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Until we realise that we are responsible for the situation we find ourselves in then we cannot or will not effect change.
R: Responsibility brings us to that crucial area Cause and Effect. Until we realise that we are responsible for the situation we find ourselves in then we cannot or will not effect change. E: brings us to our Ego and what part it is playing in our immobility. The Ego is the voice that whispers What if...; What will people say...?; Who are you to think you can succeed when youve always failed before? Well I say - and Im not the first - Who are you not to? As Marianne Williamson wrote (1996, pp. 190-191), Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually who are you not to be?...And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As were liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. D: And finally all this does call for Discipline. Without it we cannot really do anything. Self-discipline does not come easily to many, especially when it relates to our bodies. When both Maureen and Jenny started to see their body as something that was doing no more and no less what they were telling it to do, when they shifted their awareness to the wonder of themselves and others rather than continuously obsessing inwardly about how ugly they were, all
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IF YOU NEED TO HARNESS THE POWER OF YOUR THOUGHTS TAKE MORE CARE OF YOURSELF SHOW GREATER SELFDISCIPLINE
sorts of beauty, joy and happiness started to appear in their lives. I asked them to answer the following questions every day for thirty days: What am I happy about today? What am I excited about today? What am I proud of today? What am I grateful for today? What am I committed to today? Who do I love and who loves me? This simple and powerful discipline takes only 10 minutes and encourages a positive outlook before the day starts. I also directed Maureen and Jenny towards Spencer Johnsons little book One Minute For Yourself. In it (2005, p. 56), he says that taking care of yourself encourages inner success and inner success is reflected as outer success: When I take care of Me, I can take better care of Thee and then Together we can take better care of We. With a switch of thinking, some constructive coaching and a good degree of understanding, discipline and affirmation, these two women are well on their way to being thoroughly effective and happy individuals. Jo Middlemiss is a qualified Life Coach with a background in education and relationship counselling, tel. 01356 648329, www.dreamzwork.co.uk. Jo offers readers a confidential and complimentary half-hour telephone coaching session (for the cost only of your call.)
MATERIALS A piece of board - A2 size is about right. Fibreboard is ideal as you can stick pins into it. Its best to use it landscape. Pale blue fabric to cover the whole board. Old polycotton sheeting is fine for this. Beige fabric to cover the lower third of the board - representing the area under the ground where roots form. Thin strip of greenish fabric to form a grass level. Brown fabric - for the vines trunk and roots. Glue (PVA is good as it doesnt show through the fabric). Leaf-green fabric (several shades of green would be great). Purple paper for the grape-bunch labels (not too dark, as you will be writing on them). Earthy-brown paper for the clod-of-earth labels. Pens, scissors, and pins. BRAWN Stick the blue fabric on the board to cover it completely and add the beige across the bottom third, forming the earth. Draw your vine on the brown fabric and cut it out. Its a good idea to make it a long-branched variety so that you will have lots of room for the bunches of grapes, also leaving room for the clods of earth. Stick your vine on, and stick the grass across where the roots meet the trunk and the earth meets the sky. Write the word FRIENDSHIP along the trunk. Now you have the basic form to which your clients can attach labels. IN PRACTICE - STAGE 1 It is important that you discuss with your clients the reasons for making the board, and begin with the benefits of being able to make friends (follow up with how to make friends later). The clients will tell you why friendship is important, but you should end up with a list including things like: company (for example when going out); someone to talk to; someone to share things and ideas with; someone to take your side; someone to send you a postcard; someone to give you support when you are feeling depressed; someone to try out jokes on. Write down all the suggestions as they are given, and then give everyone in the group some purple paper and scissors to cut out bunches of grapes to stick on the tree. (The tendency is for people to cut shapes that are too small to write on, so suggest to them that they write first, then cut out and pin on the vine.) Now you need to tackle the roots of the vine in a similar way, first discussing the foundations and responsibilities for friendship forming. Make a list, this time including such ideas as: being cheerful; providing support; being loyal; being trustworthy; sharing; keeping secrets. Other roots will mention skills such as going to places where potential friends might be; joining in; talking; recognising a true friend. It is likely that several of these areas will be unfamiliar to your clients, especially the areas that are not a problem to them, so you will need to give an outline description; however, you are not actually teaching these skills at this stage. Again make the suggestions into labels and pin them to the vine, this time using clod-shapes, at the roots. IN PRACTICE - STAGE 2 Ask everyone how they feel about the vine, and which bits apply to them. Discuss how real vines use their roots to draw nourishment from the earth, and can therefore produce grapes. Try to make the point really clearly through discussion that, if the clients work at the prerequisite skills, they will be able to reap the benefits.
Alison Roberts is a speech and language therapist at Ruskin Mill Further Education College in Nailsworth, Gloucestershire.
References
Allen, J. (2002) As a Man Thinketh. Deseret Book Company. Forstater, M. (2001) The Spiritual Teachings of Marcus Aurelius. London: Hodder Mobius. Hamilton, D. (2005) Its the Thought that Counts. Chippenham,Wilts: Dr David R. Hamilton. Johnson, S. (2005) One Minute For Yourself. London: HarperCollins Entertainment. Lewis, C.S. (2002) Surprised by Joy. London: Fount. Murphy, J. (2000) The Power of your Subconscious Mind. London: Pocket Books. Williamson, M. (1996) A Return to Love: Reflections of the Principles of a Course in Miracles. London: HarperCollins.
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