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Parents can help by answering important questions about a move. O what does the family need regardless of location? o how will the family handle stress? o what educational options are available?
Parents can help by answering important questions about a move. O what does the family need regardless of location? o how will the family handle stress? o what educational options are available?
Parents can help by answering important questions about a move. O what does the family need regardless of location? o how will the family handle stress? o what educational options are available?
Parents can help by answering important questions o What does the family need regardless of location? o What are the policies of the sending organization? o How will existing family patters and relationships be affected? o Do both parents favor the move? o How does the family handle stress? o How will the family take advantage of the cross-cultural opportunities? o What educational options are available? o How will the family prepare to leave? Foundation blocks for healthy TCKs o Parent-to-parent relationship Commitment to each other Respect and support for one another Willingness to nurture the relationship o Parent-to-child relationship Children need to be valued Children need to be special Children need to be protected Children need to be comforted o TCKs perception of parents work I can endure any how if I have a why. o Positive spiritual core: maintaining a constancy of identifiable core beliefs and values is the key to true stability throughout life. Chapter 14: Dealing with Transition From Involvement through leaving o Building a RAFT Reconciliation: the need to forgive and be forgiven Affirmation: each person in the relationship matters; good closure acknowledges our blessings Farewells: people, places, pets, and possessions Think destination: positives and negatives of where we are going; external and internal resources for coping with problems Maintaining stability through the transition stage o Mourning the losses conscious acknowledgement of loss Entering right o Choosing and using mentors cultural bridges to the new culture Reinvolvement stage o Settling into our new surroundings o Accepting the people and places for who and what they are Chapter 15: Meeting educational needs Making the best choice o Educational philosophies differ among cultures Styles of discipline, teaching and grading Problem-based learning or learning by rote Motivation techniques
o School teaches more than academic subjects
Communication of cultural values; no such thing as value-free education o Schooling should not make it impossible for the child to return to the home country Different schooling options o Home and correspondence schooling o Online schools o Satellite schools o Local national schools o Local international schools o Boarding schools o Pre-university schooling in the home country
Chapter 16: Enjoying the Journey
Have fun! Unpack your bags and plant your trees (physical and mental rooting) o Tour when traveling between countries o Explore and become involved in the surroundings Keep relationships solid o Develop family traditions Build strong ties with community (extended family) o Strong ties to extended family in home culture o Strong ties with friends Return to the same home for each leave o Need sense that there is at least one physical place in their passport country to identify as home o Stay long enough to establish a basis for relationship Acquire sacred objects o Take back meaningful, portable objects from each place Chapter 17 : Coming Home Reentry Stresses o Unrealistic expectations o Reverse culture shock Common reactions to reentry stress o Elevated fears o Excessive anger at home culture and peers o Sense of elitism true or projected o Depression Helping in reentry process o Prepare for reentry before leaving the host country o Remind children that their foundational stones can never be taken away o Remind children that foundations are meant to be built on o Remind everyone this is the time a mentor can be helpful o Parents remember its okay when children dont share same sense of national identity o Parents remember their responsibility in helping children in reentry o Remember its okay to customize approach to reentry depending on circumstances o Remember a journey of clarification can be helpful later on Chapter 18: How sponsoring organizations can help How agencies can help during third culture experience
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Have an entry team or designated employee to welcome new employees onsite
Help employees evaluate schooling option before departure Establish a flexible leave policy Make provision for children to visit parents if they attend school elsewhere Support international community efforts to provide ongoing expat family services Help families prepare for repatriation and reentry Offer reentry seminars for parent and TCKs soon after reentry
Chapter 19: Its Never Too Late
What ATCKs can do o Name themselves and their experience o Name their behavioral patterns o Name their fears o Name their losses o Name their wounds o Name their choices How parents can help their ATCKs o Listen and try to understand o Comfort and be gentle o Dont preach o Forgive o Assume you are needed What relatives and friends can do o Listen to the story and ask good questions o Dont compare stories o Comfort if possible How therapists can help o Recognize hidden losses o Recognize the impact of the system o Recognize the paradox