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Madhukulya Vijay.
FECAI, 126/127 R.L. Brahimin Rd.
Pradhan Nagar, Siliguri-3
Darjeeling;West Bengal, India.
E-mail:- bijay.fecai@gmail.com.
Dating: Through the eyes of the Bible
In this present modern world and modern society the
most important word and act in the life of the youth is
‘Dating’. Dating is the most happening thing that has made its
place in everyone’s life, society, religion and race; it has
become an important part of everyone’s living style. We do not
have to go anywhere else to look for an example, because
‘Dating’ has also made a mark in our own native place or even
in our own family.
So, what is the exact meaning of ‘Dating’? Simply it
means, ‘To spend time with someone’. Spending time then
means, spending time with Uncle or Aunt, or with Brothers
and Sisters, either Friends or Family members and even a
Teacher, not only with a boy or a girl.
If dating means- this spending time with all the people of
all ages or gender or known people then we can even have a
date with God. But in the world of the young and teenagers
‘Dating’ certainly means a boy going out with a girl or a man
and women spending time together.
Even if ‘Dating’ means in simple word- spending time
with someone, the world has only one meaning that is a boy
who takes out a girl for a date of a man and women go out for
a date to know each other better. So, now the question comes-
“Is there any such thing as Christians cheering each other up?
Do you love me enough to want to help me? Does it mean
anything to you that we are brothers in the Lord, sharing the
same Spirit? Are your hearts tender and sympathetic at all? 2
Then make me truly happy by loving each other and agreeing
wholeheartedly with each other, working together with one
heart and mind and purpose.” Phil 2:1-2 (TLB)
This verse tells us about spending time with people who
always encourages you in all phase of life. The works that you
do or if you are working as a servant of God or your plans for
the future if your partner, if he/she if they do not encourage
you and only makes you follow their points of view, does not
respect yours, then it is not good. But if is important them to
be by your side always. Reason being- in the verse 4-
Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on
the things of others. (KJV)
It is written-“do not think only about yourself”. If you love
someone with a true heart then think about that person as
well, discuss between each other and encourage each other. If
that is not done then it is seem that your love is just an
attraction and false.
Let your love relationship grow in its own phase one step
to the other.
You should always give preference to prayer before dating
someone because being a Christian it is very essential.
2 Peter 1:6-7 “Next, learn to put aside your own desires so that
you will become patient and godly, gladly letting God have his
way with you. This will make possible the next step, which is
for you to enjoy other people and to like them, and finally you
will grow to love them deeply.” (TLB)
These verses tell us about the step by step method or ways to
build a strong relationship. These verses tell us that we should
have self control, patience, devotion and love in us. We should
always think twice before taking a step, do not take decisions
impatiently, know each other properly, take your time do not
hurry in love. Do not hide anything from each other, your past
if there is anything, your habits, about the family, about your
life and plans, you both should know everything about each
other. If you start sharing all the information’s about life and
family then there won’t be any misunderstandings
instead your love will grow stronger.
Once when I was traveling, in the seat in front of
mine were a couple and they were having a lovely
time talking about love and future. One the way
after a few stoppages in one of the stoppage the
taxi stopped and a lady she boarded the taxi, but lady by
chance was a college mate of the man who was traveling with
his girlfriend the couple I mentioned earlier. They both
recognized each other and talked about their college days and
how they enjoyed and how the young man got drunk, how he
fought for a young lady to say she only mentioned his habits.
After a while he introduced his girlfriend to his college friend,
but before the friend told the girlfriend-“ I am sorry, I was just
lying……” the girlfriend said-“ It’s ok, I know”. After the guy’s
friend got down, she thanked her boyfriend and said-“Thank
you, you told me everything about”. I think after that their love
relationship grew stronger. This was possible because the right
way of dating was followed.
Genesis 2:18
“The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I
will make a helper suitable for him."(NIV)
Here we see God has created a suitable partner for man. So,
do not hurry to look for a partner, because God has made a
right time for everything and even you will find the right
partner in the right time. God has promised to us for a good
partner in Isaiah 34:16:
“……..Not one will lack her/his mate….” (NIV)
The words of the Lord in the bible tell us that only God gives
us the suitable man/women in our life.
Proverbs 19:14:
“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents,
But a prudent wife is from the LORD” (NIV)
He knows what kind of partner you wish for and he will give
you a partner according to your choice, so do not worry.
Psalm 37:4:
“Delight yourself in the LORD
And he will give you the desires of your”. (NIV) and
Matthew 6:8:
“…for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.”
(NIV)