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Author:MargaretElbow
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Olderchildrenchancesofgettingadoptedareslimatbest,andtheyenduplivingalifeinthe
systeminsteadofwithalovingfamilyuntiltheyageout,thiscouldallbechangedifadoptive
parentsweremoreinformedontheadoptionofolderchildren.
1. Whateffectdoesolderkidsnotgettingadoptedhaveonthem?
2.Whatdifferenceisthereinthembeingadoptedtobeingraisedinfostercare?
3.Whatifparentsshiftedtheirfocustoadoptingolderkids,insteadofbabies?
4.Whydoesitmatterthatolderkidsarenotgettingadopted?
5.Whydoparentsnotwanttoadoptolderkids?
Whenparentsadoptolderchildrentheyhavetoovercomethechallengesofa
biologicallyformedfamilyandcreateawayforthestepsofbecominganewfamily.
Therearethreemainpartsthatmakebecomingafamilywithanadoptedolderchild,
distortionofthefamilylifecycle,Stressonfamilyboundariesandunresolvedissues.
Manynewfamilyareexpectedtobecomecloseatfirst,butinsteadmostwillonlyfind
distance.Therearemanyfactorstothis,suchastheparentsnotyethavingdecided
whatkindofparentingstyletheywanttousebeforethechildisplacedintheirhome.
Therearesomewhocomparenewlyadoptedfamiliestoanewlyremarriedfamilieswith
onlyonethingdifferent,theadoptivechildrenwillhavenothingsharedwitheitherofthe
adoptiveparents.
Someolderadoptivechildrenwillstillfeelloyaltytotheirpastfosterparents,thismay
hindertheadoptiveparentspersistenceoftryingtobecomeparentsinthechildseyes
insteadofpeoplewhojustcareforhisneeds.
Adoptiveparentswillbebringchildrenwhohavebeentaughtthroughexperiencethat
adultsarethosewhowillgivethemawayatthefirstsignoftroublewhichcanhinder
theiracceptanceofthosewhoadoptedthembeingtheirnewparents.
Themostimportantthinganadoptivefamilycandoisaddingthechildsdifferentsocial
andbiologicalhistory,doingsocanchangethosewhoadoptedfromcaregiversto
parentsintheeyesofthechild.
6.Howcouldparentsbemoreinformedaboutadoptingandraisingolderkids?
7.Ifparentsweremoreinformedwouldthatchangetheirviewsonadoptingolderkids?