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FOCUS ON ME
Merkley Map
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Standing at the Crossroads ............................................... Who Is Christina Merkley .................................................. Whats the It You Want to Shift? ...................................... The Focus on Me Map ...................................................... Why Graphics? ................................................................ Law of Attraction Influences ............................................. Lets Go To It .................................................................. Whats Your Satisfaction Look Like? ................................... Create Your Focus On ME Map - Quick Summary .................. Overview of Map ............................................................. Step By Step Directions - Step 1: Create Your Inner Work Zone ...................... - Step 2: Rate Health & Fun & Recreation .................. - Step 3: Rate Finances & Career .............................. - Step 4: Rate Personal Development & Relationship .... - Step 5: Rate Family/Friends & Environment .............. - Step 6: Harvest Overall Insights ............................. Video: Demo Focus On Me ................................................ Case Studies ................................................................... Now What? ..................................................................... Get More Clarity & Guidance in 45 Minutes ......................... Next Maps ...................................................................... Products & Services ......................................................... Colour Map ..................................................................... page 17 page 20 page 22 page 24 page 26 page 29 page 31 page 32 page 34 page 39 page 40 page 41 page 42 page 3 page 4 page 5 page 6 page 7 page 11 page 12 page 14 page 15 page 16
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What you hold in your hands now is a Graphic Coaching tool that will start to activate your natural ability to attract what you do want (as opposed to what you dont). A guide that will begin to bring your natural problem and ambiguity solving abilities to the forefront. YOU REALLY DO HAVE YOUR OWN BEST ANSWERS INSIDE OF YOU This Special Focus on Me Report will help you literally SEE the world you have currently created and help you jumpstart the process of creating what you next want from here. I strongly suggest that you print this document out right now and read it immediately. Plus there is a special Visual Map on the second to last page that youll want to separate out and work with --- the custom Focus on Me map cause in your world it really is all about you!
2005-2010 Christina L. Merkley www.shift-it-coach.com Page 3
But before we get totally into you, let me tell you a little bit about me and about the process you are about to enter into
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Different people have different things that they want to SHIFT in life. Some people are doing well in their business or professional life, but want to shift their personal realm. Others are the opposite: theyve got their personal life in order but their professional sides could use some focus. People come to SHIFT-IT work, like they come to most coaching work, when they are experiencing some level of angst or dissatisfaction. It might be in the area of money, prosperity or abundance. Or, in the area of health, body or fitness. Or in their desire to create better relationships or more satisfying and creative work for themselves. Whatever it is, there is a desire to have more, be more, or change your life in some way. Often its a combination of ITS: many things are coming together to form a chronic, perhaps low grade sense of unhappiness or boredom. And, in other cases, dramatic events have culminated in an intense need and desire to make shifts and make em quick! Whatever your particular circumstance I know that if you have found your way to me and you have downloaded this Special Report , your timing is such that you are ready to SHIFT one or several things in your life. And Im going to help you do exactly that!
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THE FOCUS ON ME MAP: One Step Of The Shift-It Graphic Coaching Process
The tool you are about to use is part of a larger structure called the SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process . SHIFT-IT is my seven-stage process to assist individuals in doing their own personal visioning and planning work. There are 17 visual templates in the process (called Merkley Maps). These tools can be used in order, or separately to supplement other coaching or personal growth work. The Focus on Me exercise that you are about to do, is part of the Investigate Your Now stage of the larger process.
At the Crossroads Life Maps Catch & Release Focus on Me S.E.L.F. Inventory Essential Extracts Future Self Visioning Magnetism Flip It, Flip It Good Inner Alignment Archeology of Beliefs Big Picture Plan Take Action! Declaration of Intention
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Why Graphics?
As discussed, SHIFT-IT is a visual based process made up of 17 graphic templates. As a consultant, facilitator and coach, Ive come to appreciate the many benefits of working visually --and have gone so far as to develop the SHIFT-IT Process around this effective way of working.
I have been exposed to a lot of techniques and approaches over my career and I have made a very conscious decision to primarily work in the graphic facilitation medium. Ive made this decision because working graphically is so effective. Brain researchers and learning specialists have identified that different people learn in different ways (called learning styles). A learning style is the manner in which a person best receives and processes information. Most learners fall within one of more of the following styles: Auditory, Visual or Tactile.
Auditory: Auditory learners receive information best by listening; they tend to learn best during lecture and audio-based instruction. Visual: Visual learners tend to learn better when a variety of visual aids, such as blackboards, overhead projectors, and films, are used during instruction. They often use imagery to learn complex subjects. Tactile: Tactile learners prefer to learn by doing. They usually learn best when they are allowed to use their hands and sense of touch to learn new information and apply new skills. An extension of this style is a kinesthetic learning style. Kinesthetic learners enjoy not only using their hands in the learning process but benefit from all types of physical movement while learning.
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Visual Learners Tend To Prefer Books Or Videos, Tend To Speak Quickly And Somewhat High Pitched, Stare Up When They Are Thinking And Use Language Like I See What You Mean. In The Us, 60-72% Of The Population Prefers To Learn This Way. Auditory Learners Tend To Prefer Speeches, Discussions, Tapes, Tend To Speak Slowly And Quietly, Stare Straight Ahead When They Are Thinking, And Use Language Like I Can Hear What You Are Saying. They Make Up 12-18% Of The Population. Finally, Kinesthetic (Tactile) Learners Tend To Prefer To Try Something First, Speak Quickly And With Great Changes In Intonation And Body Language, Stare Down When Thinking, And Use Language Like I Get It. Across The General Population, 18-30%.
The beauty of SHIFT-IT and its graphic templates is that not only does it benefit visual learners (the majority of us) it also benefits kinesthetic (tactile) learners (by writing and filling the templates out), and even auditory learners (if you share your work with others by talking, showing and explaining your maps to them).
The SHIFT-IT maps, while attractive and fun to use, are also deceptively simple learning tools that benefit ALL the types of learners. So much more user friendly than the majority of typical coaching methods, which are almost exclusively auditory (the smallest group in the whole population!).
And, the SHIFT-IT tools also use both sides of the brain (both logical and creative), as they incorporate both visuals and words. Resulting in a product that works for everyone and how they most easily receive and process information!
There Has Been A Great Deal Of Research Done On Brain Dominance, Which Includes Right And Left-brain Behaviors. Your Left-brains Job Is Words, Language, Analysis, Order, Logic, Numbers And Sequence. Your Right Brains Job Is Music, Rhythm, Imagination, And Patterns, Challenging Mental Models, Appreciation And Synthesis. Different People Prefer To Reside Predominantly On Different Sides The Real Power Comes From Combining The Two, When The Right And Left Brain Are Combined, The Most Long-term Learning Occurs.
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FYI: If you are a Visual Learner who is attracted to the graphic way of learning might I recommend a few of my favorite resources:
www.makemark.com This is my original site, back when I was a busy graphic recorder and facilitator. Its chock full of oodles of information, articles, mp3s, images, etc --- particularly around working visually with groups and organizations in business and community meetings.
www.grove.com My former employer my style has a distinctively Grove look to it and I am indebted to David Sibbet and his merry band of Grovesters for the time I spent with them early on in my career. Grove has excellent learning materials, I highly recommend their Strategic Visioning Process.
www.ifvp.org Check out this site for information on the International Forum of Visual Practitioners a loose, grassroots organization that links all sorts of graphic professionals form around the world. IFVP has a yearly conference and a list serv that us graphic folks communicate to one another with. Geographical index for finding professionals in your area.
www.imindmap.com Site for Tony Buzan, the originator of Mind Mapping the handy notes and learning strategy employed throughout the world. The freedom to roam the infinity expanses of your brain.
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So if you are a fan of this particular philosophy, you will most likely recognize some shared beliefs in my SHIFT-IT approach. If you are new to Law of Attraction principles, check out the Abraham site --- and youll learn some of it by osmosis as you explore SHIFT-IT more fully.
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PURPOSE OF MAP:
To determine how satisfied you currently are in the eight major areas of life. To gauge which areas of life are currently working for you and which areas are not. To identify the main areas where improvement is desired; and begin to identify what you want from here!
DESCRIPTION:
Great, now you have a sense of the overall context of this work. Now without further adieu, lets dive into the actual Focus on Me tool, which is the meat of this Special Report. A tool that is going to help you identify and begin your own SHIFT! If you look at the Focus on Me graphic, it actually looks like a large set of eye glasses or binoculars. Through this map you will literally look at yourself and your present circumstances and it can also be used in another way (which Ill tell you about later). This map helps you SEE what areas of your life are currently satisfying to you and which arent, in a very visual, tangible way. Cause in order to SHIFT your life, you first need to accurately SEE what you are starting with!
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Dissatisfaction Is a Natural Manifestation Process My SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching Process (which Focus on Me is a part of), is a seven stage coaching process that expertly guides you through own personal manifestation process. The first stage of the process is called Satisfaction Interrupted its the first S in SHIFT-IT as the name is an acronym.
In your first use of the Focus on Me map you are identifying where your particular satisfaction is interrupted in your life right now.
Dissatisfaction (as you will come to understand and appreciate) is a wonderful thing. Through dissatisfaction you get very clear what isnt working with you and if you harvest that properly, you will learn to FLIP that dissatisfaction and identify from it what it is that you really do want.
Jerry and Esther Hicks of Abraham-Hicks, call this process contrast and rockets of desire. Through the contrast of your life you get clear about what you do want from here and launch rockets of desire out in front of you (pre-paving the way for future manifestations).
This manifestation process (dissatisfaction-rocket of desire of new want-manifestation of new want) is an ongoing, ever evolving thing. Its the nature of life. The nature of evolution. We never really get there its a process as opposed to a destination. Knowing that can sometimes take the sting out of dissatisfaction --- accepting dissatisfaction and reframing it as a natural and good part of life.
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The purpose of the Focus on Me map is for you to rate your satisfaction level in these eight areas of life, on a scale of one to ten (with one being very low satisfaction and 10 being very high satisfaction). What, currently, is your state of satisfaction in each of these areas? Some of these areas you will probably be pretty high and others may be low. For example, you may be really satisfied with your health but feel low on your physical environment. Or, like some entrepreneurial clients, you may be really satisfied with the state of career/business and finances, but are realizing that health and personal relationships arent what youd like them to be. Find out what your own unique blend of satisfied and dissatisfied areas of life are by completing the Focus on Me Map.
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OVERVIEW OF MAP:
Record Square:
1-10 score in.
Career:
Finances:
Environment:
Physical environment, space, geography, land, country, building, commute, living area/home.
Friends:
Friendships and social life.
Personal Development:
Family:
Insights:
Relationship:
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How to Mark Your Scores: The Satisfaction Scale and Vote Box:
Before you begin your scoring process, it is helpful to know how to mark them.
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Learn To Love And Accept Yourself For Who You Are Right Now. Love All Of The Things You Have Already Created. You Do Not Need To Be Perfect Before You Do Your Lifes Work; Accomplishing Your Lifes Work Will Help You Grow And Evolve. As You Love And Accept Who You Are Right Now, You Make It Possible To Move In New Directions. You Have Been Doing The Best You Know How. Sanaya Roman
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Health:
Define health in the fullest sense of the word: physical, mental and emotional. To figure out your satisfaction score for the area of health, consider the following: How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Health In Your Life? Physical, Mental, Emotional? Do You Exercise? How Fit Are You? How Is Your Relationship To Your Body? How Satisfied Are You With Your Weight And Physique? Any Illnesses Or Conditions? How Is Your Outlook On Life Overall? How Is Your Energy Level? Your Mood? How Comfortable Do You Feel In Your Skin? Movement? Flexibility? Stamina? Activity? Sensuality? Sexuality?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction
Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Health Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Fun & Recreation Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
We Must Be Willing To Get Rid Of The Life Were Planning, So As To Have The Life That Is Waiting For Us. The Old Skin Has To Be Shed Before The New One Can Come. Joseph Campbell
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Finances:
How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Finances In Your Life? Do You Have Cash And Money? Access To It Somehow? Are You Able To Purchase Or Acquire The Things That You Like And Want? How Is Your Stress Level Where Finances Is Concerned? Debt? Liabilities? Bills? Credit? Mortgages? Rent? Revenue? Income? Salary? Assets And Investments? Savings? Dividends? Trusts? Employee? Self Employed? Business Owner? Investor? Financial Management? Habits? Shopping And Spending? Retirement? Older Age? Gifts? Helping Others? Giving? Donations? Tithing? Abundance? Having? Feeling Full? Scarcity? Lack? Feeling Empty Or Not Enough? Satisfied? Dissatisfied? Content? Fine?
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? Remember, this has nothing to do with how much or how little you have, only with how SATISFIED you are with what you have. 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Finances Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Career Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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(again, this is how satisfied you are with this area of life, doesnt mean you have to have any, only how satisfied you are with this ). If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Personal Development Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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Relationship / Romance:
This is the section in which to consider the role of relationship in your life: in terms of romance, love, partnership, significant connection, etc. How Satisfied Are You Currently With The State Of Relationship In Your Life? Primary Relationship? Mate/marriage? Partner? Significant Other? Girlfriend? Boyfriend? Companion? Sex? Touch? Intimacy? Closeness? Love? Connection? Conversation? Dates? Events? Activities Together? Quality? Quantity? Time? Roles? Expectations? Negotiating? Housework? Division Of Labor? Children? Trust? Confidence? Friendship? Support? Understanding? Commitment? Freedom? Ability To Be Self In Relationship? Like Partner? Love Partner? Want To Be With Partner?
Please note: It is not necessary for you to have a partner in order for you to score high satisfaction in this area. You may not have a partner and be very satisfied that you dont. Again, your score is to represent what your current state of satisfaction in this area is.
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Relationship Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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Decide Upon A Score For Your Satisfaction Level Regarding Your Family Or Origin.
It Is Never Too Late To Be What You Might Have Been. George Eliot
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Created Family:
Do You Have Your Own Family? Have You Married? Created A Significant Relationship Arrangement? How Satisfied With What You Have Created? Or Not Created? Do You Have Children? Not? How Satisfied Are You With Your State Of Parenthood Or Involvement With Children? How Are Things Going? Currently? How satisfied are you currently with the state of your created family? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Decide Upon A Score For Your Satisfaction Level Regarding Your Created Family.
Friends:
How Satisfied Are You With The State Of Friends And Friendships In Your Life? Old Friends? New Friends? Friends With Common Interests? Interesting? Exciting? Supportive? Fun? Varied? Geographically Close? Far Away Or Scattered? Amount? Numbers? Quality? Quantity? Friends Versus Acquaintances Or Colleagues? Closeness? Trust? Dialogue? Communication? Authenticity? Ability To Do Activities? Interests? Sharing? Acceptance? Emotional Intimacy? Best Friend(S)?
How satisfied are you currently with the state of friends in your life? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Decide Upon A Score For Your Satisfaction Level Regarding Friends.
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Combine Your Three Scores And Divide By Three: Write Your Final Score In The Little Box In The Family/friends Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
If you were to place a number on your current satisfaction level, what would that number be? 1 = very low satisfaction 5 = average satisfaction 10 = very high satisfaction Write Your Score In The Little Box In The Physical Environment Section. Record Any Thoughts About Why You Selected The Score That You Did: Your Rationale, Your Thinking, And Your Reasons (Positive And Negative).
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Write Your Answers In The Insights Section Of Your Template And On The Following Page.
To Have Different, Feel Different. Look Less At What Is. Look More At What Is Becoming. Abraham-Hicks
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Collect Your Thoughts In The Insights Section Of Focus On Me In The Lines Below:
http://video.google.ca/videoplay?docid=1713779891137084603 Also, heres Alans Focus on Me Map, the one created during this video:
CASE STUDIES:
This Focus on Me Map is from a Canadian man in his forties who recently made the leap to self-employment. B main concern, followed by desires to be in a relationship and to bring more softness and beauty to his environment (having relocated to a new residence after separating from his girlfriend).
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Focus On Me
A Focus on Me Map from a self-employed American woman in her fifties: while Fun & Recreation, Career and Personal Development were ranked high in satisfaction, her lower scores were in Family and Health. After stepping back and looking at her rankings she realized Im really unbalanced and It is a sad contrast between how I feel about my friends versus my family (friends being so much higher on the satisfaction scale). And recognitions about her emphasis on leadership and involvement taking a toll on her overall health and well-being.
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CONGRATULATIONS!
YOUVE COMPLETED YOUR FOCUS ON ME MAP NOW WHAT?! Further Recommended Resources and Next Steps
If you have fully completed your Focus on Me map, you should have a pretty darn good idea of where you currently stand. You can LITERALLY SEE which areas of your life are satisfying you and which arent. Very valuable information! Even this simple act of listing out your current state can bring relief and get your SHIFT-IT ball rolling. Sometimes just seeing things as they really, truly are can be the inspiration you need to start doing something about it! Kind of like really looking in the mirror after a year (or years!) of not exercising or letting yourself go. What you see can really snap you into action - big time! Other people though take a look at where they are and just use it as an excuse to continue to feel depressed, powerless or overwhelmed. Stuck in their status quo with no real shift having occurred. If this is the case with you, then you need to not stop here you need to get your mind off of what is and onto what you want it to be. Use your now as a springboard to help you identify what you do want. Develop a vision of the life you really want to be living.
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Go to that second map I had you print out and spend some focused time writing down and envisioning what a nice plump score would look and feel like in each of these areas. What does a 10 in Health for you? A 10 in Fun and Recreation? Finances? Career? Etc. Work your way around the eight different areas and have fun imagining what a full score would be for you. And full scores right across the board.
Negative Reactions:
If you couldnt get into the dreaming of this and you had a hard time figuring out what a 10 would look in all or certain areas (or after dreaming a bit your mood came crashing down) well, I hate to break it to you, but you have a Trouble at the Border problem. For whatever reason (and there can be many) you are chocked up on your asking, dreaming and allowing abilities. I can guarantee that this is part of the reason you are dissatisfied with your life right now and are seeking out help.
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Somehow you are going to have to give yourself permission to dream a little bit more and learn how to get more comfortable with what you desire. The answer is not to subdue or try to obliterate your wanting (some awareness paths preach this approach it doesnt really work - we are wanting beings and trying to shutting down your wanting is like trying to kill evolution). The better approach is to deal with your resistance and find ways through and around it. It can be done!
If You Knew Everything Was Really All Right, And That It Always Has A Happy Ending, Then You Would Not Feel Trepidations About Your Future. Everything Is Really So Very All Right! If You Could Believe And Trust That, Then, Immediately Everything Would Automatically And Instantly Become All Right. Abraham-hicks
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Bill Harris, Centerpointe, Life Principles Course (very good at explaining the cognitive ways we literally create our reality) www.centerpointe.com
Michael Losier, Law of Attraction book, a simple concise explanation of LOA concepts and principles: www.lawofattractionbook.com
Lynn Grabhorns book: Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting (Im not a huge fan of this book or this author myself (she kind of cracked up) but clients who are more practical of nature seem to resonate well with her interpretation of LOA which was highly influenced by A-H but not properly cited in my opinion).
Sheila Gillette and The Teachings of Theo are another favorite source of good Law of Attraction and manifestation information. Sheila is the woman who helped Esther Hicks tap into Abraham. Be sure to check out the Soul Integration Process as well as the book Soul Truth. Theo also has a weekly radio show and mp3 archives (see March 16, 2010 for a show I hosted for them). www.asktheo.com
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P.S. Any questions? Comments? Just send me an e-mail at: christina@shift-it-coach.com Christina Merkley The SHIFT-IT Coach I look forward to hearing from you!
2005-2010 Christina L. Merkley www.shift-it-coach.com Page 39
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2005-2010 Christina L. Merkley www.shift-it-coach.com Page 40
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