SCIENTIFIC DISSECTION OF MARRIAGES.

(Using a powerful chemical principle known as the theory of solubility) Addo-Yobo Alfred, July, 2012 ABSTRACT There is a good friend of mine whos a great fun of weddings, she simply loves them; she wouldnt miss a wedding for anything and actually dresses to suit every wedding she wishes to attend. This isnt bad since lots of food especially rice which is her favorite food is mostly served at the reception grounds. Marriages are very important and also a stage in life that each and every person would love to experience. Ladies especially, on the eve of their wedding, envisage how beautiful they will look in their gown, with lots of pictures being taken them as well as the dream of living with the man theyve been dating for a while. Pause for a moment, do you have foresight into the future on how their marriage will look in some years to come? You may wish to ask, what do marriages have with theories in chemistry? Let me ask you this question, if you had proof of what will happen n some years to come, will you think twice? You know something, after observing the term marriages, I noticed that this term could be broken down into two words, marri and ages. The inference I got from these two words meant that this wonderful institution drafted by God was supposed to last for ages. Remember this, when I talk about marriages in this article, I am referring to that which was instituted by God, that which is to last for a life time not just any marriage at all. Have you ever witnessed a wedding ceremony?? If your answer is yes, then I bet you may have seen the couple full of smiles especially when the groom steps forward to describe to all present, how step by step amidst disappointments managed to woo the bride into his web of love. All of these seem to the witnesses and guests present that this marriage is set to last for a life time. However, this rarely happens as most of these couple tend to insult, quarrel over minor issues and subsequently live independent lives. Lets pause for a moment and analyze these two scenarios;
Two different sets of individuals (would-be couples) both date for seven (7) years. However, the

marriage of set A lasts longer that of set B. What could possibly account for this difference in the span of the two marriages?
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 Most pastors in their respective churches mostly advocate to young adults to marry from within the

local church. E.g Bishop Yaw Berbatov of God is King Baptist Church, Teshie advised young adults of his church to marry from within his church. Growing up, I heard many young adults ask either one or all of these questions;
Can I marry just anyone, so far as there is love between us? Can I marry someone from a different faith, say a Christian marrying a Muslim? Even in the same faith say Christianity, there are obviously several divisions say Methodists, Anglicans,

Presbyterians, Catholics, Baptist, etc. Which is safer, marrying from the same division or from a different division? Or are there some specific division combinations that result in prosperous and much stronger bonds in marriages?
How can I tell whether the bond we share will last for ages? Lastly, since science is a powerful tool, does it have any solutions or perspectives on how marriages should

be drafted in order to prolong them? In order to get some understanding on human behavior, then grab a copy of my article on the laws of magnetism, the theories on entropy with their relation to heaven and hell, there I related human beings to magnets. Magnets have two sides; the North and South Poles could signify Christians and the World respectively. Here though, I will attempt to take a critical and analytical look at MARRIAGES from the scientific perspective, more specifically using theories in chemistry. Basically, I would use what we call in chemistry, the THEORY OF SOLUBILITY. Never mind if your chemistry is bad, we will try as much as to make it basic for easy understanding to all. Lets begin by first explaining some few terms relating to the theory above. Solubility is a property of a solid, liquid or gaseous substance called the solute to dissolve in a solid, liquid or gaseous solvent to form a homogenous solution of the solute in the solvent. Yeah, this may seem so much for you, but take time to read further. Wait till we begin linking this
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to marriages, there the fun will begin. Read on Someone may ask what solubility has got to do with marriage. From the definition above, there are mostly two substances involved, the solute and the solvent. Before we proceed further, I will like to do these representations; Observe critically ADDO-YOBOS REPRESENTATION OF SOLUBILITY TERMS WITH MARRIAGES Solubility Solute Solvent Solution Marriage Woman Man Couple

Lets once again take the definition and dissect it further to find hidden details of it relating to marriages many have ignored or failed to see. Keep reading Solubility is a property of a solid, liquid or gaseous substance called a solute to dissolve in a solid, liquid or gaseous solvent to form a homogenous solution of the solute in the solvent. From the definition above, it means for solubility to be present, there must be the presence of two substances, the solute and solvent. If the Addo-Yobos representations above are true then for marriages (solubility) to occur, there must also be present, two individuals the solvent (man) and the solute (woman). Interesting, isnt it, the fun is ahead, keep reading To drift a little, lately there has been the advent of lots of gay marriages. Is this a drift from the norm or are there scientific basis to support these seemingly evil activities? From my perspective, a theory of solubility clearly establishes the fact that Gay Marriages are glaringly deviation from the norm. On what basis do I say this? From the representation above, from marriages (solubility) of any sort to take place, there must be the presence of two substances. Here, those practicing gay marriage have a plus (+) since in their case, two individuals mostly come up to marry. However, the theory of solubility states that, the two substances must be a solute and the other the solvent. From our representations above, the solute is likened to the woman and the solvent, the man. Oops!, so sad for the gays, but I get them in some respect, they may have been confused and gotten wrong interpretation of some scientific principles. If you havent observed their mistake, let me show you; from
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the definition of the solubility (a property of a solid, liquid or gaseous substance called a solute to dissolve in a solid, liquid or gaseous solvent to form a homogenous solution of the solute in the solvent) you can observed that the solute and solvent could be the same substance, solid solid, liquid - liquid, gaseous gaseous. Gays probably take inspiration from these relations just shown but the point is that though these relations are very likely; one of them must always be the solute and the other the solvent which have their representation as woman and man respectively. Grab your copy of Gay Marriages, a deviation from the norm, the chemistry behind this assertion and get inside into why you shouldnt every practice gay marriage or even support it from scientific knowledge. I bet you must be loving this, grab your copy or better still, finish up with this article, since its going to get much interesting as we go further. After reading this article, you will find answers to the following questions also;
Who to marry using basic scientific principles Are you a young adult, torn between two seemingly wonderful or perfect partners and want to make

a choose for marriage based on some scientific principles?

Want to know the scientific basis why some pastors advocate their members nary from within their

churches?
Want to find answers to the scenarios earlier sighted?

God Almighty in his infinite wisdom instituted that marriages be meant for two individuals and clearly states that it should comprise a man and woman. When these two come together, they form what we call a couple. Have you observed that for a solute and a solvent to form a solution, there must be the presence of a containing vessel or what we popularly call, a container? Yes of course, and this container I refer to as the witnesses at the ceremony. For two individuals to be joined as husband and wife, there must be the presence of witnesses which could be you at a ceremony. Interesting right Now, after the solute and solvent are put in the container, it becomes a single substance known as solution. This is also true for marriages, as in the presence of the witnesses, the man (solvent|) and woman (solute) become a couple (solution). Someone may ask, how does
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the stirring a two substances to become a solution relate to marriages? The simple answer I gave to this friend was that, the stirring is the ceremony. Stirring two substances to form a solution is a process through which the substances eventually become one. This also relates to everyday life where before a man (solvent) and his woman (solute) is joined as a couple (solution), they go through a ceremony (stirring) in the presence of the witnesses (container). One primary knowledge in solubility or with the formation of solutions which is that, the solubility of a substance fundamentally depends on the used solvent. With this as well as the representations in mind, a marriage (solubility) depends on the man (solvent). This infers that for marriages to become a reality, a lot will depend on the man. Just imagine, the man isnt able to pay the dowry asked for by the family of the bride or does not have enough money to perform the ceremony, chances of the marriage taking place will be very slim. This means that men (solvent) are very key to the success of marriages (solubility). Men are very important to the formation of a couple since they bear majority of the cost. Drifting a little though on the same line in order to further buttress the point that the solubility of a substance (the solute) fundamentally depends on the used solvent in relation to marriages. From the onset, in most communities, its the man who takes the initial step of spotting the lady, making some enquiries, and then takes that giant step of asking her out on say a date. If this is true, then the fact that solubility depends fundamentally on the solvent used is clear in its relation to marriages. Ladies out there, take a closer look at the writing in italics above, solubility depends fundamentally on the solvent used. The key word here is solvent used. If solvent in our earlier representations meant men, then you should be careful since not all men (solvents) can make you ladies (solute) out there soluble to form a solution (couple). Writing the phrase in italics in terms of everyday marriage situations replacing the life terms with solubility terms we have, the marriage of a woman fundamentally depends on the man used or chosen. Ladies, I bet you know of oil as well as water. Lets represent the ladies by water and men by oil. If you pour just a little bit of oil in water, the oil just sits around and on the water but never dissolves in the water. Thus ladies, be careful on the men you roll with since some will just want to hang around you like oil in water and never want to have anything serious to do with you. In making your choice, remember that your marriages fundamentally depend on the chosen men. I ask you this; do all marriages end well or become very successful with no skirmishes? I bet your answer is no! This is not
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strange since it can be directly inferred from chemistry. There are different extents of solubilitys, from infinitely soluble (fully miscible), poor solubility. This means that your marriage could either be very successful or unsuccessful. In chemistry, solubility doesnt depend on the particle size (mostly of the solute) or other kinetic factors as given time, they will dissolve. Is this statement relief to someone out there? Sure I guess. Mostly people especially have specifications of their dream wives. For example, Kofi says, my dream woman should be quite tall, model like, fair colored (just in case of power failure), long hair, blah blah blah!. The question is, do all of these specifications actually guarantee successful marriages? The answer is no! This is because from the statement above, solubility doesnt depend on the particle size (mostly of the solute) or other kinetic factors as given time, they will dissolve. Bearing in mind the earlier representations in the abstract, this statement can be re-written inserting or replacing solubility terms with real life terms as follows; Marriages dont depend on the womans size. Marriage (solubility) on the same hand, doesnt depend on the size of the woman (solute), thats whether obolo, which in Ghana means being obese, slim, chingilingi or any other, because with time they will come to admire to each other and stick together in the marriages. In Chemistry also, solubility depends strongly on other species dissolved in the solvent. This is very interesting phrase also which has direct links to marriages, but how? These species, I relate to family, friends, etc. For a marriage to take place, a lot will depend on family and friends. Note the key word, species dissolved in the solvent. Due to the fact that its the man who will come to a conclusion that this is the lady, he would want to spend the rest of his life with, a lot will depend on the people around him which chemistry brands as species dissolved in the solvent. Friends could influence the thoughts of the man with chants like shes not so nice, theirs is a much better one, what at all did you see in her amongst many others. Family could also influence the thinking of the man with phrases like where does she come from, are they wealthy, whats her surname, she cannot cook a lot more could come up. All of these go to confirm the relation in chemistry that solubility depends strongly on other species dissolved in the solvent which when written in real life terms bearing in mind Addo-Yobos representations is marriages depends strongly on friends, family, etc. I bet you are saying to yourself I have read so much now, I need answers to pressing questions like the ones above in

the abstract. Without wasting much time, lets begin by dealing with the scenarios earlier sighted in the abstract;
Two different sets of individuals (would-be couples) both date for seven (7) years. However, the

marriage of set A lasts longer that of set B. What could possibly account for this difference in the span of the two marriages? This is a scenario mostly observed in many communities, churches. The ladies especially, when they see that the marriages of their pals are flourishing whiles theirs are going sourer by the day, they begin to ask questions. They mostly talk to themselves at night while the husband is fast asleep; they wake up with the pillow as the back support, look to the sleepy face of their husbands and picture how happy her friend seemed when she met them (friend & husband) at the mall. Questions like these begin to pop up in the mind;
Did I make a mistake in agreeing to his proposal of marriage? Should I have married Charles instead, he was wealthy and caring too...oo?

If you are married and thinking this, sorry but you are already in the soup mixture but for you ladies out there who are hoping to get married one day, take time to read carefully and observe the relationships to be established between solubility terms and marriage. In order to get a better understanding of answers to be given, lets give names to the two sets of couples. Couple A consists of (Kwabena & Kwatetso) and Couple B (Stanley & Mary). Both sets had courtships that lasted for seven (7) years each. Both sets also have two children. From all described above, both have the blessings that accompanies marriage thats children so why is the marriage of set A still going on strong while that of set B just ended abruptly? Lets take a look at an example thats going to help us get a better understanding; we have two pans, A and B. Pan A contains a just little bit of frytol oil and pan B contains a little bit of water, same quantity as the oil. The two pans are placed are separately placed on different heating elements at the same temperature. I guess youve all tried to fry egg. Before you put the eggs into the oil, you
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first heat the oil right? Lets say you were blind and so could not see whether the oil is heated enough, I guess the only way will be to listen to the sound as the heating process goes on. Which of the two pans will you hear the sound of heating quicker and much when heated at the same time and temperature? I bet your answer is the oil. Remember, both pans contain liquid mixtures exposed to the same temperature. Someone may ask, why do you hear the sound when the oil is heating? This is due to the breaking of the bonds holding the oil molecules together. This means that, the bonds holding the molecules of water take a much longer time to be broken. If this is well understood, lets relate it to marriages. From the scenario sighted above and inferring from the chemistry above, it means that the bonds formed as a result of the marriage between Stanley & Mary are much stronger than that of Kwabena & Kwatetso. But they all did go through the same process of courting, same ceremony, so why the difference in the marriage span? In chemistry, the strength of most bonds depends on what we call the electro negativity difference. Electro negativity in chemistry is defined as the ability of an atom to pull or attract more electrons towards itself thus creating a partial negative and positive charge on itself and the other atom respectively. Need not to commit all of the definition into your head, just have a fair idea about what it says and keep reading Electro negativity has a value for every element and I say the term electro negativity is LOVE. In the formation of bond between two atoms, if one atom has electro negativity value greater than the other atom, the bond between them greater. If the electro negativity value of the two atoms in the bond are similar or almost the same, the bond between them is relatively weak. Why do I say electro negativity is LOVE? I say this because, I believe LOVE has a value which can be increased depending on so many factors. When two individuals are in a relationship and the love they have for each other is almost the same, the likelihood of the relationship not lasting is high or even if it proceeds to marriage, the chances of a break up is inevitable. When I explained details of my article Love as electro negativity to a friend he asked, Can I increase my love so that the difference between mine and my girlfriends is large so as to create a stronger bond? My answer to him was a big yes. He got as excited as you are getting now and wanted to know it so quickly and badly. Then is asked him a question, what is the title of one of Elton Johns greatest hits? He paused for a while and shouted sacrifice. Then I said to him, thats it, sacrifice. There are certain parameters in the love equation such as tolerance, patience, etc which when in excess, increase the value of love. There are
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parameters like greed, lies, etc which when in excess also help to decrease the value of love. Bottom line, when parameters such as tolerance and the others are increased, the value of love rises. If a relationship would last, one partner has to have love in excess of the other partners, so that the difference is large enough to allow the bond stand the test of time. There are lots more to learn in this article. If you want to know more about electro negativity and its relationship with love also know the value of love you possess now and how you can increase it. Have you ever seen an equation used in calculating the love you have for your female friend and vice versa? I bet you havent, be the first second to see it since I have it and thus seen it. Grab a copy of my article titled Love as electro negativity to grasp more insight. If you didnt get the answer to the scenario 1 from the analogy sighted, then read this Set Bs marriage is still going on strong because one thing, difference in the love between them which I call the electro negativity difference in my article Love as electro negativity. In bonding of atoms, the greater the electro negativity difference the stronger the bond so is it for the bonds or ties in marriages, the difference in Love between the two individuals must be great. The question is how do we tell whether the love between the two individuals is great or small? Love has a value which can be increased by increasing some parameters in the equation of love which is clearly stated in the article Love as electro negativity. For relationships to effectively work, either the man or woman must have love that is in excess of the partners so that the difference in love is large thus strengthening the ties between the two thereby prolonging the marriage. I feel like being manipulated to unleash the equation of love and all of its parameters, but no! Grab your copy and enjoy. Lets move on to the scenario sighted above in the abstract. I say this, for pastors who advocate that young people marry from within may have special hidden talents in chemistry which they havent yet discovered. Why do I say this, its because their words have strong basis in the bible. Lets take a look at the scenario again; Most pastors in their respective churches mostly advocate to young adults to marry from within the local church. E.g Bishop Yaw Berbatov of God is King Baptist Church, Teshie advised young adults of his church to marry from within his church.

In chemistry, we have two main types of bonds, intermolecular and inter atomic bonds. Under intermolecular bonds however, there are also subdivisions like dipole-dipole, dipole-induced-dipole, induced dipole induced dipole etc. Similarly in the world, there are two main people, those who belong to God Almighty and those who belong to Satan. Under the Christians also, we have the Pentecostal, Catholics, Methodists, Anglicans, Baptists, etc. In chemistry, we have a popular phrase used known as Like dissolves like. This is in relation to bonds. This means that substances of the same make up are likely to dissolve each other. From our initial knowledge in chemistry, we know that when a substance dissolves in another, the resultant is a solution. I guess you havent forgotten that in our earlier representations, solution mean couple. If in chemistry, substances (solute and solvent) of the same make up are likely to dissolve each other to form a solution, then young adults of the same make up are likely to dissolve (marry) each other to form a couple (solution). One may ask, what comprises of the makeup? This makeup is not what the ladies used on their faces to look good, no!, neither am I saying that young adults who use the same makeup range, say perfume or lip gloss, etc are likely to form a couple. The makeup comprises foundational doctrines, teaching, interests, etc. Why do I say this? When a man is in the same church with a lady with whom the same doctrine, teachings as well as similar interests developed in them, they tend to be alike. Remember, its when the makeup of both of them is similar or alike. I am not talking about hearing the same teachings, sermons or doctrines but making those youve heard a part of you. If these are established in both young adults, then they are good to go since they will tend to dissolve each other to form a solution (couple). The makeup, the composition, constitution should be the same. The pastors in their come to the church and preach the gospel of Jesus Christ in anticipation that the congregation have heard and made it a part of them, that is why I presume they advocate that the young adults marry from within. These pastors are serious gifted in chemistry as you can see. Now that weve tackled the scenarios, lets go on to answer the rest of the questions. These I know by now can be answered by you, but lets go through anyway
Can I marry just anyone, so far as there is love between us?

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Of course you can marry anyone, depending on your motive of marriage. If you wish to experience how a bad marriage looks like, then you are free to roam round the streets and grab a lady and the next day, you decide to get married. But if your motive is to have a good time and a very successful marriage, then you have to take a lot of things into consideration. Remember, weve established that love between two people is just like the electro negativity difference between two atoms, it could be present but the bond could be weak. This means that, the love is important but one individuals love must be in excess of the other in order for the difference to be large enough to keep the bond strong. Marrying someone of the same makeup is also very crucial to the success to the flourishing of ones marriage. If the makeup is the same, then its very likely to result to lasting marriage.
Can I marry someone from a different faith, say a Christian marrying a Muslim It would not have been a bad idea to marry someone from a different faith, say a Christian marrying a

Muslim, because its all diversity but pause, is the makeup the same, I guess the answer is no. Someone will ask what if the love is so strong. Good point, this is the reason why the marriage wont end overnight but will take some time but the makeup (teachings, similar interests) which further increase the ties between the two will be absent. Thus when there is a lot of pressure like the example with heating oil in a pan, the bonds are quickly broken and the atoms (people) become separated.
Even in the same faith say Christianity, there are obviously several divisions say Methodists,

Anglicans, Presbyterians, Catholics, Baptist, etc. Which is safer, marrying from the same division or from a different division? Or are there some specific division combinations that result in prosperous and much stronger bonds in marriages? I guess this has been answered already. Its all about the makeup.
How can I tell whether the bond we share will last for ages?

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Now you know whether the bond you share with your dream girl or guy will last. Do a thorough check on the both of you. Check the makeup, the differences in the love, etc; its going to do you a lot of good. Marriages are a good thing and would be a great experience for many. However, due to the long span of it, its important that care is taken when choosing ones life partner. This article doesnt show you or prescribe persons A or B to be married to C or D, but rather give insights on what to look out for in order to have successful marriages. Now that you know, teach others...

Other articles written by the author are; LIFE AS SPORT In this article, the author relates the parameters and happening in the game of football to occurrences in everyday situation. For example, do you know the essence and relations of throw- ins, free kicks, penalties, central referees, linesmen, wingers, and midfielders in the game of football in everyday situations? If not, grab your copy now ENTROPY IN ACTION In this article, the author relates ordinary things in our everyday lives like sweeping our rooms, why birds fly like they do, etc using the theory of entropy. This may interest lovers of science since some parameters are quite technical. ADDO-YOBOS DERIVATION OF THE FOUR MAXWELLS EQUATIONS In this also, the parameters are very technical. There are four very powerful equations known as Maxwells equations used in the field of chemical engineering whose derivations are quite complex. The author uses a very easy and less complex way of deriving these four equations. THE LAWS OF MAGNETISM, THE THEORIES OF ENTROPY WITH THEIR RELATIONS WITH THE GREAT COMMISSION AND HEAVEN AND HELL Here, the author relates human beings to magnets. Magnets have two sides, the north and south poles. To me, there are two kinds of human
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beings; either you belong to Jesus or the Devil. Read about how human beings are likened to magnets. Do you need answers to why Satan is pestering Gods children? Or why Jesus Christ has tasked us as Christians to go out into the world and win lost souls for him using the basic knowledge of magnets? Then grab your copy THERMODYNAMICS OF SORETHROAT, COUGH AND COLD Doctors have their own explanations to the reasons for sore throat, cough, and cold saying these ailments are caused by some bacterium of a sort. How about knowing the causes of these ailments from another point of view using some basic knowledge in thermodynamics. Dont be scared, the explanations, you will easily grasp Parameters are not so technical. Many more articles from the author like ADDO-YOBOS APPROACH TO DRAWING OF LEWIS STRUCTURES, amongst many others. (When two similar eggs collide, they crack and break. However, when two chickens collide, it doesnt result in death. This is maturity. Alfred Addo-Yobo, July 2012)

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