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Nick Wood
Mr. Geist
HELA 10
2/19/16
Child Discipline, a World like No Other
The way in which parents are disciplining their children has been a heated debate for
quite some time. As a result, many top scholars, child psychologists, authors, and the parenting
community as a whole have created many works on how to discipline your child. When faced
with a child misbehaving, some are left pondering, how much is too much and how little is too
little? The parenting community must come to realize that through passive ideology and without
physical elements in play, children can be strongly disciplined. In many studies this is to be the
case.
Through passive ideology parents can achieve an ideal relationship with their children
that will last a lifetime. There are many principles and ideologies that have worked in the past
and are still working presently. One great one is, the Love-and-Logic Principle. This principle
focuses on raising responsible children and empathizing with the teen to allow logical
consequences of the teens mistake to sink in (Cline). What makes this different from physical
ideologies is that the principle is not using physical punishment or howling at the children.
Instead, it uses such values as empathy and compassion to promote a non-physical environment.
Which in return drives home the lesson that the parent loves the teen, but the teen needs to learn
how the real world operates, this is best for the teen. A well-known Ohio school counselor and
Facilitator of the Love and Logic curriculum, helped a foster child who had zero social skills
(Crandall) and was suspended more than at school (Crandall) achieve a complete three-sixty

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by using the Love-and-Logic Principle. By putting extremely consistent natural and logical
consequences (Crandall) she was able to turn him into a strapping young lad. In conclusion, by
using the passive and logical approach children respond better.
Physical elements in the world of parenting do not belong. Parents enforcing physical
punishments can strike fear into a child which may not go away. One heated debate, especially in
America, is should parents spank or not spank their children. Not spanking children is the mot
juste; spanking children is just unacceptable. Not only does spanking not increase the likelihood
of outcomes parents wants, but does increase the chance of ones they do not (Oppenheimer).
Parents who still result to this rash form of punishment maybe asked, why is spanking children
okay? One might respond with, my parents used to spank me, and I turned out fine. This
thought might justify the parents self-esteem but in reality, the simple fact is your wrong in
every way possible. The only logical answer is that their parents loved them and did the right
thing, so they don't want to question that. They don't want to feel like they're rejecting their
parents ideals (Oppenheimer). Back in the olden days parents might have spanked their kids
but now society has an evolving sense of what's good for children (Oppenheimer) which
according to James C. Dobson, Jane Nelsen, and Steven Foster, all well respected authors in the
field of positive child discipline, have concluded that spanking and physical punishment is
redundant. Overall, not only does physical getting with children, more specifically spanking, not
get the point across but can also lead down another path opposite to which the parent intended.
On the other hand there have been cases in which physical discipline was found
acceptable. In the teachings of Christianity physical punishment is allowed in cases of clear
disobedience, and then only at certain ages (Ingram). In the highly debated spanking topic
Christianity shows through Proverbs 13:24 all the way too Proverbs 29:15 that spanking is okay

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and a just form of discipline. Also they say that spanking is okay if you just use a quick flick of
the wrist to the fatty tissue of the buttocks, where a sting can occur without doing any damage to
the body (Ingram). This argument is filled with fallacies. In cases of clear discipline one should
not result to physical mean of punishment because not only does spanking not increase the
likelihood of outcomes parents wants, but does increase the chance of ones they do not
(Oppenheimer). The justification through Biblical terms, Proverbs, is not enough evidence to
prove that any good can come from a physical disciplining. Proverbs is one section of the bible
out of a total of 39 books within the Old Testament and 27 books within the New Testament. The
author tries to further justify his argument with the quick flick of the wrist theory. This does not
make a difference, spanking is still spanking, no matter at what degree of pain you cause.
When parents realize that the concept of passive discipline works and that through
physical punishment, discipline does not work, the parenting community will be better off.
Through many top scholars, child psychologists, authors, and the parenting community as
whole, passive forms of discipline are found more beneficial to children then physical means.
Through passive ideals and non-physical principles parents are more that capable of showing
disapproval and contempt but also show empathy and understanding toward the child. Now that
the information is out there what parenting form will you use? As a parent, is physical discipline
acceptable in todays society?

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Works Cited
Crandall, Kim. "Love for Love and Logic Testimonies." 5 October 2013. Love and
Logic. 2 February 2016 <https://www.loveandlogic.com/>.
Foster W. Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay. Parenting Teens With Love and Logic. Colorado
Springs: Pinon Press, 1992.
Ingram, Chip. The Biblical Approach to Spanking . 1 October 2007. 19 February 2016
<http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/effective-biblicaldiscipline/effective-child-discipline/biblical-approach-to-spanking#>.
Oppenheimer, Daniel. "To Spank or Not to Spank." 22 March 2011. The University of
Texas at Austin. 18 February 2016 <https://news.utexas.edu/2011/03/22/tospank-or-not-to-spank>.

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Grading

Criteria
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and Ideas

Organization

Description
Clear argument about social issue
Support uses
- ethos
- logos
- pathos
4 or more credible sources used
Antithesis addressed and refuted

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Effective introduction and


conclusion include hook, thesis, and
final statement
3 organized paragraphs include
claims, explanations, and transitions
Sequence is logical
Writing is all in 3rd person
Quotations are embedded and
properly cited within the essay
0-3 Errors in grammatical structure

Creative title/rough draft ready on


editing day 2/16-17
Proper MLA formatting; heading
that includes student name,
instructors name, class, and date
Works cited page is appended.

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