7 Deadly Mistakes Lonely Women Make 7 Greseli fatale facute de femeile

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Why some women will never find or keep a boyfriend De ce unele femei nu
vor gasi, sau pastra niciodata un iubit.
Generally, there are seven categorical reasons some women have difficulties
finding and keeping boyfriends. These reasons have evolutionary and biological
roots that divide the sexes in behavioral proclivities. I am not saying, "this is
what women should do, or have to do to get a man." What I am saying is, "these
are general things that some women tend to do that men tend to take exception
to and why they do." Having said that, here are the seven areas:
In general exista sapte motive categorice pentru care unele femei
intampina dificultati in a-si gasi si pastra iubitii. Aceste motive au
radacini biologice si evolutive si impart sexele in functie de inclinatia
comportamentala. Nu spun ca asta trebuie sa faca o femeie sau ar
trebui sa faca o femeie pentru a avea un barbat. Ceea ce vreau s
spun este ca" acestea sunt lucruri generale pe care unele femei tind s
le fac iar barbatii au tendinta de a face exceptie de la i de ce ei fac
asta ". Acestea fiind spuse, aici sunt cele apte motive:

The Desperation Mindset

Mentalitate disperata

Humans are hunters and gathers, so we value items that are more difficult to
acquire. For the ancients, this meant key survival items (e.g. best food and
building materials). The human brain consolidates and simplifies. The lessons of
hunting and gathering became: difficult = valuable & easy = invaluable, very
much the same way all of the lessons of conflict resolution became, fight-orflight. As society grew more complex, the consolidated and simplified
hunter/gatherer lesson was corrupted. For example, diamond jewelry is
expensive, whereas cubit zirconium (CZ) jewelry is cheap. Yet, a CZ has all the
qualities that attracted to humans to using diamonds for jewelry. Likewise, a
readily available woman has less appeal.
Oamenii sunt vntori i adun, aa c tindem sa valorizam lucruri care
sunt mai dificil de a le dobndi. Pentru oamenii din antichitate, acest
lucru a fost un element cheie pentru supravieuire (de exemplu, cele
mai bune alimente si materiale de constructii). Creierul uman
consolideaz i simplific. Leciile de vntoare i colectare au devenit:
dificil = valoros si usor = fara valoare, foarte mult n acelai mod in care

toate leciile de soluionare a conflictelor au devenit, lupta-sau-zbor. Pe

msur ce societatea a crescut mai complex, lectia simpla si
consolidata vntor / culegtor a fost corupta. De exemplu, bijuteriile
cu diamante sunt scumpe, n timp ce zirconiul (CZ) este ieftin. Cu toate
acestea, un CZ are toate calitile care au atras oamenii la utilizarea
diamantelor pentru bijuterii. Asa cum o femeie disponibila este mai
putin atragatoare.

Men were the hunters, and women were the gatherers. Hence, men
instinctually lovehunting, and the male brain thrives on the neurochemical
rewards of capture, i.e.dopamine and serotonin. Dopamine releases in
anticipation of reward, not the actual reward, so the actual qualities of the
woman do not matter as much as hunting her. Variability also increases
dopamine in the brain. That is why gambling is addictive and why players play
around. Not knowing if you will have a big kill or no kill is irresistible for the
brains reward system. Players are not into their conquests; they are into the
dopamine derived from whether or not the quest becomes a conquest.
Barbatii au fost vanatori, iar femeile au fost culegtorii. Prin urmare,
barbatii au instinctual de a iubi vanatoarea , iar creierul masculin
prosper pentru recompensele neurochimice de capturare, ex.
dopamine si serotonina. Dopamina este eliberata in anticiparea
recompensei, nu la primirea recompense in sine, astfel nct calitile
reale ale femeii nu conteaz la fel de mult ca vntoarea ei in sine.
Variabilitatea de asemenea, crete nivelul de dopamina din creier.
Acesta este motivul pentru care jocurile de noroc creeaza dependenta si
de ce juctorii continua sa joace. Netiind dac vei avea o prada mare
sau nu vei avea deloc este irezistibil pentru sistemul de recompensa al
creierului. Juctorii nu sunt atrasi de cuceririle lor; ci de nivelul de
dopamina derivat posibilitatea ca vanatoarea va devenii o cucerire.

Men intrinsically mistrust women because religions, especiallyJudeo-Christianity,

portray women as untrustworthy, e.g. Eve, Delilah or Jezebel. If a woman is easy
prey, men instinctively think she will be easy prey for other men. Thus, an easily
acquirable female represents more threat than control, and the brain will run
from that scenario every day, all day long.
Brbai nu au incredere in femei bazandu-se pe religie, mai ales cea
iudeica-crestina, in care se portretiza femeile ca nedemne de ncredere,
de exemplu, Eve, Dalila sau Izabela. Daca o femeie este o prad uoar,
barbatii instinctiv cred c ea va fi o prad uoar si pentru ali barbati.
Astfel, o femeie uor de obtinut(cucerit) reprezinta mai mult o

ameninare decat un control, iar creierul va rula acest scenariu n

fiecare zi, pe tot parcursul zilei.

I often hear women use the phrase, land a man. Men are not marlins or
Cessnas; you do not need to land them. Men will land themselves you just
need to point them towards the runway and make them circle the tower until
they are so low on fuel, they are begging to land. Besides, you do not want a
man that you have to land. You want a man that thanks God he has landed you.
Am auzit de multe ori femeile folosind expresia, sa aterizez un barbat.
Barbatii nu sunt Marlins sau Cessna si nu avei nevoie s ii aterizati.
Barbatii vor ateriza singuri ... trebuie doar s le aratati pista i s ii pui
sa se roteasca in jurul turnului pn cnd nu mai au mult combustibil
incat cersesc sa fie lasati sa aterizeze. n plus, nu vrei un barbat pe care
trebuie s il aterizezi. Vrei barbat care sa ii multumeasca lui Dumnezeu
ca i-ai aparut in cale.

In addition, some women will lie about who they are and what they like to do to
get a boyfriend. Men deplore that. It just confirms the Eve stereotype. When
they find out who you really are, and what you really like, they lose respect for
you and resent being deceived. Not only will he resent you, your selfabandonment will turn into self-resentment, and evolve in self-neglect, which is
the diamond lane to ugly.
In plus, unele femei vor minti despre cine sunt si ceea ce le place s
fac pentru a obine un iubit. Barbatii deplng acest lucru. Acest lucru
confirm stereotipul Evei. Cnd vor afla cine eti cu adevrat i ceea ce
iti place cu adevarat, i vor pierde respectul pentru tine si vor
considera ca au fost nelai. Nu numai c te vor displace, dar te vei
simti abandonata ceea ce se va transforma n resemnare i va evolua
neglijare, ceea ce este partea urata a unui diamant.
Asking Men to Define Your Relationship A cere unui barbat sa
defineasca relatia voastra
Never ask a man to define your relationship, because it is idiotic, annoying and a
neon sign flashing HOT MESS. If you have to ask if you are in a relationship, the
answer is obviously, no.
Nu cere unui barbat sa defineasca relatia voastra , pentru c este
stupid, enervant i un semn de neon intermittent pe care scrie "FOC."
Dac trebuie s ntrebi dac eti ntr-o relaie, rspunsul este evident,
nu.
Being Too Clingy A fi prea posesiv, intruziv.

All humans fear intimacy. When another person moves towards you, the brains
default response is to move away for safety. Clinginess is invasive, threatening,
annoying, suspect and extremely unattractive. You might as well tattoo
discounted merchandise on your forehead.
Toi oamenii se tem de intimitate. Atunci cnd o alt persoan se
indreapta catre tine, raspunsul creierului este de a te muta mai departe
pentru siguran. Dependena de partener este invaziva,
amenintatoare, enervanta, suspecta si extrem de neatractiva. Ai putea
la fel de bine sa ai un tatuaj pe fructe pe care sa scrie "marfa redusa".
Failure to Stroke the Caveman A subjuga barbatia
Historically men have always protected women. However, the days when men
were men and women were grateful are gone. Women need condoms, not men
for protection. Most men could not physically protect a woman if they had to.
However, men need to feel like their woman sees them as a big manly man. I
am a feminist, because there can be no free men until women are free.
However, blurred gender roles are one of the prices of the feminism.
Intellectually, most men understand evolving gender roles. However, intellect is
a cortical event, whereas emotions occur in the old brain, where there is no
thinking, just survive now, and ask questions later. Fight-or-flight is the default
emotional male response to a woman not making him feel big and strong. Both
of those lead to some woman sitting on a barstool saying, Id like a strong drink
of hard liquor, and nothing with a mans name. Note: Making a man feel manly
is not the same as assigning him all of the yucky domestic tasks.
Barbatii au protejat dintotdeauna femeile. Cu toate acestea, zilele cnd
brbaii erau brbai i femei recunosctoare, au disprut. Femeile au
nevoie de prezervative, nu de barbati pentru protecie. Majoritatea
barbatilor nu pot proteja psihic o femeie in cazul in care trebuie s o
faca. Cu toate acestea, barbatii au nevoie s se simt ca i cum femeia
lor ii vede ca barbati puternici . Neclaritatea rolului unui barbat este
unul dintre preurile feminismului. Intelectual, majoritatea barbatilor
neleg evoluia rolurilor. Cu toate acestea, intelectul este un lucru
cortical, n timp ce emoiile apar n creierul vechi, unde nu exist nici o
gndire, doar instinctual de a "supravieui acum i de a pune ntrebri
mai trziu." Lupta-sau-zbor este implicit raspunsul emotional dat de un
brbat al carei femeie nu-l face sa se simta mare i puternic. Ambele
duc la o femeie eznd pe o scaun de bar spunnd "A dori o butur
tare i nimic cu numele unui brbat.": A face un barbat sa se simta
masculin nu este acelai lucru ca i cu a ii atribui toate sarcinile
domestice.
Talking About Other Men A vorbi despre alti barbati
Repeatedly mentioning other men will prevent or destroy a relationship. That is
because society has told us that women are not supposed to think about men
other than their boyfriends, husbands or sons.

Menionnd n mod repetat despre ali barbate va slabi sau distruge o

relatie. Asta se datoreaz faptului c societatea ne-a spus c femeile nu
ar trebui s se gndeasc la alti barbati dect iubitii , soii sau fiii lor.
Asking a Man How You Look A intreba un barbat cum arati
Why would any woman pose such a question? Again, if you have to ask, the
answer is not good. Men are as readable as those giant numbers on the special
needs phones. You should never ask men certain types of questions, i.e. ones
you do not really want answered truthfully. Scientists have not identified the
mechanism, but it is the Y chromosome factor in men. That is, why would you
think that women, who begin their day by making up their faces, are not the
least bit interested in certain truths, such as: whether or not a pair of jeans
makes them look fat. Only women with body image issues ask those questions.
Then they get upset when some man says, not to me but the Night Manager at
Dennys said you were creating a fire hazard from the thigh friction, or "are you
kidding you're so skinny you could walk through a harp"the Why?
chromosome. Besides, if a man does not like what you are wearing, just take it
off.
De ce ar pune o femeie o astfel de ntrebare? Din nou, dac trebuie s
ntrebi, rspunsul nu va fi bun. Barbatii sunt la fel de uor de citit ca
aceste numere gigantice pe nevoile telefoanele speciale. Tu nu ar trebui
s le pui barbatilor anumite tipuri de ntrebri, adica cele la care nu vrei
cu adevrat un rspuns sincer. Oamenii de tiin nu au identificat
mecanismul, dar este factorul cromozomul Y. la barbati. Asta este,
pentru ca femeile isi ncep ziua prin a se machia iar barbatii nu sunt
deloc interesai de anumite adevruri, cum ar fi: dac o pereche de
blugi il fac sa arate gras. Doar femeile cu probleme de imagine a
corpului vor pune aceste ntrebri. Apoi ele devin suprate atunci cnd
un barbat spune, "nu pentru mine, dar managerul de noapte de la
Denny a spus c se poate crea unui pericol de incendiu prin frecarea
coapselor", sau "glumeti eti aa de slaba ca te- ai putea plimba printro harp" - "De ce?" cromozom. n plus, dac unui barbat nu-i place ceea
ce poart, doar o scoate.
Too Much Hugging and Talking Prea multa vorba si imbratisari
Oxytocin causes women to bond with their babies. Since women have more
oxytocin receptors than men do, hugging and conversation causes oxytocin
release in women, whereas it releases nothing but anxiety and gas in men.
Observe men. They primarily communicate in monosyllabic words: Yup, cool,
nah, huh, nope, whoa and grunts. If a man strings more than four polysyllabic
words together, it is a wedding toast, a eulogy or lie explaining where he has
beenand he probably got it from Google. Forcing conversation on a man is a
surefire way to turn him off and drive him away. If you want conversation, talk to
your girl friends.

Oxitocina determina femeile s se lege cu copiii lor. Deoarece femeile

au mai multi receptorii de oxitocin dect brbaii, mbriarile si
conversaie provoac eliberarea de oxitocina la femei, n timp la barbati
nu se elibereaza nimic, doar anxietate i gaze. Observati barbatii. Ei
comunic n principal n cuvinte monosilabice: Da, rece, Nu, nu-i asa,
nope, stai i mormieli. Dac un barbat leaga mai mult de patru cuvinte
polisilabice mpreun este un toast de nunta, un elogiu sau o minciun
care sa explice unde a fost i el, probabil. Forarea conversaiei pe un
barbat este o cale sigura de a-l enerva si alunga. Dac dorii
conversaie, vorbiti cu prietenele voastre.
I have attempted to couch, a serious message in humor. That message is:
people grow lonelier and more disenfranchised every day. That is not funny; that
is tragic. The challenge is, men and women of today, are not the men and
women of yesteryear, but instincts remain the same. Clearly, the terms of
engagement must evolve as we evolve, as no one is free, until we all are free;
love is freeing. Finding that one person in life to love, who loves you, is not very
much: it is every little thing. Understanding why we are, the way we are is
power. At the end of day, in essence, men and women are identical: everything
they say and everything they do is because they need to give or receive love.
Remain fabulous and phenomenal.
Am ncercat s transmit un mesaj serios prin umor. Acest mesaj este:
barbatii cresc mai singuri i mai defavorizati in fiecare zi. Asta nu este
amuzant este chiar tragic. Provocarea este ca brbaii i femeile de azi,
nu sunt brbaii i femeile de odinioar, dar instinctele rmn aceleai.
n mod clar, termenii de angajament ar trebuie s evolueze aa cum
noi evoluam, ca nimeni nu este liber, pn cnd nu suntem cu toii
liberi; iubirea este eliberarea. Gasind aceea persoan n via pe care
sa o iubesti si care sa te iubeasca, nu este foarte greu este un lucru
usor. A intelege de ce suntem asa cum suntem, reprezinta cu adevarat
puterea. La sfritul zilei, n esen, brbaii i femeile sunt identici, tot
ceea ce spun i tot ceea ce fac este pentru c ei au nevoia de a da sau a
primi dragoste. Rmnei fabulosi i fenomenali.