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Laurie Sticklen Surviving Spouse y husband Jim Stumpy Sticklen died March 4, 2011 while attending a training course. At our rst C.O.P.S. meeting February 2012, Julie Schmidt had Hershey kisses as the centerpiece so we immediately knew we were among friends (conrmed by pizza lunch to follow!). This was our rst experience meeting other survivors and we felt surrounded by empathy and understanding from those who had been there and we left with a sense that this was a special group. Thanks to advice taken from that meeting and support from Kentucky C.O.P.S. we decided to y to National Police Week and attend all the activities. After arriving at Reagan Airport, the walk through the rows of saluting ocers, the escort to baggage claim and the bus, and the motorcycle es-
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cort to the hotel allowed us to experience rst-hand the dedication to the fallen and we were honored by their respect. At the hotel we were met by a slice of home in Julies smiling face and her KY C.O.P.S. backpacks. These backpacks were armed with everything you could imagine. Suce it to say, we did not lack for Kleenex, sunscreen, umbrellas, hand sanitizer, T-shirts, writing materials, rst aid kits, snacks, snacks, and did I mention snacks. Our police week experience was something we will always treasure. We were honored to meet the Minnesota LEU ocer who represented us with the ag and bracelet he bicycled with 250 miles with in honor of Jim. The Candlelight Vigil was incredible and something one has to experience to fully appreciate. Emily (age 18) and Continued on PAGE
Inc. and the Kentucky Chapter of Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S.) provides resources to assist in the rebuilding of the lives of surviving families and affected co-workers of law enforcement ofcers killed in the line of duty as determined by Federal criteria. Furthermore, C.O.P.S. provides training to law enforcement agencies on survivor victimization issues and educates the public of the need to support the law enforcement profession and its survivors.
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Bound white water rafting through Utah with 60 other 15-20 year old survivors. Andrew found this an incredible experience in no small part due to the young ladies on the trip! Andrew felt this summer experience championed that of Andrew, Mary, Matt Ottara, Emily & Laurie Sticklen after the anyone in his class Road to Hope Reception. with a possible honorable menChester) horseback ride through the tion for the girl who spent two weeks Missouri woods and my rst ever pissinging throughout Europe. tol target shooting adventure. I came In September, at Spouses Getaway away with a whole new support group in nowhere (Potosi) Missouri, I met of not only survivors, but thrivers. a group of upbeat women many The C.O.P.S. support and opportustories, ages, time frames bonded by a nities have been life changing for us. past loss but not defeated by it. Once Everyone has their own way to naviagain was the opportunity to talk gate through the grieving process, surrounded by the comforting feeling but I know if you reach out for the of being with those who truly underC.O.P.S. healing hands they will be stand. My activities included a peacethere whether tomorrow, next month, ful (well, except for occasional hilarnext year or 20 years from now. ity from Trina Scott and her horse
From left to right: Mary & Emily stand in front of the NLEOMF wall during NPW. President Julie Schmidt, Mary Sticklen, Katherine Thacker (c/98), Andrew Sticklen and Laurie Sticklen at NPW conference. Children of fallen ofcers, Mary Sticklen, Emily Sticklen, Katherine Thacker and Andrew Sticklen bond during NPW.
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Jennifer & Katherine Thacker, survivors of Investigator Brandon Thacker, EOW 4/16/1998, are all smiles after walking 25 miles in honor of Brandon.
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PSOEA Scholarships
The Public Safety Ofcers Benets (PSOB) Program includes the Public Safety Ocers Educational Assistance (PSOEA) Program, which (P E-MAIL ADDRESSES NEEDED expands on eorts started under the To be informed more frequently on the Federal Law Enforcement Depenissues and events that affect our chapter, dents Assistance (FLEDA) Act (Public and to save on printing and postage cost, Law 104-238 of 1996). The PSOEA please send your name and e-mail to rnlinProgram provides assistance for genfelter@bellsouth.net. higher education for the spouses and children of federal, state, and local public safety ocers who have been NEWS TO SHARE killed or permanently disabled in the Do you have news or pictures to share? To line of duty. The act was amended in 1998 to include educational assistance share news about weddings, graduations, births, surgeries, trial updates, etc., send to spouses and children of state and to: Rachel N. Lingenfelter at local public safety ocers. The educational assistance may rnlingenfelter@bellsouth.net or call be used to defray relevant expenses, 859.582.4130. including tuition and fees, room and board, books, supplies, and other education-related costs. As of October 1, 2009, the maximum award for a fulltime student is $925.00 per month of
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Chapter News
President Julie Schmidt
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On June 5, 2012 Mike Townsend resigned as the Kentucky C.O.P.S. Vice President. Mike advised that due to family health issues and numerous other commitments it would be best for him to focus on those issues at this time. Mike is staying on as a board trustee and we would like to thank him for his service! With that being said, I began a search for a new vice president to take Mikes place for the remainder of the term. Immediately Tony
Nanny and Billy (EOW 11/13/01) on his wedding day to Priscilla (KY C.O.P past president) in .S. 2000.
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Getting Through the Holidays
Surviving Grief During the Holiday Season
From Angela Morrow, RN
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If you have lost a loved one, you might be wondering how to cope with your grief this holiday season. With the rst fallen leaf of autumn, we begin to anticipate the holidays ahead. Our senses are acute and take in everything: the smell of turkey roasting and freshly baked pies; the holiday songs playing on the radio; the sound of laughter from our loved ones who have gathered together. But for those of us who are experiencing illness, grief, or the loss of a loved one, the holidays can be a time of sadness, pain, anger, or dread. The ebb and ow of grief can overwhelm us with waves of memories, especially during the holidays. Grief will also magnify the stress that is already a part of the holiday season. How do we begin to ll the emptiness we feel when it seems everyone else is overowing with joy? There are some strategies to help you cope during the holidays and beyond. Strategies for Survival Oer Yourself Some Grace The best thing you can do this holiday season is be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is your feeling. Dont fall prey to the belief that you have to feel a certain way or do certain things for your holiday to be normal. If you feel sad, allow the tears to come; if you feel angry, allow yourself to vent some steam. Be Kind to Yourself Get the rest and nourishment you need. Dont take on any more than you can handle. If you need to be alone, honor that. If you crave the company and aection of others, seek it out. Do whatever it is that feels right to you. Ask For and Accept Help The holiday season is no time to feign
strength and independence. You will need the help and support of others to get through. Dont feel as though you are a burden. People get immense satisfaction and joy from helping those they care about. In times of need, other people desire to help but often dont know how. This is the time for you to speak up and make your needs known. If you need someone to help you with meals, shopping, or decorating, tell them so. They will be delighted to feel like they are helping you in some way. The same holds true for your emotional needs. Friends and family may feel uncomfortable when it comes to talking about your grief. They may think that you dont want to talk about it and dont want to remind you of your pain. Again, you will have to direct them in the best way to help you. If you want to talk about what youre going through or just want a shoulder to cry on, let your loved ones know. Find Support Sharing your feelings is the best way to get through them. You need people you can talk to. Friends and relatives can be a great support to us during times of grief, but they are sometimes full of their own grief or so immersed in the business of the holidays that they cannot be a support to you. Support groups for caregivers and the bereaved are plentiful during the holiday season. Check with local churches, community centers, and hospice agencies to nd a group that suites you. Support group members often make friends that end up being a source of support for years to come. Make a Dierence Most of us like to help others during the holiday season. Taking the orna-
ment o the tree at the mall, dropping our change in the charity basket, or donating to our favorite organization can help us feel like we are contributing to a greater good. Helping others in times of grief can help take the focus o yourself and your pain. Volunteering at a nursing home, hospital, childrens shelter, or soup kitchen can be cathartic in times of pain. Even helping a friend or family member in need can be healing. Stop the Comparisons Its easy to watch other families and compare them to your own. Seeing other families together and enjoying the festivities may make you feel deprived. Keep in mind that the holidays are stressful for most families and are rarely the magical gatherings depicted in greeting cards. Try to embrace what you have rather than compare it to what you think others have. Remember That You Will Survive As hard as it is for you right now, you will survive. You will make it through the holidays in one piece. It may be the most dicult season in your time of grief, but it will pass. And when it does, you will come out on the other side stronger than before. You dont have to enjoy the holidays. You dont even have to go through the motions pretending to enjoy the festivities. But, its also just ne to have a good time in spite of your grief. If happiness slips through your window of grief, allow it to happen and enjoy it. You wont be doing your loved one an injustice by feeling joyous. The best gift you can give anyone you love, even someone you have lost, is being true to yourself and living your life to the fullest.
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11 - 13 KY C.O.P.S. BOARD OF DIRECTORS
President
Julie Schmidt (cw/03) 502-376-2891 tessak9@bellsouth.net
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KY C.O.P.S. TRUSTEES
Richard Bottoms, (cw/10)
859-338-8673 rebcat35@aol.com
Josh Masterson, (cw/10) 859-948-3677 ukno1hunt@aol.com Brandi Mundo (w/03) 502-589-3369 brandimundo@yahoo.com Brenda Nease (w/89)
606-476-2913 bnease@tvscable.com
Derran Broyles, KSP 502-867-9099 dcb436@netzero.com Sherry Bryant (w/03) 859-581-0639 sher_does_hair@yahoo.com Tim Davis, KY FOP Chaplain 270-836-9131 kyfopchaplain@hotmail.com Chetallen Gentry, (cw/98) 502-777-9753 barbnchet87@aol.com Joe Gilliland, KY Blue Knights
859-749-2137 bk11@bellsouth.net
Vice President
Tony Jansen (ac/84) 859-393-0353 ajansen7713@gmail.com
Treasurer
Keith Broughton (cw/01 & 00) 859-509-1270 wkb127@windstream.net
Secretary
Rachel Lingenfelter (ac/89) 859-582-4130 rnlingenfelter@bellsouth.net
Joe Hess, (cw 01 & 10) 859-948-5890 joe.hess@insightbb.com Ricky Lynn, (cw/10) 859-315-1029 rlynn@lexingtonky.gov
Chapter Director
Dave Ernst (cw/88) 502-836-3687 dave.ernst@insightbb.com
Benets Coordinator
Jennifer Thacker (w/98) 502-494-4246 jennifer_thacker@nationalcops.org