PARENTING SKILLS WORKSHOP

FOR
Parents of Children in
1st and 2nd Standards
Dr.V.PRESHOB.MA(Psy.) MS, ADCP, Ph.D(AM)
COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGIST
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MA(Psy).,MS,ADCP,Ph.D,
Counseling Psychologist
 Parents Matter
Parents are
The Most Important
People in Anybody’s Life

Because

Children are messages

we sent to a time that
we may not see
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COUNSELLING AT ISM

A BIRDS VIEW

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 LOCATION
•Behind the ‘A’ block,
•Above the middle /primary section
canteen,
SCIA
•Near the backside gate CS

•Mezzanine floor

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 TIMINGS

SATURDAY TO WEDNESDAY
7.00am to 2.00pm & 4.00pm to 6.00pm
THURSDAY
7.00am TO 11.00am

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 CONTACT DETAILS

ALL BOARD TEL. NUMBERS OF

SCHOOL
(247 02567 / 84055 / 84069 / 84097)
EXTENTION - 132
EMAIL:guidance@indianschoolmuscat.com
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 Counselling Work
Students and parents seen for behavioral
emotional / educational reasons
Workshops for students, parents &
teachers
Safety - CPR training for staff
Assessments – Aptitude / Psychological
Study abroad documents made and given
Visits to other schools
Organizing career talks& fair
Inviting professionals & experts to talk to
students
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Counseling Psychologist
 Looking back …1985 to 2008
z 9 professional counsellors worked in past

Dr.Praveen Deosthali
Mrs.Kumkum Tandon
Mrs.Ritu Malhotra
Mrs.Trinette D’Souza
Mrs.Aruna Jain
Mr.C.V.Abraham
Mrs.Leena Soneji
Mr.V.Sayeekumar
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Mrs.Sarika Gupta
 History…since 1985…
z Full time counsellors
zPRESHOB & Dr.BENNY
z Special educator
zMs.PRIYANKA DAS
z Receptionist
zMs.KAAMLA AL HASANI.
z One More Lady Counselor will
be joining soon.
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 History…since 1985…
Steadily built & in good shape.
Well equipped with resources/
competency

zWaiting for additional

infrastructure – Play
Therapy / Cabins /
Presentation equipment /
Tests and furniture.
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Counselling : Four Major Areas

EDUCATIONAL SOCIAL
Learning difficulties
Underachievement
PERSONAL Study techniques
Emotional Time Management
Fear Gifted and Special
Anxiety
Frustration Adjustment
Stress Relationship
& CAREER Attitudes
Other Information Health
On courses & jobs Habits
Career opportunities
Assessment
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 KNOW YOUR CHILD

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 Circle of Human Life

Old
Infanc Age Middle Age
y
Child hood (Early
and Late) Adulthood
Adolescence

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Physical Development 5-8years…
•throws ball
weight: 31-57 pounds
height: 39-48 inches overhead
sleeps 9-11 hours at night •catches bounced
may begin to loose baby teeth
able to dress self with little
balls
assistance •rides a tricycle
skilled at using scissors and
small tools skillfully,
shows development of •uses a fork and
permanent teeth knife well
enjoys testing muscle
strength and skills •cuts on a line with
has good sense of balance scissors
can tie shoe laces •hand dominance is
enjoys copying designs and established
shapes, letters and numbers
may have gawky awkward •jumps over low
appearance from long arms
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 Mental development
5-8years…
Knows basic colors
Memorize address and phone number • Enjoys tracing or copying
Understands that stories have a letters
beginning middle, and end
Enjoys telling own stories • Sorts objects by size
Knows books are read from left to • Understands more, less
right, top to bottom
Enjoys riddles and jokes and same
Draws pictures that represent animals, • Counts up to 10 objects
people, and objects
May reverse printed letters (b/d)
• Understands before and
Enjoys planning and building after, above and below
May show a stronger interest in • Is project minded—plans
reading
Increases problem-solving ability buildings, play scenarios,
Has longer attention span and drawings
Enjoys creating elaborate collections • Interested in cause and
Shows ability to learn difference
between left and right effect
Can begin to understand time and the
days of the week
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 Social and emotional
development 5 to 8 years…
Invents games with simple ¾Likes to try new things and take
rules risks
Organizes other children ¾Likes to make own decisions
and toys for pretend play ¾Notices when another child is angry
Still confuses fantasy with or sad—more sensitive to feelings of
others
reality sometimes ¾Likes to feel grown up; boasts about
Can take turns and share self to younger less capable children
but doesn’t always want to ¾Has a very basic understanding of
Often excludes other right and wrong
children in play — best ¾Understands and respects rules—
friends only often asks permission
¾Understands and enjoys both giving
Uses swear words or
and receiving
“bathroom words” to get
¾Enjoys collecting things
attention
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 Social and emotional
development 5 to 8 years…
Invents games with simple ¾Likes to try new things and take
rules risks
Organizes other children ¾Likes to make own decisions
and toys for pretend play ¾Notices when another child is angry
Still confuses fantasy with or sad—more sensitive to feelings of
others
reality sometimes ¾Likes to feel grown up; boasts about
Can take turns and share self to younger less capable children
but doesn’t always want to ¾Has a very basic understanding of
Often excludes other right and wrong
children in play — best ¾Understands and respects rules—
friends only often asks permission
¾Understands and enjoys both giving
Uses swear words or
and receiving
“bathroom words” to get
¾Enjoys collecting things
attention
4/7/2009 ¾Sometimes needs to get away and
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 STRATEGIES FOR EFFECTIVE
PARENTING

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 INTROSPECTION……
Setting Expectations – The Pygmalion
Effect

Indian/Asian Parents of Middle

East
surplus income
meager time
children learning to indulge in electronic
entertainment - emotional blackmailing
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- addiction
MA(Psy).,MS,ADCP,Ph.D,
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 Spending Quality time with
kids
1. SPEND EVENING TOGETHER
2. TURN OFF THE TV
3. TAKE A VACATION
4. PLAN A PICNIC
5. TELL THEM ABOUT YOUR WORK

6. EAT TOGETHER
7. HELP THEM WITH HOME WORK
8. ENJOY THE WEATHER TOGETHER
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9. SHARE WHILE YOU DRIVE
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 LOOK AT CHILD’S FACE
& MAKE EYE CONTACT

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 GET DOWN ON FLOOR
& PLAY WITH CHILD

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 TALK AND SING WITH CHILD

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 GIVE CHILD CHOICES

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 MAKE NUTRITIOUS SNACKS

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TOYS FOR GROWTH & DEVELOPMENT

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 ENCOURAGE CHILD
FREQUENTLY

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GIVE ATTENTION FOR POSITIVE BEHAVIORS,
IGNORE NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS
WHENEVER POSSIBLE

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 PLAYING & BEING SMART

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 PLAYING & BEING SMART

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Counseling Psychologist
 PLAYING & BEING SMART

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SHOPPING … WITH CHILDREN
OPPORTUNITIES FOR PARENTING
This helps them learn how to behave in different
places.

Don't give into tantrums, shouting or taking shelf

items by offering 'treats‘ :

Involve children in planning what you need to

buy - plan shopping when they are likely to be
happy, not tired or hungry

Talk to them about ownership, about what is

theirs, yours, the family's,
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shop's MA(Psy).,MS,ADCP,Ph.D,
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 - Young children learn by touching things
Ask questions like 'Can you find the toothpaste we
usually get?' involve them in paying for groceries,
carrying a light bag or putting things in the trolley

Use shopping times as a way to teach them about

money, saving and where money comes from –

Listen to what children say they would like while

shopping, thank them for telling you,

Differentiate between what we want and what we

need will help you explain why you shop the way you
do. shopping can be fun!

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Counseling Psychologist
 1. What your child want most is your
time.
2. Do your best as a parent, but accept
your imperfections. Your child will
forgive your mistakes,
3. Your actions say more than your
words. Before you admonish, ask
yourself three questions: Is it
necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? If
you want your child to be honest and
kind, you should be honest and kind
yourself.
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4. Listen to your child before you speak on any
matter.

5. Self-esteem is the cornerstone of emotional

health. When you correct negative behavior,
offer two suggestions for preferred behavior
and let your child choose between them.

6. The most effective punishment is the temporary

and explained loss of your approval.

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 7. When your child asks a question,
give a simple, truthful answer,
regardless of the topic on about
death, health, reproduction etc.

8. Make it a daily priority to show

respect for our environment's
limited resources.

9. Your child will form many

relationships in life —but yours is
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unique and will persist. Focus your
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 Parents and other caregivers often have
questions about discipline. Although
discipline means to teach or guide, the
term is frequently associated with
punishment. The goal of discipline is to
teach kids how to act appropriately in a
family, with friends, in school and the
community. We have the responsibility to
guide children so that they become
competent, caring and contributing
members of society.
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 DISCIPLINING
DISCIPLINING IS ABOUT
TEACHING CIVILISED
BEHAVIOR.
NOT ABOUT PUNISHMENT
OR
CHILD ABUSE
BE WARE OF ABUSERS.
TAKE PREVENTIVE STEPS & PREPARE THEM
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 FACTORS AFFECTING
LEARNING
DYSLEXIA

DYSGRAPHIA

DYSCALCULI
A
ADHD
AUTISM
ANXIETY
DEPRESSION
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DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY
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 FACTORS AFFECTING
LEARNING

EMOTIONAL ISSUES
GIFTED
LOW SELF ESTEEM
STRESS
SCHOOL REFUSAL

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 FACTORS AFFECTING LEARNING

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 FACTORS AFFECTING LEARNING

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4/7/2009
Thank You
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Counseling Psychologist
 Your child is not
responsible for
rewarding your
parenting; that
gratification comes
from within.

Parenting is a labor of great joys, deep sorrows and,

most of all, lasting satisfaction.

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 Happy Parenting !

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