What are ways masturbation could and

contribute to your understanding of your body?
Can help you better understand what you do/ dont like sexually
It is an act where no partner is required

Follow up question: What are ways that masturbation

can negatively impact your relationships or you?
Can give you unrealistic expectations for having sex with a
partner. For example, if your partner is not able to please
you, that can impact the relationship and sexual experience
If watching porn, it can give you an unrealistic expectation of
intimate relationships and sexual activities

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Abstinence
Question: How do you define abstinence?
Follow up question: What are the pros and cons of
abstinence related to STD prevention and/ or
pregnancy prevention?
i. Pros
- When used correctly and consistently, it is the most effective
STD prevention method
- May be in alignment with faith based values
- May be in alignment with personal sexual values
ii. Cons
Not an effective long term strategy. It is important to ensure
you are prepared to use other STD prevention methods
when/ if you choose to have sex
- Societal expectations around gender (women expected to be
abstinent or sexually inactive, whereas men are expected to
have sex with many different partners
- Did you know that 37.4% of SU students havent had any
sexual partners in the last year? Its important to respect
everyones choices and understand we all have different
values when it comes to sex.

Oral Sex
Question: What are some of the differences between
oral sex and vaginal/anal sex in relation to sexual
health?
i. Benefits
- Lower risk for STD transmission

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- Lower risk of becoming pregnant

ii. Drawbacks
- Only 6.4% of SU students report using a condom or other
protective barrier when engaging in oral sex (54.4% wore a
condom or other protective barrier when having vaginal
intercourse, and 30.6% used a condom or other protective
barrier when having anal sex) (NCHA, 2013)
- Many SU students arent fully protecting themselves from
STD transmission when engaging in oral sex. Its important
to know your partner(s) sexual history and to get tested
often.

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Anal Sex
Question: What are some of the pros and cons of
anal sex?
-

Low pregnancy risk

Intimate act regardless of gender or sexual orientation
Pleasurable
Can hold a special significance

Follow up question
- What are your perceptions of anal sex?
- Anal sex is a higher risk sexual activity than oral/vaginal.
Lets say you or a friend were concerned about having an
STD. Where are places you could go for testing/ resources/
treatment?
1. Student Health Center
2. Teen Clinic
3. Gay City Health Project
4. Lifelong Aids Alliance

Sex and Stress

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Question: Is sex a healthy de-stressing technique?

Follow up question: How are sex and stress related? Come
up with 2 positive outcomes and 2 negative outcomes.

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Sex and Spirituality

Question: Can 1 of you share how you see sex and
spirituality as related (either you or a friend)?
Follow up question
- What are the benefits of associating sex with spirituality and
what are the challenges?

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Resource Sheet

ON AND OFF
CAMPUS RESOURCES
On Campus Resources

Campus Ministry
Website: https://www.seattleu.edu/campus-ministry/
Email: campusministry@seattleu.edu
Phone: (206) 296-6075
Location: Student Center 120
Confidential resource

Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)

Website: http://www.seattleu.edu/caps/
Email: CAPS@seattleu.edu
Phone: (206) 296-6090
Location: Piggott Pavilion 120
Confidential resource

Health and Wellness Crew (HAWC)

Website: http://www.seattleu.edu/wellness/
Email: wellness@seattleu.edu
Phone: (206) 296-2593
Location: Student Center 380

Office of Multicultural Affairs (OMA)

Website: https://www.seattleu.edu/oma/
Email: oma@seattleu.edu
Phone: (206) 296-6070
Location: Student Center 320

Seattle University Public Safety

Website: http://www.seattleu.edu/safety/
Email: publicsafety@seattleu.edu
Phone: 24-Hour Emergency (206) 296-5911
24-Hour Non-emergency (206) 296-5990
Location: University Services 102

Student Health Center

Website: https://www.seattleu.edu/student-health/
Email: studenthealthcenter@seattleu.edu
Phone: (206) 296-6300
Location: Bellarmine Hall 107
Confidential resource

Off Campus Resources

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Gay City
Multicultural Gay Mens Health Organization for HIV/STI Testing
Website: https://www.gaycity.org/
Email: info@gaycity.org
Phone: (206) 860-6969
Address: 517 E. Pike Street, Seattle, WA 98122

King County Teen Clinic

Sexual and Reproductive Health Methods and Info, Pregnancy Tests
Website: http://www.kingcounty.gov/healthservices/health/locations/teenclinics
Phone: (206) 296-4650
Address: 4400 37th Ave. S, Seattle, WA 98118

Lifelong Aids Alliance

HIV/AIDS Testing, Information, Support, & Treatment
Website: http://www.llaa.org
Phone: (206) 957-1717
Address: 1016 E. Pike Street, 3rd Floor, Seattle, WA 98122

Harborview Center for Sexual Assault and Traumatic Stress

Counseling, Consultations, and Physical Exams Following a Sexual Assault
Website: http://depts.washington.edu/hcsats/index.html
Phone: (206) 744-1600
Address: 401 Broadway #2027, Seattle, WA 98122

King County Sexual Assault Resource Center (KCSARC)

Website: http://www.kcsarc.org
Phone: (425) 226-5062, 24-HOUR LINE: (888) 998-6423
Address: 200 Mill Ave S, Renton, WA 98057

Additional Online Resources

Bedsider Reproductive Health Information: http://bedsider.org

Seattle University Sexual Misconduct Policy: http://www.seattleu.edu/deanofstudents/sexual-misconduct/
Its On Us Sexual Assault Prevention Campaign: http://itsonus.org

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Rules Sheet

Welcome to The Game of Sex LIFE!

Heres how it works!
You will be asked to think about and discuss topics around sex, but do not worry about
self-disclosure. This game is about exploring different options.
If at any point you or your team are uncomfortable discussing a topic, feel free to opt
out of that portion of the game. The point of this game is to challenge yourself, but do
not feel pressured to participate to the point of discomfort.
BEACH BALLS On each turn, throw the beach ball and move the indicated number
of spaces where your right thumb is. If the space is already taken by another team,
move one space ahead.
YELLOW TILES Choose one of the two options to explore. Remember, this choice
does not have to be about self-disclosure; try something new!
GREEN TILES Dont forget to pick up your treat!

Thanks for playing!

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Marketing Materials

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SexLIFE Life Spaces In Order

(Before)

Sex Before Marriage or Sex

After Marriage

(After)

Take a moment to reflect

on why you value sex
before marriage

Reflect on how social and

cultural norms influence
your decision

Reflect on how your

familys values impact your
values

Consider how you will

navigate social and peer
pressures around sex

Have a positive
conversation with your
family regarding sexual
values

Discuss intimacy with

someone from Campus
Ministry

Reflect on how you express

affection

Take a moment to reflect on

why you value sex after
marriage

Discuss intimacy with

someone from CAPS

Have a conversation with

your partner(s) about your
sexual boundaries

Consider family planning

options that you would be
comfortable with

Have a positive
conversation with your
family regarding sexual
values
Discuss Sex Before
Marriage
Have a conversation about
your sexuality with a friend
Reflect on your attitude
about vaginal sex
Communicate with partner(s)
about your sexual values
Reflect on how your
sexuality impacts your

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identity
Identify how sex could
negatively impact you
Self-reflect on your
motivation for having sex
Reflect on your attitude
about masturbation
Consider how college has
impacted your sexual values
Consider the connection
between intimacy and
spirituality
Share one sexual value you
hold with your group
Consider how prior sexual
experiences impact your
sexual values
Consider how your family
has influenced your sexual
values
Consider how your spheres
of influence impact your
sexual values
Consider sexual values on a
Jesuit-Catholic campus
Attend interSEXions at OMA
with Campus Ministry
Consider the connection
between emotion and sex
Consider how contracting an
STD could impact you
currently
Reflect on how your previous
sex education impacts your
sexual values

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Reflect on your attitude

about anal sex
Reflect on social medias
influence on your sexual
values
Reflect on your attitude
about abstinence
Consider sexual health on a
Jesuit-Catholic campus
Discuss Masturbation
Reflect on your attitude
about oral sex
Engage in a conversation
about differing sexual values
Consider how you can
understand and accept
sexual values different than
your own
Payday: Ornaments and
Stickers
Have a conversation with
your partner(s) about what
you do and dont like
sexually
Get Herpes tested before
being sexually active with a
new partner
Have a conversation about
how to make sexual
activities enjoyable
Participated in unwanted
sexting
Get annual physical exam
(MP)

Monogamy or Multiple
Partners

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(Monogamy)

Ask your partners status

Express to your partner

what you dont like sexually

Have a conversation that

you are seeing other
people

Asked partners consent

before kissing

Dont know your partners

sexual histories

Do not communicate your

sexual values with your
partner

Decide with partners your

STD prevention methods

Get tested with partner

Did not get STD tested

after each new partner

Do not express to partner

what you like enjoy sexually

Communicate your sexual

boundaries with partners

Have a conversation
sharing implications of
being monogamous

Ask for consent before

engaging in new sexual
activity

Discuss future family

options and expectations
with partner
Get HIV tested before being
sexually active with a new
partner
Asked partner(s) for consent
before being intimate
Communicate with partners
about your sexual values
Talk with a spiritual leader
about family planning
options
Dont know new partners
sexual history
Get Gonorrhea and
Chlamydia tested before
being sexually active with a
new partner
Talk to your doctor about

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STD prevention options

Discuss Abstinence
Did not get an annual
physical exam
Asked partner(s) consent
before initiating a new sexual
position
Your partner(s) contract an
STD
Get testicular exam
Consider your role at SU in
sexual misconduct
prevention
Have unprotected sex
Talk to your doctor about
family planning options
Communicate your familys
sexual values with your
partner(s)
Was intimate with partner(s)
while under the influence
Discuss Oral Sex
Asked partner(s) consent
before initiating oral sex
Dont know your partner(s)
sexual values
Get breast exam
Did not get HPV tested
before being sexually active
with a new partner
Do not use STD prevention
methods effectively
Get annual pap smear

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(No STD)

STD Plinko

(Contract an STD)

Communicate your status

with your partner(s)

Consider whom you choose

to disclose to

Get STD tested after new

partner

Ask partner(s) to get tested

Have a conversation with

friends on how they can
protect themselves

Consult medical clinician

Continue to accurately use

STD prevention methods

Decide on how to keep as

healthy as possible

Dont know your partners

sexual histories

Communicate what sexual

activities you are
comfortable engaging in

Ask partner(s) to get tested

Did not use STD prevention

method effectively with
partner(s)

Get STD test every 6

months

Communicate your status

with your partner(s)

Have unprotected sex

Consider how this could

impact other areas of your
life

Continue to consistently
use STD prevention
methods

Consult local resources

Discuss Anal
Dont know partner(s) sexual
history
Decide to be abstinent after
being sexually active
Payday: Cookies and
Stickers
Learn how to support those
affected by HIV by visiting
Lifelong Aids Alliance

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Get STD tested at King

Countys Teen Clinic
Explore www.bedsider.org
Join Wingmen
Get STD tested at Student
Health Center on campus
Participate in Healthy
Relationships week
Get tested at Gay City
Shop at Lifelong Aids
Alliance Thrift store
Attend Take Back the Night
Discuss sex and stress
Talk with a HAWC member
about sexual health
Visit King Countys Teen
Clinic to know your family
planning options
Meet with CAPS to discuss
sexual health values and
experiences
Discuss with a minister at
Campus Ministry your
personal connection
between sex and spirituality
Save the Sexual Assault
Resource Line number in
your phone
Attend interSEXions
Call Public Safety for sexual
misconduct response
Consult with Harborview
Medical Center

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Share an on campus
resource with a friend
Talk with a HAWC member
about sexual health
Take the Its On Us pledge
Meet with someone from
CAPS to discuss sexual
expectations in a relationship
Learn new methods of
bystander intervention
Talk with someone at OMA
about your sexual identity
Share an off campus
resource with a friend
Explore Seattle Us sexual
misconduct website
Discuss sex and spirituality
Call Harborviews Center for
Sexual Assault & Traumatic
Stress
Learn more about antiretroviral medication
Visit the Office for Wellness
and Health Promotion
Talk with a HAWC member
about sexual health
Learn more about STD
transmission
Tell your male identified
friends about Wingmen and
their role in bystander
intervention
Know the confidential
support services on campus

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Learn how to support

someone diagnosed with
HIV at Lifelong AIDS Alliance
Join the Wingmen advisory
board
Tell a friend about
confidential medical services
in the area
Apply for the HAWC team
Payday/ Assessment/
Resource Sheet

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