APOLOGY LETTER WORKSHEET

APOLOGY LETTER WORKSHEET

This must be completed prior to writing your letter of apology and submitted to the RJ Office with the letter—If you have more than one letter to write, you must do one worksheet for each letter and submit it.

1. Describe what happened. Write what you did as if a VCR camera and tape recorder were capturing it. Just the facts as you remember then. There will be a place later to tell what you were thinking and feeling.
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2. Describe your understanding of the victim’s reaction to what you did and what happened. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

3. What do you think they were feeling?

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4. Which of their needs/values do you think were not honored by your behavior? Examples of needs/values are: safety, trust, respect, honesty, equality, peace, physical nurturance, harmony, order, community, kindness, compassion, stability, independence.
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5. What might they feel now in relation to what you did and what happened? ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

6. What do you think they want from you now? Be Specific.

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7. Describe what was motivating you (needs/desires/hopes/wishes…you were meeting) to do what you did.
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8. How were you feeling at the time you decided to make the choices you made?
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9. Describe how you are feeling now about what you did, or what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

10. What values were you raised with (what is important in your home) and did your actions reflect those values? What values are important to you personally? Reflect those? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

11. What made you choose this particular person or place to do what you did? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

12. Describe your understanding of the community’s reaction to what you chose to do and what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

13. Which of the community’s needs/values (safety, trust, respect, honesty, etc.) were not honored by your behavior? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
14. What do you think the collective community might be feeling now in relation to what you did and what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

15. What do you think they want from you now? Be Specific. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

16. What have you learned from what you did and what happened? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

17. If you are in a similar situation in the future, how do you plan to meet your own needs in a way that also honors the needs/values of others as well? Be Specific. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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The material contained in this worksheet was adopted from Kris Gibson and Kate Kendrick, based on the work of Marshal Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication.

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