Archetypes

GENERATING:

The Energy of Envisioning, Creating, Ordering, and Empowering. The Generating energy is a conduit, a medium, between the ideal (the perfect, the divine, the sacred, the eternal) and the world (the imperfect, the profane, the material, the mortal,) that transmits to the individual and humankind what their potential can be, how it can be done, and the blessing to do it.

Unifying Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult): King-Queen, Mother-Father, Adam-Eve, Woman-Man; King Arthur; Queen Elizabeth I of England Incomplete (immature/child): Divine Child, Little Angel

Shadow Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult):

Aggressive: The Tyrant, The Evil King-Wicked Queen Passive: Weakling, Insecure, Indecisive "King"; Helpless, Overwhelmed "Queen"
Incomplete (immature/child):

Aggressive: Highchair Tyrant; Demanding "Princess"; Tantrum Child Passive: Weakling, Incompetent Prince; Helpless Princess
The Generating energies involve three main powers: Creating, Ordering, and Empowering. This is the energy of the inspired, creative, caring, charismatic leader. It is the energy of envisioning. It is the power of Mother-Father, King-Queen, Adam-Eve, Woman-Man working in a syzygy, a mutual, inseparable union of male and female power, that creates a world of possibility, safety, abundance, and growth for themselves and for all. Examples of Generative Male Behaviors Creating establishing a family line setting direction and tone protecting and defending guiding growth bringing security and comfort offering explanations Ordering: Organizing creating order out of chaos categorizing being systematic providing shape and form being organized applying reason coordinating sticking to a plan Ordering: Authority taking a leadership role commanding exerting control representing the establishment being in a position of strength coming in contact with officials setting direction Ordering: Regulating establishing law and order operating from sound principles applying rules or guidelines working within the legal system setting standards of behavior

following a regimen Examples of Generative Female Behaviors Creating: Mothering giving birth nourishing life nurturing and caring for others cherishing the world expressing tenderness working with children Creating: Welcoming abundance enjoying extravagance receiving lavish reward luxuriating in plenty having more than enough feeling rich Ordering: Responding to Nature relating to plants and animals embracing the natural feeling connected to the Earth going outdoors harmonizing with natural rhythms Empowering: Experiencing the senses giving and receiving pleasure focusing on the body appreciating beauty feeling vibrantly healthy being earthy doing physical activity King (Mature Male) Energies (Creating) Generativity, Fertility, Initiates (Ordering) Boundaries, Unites, Proscribes, Gives Law (Empowering) Acknowledgment, Naming, Validating, Blessing Queen (Mature Female) Energies (Creating) Nurturing, Feeding, Growing, Maintaining, Protecting (Ordering) Planning, Consolidating, Overseeing, Regulating (Empowering) Blessing, Encouraging, Motivating, Promoting Shadow Energies Tyrant Weakling Divine Child General Characteristics o Primal beauty generating love and admiration o Encourages greatness and ambition o Playfulness o Source of authentic being o Vitality of the child o Generativity Allows us to see the abundance of human potential around us Connect to see the possibilities in lifer Connect to see the opportunities for freshness Connect to see the opportunities for newness Keeps us from boredom and being washed-up o Creativity Love and admire the primal creativity Born with our own inner genius -- source of mans music, art, statecraft, and courage o Suggestions Acknowledge but do not identify with the divine child How are we honoring or not honoring the divine child? How are we blocking him? How are we manifesting the shadow child -- tyrant / weakling? Shadow Energies o Highchair Tyrant: works through the shadow king in adulthood Self-righteousness Arrogance (hubris = overweening pride) Grandiosity: Center of the universe Childishness Limitless demands

Others exist to meet all-powerful needs and desires -- nothing is good enough Rejects food and love Just wants to be and let all things flow toward him -- does not want to do Inflation / Pathological Narcissism Needs to learn he is not the center of the universe and the universe does not exist to fulfill every need - his limitless needs and pretensions to godhood -- it will nurture him but not as god Shoots self in foot (self destruction) -- sabotages host success (hubris followed by nemesis) Rather see the host fail than deal with own grandiosity (scorched earth) Demeans and degrades others who are trying to accomplish something -- even our other selves Imagines himself as invulnerable and all-important Irresponsibility (even to self meeting mortal needs) Icarus flew too close to the sun (me?) Perfectionism The perfectionist attacks the human host The grandiose 2 yr. old enslaves the man in perfectionism and drive workaholism Expects impossible of himself and berates himself when be cant meet those demands (just like those of mother and father) Allows no mistakes Causes somatacism -- death is the only escape o Weakling Prince: Passive-Aggressive Many bi-polar reversals depending on the direction of the current passing through -- tyrant to weakling Very little personality No enthusiasm for life Very little initiative Needs to be coddled Dictates to those around him by his silent or his whining and complaining helplessness Needs to be carried around on a pillow Everything is too much for him Rarely joins in other childrens games Has few friends Doesnt do well in school Frequently hypochondriacal Slightest wish is his parents command -- marj/father serves Entire family system revolves around his comfort Reveals dishonesty of helplessness in: Daggerlike verbal assaults on siblings (other archetypes) Bitter sarcasm against them Patent manipulation of feelings Convinces parents (higher self) he is helpless victim of life and others are picking on him -- parents punish others and excuse him Depressed passivity

QUESTING:

The Energy of Inventing, Discovering, Rediscovering, Establishing, Defending, Challenging, Serving, Actualizing, Action, Conscious Awareness, Concentration, and Power. It is the energy that allows the individual and humankind to "Be all it can be." It brings us face to face with our potential which is both within ourselves and greater than ourselves, allows us to do what is right to achieve it.

Unifying Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult): The Knight Errant; The Warrior-Warrior Princess; the Apostle / Disciple; The Pilgrim-Searcher; Joan of Arc; Don Quixote; Dr. Martin Luther King; Ghandi; Search for the Holy Grail Incomplete (immature/child): The Hero / Heroine Child

Shadow Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult):

Aggressive: The Sadistic Bully Passive: The Coward, The Withdrawn One, The Resigned and Defeated One
Incomplete (immature/child):

Aggressive: The Playground Bully, The "Grandstander" Passive: The Coward, The "Mousy" Child
The Questing energy is the power of the purposeful mission. It involves two related goals: to discover or rediscover a lost or diminishing energy; and / or to establish or employ an energy into the world. The purposeful mission is a result of connecting one's own fate/dreams with that of something greater than one's self. The quest is in service of the power of the Queen-King, Sorcerer-Sorceress Guide, or the Lover. The questing energy uses the powers of focus, dedication, cleverness, perseverance, risk taking, intelligence, constraint, and inventing to bring the other energies back to the world or into the world. The questing energy stands for "doing the right thing," serving a greater good, and following the dreams and aspirations necessary to creating meaning in one's life and to give meaning to the lives of others. The quest follows and actualizes what has been envisioned by the other energies. This power enables the Dream Builder / World Builder / Vision Questor and clears the path for and defends the dream of personal and cultural self-actualization.

Other Examples of Questing Behaviors

Taking action doing what needs to be done realizing your potential making what's possible real practicing what you preach carrying out plans producing magical results using your talents Acting consciously knowing what you are doing and why acknowledging your motivations understanding your intentions examining the known situation Concentrating having singleness of purpose being totally committed applying the force of your will feeling centered setting aside distractions focusing on a goal

Experiencing power making a strong impact having vitality creating miracles becoming energized feeling vigorous being creative Warrior / Warrior Princess General o A clear focus and dedication to mission and the King Samurai story o Transpersonal Commitment: Commitment to something higher that self. o Aggressive energy to take life head on. o Demonstrates clarity of thought and action in overcoming the challenges of life. o Knows his or her limitations Realistically assesses his / her capacities and the situation and mission. o Balances the need for violence / destruction with compassion General Marshall and the Marshall Plan Female Energies o Harmonizer o Peacemaker o Settler Shadow Energies o Sadist: The passionate or passionless practitioner of cruelty. avenger / tyrant. A passion for the cruel and destructive and a hatred for the "weak." Nazis, Darth Vader, The Great Santini o Masochist: The coward, pushover, the wimp, the one who disempowers himself and gives it to others. Doesn't know when to quit; to learn to cut loses and takes too much abuse until it explodes into a sadistic outburst. Hero Child: the world needs a rebirth of the heroic to bring it back from chaos General o No transpersonal commitment, but is committed to him / her self. o committed to impressing self. o Does not know his or her limitations o Romantic about his or her vulnerabilities o Will push the limit until the push causes his or her death Usefulness o Noblest approach to life / task? o Advanced form of boy psychology -- the most advanced o At best in adolescent development Assert masculine force / traits o Calls upon boys masculine reserves to experience own independence, competence, budding abilities o Tries to shine and stand above the crowd (often attacked for this) Break with the feminine o Mobilizes the boys delicate ego structures to break with the Mother and face life o Establishes a beachhead against the overwhelming power of unconscious represented by the feminine (Mother) Explore limits o Encourages him to dream the impossible and fight the unbeatable if he has enough courage -- and if he is not possessed by the hero grandstander o Set to push the envelop and test himself against the difficult even hostile forces in the world o Throws the boy against the limits, the seemingly intractable o Push us to our limitations (as boys) to enter manhood Death and resurrection o All heroes must die and be transformed o He meets the enemy and it is himself -- encounter with true humility (role of hero is to bring us to true humility) -- knowing our limitations and getting the help we need Shadow Energies

o Grandstander Bully Need to dominate Intends to impress others Strategies intend to proclaim superiority and right to dominate Overinflation Claims center stage as birthright Walks over others in his insensitivity and arrogance Rage accompanies claims against his special status Assault with vicious verbal or physical abuse against those who see through him or threaten his overinflation Attacks those who recognize his underlying cowardice and deep insecurity Sense of invulnerability Thinks he is invulnerable, has god-like pretenses -- in danger of creating his own destruction / demise Soldier who takes the unnecessary risks -- the hot shot Denial of death -- non acceptance of mortality Doesnt know his limitations Doesnt know or acknowledge his limitations Inflated sense of own importance and abilities -- not as good as he thinks he is When we do not face our limitations we are inflated and sooner or later our inflation will be called into account The impossible dream is for him (he thinks) Thinks he can fight the unbeatable foe -- set for ironic trouble Loner Not a team player, but a loner Listens to no one, out for himself Feminine conflict Overly tied to Mother with driving need to overcome Her Locked in mortal combat with the feminine striving to conquer it and assert his masculinity -- doesnt know what to do with the princess once he has won her o Coward Reluctance to stand-up for self in physical confrontation Runs away from a fight (more manly to walk away excuse) feels wretched in spite of excuse Allows self to be bullied intellectually and emotionally Caves-in under forceful pressure -- acquiesce to pressure form others Feels invaded, run-over, doormat Lacks motivation to achieve anything of importance or significance in human life When he has had enough, the bully violently takes over -- surprising the enemy Not the Author of his or her own life, but allows others to dictate their actions / reactions

TRANSFORMING:

The Power of Change and Growth; The Path of Transcending from Ordinariness to Extraordinariness. It is the knowledge and the training that moves us from Meaninglessness to Meaning IN OUR LIVES and OF OUR LIVES.

Unifying Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult): The Magician; The Sorcerer-Sorceress; The High-PriestessHigh Priest; The Guide; The Muse; Wizards; Shamans, Witch Doctors; Prophets; Merlin; Obi Wan Kanobe Incomplete (immature/child): The Precocious Child; The Sorcerer's Apprentice; The Gifted / Anointed One (Malcolm in the Middle?)

Shadow Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult):

Aggressive: The Detached Manipulator Passive: The Denying "Innocent" One

Incomplete (immature/child):

Aggressive: The Know-It-All Trickster Passive: The "Dummy"

The Transforming energy is the power of change and growth. It is the power of ascendancy and transcendence. It is the power that allows us to "go beyond" our apparent limits and to connect to the old as well as the undiscovered. It allows us to enter into the fabric of all that is and access the power of that synergy. The transforming energy accesses deep knowledge of the world and of the nature of people. It holds the essence of reality and what it means to be human. It is a profound ability to invent, create, and utilize insights into scientific technology, psychology, and sociology to have power for change and growth into the world. The transforming energy allows us to see things others don't, and to make connections others can't make. It is an access to a heightened power of observation and connection that creates "magic" and "genius" into the world. The power of transformation is accessed through many archetypal images but is essentially represented by the "ritual elder" (the shaman, the magician,) who guides the processes of transformation, both within us, and around us into the world. Everyday examples of this energy can be seen the persons of doctors, teachers, technicians, inventors, and scientists to name a few. It is not so much the pure "science" that these people can create or access, but the ancient process that underlies the discovery of such "science" that connects our modern "elders" with shamans or medicine men of "primitive " cultures, and the wizards and conjurers, witches and warlocks of ancient lore. It is a process that involves ritual, initiation, trial, test, quest, mentoring (master-apprentice relationship), guiding, teaching and above all, curiosity. The Ritual Elder opens the pathway to the connection between the sacred and the profane, the human and the divine, the body and soul, the worldly and the spiritual. She opens the door to other worlds. The transforming energy takes two basic paths: The acquisition and holding of "sacred" knowledge; and, the ability to use that knowledge as a "technology" for bringing meaning to the life of the individual and of all others, and to make the energies of Generation, Questing, and Love actual in the world.

Some Further Examples of the Transforming Energy Demonstrating a Strong Influence From the Female Energy Staying nonactive withdrawing from involvement allowing events to proceed without intervention being receptive to influence becoming calm being passive waiting patiently Accessing the unconscious using your intuition seeking guidance from within trusting your inner voice opening to dreams and the imagination being aware of a larger reality Seeing the potential understanding the possibilities opening to what could be seeing your hidden talents allowing development letting what is there flower Sensing the mystery looking beyond the obvious approaching a closed off area opening to the unknown remembering something important sensing the secret and hidden seeking what is concealed acknowledging the Shadow Magician General o Has a special knowledge or how to transform and self-actualize AND the technology - skills and strategies to make it happen for him / her self and others. o A Guide: Guides Others to their fullness o Also a deflator of over-inflated egos o Teaches others how to access the other energies (King, Warrior, Lover) and to integrate them into a whole (individuated / integrated) self. For Jung, self is not ego. Self is more in the Buddhist concept of Emptiness - empty of a separate self and in our selves are all other things. Ego is our personal consciousness. Shadow Energies o Detached Manipulator Misguides others energy from their fullness and uses their energy in order to meet the manipulators needs. Stands back and cynically pulls the strings". o Denying Innocent One o Obstructs o Transfers guilt, responsibility o Changes the focus / subject Precocious Child: the Sorcerer's Apprentice General Has a special knowledge that can help himself, herself, and others to begin the process of transforming into adulthood, but does not have the mastery of the technology to do it. the technology can be seen as emotional intelligence tied, as well, into the Warrior energy. Jerrys special knowledge in The Chocolate War is the idea that to become and adult and self-actualized one must Disturb the Universe. At the end of The Chocolate War (Chapter 38, pg. 187) Jerry arrives at a new special knowledge - They dont want you to disturb the universe, and if you do, they will kill you. This new knowledge provides the key back to the mature Warrior energy, so that Jerry will be able to be a smarter Questor and this time know the enemy and know how to win.

The source of so called child prodigies Talented in more than one area Grace Poise The sorcerers apprentice At this stage performs as the intern, novice, initiate Concentration Mind is quickened Usually a good student Introverted and reflective Achieves cognitive detachment from people around him Sees hidden connections in people and things Self-confidence Eager participation in class discussions Friends come for help and emotional support Powerful urge to help others with his talent and knowledge Also extroverted and eager to reach out and share insights and talents Origin of curiosity Origin of adventurous impulses Eager to learn Shares what he is learning with others Wants to know the why of everything as well as what, where and how Learns to read (at an early age?) to answer his own questions Adventuring in the world of ideas (actively) Urges exploration and pioneering of the unknown, strange, mysterious Wants to know what makes others and self tick Causes us to wonder at the world around and within us Stimulates intellect, curiosity, and wonder in the adult and moves him to the magician Shadow Energies Know-it-all Trickster General We can only admire others if we have a sense of our own worthiness and a developing sense of security about our own creative energies The creator of ironies and deflator of egos Can be carried over into adulthood causing inappropriate infantilism in thoughts, feelings, behavior Intimidator Enjoys intimidating others Deceives others (and self) as to depth of knowledge and importance Wants others to feel as intellectual dolts Likes making people feel ashamed of their own beauty by placing himself above, and belittling those below Dominates conversations -- turns discussions into lectures, arguments or diatribes Volunteers his knowledge not to help, but to impress others Verbally abusive of others he regards as inferiors Depreciates others who dont know what he knows or who hold different opinions Hostile and deprecating of all the real effort, rights and beauty of others Defiant conviction of own superiority -- convinced he is the 2nd coming and does not understand why others dont see Im too busy, to important to deal with you now attitude Shoots off mouth a lot Smug, cocky grin Makes many enemies Manipulator Expert at creating appearances and selling others on it (self too)

Seduces people into believing him then pulls rug out from under them -gets ust to believe, then betrays and mocks Deflator Can play the court jester Good at deflating egos (own and others) Always looking for a sucker Plays tricks of a more or less serious nature on self and others Practical joker adept at making fools of others and self Spots grandiosity and knows how and when to attack and expose frailties Sniffs out hypocrisy (self and others) when appearances are too good Amused by the failings, weaknesses, problems of others only to be given the ironic ending Hubris leads to nemesis -- gets us to walk the line so we will fail -hopefully so se can learn Officer Krupke -- the Vidals vs. the Buckleys -- the sarcastic know-it-all Envy and Authority Seeks the fall of the great man, but does not wish to take-up his mantle or responsibility Has an authority problem -- believes all men in power are corrupt and abusive and sets out to shoot them down Energy comes from envy due to lack of touch with own talent and abilities Denies own realistic greatness with envy Envy blocks creativity Has no heroes (requires admiration) Not able to take responsibility for self or actions Does not want to do anything by himself or honestly earn anything -passive aggressive Superiority hides inferiority and lack of connection Rushes to fill the vacuum left by denial of and lack of connection with the divine child Activated in us when we are deprecated and attacked by parents or emotionally abused Trickster comes when we dont feel our specialness and will take away others specialness The Dummy The dummy is also a trickster-naive (last to learn, for example, about birds and bees) Lacks personality, vigor, and creativity Unresponsive and dull (seemingly) Cant seem to do the basics - labeled a slow learner Lacks a sense of humor -- doesnt get jokes Physically inept -- poor coordination -- butt of ridicule Ineptitude masks grandiosity that feels too important and or too vulnerable to come into the world

CONNECTING:

The primal energies of Passion, Vividness, and Aliveness that connect body and spirit through sensitivity and sensuality. The power that joins all things, material and spiritual into wholeness and unity. It is the power of the Lover (Connector) and the Beloved (Connection) Experiencing Life fully.

Unifying Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult): The Lover / The Beloved; Adam and Eve; Romeo and JulietPsyche and Eros; Orpheus and Eurydice; Yin / Yang; Alchemy (Earth, Wind, Fire, Water); Arthur and Guinevere Incomplete (immature/child): The Oedipal / Electra Complexes

Shadow Archetypal Images

Complete (mature/adult):

Aggressive: The Addicted Lover Passive: The Disconnected Lover

Incomplete (immature/child):

Aggressive: The Momma's Boy / Daddy's Little Girl Passive: The Dreamer
The Connecting Energy is the power of the Lover (Connector) and the Beloved (Connection) becoming one to Experience Life fully. It employs the primal energies of Passion, Vividness, and Aliveness to guide the individual and humankind to engage their senses to sensually connect with creation, and their sensitivity to open the gates of understanding, empathy, and compassion for all living and non-living things. The Connecting Energy acts as the bond that unites all the energies (Generating, Questing, Transforming, and Connecting) together into a synergistic powerful force that draws the individual and humankind into a meaningful union. It brings The Lover to bear in all energies, thus providing an influence away from the shadow energies and a light toward connecting to something beyond the self. In a reciprocal manner, the Connecting Energy needs the power of the Generating, Transforming, Questing Energies to keep it grounded and attached to the real world and to prevent the Lover energy from drawing the individual and humankind into a dreamfantasy world of inaction, disconnection to the mortality and perfect imperfection of being human. They keep the experience of being alive a sensual, passionate, engaged, human experience. Some Further Examples of Lover Energy With a Strong Influence From The Female Energy Connecting: Relating to others establishing bonds feeling love forming a union or marriage acknowledging kinship sympathizing with another getting closer making a connection being intimate Sensual / Sensitive: Being sexual seeking union experiencing desire opening to another responding with passion feeling a physical attraction tapping inner energy

Boundries: Establishing personal beliefs questioning received opinions figuring out where you stand staying true to yourself setting your own philosophy going by your own standards making up your own mind Boundries: Determining values struggling with temptation choosing between right and wrong facing an ethical or moral choice refusing to let ends justify means finding out what you care about Lover: Experiencing Life Fully General Other energies (Generative, Questing, and Transforming) are detached and need the Lover energy for reunification within and throughout each other. The Lover needs the other archetypes for boundaries, decisiveness, and healthy reflection so a person doesn't over identify - become narcissistic. Keeps the masculine energies humane, loving, and related to one another and to real life situations. It keeps the Queen-King, Warrior, Magician from being sadistic, exploitive, cruel, or generally under the influence of the shadow. Primal Energies: Vividness Aliveness Passion Primal Hungers Food Sex Reproduction-Eternal Continuation Well-being Creative Adaptation to Hardship Ultimate Sense of Meaning Connectedness Agape: Brotherly Love - Love for Humankind Eros: Bonding and Uniting Urge of all things Amor: Complete Union of Body and Soul with another Unification of Body and Spirit / Spirit and Body Connection of Human to Divine God and World The source of spirituality, especially mysticism Creates a Sense of Meaning - Spirituality The essence of creativity is the connection and unification with the whole Open to "Collective Unconscious" of all creation, sentient and non-sentient. We are but waves on the surface of a vast sea. The Lover Connects us to what is beneath and around All Things are Bound to One Another in Mysterious Ways Everything in life is experienced in its oneness, its unity Even while experiencing life's pain, one can still experience joy Experience of the unity and oneness of the experience We become each individual AND all individuals we love. Recognizes no boundaries - wishes to live out connectedness Does not want to stop at socially created boundaries Tension between sensuality and morality Tension between love and duty Appetite For Life Through the Senses Heightened Consciousness of Life Aesthetic Consciousness (Life is Beautiful): experiences everything no matter what it is - all life is art Holographic Consciousness: not only sees, but feels Deeply Sensual and Sensitive to the Physical World Desire to touch and be touched (physically and emotionally)

Related and Connected to the World through his or her sensitivity Healthy embodiment of being in the world of sensuous pleasure in one's own body and without shame. Energy of Sensitivity and Sensuality both Internally and Externally Connects the Physical to the Infinite and Eternal through the senses Energizes the Idealist and the Dreamer - one who wishes abundance and generation Ever / Always Creating / Energizing new Opportunities and Possibilities Intuits the ultimate oneness while still in daily mortal life Archetype of Play and Display (The Mating Ritual) Passion - the feeling that goes with the intellect, empathy, sensitivity and sensuality Delight and joy in all life and the sensory experiences of life Feelings of relatedness, aliveness, connectedness, enthusiasm, empathy, compassion, energy and romance for and about our lives, goals, work, and achievements. Sensitivity Leads to Compassion and Empathy Capable of reading people "like a book" - sensitive to hidden motives Lover is Manifested in: The Artist: Lover as muse; messy; unconventional; creative unconscious The Psychic: world of sensations / vibrations; intuitions A world behind and beneath "daylight" The underlying unity of all things is present in intuition and premonition The Connoisseur: perceiver of oneness / wholeness Thinking with the Heart: feeling without the pressure to perform, look good, or manipulate Issues in the Lover Energy Lover energy is opposed to other masculine energies in many cultures Overly moralistic and self-righteous strands of Christianity, Judaism, and Islam persecute the Lover even to the point of misogyny. The mysticism movement in these religions has brought some change. The Lover creates the sacramental view of the universe as God in us Is it not through the woman (Feminine) that God enters us and the world? Hinduism is not moralistic or ethical in the Western sense, thus the sensual is part of the religion / cultural mores Oneness with all things (Brahman) Oneness with God (Atman) Respect for the sensual - celebration and joy God as exotic and sensual Shadow Energies Addicted Lover Does not wish to put any limits on sensual and sexual experience of this vast world, a world that holds the promise of unending pleasures Rejection of Boundaries Does not wish to put any limits on sensual and sexual experience of this vast world, a world that holds the promise of unending pleasures There are no boundaries and the Addicted Lover wants no limits or limitations Desire to touch what it is forbidden to touch or enter - the "Mother / Feminine Unconscious." Lack of respect for boundaries will ultimately result in Addicted Lover's own downfall. Lostness Addictive Personality - lost in the pleasures of the addiction Lost in the world of the senses, and loses contact with the real world and connectedness of the sacred and profane Captured and owned by their obsessions / possessions Unable to detach from our feelings and get in touch with self Caught in the agony and ecstasy of our own longings Eternally restless - always looking for the next yearning, searching for

something Loving and Leaving - seeker of adventure and excitement instead of connection and awareness of what is beyond self. Don Juan Syndrome Looks for the ultimate "experience" and when faced with the humanness of others is disillusioned and moves on. Inner self is not yet solidified and thus looking for self on the outside and in others Sees the world in its fragments and not its whole - moves from fragment to fragment lost in each and never seeing the underlying unity. Lives FOR the moment, not IN the moment Prone to idolatry and obsessive worship of parts and no understanding of the whole. Trapped in the Feminine Power of the Collective Unconscious - Mother Issues, struggling to get out Needs to detach from and contain the chaotic power of the "feminine" unconscious. Disconnected Lover Impotent / Frigid Lover Out of touch with the Lover in His/Her Fullness Experience lives in an unfeeling way - Flattened Affect Lack of enthusiasm, vividness, aliveness Bored and Listless Feel hungry but no appetite Alienation from families, friends, work Ennui Chronic Depression Lack of Connection to self and others even disassociation (3rd person references) Isolation Loss of envisioning and imaging the Lover Lack of active sensual activity because of being overwhelmed by the feminine unconscious and becomes passive Oedipal and Electra Child Energies: Yearning General Warm, Related, and Affectionate Connectedness Passion, deep sense of wonder and appreciation for connectedness with his inner depths, others, and all things Need for connectedness and perfect, infinite love and nurturing Expresses (through connectedness to mother) the origins of spirituality Expresses sense of mystic oneness and mutual communion of all things Deficient in Experience of Nurturing Mature Masculine or Generating the Mature Feminine Ties to Mother / Father Yearns for the Goddess beyond his own mother, beyond the beauty and feeling of the things of the world Deep yearning for the infinitely nurturing, infinitely good, infinitely beautiful Mother (the one beyond his own) -- real mother and other women cant meet needs Yearning for unconditional allowingness and acceptance Must direct his spiritual yearnings at the Goddess not at mother or women - need to relieve women of our (mans) need for them to be god-likeness Shadow Energies Mommas Boy: boys too bound to the mother get hurt Tied to apron strings Rescue rescue mother from father -- worse if father is absent or absent strikes down the god (father) for the goddess (mother) Don Juan

oedipal boy inflated beyond mortal dimensions, cannot be bound to one woman never satisfied with mortal woman because he seeks the immortal goddess -- Don Juan syndrome chases the beautiful, the poignant, the yearning of union with mother from one woman to another Autoerotic Seeks to experience own masculinity, phallic power, generativity through the divine phallus that experiences all women or experiences union with the Mother Goddess in her infinity of female forms -- rather than affirming as a mortal Does not want to do what it takes to have real union with mortal woman and deal with complex feelings involved in an intimate relationship Just wants to be -- does not want to take responsibility -- seduction makes the other responsible through the trickster The Dreamer While others play, he or she dreams, separate Dreams are melancholy but highly idyllic and ethereal Takes the spiritual impulses to an extreme Feels isolated and cut-off from human relationships Relationships with intangible things and the world of imagination within him Accomplishes little and appears withdrawn and depressed Less than honest Prefers fantasy to real relationships May love objects and things Money Car Voyeur: watches the world but never directly engages it Demonstrates through passivity his or her pique at failing to achieve possession of the mother / father -- grandiosity hidden by depression