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Stories
TABLE OF CONTENTS
PATTERNS....................................................................................................................................................................1
ADVENTURER VS EXPLORER PATTERN.......................................................................................................................1
AMAZING WOMEN PATTERN.......................................................................................................................................2
ATTRACTION VS. LOVE PATTERN................................................................................................................................3
BISHOPS THREE RULE PATTERN................................................................................................................................5
BJ PATTERN # 1........................................................................................................................................................6
BJ PATTERN # 2........................................................................................................................................................7
BJ PATTERN # 3........................................................................................................................................................8
BJ PATTERN #4 : THE ICE CREAM PATTERN.....................................................................................................9
ROSS'S ABSOLUTE FAVORITE PATTERN: THE BLAMMO.............................................................................10
THE BOYFRIEND DESTROYER: PART 1............................................................................................................14
THE BOYFRIEND DESTROYER: PART 2............................................................................................................15
BOYFRIEND DESTROYER : "RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE TELEVISION"...................................................16
THE CALLBACK PATTERN..................................................................................................................................17
CATERPILLAR AND MOTH:........................................................................................................................................18
THE "CENTER OF ENERGY" PATTERN........................................................................................................................20
CELTIC SOUL GAZING PATTERN................................................................................................................................22
COLOR OF PLEASURE PATTERN..............................................................................................................................23
COMPANIONSHIP VS ROMANCE PATTERN.................................................................................................................24
THE COOKIE CLOSE.............................................................................................................................................25
DANCER PATTERN................................................................................................................................................26
"DEEP FASCINATION" PATTERN.................................................................................................................................27
THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL / THE IDEAL ATTRACTION PATTERN............................................................28
THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL / THE IDEAL ATTRACTION PATTERN............................................................29
PERFECT MAN PATTERN............................................................................................................................................31
THE POWER OF "HAVE YOU EVER": FASCINATION PATTERN....................................................................33
"THE EROS STONE NECKLACE" PATTERN.........................................................................................................34
ICE TEA PATTERN.................................................................................................................................................36
INDULGENCE VS SURRENDER PATTERN....................................................................................................................37
INSTANTANEOUS/TIMELESS CONNECTION PATTERN VARIATION #1.....................................................38
INSTANTANEOUS/TIMELESS CONNECTION PATTERN VARIATION #2.....................................................39
INSTANTANEOUS/TIMELESS CONNECTION PATTERN VARIATION #3.....................................................40
LOCKET PATTERN......................................................................................................................................................41
LOVER'S RING PATTERN............................................................................................................................................43
THE MOVIE PATTERN..........................................................................................................................................44
"NEW TECHNOLOGIES" PATTERN..............................................................................................................................46
PEAK EXPERIENCES PATTERN.....................................................................................................................................47
REMOTE CONTROL ZIP ANCHOR......................................................................................................................48
SECRETS PATTERN.....................................................................................................................................................50
THE "SEDUCTION LAND" PATTERN...........................................................................................................................51
SMILE PATTERN.........................................................................................................................................................52
SOUL JEWELRY PATTERN...........................................................................................................................................53
SUBMISSION VS. SURRENDER PATTERN.....................................................................................................................55
THE SUMMER NIGHT PATTERN.........................................................................................................................58
TIME DISTORTION................................................................................................................................................59
TITANIC PATTERN.................................................................................................................................................60
SPECIAL PATTERNS................................................................................................................................................61
DARK SUN PATTERN..................................................................................................................................................61
GEMINI PATTERN (99 LA VIDEO)..............................................................................................................................69
BISHOPS WARMTH BUILDER..................................................................................................................................72
BISHOPS ROSE (LIVE EXAMPLE).............................................................................................................................74
HUNA PRAYER.......................................................................................................................................................75
STORIES / POETRY..................................................................................................................................................77
A WARM FUZZY (BISHOPS VERSION)...................................................................................................................77
A WARM FUZZY (ROSSS VERSION)...........................................................................................................................80
ANGEL LOVER I.........................................................................................................................................................81
ANGEL LOVER II.......................................................................................................................................................82
BLUEBERRIES............................................................................................................................................................83
THE DIAMOND DRAGON...........................................................................................................................................84
FASCINATION: BY ROSS JEFFRIES....................................................................................................................86
HER JOURNEY............................................................................................................................................................88
THE JOURNEY............................................................................................................................................................91
THE KEY....................................................................................................................................................................93
KISS..........................................................................................................................................................................95
THE LOVER'S DANCE 1........................................................................................................................................96
THE LOVER'S DANCE 2: TO THE GARDEN ONCE MORE..............................................................................97
THE MERMAID AND THE BLOWFISH..........................................................................................................................99
PONDERING THE INNERMOST THOUGHTS OF A BUTTERFLY...................................................................................100
THE RAIN OF DESIRE...............................................................................................................................................102
RED SATIN...............................................................................................................................................................103
"REMEMBER WHEN"...............................................................................................................................................104
THE RUBY BUTTERFLY............................................................................................................................................105
THE SAPPHIRE FLOWER...........................................................................................................................................107
STAR OF BISHOP......................................................................................................................................................108
THE SWEETEST SOUND.....................................................................................................................................110
"THE TEAR".............................................................................................................................................................111
THE WHISPER OF ANTICIPATION..............................................................................................................................112
WORDS ON A PAGE.................................................................................................................................................113
YOU CAN MAKE IT BE.......................................................................................................................................114
LINES AND THOUGHTS.......................................................................................................................................115
MAJOR MARK ON FANTASIES ...............................................................................................................................115
ORION ON CLOSES -.................................................................................................................................................115
ROSS ON BIG CATS (WIP) ..................................................................................................................................115
ORION (ET. AL.) ON WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN ......................................................................................................115
ORION (ET. AL.) ON GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ...................................................................................................115
ROSS & ORION ON BOYFRIENDS ...........................................................................................................................115
ORION ON SURPRISE KISSES ..................................................................................................................................116
ORION ON MASSAGES ...........................................................................................................................................116
ORION ON JAPANESE AND NECKS .........................................................................................................................116
MAJOR MARK ON MARRIED WOMEN ....................................................................................................................116
ROSS ON NOT MY TYPE ...................................................................................................................................116
BISHOP ON MEETING NEW WOMEN -.....................................................................................................................117
BISHOP ON WOMEN WHO QUESTION IF THEY WANT TO MEET YOU -......................................................................117
MAJOR MARK ON MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIPS.................................................................................................117
BISHOP ON ANCHORS -............................................................................................................................................117
THEMES....................................................................................................................................................................119
SECRET CORE THEME..............................................................................................................................................119
PATTERNS
ADVENTURER VS EXPLORER PATTERN
You:
Which do you think best describes you, being and adventurer, or an explorer?
(No matter which one they say, even if they say neither or "I don't know" continue
with ... )
See most people think the two are pretty much the same, but that's just not true.
An adventurer is able to ... LOOK AT THIS OPPOURTUNITY (self point) and
immediately. FEEL A RUSH OF EXCITEMENT. And as that excitement grows
stronger and stronger there is this internal voice that says, "EXPERIENCE
THIS ... MAKE IT YOURS RIGHT (snap fingers) NOW!" And the adventurer
goes out there and is able -to ... JUST DO IT.
An explorer on the other hand, starts to ... GET VERY CURIOUS ... about things
(point to your crotch) they have not seen yet. They start to ... FEEL A WARMTH
OF DESIRE ... to see what this is all about. So as they ... CONTINUE TO STAY
CURIOUS ... and ... THAT WARMTH GROWS ... they have only one thought,
which is, "EXPLORE THIS (self point) COMPLETELY."
So you see, an adventurer sees an opportunity in front of them and they go for it,
while an explorer gets curious about what they have not yet experienced and
decides to ... SEE WHAT THIS IS ALL ABOUT. So as you think about it like
that, can you ... FEEL THAT (tap wrist) TO APPLY TO YOU?
I was watching the most interesting program on cable the other night. They were
doing a week long profile on amazing women in History who were highly
influential, and the powerful decisions they made. And this particular night, they
profiled Cleopatra, and Joan of Arc. They said of Cleopatra, that when she was
able to ... SEE AN OPPOURTUNITY HERE ... she made the decision to say to
herself, "MAKE THIS YOURS " (self point) She had the ability to ... FOCUS ON
THIS (self point) and ... DELETE ALL OTHER DISTRACTIONS ... and was
able to succeed, where other women were unable to. All of the women at that time
had the same options and abilities, but Cleopatra's famous for it because she was
ambitious enough to set her sights on powerful men (gesture toward self) and
always believed that ... THIS REWARD IS DESERVED (self point). And then
there's Joan of Arc, who at age 13 said that inside her head she could ... HEAR
THIS VOICE, and as time went on and she began to ... FOCUS ON THIS VOICE
... and began to ... SEE IMAGES of what was being described. With her able to ...
HEAR THIS VOICE, and ... SEE POWERFUL IMAGES, the people of France in
1429 saw her as having a celestial connection with God, and so she was chosen to
lead France's battle into England. She made a powerful decision, the decision to
BELIEVE THIS VOICE and ACCEPT THESE IMAGES. TODAY, as you know.
that decision is called listening to your woman's intuition. But look at the whole
picture. You have a woman who set her sites on a man, then decided to ... DO
WHATEVER IT TAKES ... to ... MAKE IT HAPPEN. And you have a woman
who heard and saw amazing things within her mind. Two amazing people (motion
back and forth between you and she) doing amazing things. So if a woman was
good enough to have those options then, why can't you ... HAVE THIS OPTION
(self point) TODAY? The answer is, you can. If you can. JUST STOP ... and ...
FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRES ... you will realize you have powerful, alternative,
options. And from these options, you can make a powerful decision, a decision
that will not only cause you to ... FEEL THIS IS RIGHT ... but will also add more
fulfillment to your life, because you know that you were able to ... MAKE IT
HAPPEN. Take a moment to ... LISTEN TO THIS VOICE inside your mind.
That's your woman's intuition. So no matter what anyone else says to you, when
this voice tells you to ... ACT ON YOUR DESIRE S ... you know that you're
going to (snap fingers) JUST DO IT. Now, with me, as I see it, this gives you
more fulfillment in your life.
Have you ever thought about the difference about between attraction and being in
love?
Her:
You:
Well, actually I think they take place in different settings. I mean attraction is
what you experience when you're in the presence of that person, (point to
yourself) and you're looking at them, and you maybe you think to yourself ...
(pause) mmmm. And maybe you start to have certain ... (pause) thoughts, images
and you know what that feels like, right?
Her:
Sure.
You:
But falling in love, well I think you do that when you're not even in that person's
presence. I mean, can you remember a time when you just totally fell for
someone?
Her:
Yeah.
You:
And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about what I'm saying, you can
remember what it felt like, right?
Her:
Sure.
You:
Yeah, but here's how it happened. You spent some time with that person (gesture
to yourself) and then you went home, and you PICTURE THAT PERSON IN
YOUR MIND (as you do this, draw a frame around your own face! Ha! This
sticks you in there!) right?
Her:
Yes.
You:
And then, maybe you IMAGINE YOURSELF in all sorts of situations with this
person (point to yourself again) having lots of fun, and enjoying the kind of
feelings and things you'd like to enjoy with them? Can you REMEMBER HOW
THAT FEELS?
Her:
Yeah
You:
And then maybe you start to LIST ALL THE QUALITIES about him you really
like: He's so smart, he's so funny, he's so fun to be with, whatever they were,
whatever the things are you really WANT AND ENJOY THAT in someone
(point to yourself again) , right?
Her:
Yeah
You:
And then you get that feeling, right in the pit of your stomach, right in your solar
plexus, that just starts to spread out and let you know you really, REALLY
LOVE THIS PERSON? (point to self again) I mean, can you feel that as I
describe it to you?
Her:
Oh yeah.
You:
And then, here's the kicker ... you START SAYING HIS NAME OUT LOUD.
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Totally.
You:
See, I think everything, including falling in love is a process. And when you DO
THAT PROCESS WITH SOMEONE, (point to yourself) and really LET IT
HAPPEN, that's when the magic takes over, the magic we're really all looking
for. Of course sometimes that can take months, but the real magic is when it
happens INSTANTLY and you know it right away. That's an incredible feeling,
isn't it?
"Before I have sex with a woman, there are three rules that I have.
The first rule is, that no matter how well you think you're protected, I'm going to
wear a condom. It's a sign of respect and just how I do things.
And the second rule I have, is that making love with me is exactly what you want,
for your own reasons, not mine. If you can say to yourself, 'I want us to make
love. No question, this is what I want.' then I have respect for that, and want to
know that this is how you feel. Because if there's uncertainty, it's best to not let it
happen.
And the third rule is, we have to have the understanding that we will give
ourselves over completely to our passions and give each other the best that we
have to offer. Because I'm not interested in just the act of making love, I'm
determined to make it a night of shared passion so absolutely unlike anything
you've ever felt before, that just the thought of what we have done brings a
warmth to your heart and makes your soul purr. A night so perfect, that months
from now, after already having shared that intimate, unforgettable night with me,
you still feel as energized as when we first made love. And allowing yourself to
look back on today, and realizing that this was when it all began. And that feeling
will come from right in here.
(Then I fired off the anchor I had set there during the "Secrets" pattern)
BJ PATTERN # 1
Basically, this is it's 3-step structure. Ask her about anything she really loves to eat
1. Describe the sensation of eating that food and amplify with gustatory gusto
2. Link it to your dick using a "dick point".
3.
Let's put flesh into it ? Sure.
Me
Hey Alicia. What do you love to eat ? Something that really makes you salivate
just by thinking of it ?
Alicia
Oh ... I love fresh ripe mangoes from Hawaii ... oh yes ...
Me
Ripe Mangoes huh ? Mmmm ... that's yummy. I don't know if you can
IMAGINE ... SUCKING into one sweet, delicious, juicy mango NOW ... mmm ...
can you taste the sweetness of the mango ... swishing INSIDE YOUR MOUTH ...
mmm ... soo tasty ... doesn't that give you lots of pleasure and ha-PENIS just
thinking about that? Mmm ... I bet, if there were a mango here NOW, you'd
WANT IT IN YOUR MOUTH (point to dickee !) .
BJ PATTERN # 2
Me
Hey XXXX, What do you love to eat? Something that really makes you salivate
just by thinking of it?
XXXX
Me
Fresh Strawberries, huh? Mmmmm that's so tasty! I don't know if you can
IMAGINE.SUCKING into one SWEET JUICY strawberry NOW mmmm
can you taste the sweetness of the strawberry swishing INSIDE YOUR
MOUTH . Mmm soo yummy .doesn't that give you lot's of pleasure and
ha-PENIS just thinking about that? MMmmm I bet if there were a big plump
juicy strawberry here NOW, you'd WANT IT IN YOUR MOUTH (self point)
BJ PATTERN # 3
You
I mean you ever come home from a hard day a work and the boss was a jerk and
kept piling the papers up on you desk and its like all you can think about it is
dropping your clothes and getting into that steamy hot bath or shower.
That's like before you even step in you can already feel that heat working its way
through every muscle in your body and all your frustrations just drop away and all
you can feel is the pleasure of that warmth just shooting thought every part of
you. And then there's that moment of sliding in where you really let that pleasure
take you and it just feels great doesn't it?
Yeah well do you like chocolate? (Is there a food where when you see it you
absolutely have to put it in your mouth.) I mean, can you stop and remember a
time when you, it's like you see that piece of chocolate and your mouth is already
tasting it before you even put it in you can already taste that sweetness against
your tongue and you can feel the special rich texture of it against your tongue as
well.
You know that texture that really good chocolate has. And then there's that
moment, that moment when the first molecule of chocolate touches your tongue
and you know it's inside your mouth and you just want to keep it there because it's
so rich and so good. And there's that extra special warmth when you swallow that
sweetness down.
Or then maybe, you know like sometimes you meet someone and you're really
attracted to them and you both know it and there's that moment when your eyes
lock, it's that special look just before you kiss before the very first time and you're
trembling with anticipation and your heart is pounding because you're thinking
about how good it's going to be.
It's like every physical moment of that relationship is enfolded/contained or rolled
into that first touch of the lips and there's that excitement, with that first soft
contact of the lips where you don't even know if you are touching or not but then,
oh man, it's like a jolt of electricity all through you.
See I think what happens is the conscious mind goes down into the unconscious
and brings back up all these thoughts, images, desires and fantasies, and you may
think those thoughts are above me, but really I think they're blow me _____
because you're coming from a much deeper part and your mine Aren't you?
First I like to admire the ice cream. You know just look and admire the body of
the cone ... the way the balls of ice cream sit in the cone. Then after looking at it
for a minute or two I take that first tentative lick ... and I roll the cream around in
my mouth, really savoring the texture the smooth consistency. I like how the
flavor changes as it heats up in the mouth ... and no matter what you do you can't
stop, from getting it all over the fingers that are trying to keep the cream from
running all over the place. It's a real curious and wonderful sensation that happens
at the point where you stick your tongue into the cone. Imagine a cool heat that
spreads; all over; from your mouth. It's so sweet and because you have gotten the
cone all; moist and wet. You have to eat it gingerly. All saturated with the taste of
your favorite ice cream which of course is no longer ice as it has melted and
gotten extremely warm. It's so good. I would think that ice cream is natures
ultimate feel good food. You can see yourself eating it all summer ... I know I
could. Nothing is as satisfying once you have experienced it. Don't you think?
Use fluff talk and humor to make her feel comfortable, listen to her babble for a
little bit.
Step 2:
Use the Instantaneous Connection Patterns from Chapter 10 to get her to feel both
an incredible connection and distort her time sense so it seems like she's been
deeply connected to you for months. This is an H-Bomb combination! (The HBomb uses fusion which can only be ignited from the heat generated by atomic
fission. That's why they have to use an A-Bomb to set off an H-Bomb. Isn't
science wonderful?)
Step 3:
Set her up for anchoring an intense pleasure state by first getting her to notice
how everything happens with a pattern or structure.
Step 4:
Step 5:
Step 6:
Find out her sub modality location for picturing falling in love.
Step 7:
Accelerate her pleasure state by describing the warmth of your voice coming from
that place and spreading all through her body.
Step 8:
Step 9:
See? Everything has a structure to it. For example, think about someone you
really like for a second? Ok? Got that? Now, point to where you seem to see that
picture.
Right there? Ok. Now think of someone who you really don't like at all. Ok? Point
to where you see that.
(Let her point ... and by the way if she's one of those people who doesn't dislike anyone, then
have her think of someone she could take or leave ... who she's neutral about!)
You:
Now watch ... take that picture of the person you don't like ... and try as hard as
you can to move it over into the place where you see the picture of the person you
do like.
See that? It doesn't want to go does it? Because you need a way to sort out who
you really like (point to yourself ... why miss an opportunity) from who you don't.
Isn't that need?
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Her:
Yeah! Cool! Wow! (Or any other similar stupid female expostulation!)
You:
Now see, there's another difference in the way you make pictures in your head.
For example, you ever been on a roller coaster?
Her:
Yeah!
You:
Ok, watch. I want you to remember a time you were on a roller coaster, and I
want you to see yourself sitting in the roller coaster car, riding up and down on the
roller coaster. Just do that for a few seconds.
Ok ... now we're gonna do it again, but this time, instead of seeing yourself, see
what you'd actually see through your own eyes if you were there, going on that
roller coaster ride.
Now, of those two, which one felt more real, actually gave you the feelings of
being there?
Her:
You:
Of course ... because you can see yourself in a memory, or see what you actually
saw. When you see what you actually saw it really helps you to get the feelings of
how it actually felt!
Her:
You:
Isn't it? Now look ... here's the next piece of this and it's called anchoring. So,
here, try this ... close your eyes ... you remember a time when you were feeling
exquisite pleasure in your body???
Her:
You:
Ok. I want you to see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel how it felt.
And when those feelings of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak, just wiggle
your little finger for me.
(Watch to see she's really in state ... her face will change, breathing quicken, etc. when she
wiggles that finger, reach over, touch her wrist and say, :)
You:
Purrrfect. And just hang on for a minute to how good it feels to FEEL
PERFECT. (Keep holding her wrist as she's experiencing this!)
You:
Ok. Open eyes. Close em again. And go through it again ... see what you saw,
hear what you heard, feel how it felt. And when those feelings reach their peak,
wiggle that finger. (Repeat the anchor process)
You:
Ok, one more time (run her through it one more time)
You:
Ok. Open your eyes. Now, the theory behind anchoring is, that if someone is in a
certain state, and you combine that state with a touch or sound, when you repeat
that touch they'll go back into that state. So if I were to say to you, you know, I
find that when I spend time with someone, and I really start to FEEL THAT
SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, maybe then you can just FEEL
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PERFECT (fire off the anchor by touching her wrist) And that feels great, doesn't
it?
Her:
Oh, yeah!
You:
Isn't this interesting? Isn't the mind really cool? Now notice something else: you
ever just fall head over heals in love with someone (point to yourself ... never
miss that opportunity!)
Her:
Oh yeah!
You:
Well, as you're remembering that time, point to where you see that picture!
Ok ... and you're really feeling perfect right now, aren't you? (fire off that anchor
again!)
Her:
Oh yeah!
You:
So watch ... (point to where she falls in love) As you THINK ABOUT THAT
SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU ... as you ALLOW MY VOICE TO COME FROM
THAT SPACE ... you might find it's like you want to CREATE AN OPENING
FOR MY VOICE ... and opening that allows the deep, rich warmth of my voice to
just penetrate your thoughts, and SPREAD THAT WARMTH ALL THROUGH
YOUR BODY ... that sure feels great, doesn't it?
Her:
God, yes!!
(At this point you have two options for preceding. Either will work)
Option #1: Quotes
You:
You:
My friend Kim was telling me that her roommate has this best friend, Dawn. And
when Dawn starts to notice that growing attraction, it happens in a certain way.
Like first, as she looks at the guy, and starts to REALLY PAY ATTENTION, she
just becomes aware of certain things ... like the rhythm of her breathing, and the
beating of her heart, and the out line of his face ... so as she becomes aware of all
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these things, one particular feature of his face just starts to rivet her attention, so
she becomes totally absorbed in the connection taking place ... and as that's all
happening, it's like the warmth of his voice, the deep rich warmth of it, just starts
to penetrate her consciousness, and spread all through her body, and as her heart
beats faster and her breathing increases, that warmth just heats up into a fire, a fire
spreading through her chest and down through her belly, a fire pounding and
pulsating all through her, down to where she really longs to have it go, until that
desire for him just BECOMES UTTERLY OVERWHELMING, and she just
SURRENDERS to it completely.
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You have a boyfriend? Well, I have to admit I'm disappointed, I have to respect
that you're in a relationship. But let me ask you a question. How surprised would
you be to FIND YOURSELF ACTUALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO
SPENDING A LITTLE TIME WITH ME? I mean maybe to the point where you
could IMAGINE US OVER COFFEE, LAUGHING AND HAVING THE BEST
TIME, and you starting to FEEL REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH IT? As you
THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, doesn't seem natural to meet like Monday or
Tuesday for coffee?
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I'm sorry ... I can't keep seeing you. I should have told you before, but I have a
boyfriend. (or, as you are making out like crazy)
Her:
You:
But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's like, what's this guy's name you're
going out with?
Her:
Bill
You:
Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point to your right palm) OK. And
you think he's real cool, and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's say for
whatever reason you break up. You ever BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE (point
to palm) and you go through that period of mulling it over, and maybe you
NOTICE THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST
RELATIONSHIP ... or maybe you start to LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT
REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?
However you would JUST DO THAT! I mean it's so weird how the mind does
all this stuff, but what I'm curious about is, what would it be like for a person if
that entire process that usually takes months, what would it be like if that entire
process were to TAKE PLACE INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers in her
face) in someone's mind? It'd be like (wave your hand in her face) YOU
COULDN'T SEE HIS PICTURE ANY MORE IN YOUR MIND. Every time
you tried it'd be like something was just wiping it right out. And that's how you'd
know that you'd already started to FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, TO MAKE
HIM LESS IMPORTANT.
Or you know, like, is there someone you used to date, but now there way out of
your mind ... you haven't even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? Well
notice as you take your finger and point, where do you see there picture? Right
over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS
GUY (hold up your palm, push it to where she pointed) , it'd be like he gets stuck
in the same place. And of course you might think to yourself, "but I want to put
him back".
You might think you might think that ... until you REALLY NOTICE that from
over there, from this perspective, you really can SEE ALL THE THINGS in him
and about him you don't like ... something that over time, would really cause you
to dump him. And when that happens it's a little sad, but it's also a nice thing,
because it allows you to CREATE AN OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW.
(point to yourself) I know that's how it can GO DOWN WITH ME (point to
your dickee!)
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"Have you ever noticed that relationships are a lot like watching television?"
Her:
You:
"Well, lets say you have a boyfriend (motion to your left) and like a good TV
program, there's something there that caught your eye, so you decided to see what
this was about. But, then, for whatever reason, you start to feel something missing
from this (motion left again) and it just isn't as exciting as it used to be. So you
decided to see what else is out there (motion right) , you change the channel so to
speak. And there might be some people who capture your attention for a short
time, so you date them, or in this comparison, you channel surf. So here you are
changing the channel, and periodically stopping on a channel to see what it's
about, then changing to another channel. But then, out of the blue, you see
something in this screen (make a square TV screen with your face in the center of
it) that really captures your attention. And the more you look at this, the more you
realize that this (point to self) is what you were looking for, this (point to self) is
what you want to enjoy. And you become so interested, that you actually start
planning your week around enjoying this. So, can you feel that to be a lot like
relationships?
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I'm going to tell you a short story about a caterpillar and a moth. The story is so
short, it only takes a minute to tell, so no interruptions are allowed. Just settle
back and let it flow.
Caterpillar loved to play 'pretend'. She had a very vivid imagination and could
pretend she was anything at all, anywhere at all, any time at all.
When she let her deeper feelings well up, she could hear beautiful sounds, feel
wonderful sensations, scent sweet, sweet perfumes and taste and see magical
things. She could make time go faster, or slow down at will, or make any image
shrink, or grow larger at her slightest command. When she made things larger, she
could examine them in tremendous detail and could always observe vivid colors,
intense sounds and feelings; things from the past she could remember with perfect
clarity, as if they existed in the very here and now.
One day, she went out blarging, eager, attentive and filled with joy, in a huge,
leafy, green, spherical object of delight, and met a moth with glittering golden
wings and gorgeous eyes. 'Hello,' said the moth in his sweet, deep, breathy voice,
'Why are cabbages round and green? Passion; Life is my name, and I know your S
he See or He Tea. Come, I know you aren't really a caterpillar at all, and so do
you. That's just what you've been told and believed, falsely pretended, until you
reached this cross-roads in time and met up with me. You know as well as I, that
open doors permit entry, and hidden deep inside you lives an eager, beautiful,
playful butterfly who yearns to be released, wants to come out play and frolic in
joyous pleasure. But she's so shy, so timid, so reserved. Fortunately, and for her
delight, I am a master of metamorphosis, change. I know her secret longings and
the magic word that will release her; would you like to hear the word?'
'Yes please, oh yes!' cried the caterpillar eagerly, 'I've always wanted to fly, be
joyful, to soar above the ordinary and do so many other different, exciting things.
Please, kind Sir, please tell me the magic word that will set me free.'
The Moth drew her towards him, held her close, and whispered in her ear. The
caterpillar immediately transformed into a beautiful, multicolored butterfly with
translucent gossamer wings. She became free and no longer had to pretend things,
for all the wonderful things she had pretended before became true.
Can you guess what the word was?
Performance notes:
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The correct answer to guessing what the word was is 'no': if you get an attempt at an answer,
gently refute it. Now lean over and whisper something appropriate in her ear. Then continue,
(because there's likely to be a vacuum here while it all begins to sink in)], do you know what
happened next?
If 'no', which is the likely response, then start thinking on your feet and describe what' she's
doing, in real time e.g ...
'The butterfly stared, wondering what this new knowledge meant ... '
'Butterfly tried to dismiss the moth's magic as a joke, but deep down she knew it was true ... '
'She wanted to dance, to sing, to be joyful ... ' putting her in the role of the butterfly & you in as
the moth in REAL TIME.
If 'yes', then ask what, get reply & work it as above.
Additional Notes:
Since I've been asked questions several times about some of the peculiar words used & the
phrasing:
a)
The word 'blarging' is not a spelling mistake: say it like it is, neither is the peculiar looking
word group 'S he See or He Tea', which spells out SECRET phonetically. These are
deliberate word interrupt devices
b) Leave the question about the cabbage in: it's another interrupt.
c)
you are attempting to cast the lady as the caterpillar/butterfly & yourself as the moth in this
little metaphor. Copy the moth's breathy voice for added impact. When he 'draws her close'
do so.
Magic/Kino/Anchoring Performance
In the UK, it's quite easy to obtain adhesive backed 'Butterfly' stickers of various kinds. When
you, as Mr. Moth, draw the lady close, you have one of these fastened to your palm (tiny blob of
Blu Tak or such) with the adhesive side out. Be sure to rest your hand on her shoulder & leave
the butterfly (implied transformation AND anchor) stuck there. Point it out when you tell her the
word: she'll take the sticker home with her for sure & you can always have another one handy if
you meet again.
TantraLA
the magic word is "believe"
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Her:
You:
What that's really referring to, is a person's unique ability to draw energy up from
the earth, and create a more powerful force through their body. Ancient Druids
said they had witnessed this remarkable ability in some people. The ability to ...
JUST STOP ... and ... FOCUS ON THIS (self point) PRESENCE-that others do
not notice. And as ... THAT FOCUS GROWS STRONGER ... a warming begins
to start from the soles of the feet. As that starts to happen, without even having to
think about it you begin to draw energy up from the earth. (As you say this last
part, raise both hands up from your waist, palm upward)
And the more you. FEEL THAT ENERGY RISING ... the more you start to ...
FEEL THAT WARMTH GROWING deep inside you.
But since not all energy is empowering, the druids wondered what did these
people do to excise the bad, while retaining the good and being able to ... HOLD
THIS INSIDE YOU.
What they discovered was ... ab ... solutely ... amazing.
Here, close your eyes a moment.
(Wait for them to close their eyes, then lightly brush your index finger UP from
the tip of their nose, to the point between the eyebrows, bring your finger back to
the tip of her nose and again lightly brush it up to the point between her
eyebrows, continuing this three or four times as you say ... )
Ancient druids claimed that the nose was like a filter for all the energy these
special people drew up from the earth. That in this exact motion you feel right
now, all the negative and limiting energies were cast aside, so the positive and
fulfilling energies could enter your mind. The negative and limiting energies were
thrown out of the body, in the form of a sneeze, or in the exhale of a good laugh.
(Begin to rub the sides of the temple as you say ... )
The empowering and fulfilling energies would then flow to the sides of the eyes,
allowing you to ... SEE THIS OPPOURTUNITY that others were missing out on.
(She might open her eyes at this point, which is fine)
And the more you ... FOCUS ON THIS OPPOURTUNITY ... in front of you-the
more you come over and over to the conclusion that-THIS IS WORTH
EXPLORING. And a burst of certainty fills your mind (As you say this, spread
your fingers wide, and basically use the tips of your fingers to massage the back
of her head) because you ... HEAR THIS VOICE ... and you know, without even
having to think about it that-THIS IS YOUR VOICE OF PERMISSION.
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(Stop massaging her head, take your hands and form an invisible circle all
around her head as you say ... )
And that warmth inside you starts to build, that certainty gets stronger, and
suddenly you realize that a shield of absolute protection has formed around you. A
shield so strong that you know with complete certainty ... THIS IS SAFE.
And having this shield to protect you, and the earth's energy to power you, you ...
ALLOW YOUR DERSIRES TO RISE. And as you feel that shield protecting
you, and as the earth's energies protect you, and as you allow your desires to rise
up from deep inside you, you ... FEEL IT ALL EXPLODE ... right ... through ...
here (tap three times on top of head near the back) Exploding all that you are, and
all that you will be, and bathing the surroundings with your presence. And in
doing that, you have willingly chosen to ... MAKE THIS (self point) YOURS ...
RIGHT ... NOW! (snap fingers)
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"Let me show you something really interesting. They SAY the eyes are the
window to the soul, but that's really only half true. The RIGHT eye (I point to
HER right eye ... not the eye that appears on MY right, but her actual, eye on
HER right side) is the window to the body and the mind ... and the left eye
(pointing to HER left eye) is the window to the soul. So, we're going to do a little
soul gazing here. You see the Celts don't believe in soul-mates. That just creates
too much pressure. The Celts believe in Soul-Friends, that we have plenty of soul
friends just waiting to meet us. (this totally takes all the romantic pressure off ...
she can relax and feel great because what guy would bring up the "friends" term
that quickly? There goes THAT ever being brought up by HER!)
So, as I open up my left eye, and let you in, to see this soul friend waiting to meet
you, you can open up your left eye, and let me see the soul friend that's been
waiting her whole life to meet me.
(Then relax and soften my eyes ... thinking loving thoughts ... 100% of the time,
they follow right along ... when I see a little sparkle in their eye I say) THERE!
RIGHT THERE! THAT one! Can you FEEL THAT (squeeze the hand) is the
coolest thing to experience? They are amazed 100% of the time by this! Now I
have a soul friend anchor on her left hand, just by squeezing it (I don't anchor the
right hand ... as it would get fired off by everyone who shakes her hand! I want it
to be uniquely anchored to ME if possible!)
You:
Now, here's something even more interesting. Can you see an image of yourself
on your 5th birthday?
Yes!
You:
Now, notice what it's like as a you see an image of me, standing their next to you
on your (X) birthday ... (fire off anchor) ... feeling that Soul Friend Connection
Her:
wow!
You:
Now imagine yourself on your birthday 5 years from now ... and see me standing
their next to you ... (fire off anchor) feeling that Soul Friend Connection
Her:
WOW!
You:
now ... draw a line between the you on your X birthday and the you 5 years from
now ... and FEEL THIS (fire off anchor) as something really wonderful.
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On a scale of one to ten how good do you feel? What if as good as this feels it was
only the start?
What if instead of being the end it was only the beginning?
What if it was only the start of your asking yourself the question how much
pleasure can I stand?
How wonderful can I really feel?
As that realization joins with my voice to wrap itself around you like a pair of
powerful yet gentle arms lifting you higher and higher the higher, you go the more
your capacity for pleasure and experience continues to expand and the more your
capacity continues to expand the higher and higher you go. You probably havent
yet realized theres a color to the feeling of pleasure but if you could See That
Color Now what color would that be as that color expands t fill you pulsing and
spreading all through you it expands to fill the room the world the solar system
the galaxy the universe. with all of that color all of that feeling flowing back into
you. Having you as its center flowing and pulsing right back into the center of
who you are. Now how good do you feel?
The really amazing thing about feeling so wonderful s to realize really realize that
the more you open and the deeper you respond to this voice of new experience
this voice of new discovery this voice of new direction. The more youll learn and
the more you learn the better the quality of life and your experiences will be.
Its the kind of thing that could cause a person ... to come over and over and
over ... to one conclusion. That theres an opportunity to move in a new direction
and the thing about new directions is its not enough to just ponder it well on day I
might get around to it. But instead you got to reach out and create an opening for
this new direction. An opening that longs to take it all in ride it join with it and be
one with it Now.
I dont know just what in your environment that will remind you to have all these
wonderful feelings and that even stronger desire to experience even more it may
be whenever you hear a phone ring, and you realize theres a powerful message
coming through. Or it may be whenever you step into that steaming hot bath or
shower that reminds you that you just want to immerse yourself in all this
pleasure. Maybe when ever you go through a door and you realize there is a
doorway to new pleasures new thoughts new beliefs. Or maybe your unconscious
will choose something for reasons of its own in a way that will surprise and
delight you.
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I was watching the most interesting program on cable the other right, and they
were talking about romance and companionship. They had talked with over
26,000 women, from various parts of America, and what they discovered, blew
them sway. Because while there were several women who stated that the romance
has been strong even after all this time, it seems that more than 70% of the
women admitted that the romance has dwindled over time, but stayed with the
guy because he was a good companion to them. One of the women said, "He
knows all the non-glamorous things about you, yet is still in the relationship.
There's not as much romance anymore, but unless ... HE'S BEING
UNFAITHFUL, I have no reason to ... LEAVE HIM. NOW, FOR ME, that makes
sense. But I really liked what another woman they interviewed said. Her name
was Robin, and she said that she discovered how to find the kind of man who can
sustain romance long term. Robin said, "There are those men out there who will
romance you with gifts, and compliments, and fancy dinners, but those guys never
manage to keep romance alive long term. Because their reason for romancing you,
is mainly to impress you. Once you're impressed they're job is done pretty much,
so the romance starts to dwindle. But when you meet the other type of men out
there (touch palm to chest), the ones who impress you, not with gifts or elegant
dinners, but touch you in a special way simply, with ... their voice." Robin went
on to say, "You'll know you're in the presence of such a man, because you'll ...
HEAR THIS VOICE inside your mind. And you'll be compelled to ... LISTEN
TO THIS VOICE. And if you ... LISTEN INTENTLY, you'll hear exactly what
you need to do. Because it's like a woman's intuition, and whatever romantic
information this voice is giving to you, is exactly what you want deep down
inside you. Regardless of what anyone else says, when you ... HEAR THIS
VOICE telling you to ... SEIZE THIS OPPOURTUNTTY (self point) it's
because ... THAT'S WHAT YOU DECIDED. So you know that.-THIS IS WHAT
YOU WANT." NOW, WITH ME, that makes perfect sense. Can you. FEEL THAT
to be something you agree with?
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DANCER PATTERN
You
When you dance, for you it is a new experience each and every time you do it. It
all starts when the lights dim, and you hear that first beat of the music. As you
begin to move the music starts to enter inside as it fills you ... the music moves
through you and within you, every part of you ... then, you begin to rise ... above
everyone and everything that is there to enter that most special of places where
you go ... and it is there where you become one with the music and the music
becomes one with you ... as the beat becomes stronger with the rhythm flowing
powerfully through you even more ... you realize that this is a wonderful place to
be ... it is here where you belong and desire to be.
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That is so interesting! That reminds me of a conversation I had the other day, with
a friend of mine, named Rachel. And she said some of the same things you just
did, and she thought that it comes from a deep fascination that you have. Did you
ever feel a deep fascination with something potentially rewarding?
Her:
You:
The way Rachel described it, it's like you suddenly STOP, because you can feel
something pleasurable growing inside of you. And the more you focus on this
(point to self) the deeper your fascination will get. To the point where all you're
focused on, is this feeling of fascination, deep inside of you. But that you don't
even have to understand why you're feeling this way, because what matters, is that
you choose to just let it happen. And that this feeling you're having right now,
manifests itself into an energy. Like a brilliant light, a warmth, slowly filling your
body, and flowing out through ever pour. The way Rachel put it, this energy is
your own personal acknowledgment, that this is what you want (point to self) ,
this is what you deserve to feel. Having that deep fascination, and allowing it to
flow through your body, lets others see, that you possess something incredible.
Without even knowing exactly why, you just burst with an energy that others wish
they could have.
(Then I anchor it with, "Can you feel that as being the case here?")
You:
That's just like when you were a little girl, and you imagine all sorts of wonderful
adventures you want to have. You're feeling excited about what great things you
can enjoy, and what wonderful, maybe even romantic, encounters you'd like to
have. Feeling the warm breeze, as you lay down on the sands, of an exotic island.
Or maybe feeling the rush of excitement as you treat yourself to a personal
adventure. That sense of adventure that you can feel right ... (touch just below the
chest area) here. You decide to close off your mind, to any distractions, and focus
on that amazing adventure you want to have. Knowing that for your own reasons,
this is the chance, this is the opportunity, just go for it. Now, with me (point to
self) , there's incredible value in that. (Then I let her talk, or whatever she's going
to do, and lead the conversation in the most natural direction for that situation)
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You know, I saw the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel last night.
They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for
amusement parks like Magic Mountain and Disneyland and Universal Studios.
Wouldn't that be a cool way to make a living?
Her:
You:
Well, anyway, they were talking about the elements that make up the ideal
attraction. (Point to yourself) . They said there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction.
First, when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction, you FEEL A STATE OF
HIGH AROUSAL. The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster, and your
breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over.
Her:
Yeah!
You:
And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is; it's fascinating. You
just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point to your
pecker!) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON
again.
Her:
Yeah!
You:
And they said, finally, the most important element, is a sense of overall safety.
That even though the attraction make look a little dangerous, you're CERTAIN
YOU'RE SAFE ... you FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really
happen, so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY
THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. Can you (squeeze her
hand) feel that ... is pretty close to the way it is?
Her:
Oooh
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You know, I saw the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel last night.
They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for
amusement parks like Magic Mountain and Disneyland and Universal Studios.
Wouldn't that be a cool way to make a living?
Her:
You:
Well, anyway, they were talking about the elements that make up the ideal
attraction. (Point to yourself) . They said there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction.
First, when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction, you FEEL A STATE OF
HIGH AROUSAL.
You:
You know first long slow vertical climb on the roller coaster? And you can feel
the adrenaline pounding through your body. The closer you get to the peak, the
faster your heart beats. Your breathing starts to come faster and faster and as
you're reaching the peak and you begin to go down, You're screaming with
excitement
The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster, and your breathing gets faster
and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over.
Her:
Yeah!
You:
And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is; it's fascinating. You
just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point to your
pecker!) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON
again.
Her:
Yeah!
You:
And they said, finally, the most important element, is a sense of overall safety.
That even though the attraction make look a little dangerous, you're CERTAIN
YOU'RE SAFE ... you FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really
happen, so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY
THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. Can you (squeeze her
hand) feel that ... is pretty close to the way it is?
Her:
Oooh ...
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You
Okay. When you take this ride, you enter a state of high arousal. And then you say
this. You say, "You know first long slow vertical climb on the roller coaster? And
you can feel the adrenaline pounding through your body. The closer you get to the
peak, the faster your heart beats. Your breathing starts to come faster and faster
and as you're reaching the peak and you begin to go down, You're screaming with
excitement. Okay, now. What am I doing here? I'm giving a description. I give a
description. Why do I give a description? Because if she's in rapport with me and
following along as I describe that state ... Now, let's, let's help, let's have you
make it up. When you're on the roller coaster and you're going up that climb, what
do you feel in your body as you're going up, hearing clack, clack, clack?
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"Would you like to try something fun? Relax, and close your eyes for a couple
minutes, and imagine this situation ... "
What would it be like, if you had JUST MET THE PERFECT MAN ... not perfect
in general ... but, instead the man who is perfect ... for YOU ...
(IF you've done any values elicitation to her tastes in men, insert them here:
"This man is A ... and B ... very C ... and he blah blah blah, etc." Now, she
should be pretty solidly into a light trance!)
For example ... this man ... from the moment you saw him, there was something
just a little different about him. Maybe, from the moment you see him, you are
immediately attract to this guy ... or even ... since this is the perfect man ... you
feel an almost immediate connection with him ... even from across the room ...
and as this man gets near to you ...
(Note: here, we begin pacing reality for the duration ... )
and you start to talk with him ... and you listen to his words, you start to feel the
most wonderful feelings ... fascination, curiousity, arousal, lust ... all of those
wonderful feelings that you really enjoy, ... and the more he talks with you, the
stronger these feelings become inside you ... until you start feeling incredible
passion for him ...
... and when he touches you [you begin by, running your fingers through her hair,
combing it back a bit ... go down the back of her head ... massaging the lower
quarters of her head, where her neck starts ... and word down and out toward her
shoulders] ... it's exactly what you've been waiting for ... he knows just exactly
how to touch you, to make those feelings grow even stronger, (knead your way
down her arms to her hands, then grab her hand) and stronger in intensity ...
and soon, you find yourself guiding his hand, guiding it to the places that unleash
that passion within you ... and as you look at him ... [touch her check, or
eyebrown ... if she still doesn't open her eyes, brace your fingers on her cheek,
and gently open one eyelid with your thumb]
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... as you study his face ... and gaze into his eyes ... you get even more turned
on ... and you're looking to see if you can find that passion within him ... already,
in your mind ... you are imagining what it would be like to enjoy this man ... this
perfect man ... in your favorite, private place ... not for a few minutes ... but for
hours ... and you are still gazing into his eyes ... feverishly hoping that he wants
you, as badly as YOU WANT THIS MAN ... (wrap your hand around her
shoulder, with at least your fingers laying on her shoulder blade) you find
yourself drawn closer, and closer to him (if she doesn't close the gap between
you ... gently pull her shoulder towards you) ... you can't resist tilting your head
to one side ... to give him your best kiss the moment your lips meet.
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"Let me ask you question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone?
Like maybe as you were there, LOOKING at him, and you started to LISTEN
CAREFULLY, it was like his voice just seemed to wrap itself around you, and the
rest of your environment just disappeared, and your entire world, everything you
saw, became what was right in front of you? And anything he described, you
found that you could just PICTURE IT CLEARLY? So you know, if he were talk
about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect partner, you could
SEE YOURSELF there with him, just enjoying what that would be like?"
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an energy had formed around them, like a softprivate bubble, surrounding them
from the rest of the world. In this moment only these two people (motion back
and forth subtly) existed. He smiled, and said not a single word, and instead
kissed her lips softly.
She closed her eyes and took in the moment. (take in a breath, then let it out
slowly with a slight moan) At last, she had found the man who would make her
feel alive again. The man pulled back to look into her eyes, and whispered softly,
"What can I do, what can I say, to make you mine, if but only for a night?" She
thought about what it was she wanted, and asked herself, "What do you want deep
down inside of you? What is missing from your life right now that you want from
this man?" And with only a smile, she took his hand, and lead him out of the
market. They talked for hours, sharing insights, and opinions, dreams, and desires.
Then they simply fell into each others arms, and made love for the night. It was
unlike anything she could imagine. He touched her exactly how she wanted to be
touched, made love to her exactly how she wanted to be made love to.
And all of this was the result of a chance encounter, and a magical necklace. As
they held each other later, he complimented her on her necklace. She revealed to
him what had happened the previous night on the mountain, and how she came to
possess the necklace. He kissed her lips, then said, "Every time you become
aware of having this necklace, think of me. And every time you touch this
necklace, I will feel your touch upon my face, and I will smile." They parted the
next morning, but made plans to meet again that evening.
Sadly, she decided not to meet him after all, for she feared that this magical,
wonderful, amazing adventure she had shared with this man (point to self) would
eventually be ruined for one reason or another someday. She instead chose to
REMEMBER FOREVER that one perfect night, with this one perfect man. She
thought of him often, and his image was never far from her mind. And ever day
she would touch that necklace, and every day she would FEEL AN
INCREDIBLE WARMTH for she knew, that somewhere, he was smiling.
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Did you know ... there's a little secret ... about iced tea?
Her
You
The other day ... I was reading the most fascinating article ... in a health
magazine ... a friend of mine had. It said that ... if you place a raw tea leaf ... just
under your tongue ... you'll ... FEEL A PROGRESSIVE CALM ... in YOUR
MIND. And that ... unlike a harmful drug ... which might cause you to ... LOSE
CONTROL OF YOUR WILL ... the tea leaf simply makes you ... FEEL
COMPLETELY AT EASE. WITH ME, I take a different approach. Because ... the
article also said ... that drinking some forms of iced tea ... will still allow you to ...
FEEL THE BENEFITS ... of what this has to offer you (Point to self). The article
stated that ... in a 15 year study ... those who had iced tea ... as their main
beverage ... got sick less often, and were better able to ... LISTEN INTENTLY ...
when being talked to. I've noticed similar results ... in my extended use of it. I
have more energy ... than when I ... used to drink cokes, for example. Plus, it
tastes better than coffee to me. Now, there's no reason ... YOU NEED TO FEEL
THE WAY I DO. I can respect ... whatever opinion you have.
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Have you ever considered the difference between surrender and indulgence?
When you surrender to something (motion LEFT), you're allowing a certain loss
of control. And that loss of control, or even the fear of that impending loss, causes
you to hesitate or even avoid pursuing an opportunity further.
Sometimes though, there's (motion RIGHT) a loss of control that's good, because
it's an aspect of your control that had been holding you back from receiving this
great benefit (motion RIGHT). So when you can RECOGNIZE THIS IS WHAT'S
HAPPENING and you ACKNOWLEDGE THIS IS GOOD you get to enjoy the
rewards (gesture to self) Indulgence on the other hand is not about losing control,
bad (point LEFT) or good (point RIGHT), it's about experiencing an alternative to
the normal (gesture to self).an alternative that the more you. FOCUS ON THIS
(gesture to self) the more you realize THIS IS WORTH YOUR ATTENTION.
THIS IS YOURS TO ENJOY, so you can JUST GO FOR IT. It's like it takes you
back to when you were a little girl ... when you suddenly saw something that
made you curious. And with each breath you grew more and more and more ...
curious to the point where YOU NO LONGER WAIT you moved straight into
this experience without hesitation. And it had nothing to do with you having to
give up control because in fact, it gave you a stronger sense of control, a stronger
sense of control because you were the only one able to have this right now and
you took charge and made it yours for however long it lasts and being able to look
back after indulging and feeling satisfied. (take in a deep breath and exhale with a
pleased "Mmmm")
Yeah. Do you FEEL THAT making perfect sense, or just something you agree
with?
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Them:
Oh yeah ...
You:
See, I think it's so funny how some people can JUST DO THAT and LET IT
HAPPEN INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers) because for me it takes
longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening, as you REALLY
LISTEN to someone (point to yourself) , and you START TO RECOGNIZE
those values and qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself ...
(pause) ... WITH ME that's when you can MAKE THAT CONNECTION and
really FEEL THAT GROWING BOND.
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Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long,
long time? (Point to yourself) Like maybe even though you only knew them a
short while, it seemed like you had known them your whole life, as if there were a
timeless connection between you and them? (gesture to her and then to you!) I
mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all the barriers just drop,
away and melt and you just feel so totally comfortable and at ease with them. And
it's like maybe you were even able to imagine a time in your future, say years
from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (point to yourself again)
and looking back on today as having been the it?
I just think that's the neatest thing when a person can GO INSIDE and
INSTANTLY recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that
LETS THAT CONNECTION TAKE PLACE WITH SOMEONE ... (pause) ME,
it usually takes a bit longer.
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Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a
long, long time? Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that
you had known them your whole life, as if there were a timeless connection
between you and them? I'm wondering as you read this, if you can remember the
feeling of that, and just how wonderful it was, because sometimes life has a way
of making us remember those things, right prior to discovering that we can
experience those feelings again with someone.
Me ... well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or
video tape can create it (insert her name here) . Words and appearances are only
expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence that moves us. It can only
happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people, but when it
does ... you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all the barriers melt
and drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence,
the mingling of energies feeding one to the other, building and increasing and
intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that words can initiate but
never capture fully? It has instead to be indulged inside your own imagination ...
dwelled on, and toyed with, deep, deep inside you.
Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of connection, just how
much can you look forward to enjoying that with someone who moves you in
that way? As you remember what that would be like, and find those
possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything else blurs into
insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to call and find out more
about this person who has so moved you, with just words on a page? As you find
yourself wanting to meet with me, realize I can be reached at (___) _ _ _ - _ _ _ _.
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LOCKET PATTERN
You:
You know those little lockets that women use to store momentos? (self-point) ...
they have pictures, they have locks of hair ... whatever. You have to understand
that what we've been doing together is over, it's going away, because you know
what you can do, if you were to just stop, and think right now, about all of the
things we've shared, how it feels. What we've said, how we looked in each others
eyes. All of the tremendous meaning we've shared together, and how much we
wanted that, how much we enjoyed that ... Its like if you were to take the essence
of all those wonderful experiences and just hold them in your hand, it's like you
could take them and put them in a locket. And you could take that locket, and just
snap it shut, it's something that could be preserved in time forever. And if you take
that locket now, and put it deep inside, in that secret place deep down near the
essence of who you really are. Then you may find that with every heart beat, with
every breath you take, with every thought that you make, that you're taking a little
bit of energy from those memories. And they stay alive forever, and maybe when
your feeling sad, your feeling down, days when your feeling alone, things really
aren't working out for you, you can take those memories out again and you can
share them and relive them and remember.
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I have this friend, named Rachel, and she's in a rather ... interesting relationship.
You see, Rachel lives here, but he lives in Chicago. And they've been having this
long distance relationship for about a year now, and are very satisfied with it. At
first I thought, "No way Rachel and that guy will last more than a few months,
they only see each other for a couple of days a month, sometimes every other
month." But the way Rachel explained it to me, it really makes sense! Rachel told
me "Imagine the convenience of being with THIS PERSON (self point), do all the
things you really want to enjoy, having an incredible romance, yet still having
your breathing room." Rachel said, "You don't have to alter your free time beyond
a day or two every month or so, which will give you the time to work on other
things, without needing an excuse when you want a break for whatever reason.
This way, neither person feels neglected." And what really made sense is when
Rachel said, "By only seeing each other every once in a while, instead of daily, or
even weekly, makes the time we'll share (motion back and forth) together more
special, and fulfilling, and won't be taken for granted." (laugh)
Rachel also said, "By the time we see each other again, the meeting will be so
highly energizing, that the sex ... will be ... amazing." With me, looking at it that
way, it makes some great sense. Because everytime a get-together occurs, it'll be
like you're enjoying a holiday. Can you THINK BACK to when you were a little
girl, and you really looked forward to your favorite holiday? As the time got
closer, you got more excited, and began to PICTURE IN YOUR MIND all the
things you want to do when this holiday arrives. And on that special day, you
begin to GET VERY EXCITED. Because now this (self point) holiday has
arrived, and you're going to enjoy all those things you've really looked forward to.
You're going to do all those things you've been imagining.
Mmm, how does that (anchor) feel?
Her
You
Looking at it that way, can you (anchor again) FEEL THAT to be an enjoyable
experience?
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Your ring reminds me of a story I read a while back. It was set in the 1600's, and it
was about a warrior who gave his true love a ring. But not just any ring, it was a
ring the warrior had made himself, for his true love. He wanted her to have a
symbol of their love, a tangible reminder of him when they were apart.
The ring was made of fine silver (or gold, or copper, if that's what her ring is) and
it had a beautiful _____ colored stone set in the ring. The warrior worked on this
ring everyday, for seven days, until it was exactly the way he wanted it to be for
her.
Every tap of the hammer (tap the ring) was like pounding his passion for her deep
inside. And every rub of the polishing rag (rub her fingers) was like a loving
caress upon her soft skin. And he did this ... until every (run finger up her index
finger) ... single (middle) ... feature (ring finger) ... was perfect (hold and rub ring
finger a few seconds)
Upon giving it to his true love, he said, "Look upon this ring when I am not near,
and think of only me. And know that a part of me is always with you."
Then one day the warrior left for battle. He was pleased that he had finished the
ring in time, and that his true love wore it always. And every night, she would
look upon this ring (touch ring) and think of this man (self point) who has touched
her heart. And every night, while the warrior was away, his true love would look
at the ring ... give it a gentle kiss ... and know ... that somehow ... her lover felt
that kiss.
And the most amazing thing about this story, is that it's not a fairy tale, it actually
happened. And I don't know if you can FEEL THAT (tap anchor) to be true, and
accept that such things can happen. I just think it's a wonderful feeling to know
that something as small as a ring (touch ring) can connect two people so deeply
(motion back and forth) and in such a big way.
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"Well, have you ever thought about the difference between a Movie and a Film?"
Or "What is it about the experience of watching a movie that make them so
profoundly important to so many people?" Etc.
Her:
*******
You:
"A movie is something that simply is entertaining and keeps you busy for a few
hours. Now a film can really reach deep inside and touch you in that special place
so you find yourself opening up to a whole new world of feelings, sensations, and
experiences ."
You
"I think that Martin Scorsese said it best. He was talking about the nature of film.
Basically he said that when you watch a Film you can feel/experience what the
person or character in the film is experiencing/feeling And if the Film is really
well done, you actually become that character ... and you enter that Film, and say
that's me up there, those are my problems, those are my dreams etc."
"Have you ever seen Deep Throat?" (just kidding) Have you seen Shakespeare in
Love?"
She can say yes or no ... it doesn't matter. But if she says no, then suggest you go see it some
time because ...
You
"That's a wonderful example of what I mean. It is all about how when you meet
that new ideal person ... this person who shows you things about yourself and
makes you feel wonderful. You discover an overwhelming desire to open yourself
up to this person and you know when you do this, your whole life improves. You
find that your work is more passionate, your life is more interesting, the sky is
bluer and the roses smell sweeter. You start to learn things about your own
passions that you never knew before. When you see the movie, you come ... away
from it wanting to meet that special person. You want to find this new person, and
make them a part of your life."
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"Have you ever seen a Film that just filled you with a sense of excitement and
anticipation? Maybe it was a little scary or it was a mystery, but you just could not
wait to find out what happens next. You find yourself emerged in the
experience ... you notice everything around you fading away as you focus on this
image in front of you. Can you feel that (anchor) ... when you see a film?" ...
Now if she says yes, find out what movie ... and if you've not seen it, rent it. It
will be a gold mine of trance material. If she says no, then continue ...
You
Really ... maybe you have experienced these feelings but just don't realize you're
doing it. Now, for me ... watching a film is a very involved process. You might be
so tied up by the image in front of you (hehehe kinky me) that you just want to
lose yourself in the process. You just let go and experience all that the image
before you has to show you. You might not even see it when ... it is happening to
you."
3. Describing a general film genre and maybe pointing out an example and how it is structured
to make you feel a given way. Only use this one if you have some basic film study skills.
You
(Now I have a question here ... would this work as an anchor) While describing the above, for
horror only, you go nice and slow ... like a horror movie ... then ...
"The scene will get very quiet and very slow ... nothing will happen, but at just
the right moment (snap your fingers right in her face) bam they break the mood to
send that rush of adrenaline through you ... and you love that feeling. That feeling
is like a natural drug ... you crave it. You can't get enough of it ... that's why these
movies make so much money."
Part 3: Fly that baby home.
Since you have been talking about movies ... you have a shitload of opportunity to bring up a
movie and say, "We can get together, go see a movie and I'll show you some amazing examples
of this. Or we could just rent a movie too."
Or get her number so you can go enjoy a movie some time etc. There are lots of closes here
because this is topical and it is a safe topic ... no warning lights go off in a woman's head when
you talk about movies. There are so many possibilities to this that it boggles my mind.
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I was reading the most interesting article the other day, on our attractions with
new technologies. Like computers for example, the Internet specifically. The
article said, that the Internet provides you with everything you need now.
Whatever you find yourself desiring, is accessible through the Internet. Like
vacations. Suppose you want an exciting experience, you want this amazing
adventure (touch palm to chest) to be yours. Now, the opportunity to have this
comes in a way you really enjoy. Instead of having to search many different
places, to find exactly what you want, exactly the way you want it, you have the
luxury of finding it all in one place. With me (point to myself) , no question, its
an incredible time saver. Because why should you have to waste your valuable
time, weeding through all the choices out there, just to settle for something that
ultimately isnt what you thought it was? But through the Internet, you can just
relax, and know that youre not going to leave this spot, until you finally find
something here that satisfies your desires. The article posed the question, "Can
you imagine how less satisfying your life would be, if you never had this?"
Then I anchor it with, "Can you feel that to be true for you?"
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Can you remember the last time you had a peak experience? Like climbing a
mountain ... or watching a beautiful sunset ... or the first time you looked at
someone (point to yourself) and recognized YOU REALLY LOVE THIS
PERSON (point to yourself again) .
Her:
Sure ...
You:
(Here you should SHUT UP and let her describe it ... and LISTEN carefully. She'll give away
LOTS of information) .
You:
That's really interesting. You know, I find it so neat how YOUR MINE can be
going along in one direction, you know in an everyday ordinary state, and then
SUDDENLY for whatever MYSTERIOUS reason, you just GO INTO A MUCH
DIFFERENT STATE ... a state where YOUR MINE is so in touch with the
MYSTERY and the WONDER and the beauty of life (point to yourself,
dumbshit!) And sometimes it's like in YOUR MINE, you just SLOW TIME
DOWN, and the whole world stops, as you just LET YOURSELF GO WITH
THIS (point to yourself) . Can you FEEL THAT (reach out and touch anchor) is
an incredible thing to experience ... WITH ME ... NOW, I know that for a lot of
people different things can trigger that.
Her:
God ... yeah ... I LOVE the way you talk ... it's like your inside my soul.
You:
Well, thank you dumbshit ... er ... ah ... Debbie. And you know, for a lot of people
falling in love, or orgasm are peak experiences, but for me, it's music. Like, the
other night I was listening to Mozart, and I don't know if you are familiar with
him or not, but some of his stuff is just a series of short little musical segments ...
like little pecks on the cheek, and with some of his stuff those segments just
HYPNOSIS Debbie, from end to end, and keep getting repeated. But his really
great stuff is composed of these long, slow, lingering movements ... they're like
long, slow, lingering kisses ... long slow lingering caresses, and you just FEEL
ALL OF THAT ALL OVER YOUR BODY when you LISTEN ... TO ME ...
NOW ... it's an incredible thing ... you know.
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Her:
ok
You:
close your eyes (not yet ... finish reading this first ... ) and imagine all the
sensations that are driving you wild, whatever they may be ... passion, arousal,
anticipation, curiosity ...
Her:
Ok
You:
and when you can REALLY feel all those sensations reach their peak, reach over
and tap yourself three times on the right forearm, and notice the little charge you
get as those feelings intensify at that moment . . .
You:
then ...
Her:
Ok
You:
touch yourself there again, and sloooowly, slide that touch up toward your elbow,
and notice how as you do this, all those sensations intensify and intensify, more
and more, throughout your whole body ... by the time you reach your elbow they
should be incredibly intense ... (don't worry, I can get you out of this ... )
Her:
You:
You:
Her:
one moment
Her:
ok
You:
cool, huh? bet you didn't know you could do that with just a finger and an arm ...
You:
Her:
very weird
You:
again, slowly, and paying close attention to all those sensations ... sliiiiiiiiide that
finger back down, to the original point on your forearm, and feel the sensations
diminish from that over-the-top intensity down to a more manageable level of
excitement and arousal
You:
and then, sloooowly, keep going, down toward your hand, and notice how they
diminish even more, to the point where you no longer feel like you're going to
explode, but are happy just sitting there and grinning about it ...
Her:
LOL ... I'll try this again later, too. Could keep me from doing anything rash over
the weekend
You:
completely in control ... but content that sometime soon, only when you're really
ready, you can experience ALL that intensity again ... with me, I think it's a good
reminder that you can have the fun you want when you want it ...
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You:
Her:
oh?
You:
this weekend, I don't recommend that you slide your fingers up past your elbow ...
at least not unless you're thinking about me ... because you don't want to find
yourself pouncing on some innocent bystander ...
Her:
oh really?
You:
well, you were the one worried about what to do with all that pent up ... tension.
Her:
you may be getting an evil phone call when I get back then
You:
Her:
one that tells you that you have absolutely no choice but to get your ass over to
my apartment NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You:
now think about this ... if what you just did is possible just by reading my words
on your computer, just imagine the kinds of things that are possible face to face ...
when you're with someone who possesses the mysterious secrets ...
Her:
You:
then just sliiiiiide those fingers down until you're the right amount of intrigued
and no longer scared. see how groovy that can be. just be careful when _I_ reach
for your arm
Her:
uuurrrggghhhhhkkkk
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SECRETS PATTERN
You
Have you ever noticed how some secrets affect us in amazing ways?"
Her
How so?
You
Well, there are some secrets that you know you'll never utter to another living
soul, and then there are those secrets that you have to really work on keeping to
yourself."
Her
I suppose, yes
You
For example, I recall a conversation I had one day, with a friend of mine, named
Rachel. Now Rachel had apparently been told this really juicy secret, and she said
that she ready to explode. The way Rachel described it, it's like this ball of light,
or energy. And as you ... feel that energy forming inside of you ... right ... here (I
touched her just under the breasts, where the two sides of the rib cage meet the
breastbone) you can ... feel a warmth start to spread. And the more you ... focus
on this energy ... the more intense it gets. To the point where you ... suddenly feel
it growing ... all through your body. And like most secrets, you try your best to
keep it in. But sometimes, this (point to self) can be quite an intense experience.
You want to hold this inside of you as long as possible, but you're also tempted to
let it slip out. So you start to debate with yourself, to keep it in, or to let it out. In,
out, in, out, in, out, until you feel yourself wanting to just explode. With me, that
can be a most intense situation. (Tap the back of her hand) Can you feel that
applying to you?"
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Her:
Response: (If she gives a positive response, which is pretty damn likely, then
continue)
You:
I do too. And one of the things most people dont take a moment to realize, is the
true magic of what Walt Disney created. For example, think back to when you
were a little girl, and you first went to Disneyland. Can you REMEMBER HOW
THAT FELT that first time? The fascination .the excitement the absolute certainty
that this was going to be a wonderful world of adventure.
Because you knew that with this being real (self point) and this having everything
you want to enjoy, that nothing else could ever compare. And as you FEEL
THOSE FEELINGS NOW, WITH ME take a moment to appreciate what that was
like. Then notice how you still have that little girl sense of enjoyment when you
visit Disneyland today, as an adult.
You still have that feeling of being in a place that is untouched by the outside
world, where you can JUST RELAX and HAVE FUN FOR HOURS. WITH ME,
you cant help but just let go. And the reason why you FEEL THAT WAY is
because Walt Disney did what no one else had thought to embrace. Instead of
employees, he had "performers." And instead of engineers, he had "Imagineers"
And he took your favorite Disney cartoon character, whoever that might be, and
made it possible for that character you really like, that character you have enjoyed
for years, and made it possible for that character to be right here right in front of
you. So while other people were trying to impress you with flashy rides, and
impressive titles, Disneyland focused on one simple thing. (Pause a few seconds
to build a sense of anticipation)
And that is you are in a place right now where your imagination your fantasies
run wild. All those exciting feelings you had as a little girl, come rushing back as
an adult, everytime you see this (point to self) great escape from the outside
world. Looking at it just like that, can you FEEL THAT to be something truly
magical?
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SMILE PATTERN
You
Her
Yeah
You
I was thinking about something the other day that was just so cool I couldn't help
but get a big smile just exploding across my face ... You know what that's like
right? (give a big smile) I mean it's like you know when you're just going through
your day and you think of something (self point) that just brings a smile to your
face? And it's kinda funny cuz maybe it's because you started to FIND
YOURSELF HAVING THOUGHTS OF SOMEONE SPECIAL (self point) or
maybe your started to PICTURE THIS PERSON IN YOUR MIND (draw a frame
around your face) or maybe you could even HEAR THIS VOICE inside your
mine ... and it's like NOW whenever you THINK OF THIS PERSON (self point)
you just start to NOTICE WHAT ITS LIKE as a great ... big ... smile (smile big)
just flows across your face, right? And what's REALLY cool is when ... YOU'VE
MET SOMEONE ... really (self point) ... special (self point) , I think it's cool
cause then maybe it can happen the other way around. Like maybe FROM NOW
ON when you go through life and you have good experiences that make you smile
one of those great ... big ... happy ... smiles (smile big and lead her to smile) ...
NOW when THAT happens (point at her smile) you can NOTICE THAT SMILE
REMINDING YOU OF THAT SPECIAL PERSON (self point) and the more you
smile the more you THINK OF THIS PERSON (self point) and the more you
THINK OF THIS PERSON (self point) the bigger your smile gets ... to the point
where you can't help but REALIZE THIS PERSON (self point) has affected you
in a very powerful way ... In a way that causes you to want to smile all the time ...
think of this person ... and FEEL A FLOOD OF hapPENIS entering deep inside
you that can just FEEL SO GOOD, ya know? ... I mean can you IMAGINE THAT
happening and causing you to just FEEL INCREDIBLE?
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Her:
Yes
You:
I'm going to give you something, that's probably going to be the greatest gift
you've ever received from anyone.
(Let them respond/react to that)
Close your eyes. Now, what's your favorite metal? If you could have a ring made
out be?
Her:
You:
Okay, now what gem stone would you want on this ring?
Her:
You:
Niiice. Now, what shape is this "stone?" Is it a baguette, oval, trillium or some
other shape?
Her:
You:
Very nice. Now, what size is this "stone?" a karat, 2 karats, 5 karats, what?
Her:
You:
Very nice. Okay, can you picture that ring clearly, can you see it?
Her:
You:
Okay, now I would like you to imagine in your mind's eye, a perfect "metal" ring.
Not the stone yet, just the "metal" ring. The most beautiful "metal" ring you've
ever seen. And maybe it's crafted in a way that's maybe not possible to make with
metal. Like maybe it's disconnected in some way, or maybe it has shapes on it that
you've never seen before. Or maybe it's connected in various spots by an energy.
This is your unique "metal" ring, so craft it how you most want it, remembering to
make a place for that beautiful setting for your stone. And let me know when you
can see it clearly.
(Wait for her to let you know)
Okay, now look at that "X" karat "stone" Notice the shape of it, the way it glitters,
the colors it gives off. Can you see that?
Her:
You:
Purrrrrfect. Now, see that "X" karat "stone" mounted into the ring and notice how
beautiful the ring looks. Notice all the features you enjoy most about this ring.
And as you see that ring, that perfect, beautiful, inside your mind, I would like
"metal" ring itself to represent the feeling you have ... Just before you ...
Mmmmmm ... stop into a hot bath or shower. And feel that same pleasure of when
that warm water covers your entire body, filling you up with a warmth deep inside
you. Feeling the wonderful sensations that this brings, and the wonderful feelings
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you have from this experience. Can you feel that? (Let her answer)
That's what the "metal" ring represents, that feeling. And the "stone" that beautiful
stone, represents that feeling of ... You know that feeling you get, when you're
with a guy, and you're having a good time, and he looks at you and you look at
him and you know that something wonderful is about to happen, something that
you both want. And you start to feel kinda nervous inside, and kinda giddy, so you
feel like you want to talk a lot, but you're nervous all at the same time and it's
kinda exciting? You know that feeling?
Her:
You:
Yeah, that feeling is what that "stone" set in the "metal" ring represents. And now,
I'm going to give you a feeling that you've never felt before. I guarantee that
you're going to experience an emotion and a feeling that you've never felt in your
life. And it's going to be so beautiful, you're going to be able to take it with you
wherever you go. Now, what I'm going to do, is I'm going to take that ring, and
I'm going to slide it onto your finger, which finger do you want it on?
Her:
You:
Perfect. Now take a deep breath, because what is about to happen is pretty
amazing.
(Wait for her to take a deep breath- take one with her too by the way)
You:
Now ... as I slowly ... slide ... this ring ... onto your finger, you're going to notice
those two feelings we talked about starting to mix together. Swirl inside of you.
(Start to "put" ring on desired finger)
Now notice the feelings mixing together for the first time. Notice just how
amazing that feels. Then notice how the color starts to light your whole hand up,
and run up into your body, and swirl all through you. Can you feel that? (Let her
answer) Now notice something. Notice how now that you have on this incredible
ring, this ring that only you can see, the ring is on forever, you can't take it off, no
matter how hard you try.
Slowly now ... open your eyes ... and see very vividly that beautiful ring on your
finger. Can you see it on there?
(Let her say 'Yes")
See how it looks exactly how you imagined it would. And how now you have it
forever. That is my gift to you.
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Her:
???
You:
Submission implies that youve been defeated, that youve been beaten, that
someone has snapped your will. Theres a feeling that youve given in or given
up. But surrender is something completely different. Surrender is like when you
sigh that sigh of relief (long tension-releasing sigh) cause youve finally come
home. Youve come home to someone whos mature enough to see the woman that
you are. To accept you just as you are. Hes experienced enough to see the woman
youve become. And strong enough to make you feel totally protected in his arms.
And wants to take care of you, and provide for your needs and give you some
security so you can just relax and live life fully with joy and happiness like its
supposed to be. And this man is sensitive and kind enough to make you feel
totally safe enough to open up your soul to him and be free as he takes his
pleasure with you and leads you in a completely nude erection. And you realize
that you feel completely safe surrendering yourself because now you totally trust
this person (point to self). And the thing about surrender is that often times a
person may want to surrender, but due to the pressures that we put on ourselves,
and that society puts on us, the roles were forced to play, maybe a relationship
that a person is in that is really restricting them from being finding true happiness
in the world, we have to lock away and shut down that part of who we are in that
place that I call the secret passionate core. That place deep inside you where
anything is possible, where anything can be experienced with pleasure, that place
where you keep your highest dreams, its the same place that you keep your most
private fantasies and hide your deepest secrets about yourself. And sometimes you
keep them hidden for so long, and these secrets are buried so deep that you forget
you even have them until that special someone helps you find the key and unlock
your fantasies, your hidden desires that youve suppressed for so long. But you
dont have to lock that part of you away anymore, youre free to release that part
of you. to be free. Im giving you permission. But you never even needed my
permission in the first place. You are free to bare your soul, to me, Its that place
right next to the essence of who you are where anything can happen, where
anything can be tried out, where you keep your most exciting memories, where
you ponder your fantasies, daydreams, and amazing possibilities where you
indulge yourself in your deepest desires of physical pleasure and romantic sexual
ecstasy. The things you would do if no one were watching and you might not even
want your best friend to know you dream about them at all. Because she might
become jealous of you, because you have something special like this so beautiful,
and so rare. And I think when a man (point to self) can come along and touch a
woman (touch her) in all those special places, and in all those ways she longs to
be touched and caressed, maybe in ways she cant even admit to herself, then I
think that a trance-formation takes place on a molecular level and she blossoms
beyond her physical beauty into something beyond description. (Like a little
caterpillar that metamorphasizes into a beautiful butterfly or like a little baby rose
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bud thats closed tight when its young, but as it grows, it blooms and blossoms
into a brilliant, beautiful flower with its petals spread wide open and free and
luxuriating in the warmth of the sunlight of a warm summer day). and thats the
same way it is between 2 people who connect on such a deep level. Just as the sun
can provide warmth and light to a flower so it can blossom, a man can provide the
warmth and compassion to a woman so that she can open up and blossom into a
truly beautiful woman and feel so complete with a strong, sensitive, caring man
right beside her. Close to her. with me, when I find that special woman that
understands what Im talking about and can be with me like a lover and a
soulmate, I will treasure her with all my heart for the rest of my life.
What is it about the way certain people affect us that causes us to think of them in
that special place? to hear this voice and feel this presence from that spot in such a
way that no matter how we try to deny our desire to act it takes on a life of its
own. compelling, powerful, real, so real. A desire that says YES! I wanna step into
this special place with (you) this special person and explore anything we can
make real together.
Now the thing that I wonder about is what would it be like for a person to just feel
all those hidden parts inside them just wake up right now, look though our eyes,
hear with our ears, and feel with our hearts such incredible passion growing inside
us and say YES! right now, this very moment, I have to have it right now ... When
you can DO THAT, RIGHT NOW, that is when the real adventure of your life can
begin, right now, the really fun exciting, amazing, incredible mind-blowing
romantic adventure of your life can start right now, all you have to do is just enjoy
it and be excited about it as you look forward with anticipation to this incredible,
amazing adventure thats about to take place in your life. Just let it happen.
Sometimes I think you dont even know why thats taking place now, with me, in
my experience, I find that sometimes all sorts of things go deep inside yourself
and you dont even know why you cant help yourself. Its like theres this
mysterious force deep inside us thats creating all this passion and desire and
feelings, you might call it chemistry between us, but to me, it feels like a
mysterious force deep inside us thats generating all these passionate feelings that
go shooting thru the circuits of our bodies, like a jolt of electricity, begging to be
released, bursting at the seams to be let out, these feelings deep inside you
desperately wanting to be unleashed and shared with the other person. And it
could be anything that triggers this explosion of energy and desire that wants to be
expressed. It could be the way the person looks at you, the way they touch you,
the way the warmth of their voice just wraps itself around you and penetrates you
entirely, completely, all of your body and soul.
But ultimately, I think its about recognition and permission. When you recognize
youre listening to someone who knows what that place is like for himself, then
you give yourself permission to create an opening for this person (point to self).
An opening that longs to feel filled with the power and the presence of this person
coming so strongly deep inside of who you are.
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(this poem is optional) Its just like this amazing poem I read: (openings poem)
I will open you petal by petal, taking all the time in the world.
I will build you with a slow fire, stick by stick, and watch the color of your
sunrise.
I will play with the wind of you, cover your body with smiles and games,
promises and fantasies that disappear without a trace.
I will stir your secret core, witches brew of potions and incantations
And feel you rolling, floating, simmering in my hand.
I will slowly fill you up every crevice and curve watch, feel, hear, smell,
taste you growing full.
Can you feel that, would be an amazing thing to experience. The interesting thing
about feelings is how they can get better and better and better the more you
recognize theres an incredible opportunity here. A once-in-a-lifetime opportunity
right here in front of you. To experience incredible passion in your life right now.
The thing about new opportunities is its not enough just to ponder and think
about it and say well, maybe someday. Because then it will be gone and it will be
too late. Instead you gotta reach out, grab hold of this incredible new opportunity,
take it all the way in as deep as it will go, join with it, make it part of who you are.
And then its like all those images and fantasies and thoughts move from the place
where things might happen into the place where you absolutely must MAKE
THEM HAPPEN RIGHT NOW. (read her the essence poem later to rekindle
passionate core theme)
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Have you ever felt that the world we live in could sometimes be very unreal?
(Alternative: You know, this kinda reminds me of the idea of a time machine ... )
Her
Yeah ...
You
WITH ME ... it often happens at times like right now when it's quiet, dark, and
peaceful. It's like in one of those movies, you are able to just STOP, and
IMAGINE traveling back in time, say 500 years ago, and PICTURE where you
are right now was once some very remote area, no civilization, no humans, no
cars around ... right?
Her
You
Yeah and maybe to the point where it was once full of trees, a few wild animals or
it could have been a really huge grassland with beautiful, shining stars in the
sky ... totally MYSTERIOUS and beautiful ... and think about this. There's
nobody around but only you. It's like you FEEL SO UNIQUE but you also feel a
sense of DANGER and HELPLESSNESS ... and you can even start to HEAR
YOUR INNER VOICE STRUGGLING to escape ... to find someone, to find
warmth ... WITH ME, it's the best time to REALLY REFLECT ON ONESELF
and let your imagination GO WILD and think about things that you normally
wouldn't ...
Her
You
(Optional) : And I think it's so funny how when you're back in reality, RIGHT
NOW ... WITH ME, you feel it's like you've discovered this very world we live in
anew, and everything around you just seems SO REAL again ... like you are able
to feel the cool breeze on your skin, and the sounds around you become all that
clearer, and you start to notice how beautiful those city lights are from afar ... can
you FEEL THAT (Touch Her Gently) ... is a wonderful feeling?
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TIME DISTORTION
You
Maybe you were even able to IMAGINE A TIME IN YOUR FUTURE (gesture
either to your left or to your right ... at this point it really doesn't matter) , say six
months from now, still FEELING THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE
CONNECTION, and LOOKING BACK ON TODAY (point back to you) as
having been the start of it.
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TITANIC PATTERN
You:
(knowing full well that she's seen it) : You saw Titanic, didn't you.
Girl:
Yeah ...
You:
You know what I think the best thing about that movie is? The characters.
Girl:
Why/agrees/whatever.
You:
Well, I liked the way Jack and Rose were so realistic in what they felt for each
other. It's like, when they see each other for the first time, and she knows, right
then, that THIS, NOW, is the start of SOMETHING GREAT (gesture at you and
her) .
Girl:
You:
Yeah, they have such an INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, she just can FEEL SO
GOOD with THIS GUY. As the looks at HIM, STANDING THERE (point to self)
, she's CURIOUS, like when you WANT TO KNOW MORE about THIS
PERSON (point to self). When YOU'RE SO CURIOUS about this guy (point) ,
it's like all you want to do is know him better. Or when he holds her in front of the
ship, she FEELS so MAGICAL, like you feel so SAFE AND FREE with this guy
(point to self) , you just want to LET GO OF YOUR FEARS and GO WITH IT.
And as the movie goes on, she keeps thinking about this guy (point, duh) Her
attraction keeps growing every time she sees him, it's like when you THINK
ABOUT THIS PERSON ALWAYS (point) .Whenever you open a door, or walk
into a room, or while you're lying in bed, just before you go to sleep, you SEE
HIM THERE. ME, I love the feelings you get from this movie, not the sad ones,
but all the good feelings. Can you remember them? (anchor) The feelings of love
between Jack and Rose ... that love between two people can be so strong that she
would DO ANYTHING for him. The way that love PENETRATES DEEP
INSIDE YOU, like lightning into your soul. Have you ever experienced loving
someone like that? (point and anchor) Can you imagine loving someone like that?
NOW, WITH ME, I like to think things like that still CAN HAPPEN NOW.
Lead into any other more description intensive patterns you like, I think this pretty much sets her
up for everything.
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SPECIAL PATTERNS
DARK SUN PATTERN
After fooling around with Dark Sun and variations of it, I'd like to share a few thoughts:
1. Use on married women/engaged women/women who tell you they have a BF.
Originally, I came up with the Dark Sun for use on married ladies ... talking about
relationships and the roles they require us to play cause us to compartmentalize and shut
away certain aspects of who we are yet they are still there in those SPECIAL PLACES
INSIDE YOU'RE MINE ...
STARTING with this works great ... for MARRIED women/women in long term
relationships because IT IS AN ACCURATE DESCRIPTION OF THEIR EXPERIENCE.
Starting this way with women who DON'T fill this bill doesn't get nearly so strong a
response.
2. The Special Places Theme-I've found that this idea of "Special Places In You're Mine" to be
the LEGGO of patterns it's attachable ANYWHERE and you can attach virtually
ANTYHING to it ...
I've found it works best if I FIRST have them do imagination experiments ... visualize the
rose I'm holding, step into their ideal vacation spot ...
Somehow a trance induced by a sensory rich experience makes them MUCH more capable of
using their imagination to get a lot more turned on when I THEN expound on the "Special
Places" theme.
So ... try it both ways ... Special places and THEN imagination experiments; and imagination
and then Special places. I'll bet you the second way works better.
(Note that in some respects SS IS like baking a cake ... gotta get the right ingredients IN the
right order!)
3. I've found that doing the BJ pattern AFTER the imagination experiments ups the
responsiveness to Special Places EVEN MORE!
So ideally, I've found, that with HIGHLY visual/suggestible women,(who aren't married or
in a long term relationship) the following sequence works best:
1. What color is this rose?
2. Ideal vacation spot
3. BJ
4. Special places in you're mine
5. You can't help yourself ("Sometimes you don't even know why that's taking place ...
now ... with me ... I think all sorts of things go deep inside yourself ... and you don't
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even know why you can't help yourself ... now ... with me ... )
6. POEM! Intro it by saying how all this inspired you to write something ...
With women who tell you off the bat they are married, have a BF, etc, the sequence is:
1. Relationships and the roles they force us to play cause us to shut away parts of ourselves ...
2. But they are still there ... in those special places inside your mine ... where you keep your
most exciting memories ... etc. etc ...
3. You can't help yourself
4. BJ
5. Blammo
6. Poem
Play with these sequences. The most profound thing I've noticed is that doing the visualizing
stuff first REALLY heightens everything else, be it poetry, Dark Sun, BJ or whatever. Part of the
reason is, I think, that when I DO have them in their ideal vacation spot I throw in the following
KEY piece of language:
I invite you to notice that each breath you take ... each beat of your heart ... each word I say
allows you to experience anything I suggest you ENJOY that much more vividly!
Dark Sun Variation
Anyway, the variation is to talk about how important it can be, when getting to know someone,
to really understand their sense of personal rhythm.
"And you know, Debbie ... there are all sorts of rhythms a person has. There is the rhythm of
their breathing ... the rhythm at which they speak ... even the rhythm at which they PAY
ATTENTION ... but then there is another rhythm ... a personal and deeply special rhythm ... and
that is the rhythm of how they move back and forth between being outside in the world ... talking
and communicating with people ... and being INSIDE ... in that special place of FANTASY ...
and of course sometimes a person doesn't even know what makes them GO INTO THAT PLACE
OF FANTASY ... I think sometimes all sorts of things GO DEEP INSIDE ... and she doesn't even
know why YOU CAN'T HELP YOURSELF ... it's like there is this mysterious machinery far, far
away, generating all this passion that just goes shooting through the circuits, waiting to be
released ... and it can be anything that triggers it ... it could be the way some unique feature of
their face rivets your attention ... it could be the gentle way they touch you ... it could be the way
the deep, rich warmth of their voice, just wraps itself around you, like a pair of powerful but
gentle arms, pulling you in to something that feels SO wonderful ...
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It's just so interesting how when that is taking place, a person can just TAKE A DEEP
BREATH ... and go ALL THE WAY INSIDE ... into that place of fantasy ... where they can
consider the person they are observing ... they can wonder ... really wonder ... what does this
person do in their free time ... who do they know in their life ... and what it would it be like ... to
be enjoying this person ... in all the ways YOU love to be enjoyed ... in all the ways two people
can enjoy each other?"
SUMMARY:
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#2
#3
#4
This SS by email is a pain in the neck. I've got two women bombarding me with hints that I
should fly across the Atlantic and visit them. Every day the same old thing ;-) Another one at
least is actively planning to visit me in the spring. Yes, it's a long time to wait for a shag, but
she's going to visit another continent just so she can hop into bed with me? Wow! Now I gotta
get the other two turned around. One was suggesting I send her a plane ticket. Getting closer, I
suppose, but not quite there yet ... ;-)
The lady who's planning on visiting has also taken to sending me cards by snail mail. She's
picking up on the pattern language quite fast, and doing her level best to SS me right back, bless
her. Anyway, I've hit
her with a mix of dark sun, poetry, and some really weird stuff that just sort of rose out of the
context, and she started looking for cards to express how she felt. The first one had this message:
'Always A Pleasure'
We each have a picture
of someone we treasure
We take it out often,
and always with pleasure.
Perhaps for a moment,
perhaps for all day
Then carefully, lovingly,
tuck it away ...
It could be a photo,
but often it's not
It may be no more
than a wonderful thought.
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Start jumping up and down and cheering as though you'd just won an eighty million
dollar lottery
Act like you just scored the winning touchdown in the Super Bowl. Do the "end zone
strut." Give yourself a high five. Really whoop it up.
Plant a big juicy kiss on this card and say something that sounds incredibly Italian.
open your door and yell at the top of your lungs "Yesss! Yesss!" Startle the neighbors,
Get them jumping up and down with you in unison.
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I mean have a look at that again: Lovely pacing on the first page. Throw in a tag question, a bit
of thought binding ... then inside: Get some linked presuppositions on the go, suggest a smile,
link to the sender. Get some useful physiologies going, elicit some nice juicy states, some useful
sounds as well for the auditory types amongst us. Then "go back inside (?!!) smile a nice quiet
smile" ... and link all those feelings to the sender.
I'm going to have to do some browsing in a Card Bar somewhere, assuming I can find one that
has its pattern language in English.
My mind is still fried from Ross' seminar this last weekend and while on the plane home I came
up with a wonderful ambiguity that you can work into any pattern.
Ross, Mark and the gang made it clear to me on all sorts of levels NOT TO MAKE APPLOGIES
for what we do and to be blatant in a context of FUN (Ross, you gotta post about the errant
phone call to the seminar room. It was a WONDERFUL example!).
The pattern starts off with the Dark Sun and you explain how " ... it's my job, my obligation, in
life to make people who will *accept the good things I have* to *feel wonderful* or get them out
of my life because WHY NOT PUT PEOPLE WHERE THEY MOST WANT TO BE ANYWAY
WITH ME?"
Please, tell me if this trances you out like it does me? FIELD TEST!
On that note the seminar was AWESOME!!! Ross and Mark were on a roll from day one.
Ross, on that spot and inspired my Marks talk evolved a pattern on the difference between what
we would like in a relationship and what we NEED ... ... ... but I will leave that for Ross to post.
<WARNING open loop>
The question came up "Where is SS going?" and just from looking at where its come from in
such a short time leaves me beyond speculation. Suffice to say, the skys the limit.
Hey guys. V-day is coming up, and my school is having a "romantic ramblings" contest. Having
wimped out of competing with an SS poem last year, this year I decided to write a Dark Sun
poem. The contest deadline is Thursday, and I'd like some feedback. If you like it, by all means
use it, but please don't use it until Friday night (just in case). If you have any corrections, send
them this way!
The Dark Sun
A certain spot inside you,
Where everything is true,
There you store your qualities,
And all the best of you.
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Taking the half thrown ball from Ross and brothers I have devised my own Dark Sun Pattern:
I think its so interesting how all those creative processes seem to come from that same special
place ... like do you remember the last time you really had a good laugh so that as you remember
it you smile really wide? ... or have you ever worked on something that really compelled you
(point) to study it so the you wanted to take it all in as far as it would go? ... NOW, WITH ME,
there is that one special place where all of that comes from. WITH ME, as you GO THERE it
really is a place where you can FEEL NEW FEELINGS, and THINK OF NEW WONDERFUL
IDEAS. It's the place where you can DREAM THE DREAMS THAT WILL(WE'LL) BE
COMING TOGETHER to make new things possible. WITH ME, it's like you are able to
LISTEN TO THIS VOICE that just draaaaaws you inward ... and if you can THINK OF TIME
YOU MADE A REALLY GOOD DECISION it was this voice that guided you ... this voice of
wisdom ... this voice of experience ... I have a voice like that ... in fact maybe you can think of a
time in the future where need to make a decision and you STOP and you HEAR THIS VOICE
guide you ... I'll bet that if you listen you can hear this voice right now ... with me ... that's what
*MY* voice does ... and it comes from that special place ... inside ...
Special acknowledgements to Ross and Mark C.
Here's a version of "Dark Sun" designed to get a woman having intense sexual dreams about
you. I think it was Brother Xhodos who posted about his dream induction pattern, and I've used a
wee bit in it.
*********DARK SUN: BETA TEST VERSION II*****************
Caution: this pattern may induce uncontrollable sexual arousal in women. Use caution if
applying it around women who are on the more unstable side.
Where to use it: Try it as a phone pattern ... there's a lot of key phrasing that it depends upon.
Conversational set-up: Ask if she has any married friends. It doesn't matter what the answer is.
Follow up by saying you were having the most interesting conversation with your married friend,
Suzanne. You say:
"We were discussing how relationships and the roles we play in them require that we shut away
and compartmentalize certain aspects of who we are ... yet they are still there in that special place
where we keep our most exciting memories ... where we ponder fantasies ... daydreams ... new
thoughts ... amazing possibilities ... and what is it in how some people effect us that causes us to
think of them in that special place ... to hear their voice and feel their presence from that spot ...
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so that no matter how much we may try to deny our desire to act ... it takes on a life of it's own ...
undeniable ... demanding ... compelling ... real ... "
(Ok. now that you've set her up ... here's where you program the dreaming)
I think it's the kind of thing to explore in a dream ... with me ... as I think about it ... a dream is a
place where their are no rules ... no restrictions ... just fantasies ... excitement ... and the amazing
enjoyment of something you realize you have to have.
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persons touch you hear the warmth of this persons amazing voice wrapping itself around you and
you know that this person is who you want to be with.
Back to the Maui tape
The things that have no impact no value and you just dont give a dam about you know you have
a conversation with someone at a party it goes in one ear and right out the other. You know you
learn something at school and you forget instantaneously someone you meet makes no
impression on you and yet in know its equally true that theres a special place right next to the
essence of who you are as a woman where you keep your most exciting memories where you
ponder fantasies daydreams amazing possibilities and hypnosis is about asking the question how
can you now go into that place and from that place open yourself up to something wonderful
because you see _____ there are three kinds of people in this world there are the people who go
for what they know they can get thats the majority of people then theres that very rare smaller
segment of the population who go for what they really truly want and theres the much rarer
people there so rare there precious gems when you find them and those are the people who can
open themselves to that place where anything can be possible because they can open themselves
to experiences they never knew they were missing they never knew they were missing cause they
never realized it could feel so amazing to open your mind to new thoughts open your heart to
new feelings open your body to new sensations seduction is about a similar recognition but
theres an additional recognition theres the recognition that sometimes because relationships
were already in or just whatever is going on in our life our circumstances or conditions were
forced to lock away to shut down and lock away certain parts of who we are and yet those parts
are still there in those special places so seductions about asking a slightly different question its
about asking the question what is it about the way certain people affect us that causes us to think
of them in that special place to hear this voice and feel this presence in that spot in such a way
that no mater how we try to deny our desire to act it takes on a life of its own compelling
powerful real I think sometimes you dont even know why thats taking place I think sometimes
all sorts of things go deep inside yourself and you dont even know why you cant help yourself it
could be anything that triggers it you know ____ it could be some unique feature of this persons
face that rivets your attention as you just keep looking it could be gentle way they touch you it
could be the way the deep rich warmth of their voice just warps itself around you pulling you
into something that makes you feel so wonderful you begin to get certain ideas but you know its
about another question the other question is what is it about the way a certain person touches us
in that special place in that special way that we hunger to be touched exactly the way we long to
be touched right there that can cause those parts those parts of us to wake up right now look out
through our eyes hear with our ears and say in a loud voice on the inside oh my god I want this
and that to me is what seduction is really about ______
Most of the kinds of communications that guys think will touch a woman in that special place in
that special way instead go right into the trash.
Ill bet hes a control freak. He treats you like one of his business deals. Thats right because he
doesnt know how to touch you in that special place.
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What your boyfriend doesnt realize is he looks at you and sees a beautiful babe but he doesnt
see the goddess inside thats crying out to be released. Thats crying out to be touched in a way
where she can come to the surface and you will blossom beyond being physically beautiful into
something thats ethereal beyond this world because thats what you really want with the right
man.
What I love about poetry is that it touches us in that special place in the mind the place where
you keep your most exciting memories where you ponder fantasies.
There are different places in the mind theres the place where you keep the things of least
importance to you in one ear and out the other and then there are those places where you keep
the things that are the most important to you as a woman where you keep your most exciting
memories you ponder fantasies and daydreams amazing possibilities and what is it about the way
certain people affect us that causes us to think of them in that special place
In that special way we hunger we long to be touched that causes that special place to wake up
right now
Look out through our eyes hear with our ears and recognize that theres this unbelievable
opportunity such that we hear its voice saying so loudly oh my god I want this right now
I think its so interesting sometimes you dont even know why you just want to go deep inside
that place of fantasy I think all sorts of things go deep inside yourself and you dont even know
why you cant help yourself now I think its so interesting that how sometimes a person can just
take a deep breath and go all the way down into that place of fantasy into that place where she
can consider the person in front of here and she can wonder really wonder what is this person
like who do they know in there life and what would it be like to be enjoying this person in all the
ways you love to be enjoyed in all the ways two special people can enjoy each other and the
interesting thing is how sometimes those thought take on a life of their own so even if your
already with someone its like suddenly with them you see this persons face you imagine this
persons touch you hear the warmth of this persons amazing voice wrapping itself around you and
you know that this person is who you want to be with
END MAUI
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** It's important that you DO NOT make her tell you what shape she chose, because it becomes
more personal when she does not have to share it.
Remember, if it goes as designed, that shape is now her symbol for orgasmic pleasure. The mere
thought of that shape from this point on will give her pleasure, because it is a personal anchor
for her. Keep in mind, if AFTER you've done the "Warmth Builder" (and gotten a favorable
result) she tells you what shape she chose, that's a great sign that she is having sensual thoughts
with you in mind. (It's like a woman showing you where her clit is, she tells you because she
wants you to use the information!)
WHEN DO YOU USE IT?
It varies from babe to babe. My most successful uses of the "Warmth Builder" happens to be on
quality servers (that what I call waitresses ... well, the good ones anyway) Because chances are
her legs are tired and she's been getting "slammed" before you showed up. So once I've built a
little rapport, and illicit some of her trance words, I'll introduce it like, "I know if you had a
choice, you'd walk right out that door and get a nice manicure, soak in a hot tub for a half hour,
and then sleep until the week-end. But that's not possible right now, so let's do the next best
thing." Dude, THAT will get her interested enough to give you three minutes to use the "Warmth
Builder."
But the rule I follow, is to introduce it AFTER deep rapport, and after I've either done a guided
visualization, or I elicit some of her trance words in some other way. I feed them back their
trance words, then, since we're obviously on the subject of things that bring her pleasure, or is
an example of her imagination, It's easy to lead into the "Warmth Builder" by saying something
along the lines of, "Speaking of _______, let me show you something really cool."
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HUNA PRAYER
HUNA PRAYER BRIEF GUIDE
At some point, in your life, you made a DECISION, at a deeply powerful level of the mind, a
DECISION about the kinds of results you deserved to have in an area or areas of your life.
That decision shaped what you could do ... how you thought ... what you could perceive and
WHAT RESULTS THE UNIVERSE COULD BRING TO YOU.
Decisions alone are powerful, but more importantly, it is in what state and what level of mind the
decision is made and held that makes a difference in how it effects us and our lives.
Decisions made at an ordinary level of conscious awareness seldom have much effect, by
themselves. Many of us have "decided" lots of things and never actually wound up seeing any
difference at all from these "decisions".
However, decisions made in an altered state of consciousness, coming from the deep level of
identity and deservingness are no different in form, function or effect than a powerfully offered
PRAYER ... a PRAYER to your Higher Self to create a reality that you would go through and
experience.
This is why many people never really change as much as they consciously want to, even when
given very powerful tools to work with and master. With ALL your exposure to the best
technology and tools for change, you may well make incremental "progress" but quantum leaps
won't take place, IF those leaps would run COUNTER to the "prayer" you sent up with full
belief.
Now, I know that CONSCIOUSLY, this is NOT what we set out to do, and that is precisely the
point. When we reach deep inside, and decide what our reality will be, it opens a channel to the
"High Self" and says, "this is what I believe, without doubt, will happen" and happen it will,
even if it doesn't lead us to being happy, fulfilled, etc. etc. etc.
Do you remember what a Great Master once said about, "Whatever you ask for in prayer,
without doubt, will be given to you?"
Well, that is what most of us do, without even knowing it, by the decisions we make at deep
levels of consciousness ... and then we can spend a lifetime "not quite getting there" and
struggling with "almosts" and "damn ... just this close!"
Here is how to change this.
First, realize that according to the Hawaiian system of prayer called Huna, we have a High,
Middle and Low Self. These correspond to the SuperConscious, the Conscious and Unconscious
Minds.
Prayer, properly done, consists of this:
1. The Middle self(conscious) forms an image of what it wants.
2. The Unconscious connects up with the High Self(The High and Middle selves do NOT
communicate directly).
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3. The Unconscious sends the images formed by the Middle Self up to the High Self, along with
the energy of deep breathing.
4. The High Self makes manifest the thought form in it's own Higher Realm, and then uses the
energy of your consciousness to make it real in THIS realm.
Brothers and sisters, what this means is we are all, unwittingly, MAGICIANS. We create our
reality from a deeply held belief and DECISION. I'm sure you've heard this before; what's been
missing is the mechanism to take control of the process and make it work FOR us at OUR will,
according to our desire, instead of by chance or accident!
Now, here is what you must do.
Find a quiet place ... sit in meditation or even lay down ... Before you, on the ground, visualize a
circle of deservingness ... of unlimited possibility ... a place where anything can be manfested
and all possible realites are equally present.
STEP into this circle.
Close your eyes, turn them upward about 30 degrees and count as follows ... 3 ... 3 ... 3 ... 2 ...
2 ... 2 ... 1 ... 1 ... 1 Say, "Lower Self, I ask that you begin to make contact with the High Self ...
my loving Parental Spirit" ...
Visualize a cord of light going from your solar plexus up to your High Self ... and feel a flow of
love going from you to the High Self and back.
As you do this, take four deep breaths and imagine blowing the breath back out through your lips
as a golden stream of energy to the High Self.
Say, "High self ... I ask you now to help heal me of this earlier decision I had made that has been
blocking my life. I know that you can do this for me and I trust now that you are healing me of
this ... please remove this from me so that I can manifest the wishes of my heart in ways that are
for the Highest good for myself and all those I will touch. Please take this limit and this decision
from me with all the power I know you have ...
Visualize the Gold Light of the High Self, sweeping through your past time line, removing the
limiting decision and all the beliefs, attitudes, responses and behaviors that came from it ... and
see it sweeping it's golden light into you future ...
Get a click ... a sense of completion ... just like when you have remembered where you put your
keys, or something you have to do, or when you remember a word that had been on the tip of
your tongue.
Say, "Thank you for granting my prayer ... I now send to you the energy of my breath to make
this manifest and real in this, the physical realm".
Take four deep breaths and blow golden energy out through pursed lips up to your High Self.
Close the prayer sessions by saying, "I now withdraw from contact, content my prayer is being
granted. Let the rain of blessings flow"
Do this once a day, for as long as you feel you need to ... but at least 3 weeks ...
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STORIES / POETRY
A WARM FUZZY (BISHOPS VERSION)
You awake to find a gift waiting for you.
A gift that is both out of the blue, and sent by someone unknown.
Cautiously, you look at the gift and it's intricate wrappings.
The velvety red paper feels good to the touch,
and the golden bow that adorns it is pleasing to your eyes.
You run your fingers across the paper,
and you feel a warmth fill your body.
You wonder what this texture would feel like around your body.
A wave of pleasure fills your body as you literally FEEL it touching you.
Minutes pass while you are enjoying this special gift given to you.
Soon you become aware that it has been almost a half hour,
and you have yet to open this gift from a stranger.
Your fingers play with the golden bow for a moment,
and you find yourself smiling.
You notice that your breathing has gotten heavier,
and that your excitement over the gift's contents, is increasing.
Running a hand over the velvety red paper again,
you take in a deep breath ... then begin to unwrap the gift.
Delicately you peel off the golden ribbon,
making sure not to damage it in any way.
Your fingers gently stroke the silky golden ribbon,
as you remove it slowly from the package.
Soon you complete the task,
happy to have not torn the beautiful ribbon.
You again run your hand over the velvety red paper,
searching for the best place to begin peeling it off.
To your surprise, the paper has not been taped at all.
Instead it has been carefully tucked and folded,
and made to embrace the gift that lay beneath it.
You gently give one end a slight pull,
and it surrenders to you.
Then you take hold of another corner,
and find that it releases itself to you willingly.
Soon, the velvety red paper has been removed,
allowing you to gaze upon your gift.
Your eyes look anxiously,
at the milky white box that lays before you.
Your fingers run across the smooth texture,
and it feels like a perfectly carved piece of ivory.
Though the box is not at all heavy,
you are certain that it is indeed ivory that you are touching.
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toes.
You feel an energy within your entire body.
An ecstasy like you have never known before.
You feel as though you are bursting with raw energy.
The feeling is incredible to you,
and you wish it to never end.
Your passionate eyes gaze once more inside the ivory box.
Inside you notice a small, handwritten card.
Perhaps now you will find out who has given you this incredibly satisfying
gift.
With eager fingers,
you reach inside and pick up the card.
It simply reads:
<Her Name>
You are the recipient of a Warm Fuzzy. May it fill your days with unrivaled pleasure, and your
nights with incredible dreams.
Signed
<Your Name>
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ANGEL LOVER I
I came upon a woman in a state of arousal,
And wondered how she might feel with an open mind,
If she came upon someone naked,
And thought about the man sitting in the chair:
I have seen you with beautiful eyes,
Entered that house with a strange feeling,
Spoken to the woman with great self-confidence,
Yet spoken to her as a child:
Then dreamed I had an angel in my bed,
An angel who had worn shoes on her feet,
With hair askew to explain why,
I touched this woman with a good feeling,
I know that you can see me as a friend,
Imagine me with a warm smile,
And see me as a lover.
(c) Dan Scorpio 1999
Be SILENT after the last line.
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ANGEL LOVER II
I have seen you with beautiful eyes,
Entered that house with a strange feeling,
Spoken to the woman with great self-confidence,
Yet spoken to her as a child:
Then dreamed I had an angel in my bed,
An angel who had worn shoes on her feet,
With hair askew to explain why,
I touched this woman with a good feeling,
I know that you can see me as a friend,
Imagine me with a warm smile,
And see me as a lover.
I met a woman in a state of arousal,
And wondered how she might feel,
With an open mind,
If she came upon someone naked,
And imagined someone sitting quietly.
(c) Dan Scorpio 1999
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BLUEBERRIES
The power of a blueberry, is not so fast to see.
If you take the time to focus, I'm sure you will agree.
That beneath it's soothing color, and underneath the skin,
lay something quite exciting, where adventure can begin.
Take a nibble, just a bite, but make it very small
and you'll taste the nectar of this satisfying ball.
Now slip it all into your mouth, but do not bite it yet,
For the greatest gift is has for you, hasn't happened yet.
Close your eyes, and suck it slow, making sure to smile,
Tasting it upon your tongue, just do that for awhile.
Roll it around, inside your mouth, and just feel it there,
And notice just how good it tastes, like nothing can compare.
Once you have done all this, and can simply wait no more,
suck out all the juice it gives, and let the nectar pour.
Down your throat you feel it go, a tasty, tangy treat,
Now isn't that the nicest thing, you ever had to eat?
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What happened next you are not sure, it got hazy at this time But you know for ever more, you'll
always have this rhyme
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HER JOURNEY
Her Journey
It was a long long time ago, but near
Where days were warm with sunny skies so clear.
There was a woman dwelling in this place
Who knew she lacked in beauty and in grace.
So sure was she, she put on heavy clothes
To mask her form complete from head to toes.
She'd shy away from all the men she'd see
Embarrassed that they'd spy her and would flee.
And so she thought it was her lot in life
To live alone and never be a wife.
But then one day she hatched herself a plan,
To travel far to find herself this man,
A potent wizard schooled in ancient lore
Who might transform her so men'd pound her door.
Which she would open to that special man
She felt excitement as she made her plan:
I'll climb at once up to the highest peak
Where wizard did erect his tall stone keep.
'Tis there I'll travel now to plead my case
To beg him please to change my cursd face.
She packed her things, 'til everything was set
She said farewells and in the morning went
Towards the rising sun to where her quest
Led her, where her life would change for the best.
She traveled long, the time it passed quite quick
Past fields and valleys, eyes were ever fixed
Upon her goal, which rose up to the sky
Her mind was set to climb upon that height.
Then late one day, she came into a glade
All sunny warmth, a stunning bright cascade
Of water pouring down from rocks above,
To fill a pool surrounded by foxglove.
Her journey thus had been one long and hot
So bathing in this pool was all she thought.
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THE JOURNEY
I admire the colors of a setting sun, as they dance upon the waters of the ocean.
The thinning purple clouds, stretching out along a darkening sky.
I listen from my vantage point, and can hear the music of the sea.
The water hits the rocky shore, and plays a song for only me.
I close my eyes and breathe in deep, relaxing with each new breath.
A warmth begins to fill my body, from deep inside, where my soul resides.
That warmth increases,
more,
and more,
as I feel my body float.
Its as if I were about to fly, and I feel the rising begin.
Up,
higher,
and higher,
as if soaring above the ground.
I no longer feel my feet on solid ground, it has been replaced by the wind
through my toes.
Its a gentle wind, a soothing breeze, a comfortable air.
Now the warmth within me grows stronger, and seems to envelope my body,
from within,
and without.
The warmth and the wind, joining together like lovers.
Conforming,
embracing,
and alive.
Its now as if I feel fingers, caressing the features of my face.
A loving brush across my brow,
then my eyes,
my cheek,
my lips,
then my neck.
Nothing can be put into words, only emotions exist now.
Feelings of surrender, submitting to this pleasure.
My pleasure,
our pleasure.
The fingers of the wind embrace my shoulders, and I feel safe.
The warmth within brings tranquillity, to this pleasured moment in time.
I feel the fingers rub down my arms, and the warmth rush up my spine.
Passion comes in many forms, and this is one of the most fulfilling.
The wind and the warmth embrace me, holding me close.
I let out a pleasured breath, and focus on every detail of this moment.
Every,
single,
detail.
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THE KEY
As the last shine of daylight slips away beyond the sea,
I ponder the thoughts that dance through my mind.
Where have I been,
where am I at,
and where will I be?
And what is your place in all of that?
You whos voice wraps around me like a silk robe.
You whos eyes give a preview of adventures to come.
You whos very essense is all around and through me,
warming me like no other has done before you.
Deny it all, is my first impulse.
Deny it, because it can not be real.
It can not be real, because it has never been this way for me.
Throw away your image from my mind, so I can leave this feeling.
This feeling of ... I dont know what it is called, I have never felt it before.
How dare you do this to me!
How dare you invade my waking thought,
and my sleeping world.
Why did you choose me?
Why?
If only I could turn back the clock, I would ...
I would ...
I would ... let it happen again.
I do not like this feeling of being controlled by you.
You are controlling me, right?
Because if you are not controlling me,
that means I want to feel this way.
And by wanting to feel this way, I must ... want you.
Yes, thats it, isnt it?
Yes, of course, it is it!
The sparkle of the now visible stars reflect in my eyes,
as I think of you ...
and of me ...
and of ...
us.
Ah, the stars ... another reminder of you.
I close my eyes, and imagine you here.
Here, with me.
I feel your presence right ... here.
It warms me.
And I feel your touch, right ... there.
It arouses me.
My body fills with sensations known and unknown.
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Sensations that are incredible satisfying ... there Ive said it.
And as my breathing grows rapid,
and my body surrenders to your touch,
I realize something.
I realize that I almost lost you, because of my fears.
My fears of the past, and of what I thought I wanted.
You have shown me a door to a room that I have seen before.
You have given me the key, and the choice.
The choice to hand back the key, and never look back.
Or to use the key, and find out everything.
I take in a deep breath ...
I slip the key inside ...
I turn it ...
and experience ...
something beyond my own expectations.
Everywhere around me is bathed in the most soothing light.
Every part of my body sings like a thousand angels.
And in the distance, I see what must be heaven.
I reach out to touch it,
and find that my hand has cupped your face.
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KISS
My angel of the half-light
Undulating swoon of curving grace
What passes through your mind
As you sway, sway, and sway again
To the torrid rhythm of pulsing air?
Do you feel the purple song
Entering your ears and rushing on down
To course through your whole body?
Does the glowing red sphere at your core
Grow larger, hotter with every motion
Every breath making it glow
With the heat of a thousand suns?
And as your breathing speeds -Faster, shallower, breath of fire -Does your chest tingle and sweat
And ache for the caress
That lifts you higher, higher and higher still
To where every cell of you can come
To an explosion of light and flame
Tingle of neck, arch of back
Electric waves moving back and forth
And back again, into the darkness of penumbra
And into the light of you -- your sun,
Your wisps of arching flame
Your luminous being
Joining with mine
In an ecstasy of fusion
As hot as our first kiss.
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We share in our gifts to each other, as we once again fall onto the bed.
Laying together, we take pleasure ... in the warmth ... of our heated bodies.
And as we listen closely ... for a moment ... the twin beats of our hearts ... unite as one.
Soon, the relaxing wind will put us in slumber ... and we will sleep.
Within that sleep ... our Lover's Dance continues.
We will never know for sure ... when we were dreaming ... and when we were not.
The night will give way to day ... and our next Dance will begin.
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"Hmm." said the bee, "To me, it looks like the bountiful leaves on a mighty oak tree. "
Not to be left out, the ladybug gave her input. "That green color makes me think of the juicy
growing tomatoes in the garden of a farm."
They all enjoyed playing this fun game, so the butterfly moved on to the next color on her wings.
"Then there is blue, which looks like the cool, soothing color of a gentle lake."
"I think it looks like a sparkling sapphire." Offered the grasshopper.
"Well, " said the bee, "To me, it's like the freshest morning sky of a spring day."
Then the ladybug said, "That blue color reminds me of a pair of jeans I landed on, which were
hung over a farmer's wooden fence."
Next the butterfly said. "Then there's yellow, which has the rich, golden, warm glow like a
sunrise."
"I think it looks like the yellow of a dandelion." Said the grasshopper.
"Well," said the bee, "To me, it's like the sweet, tasty honey me and my brothers make." And the
ladybug said, "Ooh, the yellow color reminds me of ripe ears of a corn cobs."
Next, the butterfly said, "And then I have white on my wings, which reminds me of a soft,
comfortable pillow."
"I think it looks like the white of an abundant cotton field." Said the grasshopper happily.
"That's a good one." Said the bee, "And to me, it's like the fluffy clouds up in the sky. "
The ladybug said, "Ooh, white, like the color of a furry, gentle, kitten."
And then the butterfly said, "And finally, there's red. And this red reminds me of a big, juicy
apple."
"I think it looks like the red of a beautiful Cardinal bird." The grasshopper said with a smile.
"Very nice." Said the bee. "And to me, it's like the red of beautiful rose when it reaches full
bloom."
The ladybug laughed. "That color red reminds me of a big, sweet, sticky, lollipop."
They all smiled, and began to imagine ... what it would be like ... to taste that ... right ... now.
Mmm ... the sensations ... of tasting ... that sweet ... treat ... makes your ... mouths ... water.
After taking a moment to enjoy the imagined treat, the butterfly thought to herself "Wow, this is
a wonderful experience. I wonder what else there is to enjoy on this adventure? "
And what the butterfly experienced next, was beyond her imagination. Never before had she
thought such a wonderful adventure could be hers.
TO BE CONTINUED
(Brothers, keep in mind that there is no real conclusion to this story. It's just a tool to capture her
imagination, lead her into some very descriptive directions, and then see just how curious she has
beCUM to learn more. When a babe inquires, I tell them the truth, that it's not finished yet. Then
I send them another story/poem/SS laced e-mail.)
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RED SATIN
I sit upon the rocks, watching the sunlight dance upon the ocean, and feeling the warm wind
across my face.
It feels nice across my skin, like a lover's touch.
The touch of satin, red satin.
I close my eyes, and enjoy the moment.
Suddenly the warmth upon my face seems to fill me from within.
Is it my imagination, or did I just feel my lover's fingers on my chest.
I breathe in deep, as a touch upon my neck is like a sensual kiss.
The warmth within begins to build, and I let out a pleased moan.
Dare I open my eyes, or shall I stay like this ... forever?
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"REMEMBER WHEN"
Do you recall ... that perfect night,
you know that everything's ... just right.
You know ... he's just about to come,
to take you ... for a night of fun.
Remember when ... you first met him?
You knew ... you liked him even then.
As if ... you'd known him all your life,
you fill with wonder ... and delight.
You hear a knock upon your door,
and ... feel your heart race ... like before.
Exciting feelings build within,
you know ... you're safe and warm with him.
You stop ... and think of years from now,
and still in awe ... you savor how,
you feel so closely to this man,
who's here ... right now ... to take your hand.
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One word that causes this voice inside you to respond ... to release.
One word that makes everything safe ... everything allowed.
Shhh ... listen ... can you hear it?
If not ... how curious are you to find out?
Make sure to send this in an e-mail. When she asks you for the secret word, have her call you, or
you call her, and have her read you the story. Then, once she's done, say, "The secret word is ...
Permission. Permission to step outside the confines of your day ... step outside of what you
know, and into something ... wonderful ... and amazing ... and fulfilling. Allow yourself this
pleasure ... this luxury ... you deserve it ... so just go for it." If you happen to have her sitting
there with you, end with, "Can you FEEL THAT (anchor her wrist) to something worth indulging
in?"
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STAR OF BISHOP
Bishops Note:
Here is a story I wrote not that long ago, which I use to get a HB feeling an incredible
connection, then anchoring that connection, and her positive feelings, with me.
If you're familiar with "The Warrior's Bottle" story, you'll see that I have worked it into
the last part of the story. (I've even bought a few small bottles at Pier One Imports to give
to those whom I want to have a tangible anchor of the moment in their home)
Those who read my transcript, of the party I went to in Manhattan Beach a couple of
weeks ago, will know that "The Star of Bishop" is the story I used on 4 babes at once,
and all 4 had a positive reaction to it, even the jaded catalog model, Diana!
I hope that it goes without saying, that you'll want to have the HB outside, seeing the
stars, as you recite this story to them.
The ... pauses ... you see ... are where I ... chose to pause, as I recite this story in a calm,
relaxing tonality. Your personal method may vary. I have included where, when, and how,
I anchor, for those of you still working on your anchoring skills.
I freely share this with you all, and give my blessing to make it your own!
Bishop
There were ancient philosophers ... who believed that ... everything we did, said, and lived,
personified itself ... in some form or another.
Take the stars for example. They believed that every ... single ... star ... represented all the ...
positive emotions ... that you feel. The more ... intense the feeling, the ... brighter the star.
So when you ... start to feel fascinated ... a star begins to shine. And that star will only get ... as
bright ... as the intensity ... of your feelings. It may start off ... as a soft ... gentle ... flicker. But as
you ... feel yourself becoming more fascinated ... that star will ... begin to warm ... and build ... to
a strong ... and steady glow.
The philosophers ... must have been ... true romantics as well, because they believed ... that if
you happened to ... feel that fascination ... and create that soothing glow ... while with
someone ... that you not only ... begin to ... feel an amazing connection with this person ... but
that the star ... was now ... a combined result ... of the energy that is ... now shared.
So as you ... feel this (anchored with me tapping my finger on her wrist) growing connection ...
this voice goes inside of you ... and serves to remind you ... of the connection you now have ...
with this person you are with.
(I pause here a moment, so she can have an uninterrupted moment to feel those wonderful
feelings, and because she may start talking, which will give you additional stuff to use, like
replacing a few words in the next part of the story)
The philosophers also believed that the same held true for your thoughts. That ... if you were
to ... have certain ... thoughts ... and ideas ... a star would appear ... and the connection would
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grow stronger ... with whomever you were with ... in that moment. A connection ... you can
feel ... right (Tap my index finger just under her chest) here.
This was an incredibly powerful thing ... and served to ... connect these two people ... when one
set off on a great journey ... or off to battle.
The intense connection that they shared ... stayed with them even when apart.
And it was traditional then ... that a warrior give the woman a small bottle ... before departing.
She would ... keep this bottle at all times ... and grasps it faithfully ... when she would ... look up
at the stars ... the ones that they alone ... shared. And when she would cry for her warrior ... she
would ... save the tears ... inside the bottle.
If the warrior had survived the battle ... he would ... look upon the bottle. And if the bottle
were ... filled up inside ... he knew ... that she had continued to ... feel that connection ... just as
he had.
Should tragedy strike however ... and the warrior fell in battle ... the woman would ... do
whatever it takes ... to find him. And upon reaching the sight of his burial ... she would ... open
the bottle ... and pour out the tears ... right onto his grave.
This would release his spirit ... and make her ... feel warm inside ... for now when she ... gazed
upon the stars ... she knew ... that more than just ... feeling a deep connection ... the warrior was
now in the stars ... keeping them brightly shining.
(I then look at her, and again tap her wrist with my finger, as I say) Can you feel that, to be an
incredible connection to have. With me, as I see it, all your doubts can just start to melt away."
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"THE TEAR"
Oh, to be a tear,
I'd be conceived in your heart,
born in your eyes,
live on your cheeks,
and die on your lips.
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WORDS ON A PAGE
Have you ever experienced the beauty of words on a page? Sometimes just words on a page
spark an inner experience of beauty that moves the same way and just as powerfully as
something external to us that catches our eye and stirs our senses.
Sometimes I think the most interesting sense is that sense that all of your senses ARE there,
waiting for you ... waiting for your command ... to activate fully, to do their job so that you can
drink life in to its fullest ... experiencing it with every molecule ... every fiber of your mind and
heart and every part of your body, experiencing it down to the smallest moments ... the moments
between thought ... the moments between breath ... the moments between the beats of a heart ...
the moments that softly silence all fears and doubts in the mystery and the wonder that sweeps us
away beyond all thought ... dissolving together only in pure ecstasy, bliss and pleasure.
As you feel the excitement of this possibility pounding through you ... as you feel yourself
moisten and open to this opportunity ... and realize how deeply you long to have this, how could
you possibly deny yourself or settle for anything less?
Nothing else brings fulfillment ... every moment brings more and more desire for it ... you feel
yourself melting away with the heat that is generated there in that place that aches and hungers
for it ... to be filled by the one person you KNOW can bring it to you ... where do you imagine
you will first feel his lips?
Where do you imagine you would first feel his tongue ... partaking ... tasting ... exploring ...
consuming as you yourself are consumed with the passion and the pleasure of it?
How do you imagine him first entering ... slowly ... quickly ... a little bit ... all the way? How do
you imagine the slick, slide rhythm building and building, ebbing and flowing, waxing and
waning between you as you feel it building ... building ... closer to the edge of it and then
ahhhhhhh ... boom ... right over, melting into the waves of sweet oblivion? And if you give
yourself permission ... true permission ... to indulge these thoughts ... find them running through
your mind during days and filling your dreams at night ... until that line between fantasy and
reality blurs and you find that it has become real ... real with the action of your taking the action
that has made it happen ... and you look back on having experienced it with a fond sigh as a
memory you will treasure forever, something you can draw upon for the rest of your life,
whenever you wish, does it not already seem like something that already in some way inevitably
already IS real and meant to be?
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"I liked the pic, but you're not my type." over phone
Ross: (e-mail) Surprisingly this is a short note to say "THANKS" for your direct, no-bullshit
response. You could have jerked me around with "uh can you call me back?"
etc but were direct and straight to the point. That's a stand-up attitude I've got to
respect. It says lot about you and how you walk through the world and I wanted
you to know it was appreciated.
P.S. Just as a funny side note: I can tell you the last few women with whom I've
been deeply involved (with one notable exception) all told me the same thing
when I first met them about not being their type. Funny, after spending about an
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hour with me over coffee, somehow they all got this strange realization that what
was typical for them really hadn't made them very happy and fulfilled and it was
time to explore a totally different range and set of choices and responses! I guess
13 years of training and experience with hypnosis and seeing over 5000 clients
gives a person some skills in moving minds, bodies and feelings in new and
unexpected ways.
Anyway, refreshing encountering someone, however briefly who knows her own
mind and choices and stands by them. Too bad we'll never meet in person; I've a
feeling it would have been glorious.
Good luck in your search
Bishop On Meeting New Women The goal is to be different from from every other guy. How can I approach her in a way she may
have never known before.
Bishop On Women who question if they want to meet you Her:
You:
You strike me as an intelligent woman. You could have dozens of men drop to
their knees and respect only the physical side of you, and if that's all you're about,
then I thank you for your time and I'll be on my way. If however, you're the type
of woman who would like to share her thoughts and her dreams, her inspiration
and her aspirations, I would like to be the guy to find out about the women who
lies within this angels body.
Oh, well, I guess this adventure ends here (turn and walk away)
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describing in that moment, but then I ALWAYS anchor with a touch once she's feeling it at peak
state.
The wrist tap anchor is mine, so I'll cover that one. I agree that touching them too aggressively
is not wise, that's why I tap the wrist, and not, say, the solar plexus. My pattern of anchoring
goes from least intrusive to their body to slightly personal. A common set of anchors I use would
be: wrist, arm, opposite hand, opposite arm, throat/neck, solar plexus.
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THEMES
SECRET CORE THEME
Cultural vs. Natural Woman Pattern (Gemini)
You:
Do you think men really understand women? Ok, heres the fundamental problem.
Its hard for men to understand this but, You see, inside of every woman I really
believe that theres two women. Theres the cultural woman and then theres the
natural woman. (have you seen the movie Titanic.) At first, on the surface, theres
the part of you that you show to the world. thats the culturally conditioned
woman, the socially programmed woman. The woman who is supposed to be
PROPER and conduct herself like a lady. Thats the woman that follows all the
rules, all the shoulds, and the shouldnts, all the donts, the wonts, the cants, has
all the fashionable etiquette, some of which she gets from all the womens
magazines. Cosmo, Glamour, she follows what is considered acceptable ladylike
behavior, the socially conditioned woman inside of you reluctantly listens to what
your mom tells you to do, or you act according to how your parents raised you.
You also are influenced by what your girlfriends tell you. Do this. Dont do this
and You cant do that. Even today, there is still pressure on a woman to look and
act in a certain way or else she is not accepted. And thats what most women fear,
not being accepted by their girlfriends, or being rejected by their mother or father.
So she must follows certain rules to be socially accepted and is culturally
conditioned and programmed, and suppressed and confined, to the point of being
repressed. Now, if you dont think that you are being repressed; Let me give you 2
examples of this repression of women. 1. Some women feel that they cannot
express their true, real feelings about certain things for fear that they will be
rejected, and so they shut up and repress their feeling deep inside them. Now, the
second form of social repression of women is just as harmful. And thats the
repression of feminine sexuality. Historically, because of social conditioning and
cultural training, women have had to repress their own sexuality. Now, most
women secretly know this. They admit it to themselves and each other. But they
have learned to keep probably 90% of their passion suppressed and hidden from
men. Why? Because they feel they must play the "virtuous" role that society has
burdened them with. And, because so many men feel threatened by a womans
superior sexuality, women get the message that "nice girls just shouldnt have
those desires". Now, you and I both know thats bullshit. Of course, you have
those feelings and desires deep inside you, dont you? So, the cultural or social
woman that most women show to the world, to their family, to their friends, to
their husband or boyfriend is the person who represses her true, deep down
feelings & desires, and that is unhealthy.
But then, theres another woman inside you; and thats the natural real woman.
The natural woman is the part thats inside every woman, but she doesnt dare
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show it to the world because then she might be disapproved of. If this were a
perfect world, this is the part of the woman that would never be repressed. The
natural woman is not afraid to show her real self. She doesnt suppress her true
feelings or her sexuality. She lets them out and expresses her real feelings and
emotions and passions because she is not afraid of what other people might say or
shes not afraid of what her parents and family would think if they really knew her
deep dark secrets or how she really felt inside. Why do you think most women
bury this natural woman deep inside themselves? Heres why:
Do you remember when you were a teenager or a young girl and maybe you were
falling asleep in your bed, and you were just drifting off to sleep, feeling the
warmth of your bed sheets, the smell of your bedroom, and you began to dream of
the ideal man for you, your perfect partner? your soulmate that you would meet
someday. and you realize, you fell in love with him at that moment, and it's like
you carried this love in your heart throughout your whole life into your adulthood
as a full grown woman, waiting for that moment when you knew it was safe to
release all that love thats been building up inside you, waiting to be shared now
with the right person. that faraway someday is today, you dont have to wait
anymore. I think the tragedy is some people couldn't even just stop and imagine
what it would be like to make that discovery. Now, with me, as I think about it, I
think that's really amazing that it can happen in an instant, don't you? but to feel
all that love and emotion flooding back into your mind ... its amazing that you can
remember all that right now here with me. We all fantasize about our perfect mate.
Its Natural. {ideal man pattern}I don't know what it is you think about when you
just stop and you go inside and you consider the ideal man you want to be with
and you begin to imagine exactly what it would be like to be with this person, to
feel all the things you really want to feel for all the right reasons, but I'll tell you
something, when I'm with a woman like that and they begin to see the possibilities
of having all that with me, what a difference in the way you think about things.
Ok, getting back to what I was saying:
But over time as we grow up, after years of dating and being disappointed by
other men (point away) time after time, you really begin to wonder when that
ideal man (point to self) is going to come along (point to self), and you continue
to hope to find your soulmate, (point to self) that special person who complements
you so perfectly.
But that natural woman that was formed in you when you were young is still in
there, but its asleep inside of you, covered by a bunch of layers. Layers of social
conditioning and programming. What I think that most women really want deep
down, but they would never admit this out loud or even to themselves
consciously, what women really want is they wanna find that man, that special
man that can touch them and reach deep inside them and awaken that natural
woman that sleeps inside, once the natural women inside you is awake and alive
and ready to live life passionately, you feel true joy and happiness That part of
them that longs to be free and then to fall into this mans arms and to be held close
and to be cared for and to be loved unconditionally. and she wants to be accepted
and respected for who she is. The natural woman wants a man who is strong
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enough not only to understand that she has passionate emotions but strong enough
to be his own man and to be her protector to make her feel safe when she needs
someone to lean on and to hold her in his big strong arms when she wants be
comforted or to cry on his shoulder. A woman wants to know that she has security
with him, that he will take care of her. and hes not afraid to share his feelings
with her when he feels vulnerable. and hes smart enough and man enough to not
put up with her female bullshit when shes disrespecting him by walking all over
him. Hes smart enough to know shes trying to test him. and hes sensitive
enough to anticipate her feelings so that she doesnt always have to tell him
whats on her mind because he just knows her so well. This man and this woman
have developed such an incredible connection with each other that they are truly
connected, like soulmates and they compliment each other perfectly. like you and
me, we understand that in order for a woman to feel good about herself and
comfortable about expressing herself and her sexuality fully, she needs to feel safe
and reassured that her ideal partner not only gives her his permission, but he
actually wants and tells her to unleash her sexuality whenever she wants to ... He
wants her to be sexually uninhibited. He encourages her to be free with her
passionate sexuality and her emotions and her feelings. And when a woman finds
this special man, its just natural that she can just surrender herself to him because
she knows that shes finally found a place where she can be free to do whatever
she wants and express herself and share herself in every way that she wants to
with this man. (Go into surrender pattern) (Do essence poem sometime after to
rekindle)
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