It took me long to scribbled down on some sensitive, hard to find delicate feeling , mostly misjudged , but a beautiful feeling

to those who get involve with it. Well, this post is about making you understand about those few people, if not, most of those people and their feelings. I call it coalcoholism

Feb month is that month in which LOVE plays major role. These three-four words look similar but carry a lot of meaning and difference. Yeah I know love means different things to different people. It depends on perception. Why you love me? Whats love? Everything takes up its own definition and meanings w.r.t people and situations. But there is one universal truth in these all love stories or all lovers or all true loves (I say here as true love because most of time many people will end up with thinking there attraction, crush or infatuation as love. And they will start to be in notion that they are in love. There is nothing called true love. Its only love) that is love is boundless or reason less. There is no because or there is no perfect reason for love. You just do it. There is a lot of difference between intuition and action. You wont love someone by thinking you have to love. Love happens eventually with people as and when you start to spend time with them, as you start to have intimate relation with them un knowingly. That intimate relation makes you understand that person; you start to love that personality. If you think you love someone because you like some character in it or because you like some skills in them. That means you are in halogenation that whatever you think is love. Instead whatever it may be.. But it will end as you find change in the character or skillset. Love cant survive with reason, so there wont be any love with reasons. Even if there is a love with reasons or causes, it will vanish as soon as that purpose is fulfilled. Love is elegant and totally abstract feeling between two in any relation. It always remains between two. There is no point is saying others that I love her/him, or I love someone. If you have trust on your love most of time you dont prefer to tell all. If you happen to do so, that means you may be getting ready for worst cases, means you may have some other reasons to share your love stories with others ( dignity, fashion, prestige , cautiousness, calculative, precautionary, insecure, safety) . Its a sacred feeling better you keep it with the one whom you love. It will help in keeping that love

relation very long and healthy. You will start to believe in your relation, you both will take responsibility; you yourself grow mature as time passes by in that relation. You may enjoy each and every moment of it without third person intervention. Another misconception, love hurts; love is poison and all . What all I know is, love doesnt hurt, and its just breakup or separation that hurts you. Most of unsuccessful love stories share one thing in common, that is parents wont agree for the marriage. I loved her so much but she dumped me, I dont trust love, I hate the word love. This all many of us might have encountered. But the fac t is , yet in that breakup or separation love might have won. Love towards you may fit in less suitable position when they compare the love towards their parents. Yet again because of love they have to make a move forcefully. Love always gives happiness and it is positive side of life. But separation or breakup brings sadness or hurtness as its negative side of life. Between I am not here to talk about that all my concern is about Loving too much

Most of breakups / separations are because of failure in understanding the person. Sometime that person may be of special kind called Loving very much. They are built in that manner but you may miss read them. Yes I am here to talk about Loving very much. You are reading something and you like some lines and you mark them out and think that these lines will be useful for her so that you can make note of it. You find your girl/boy is not understanding something technically, even though you are as new as her you will sit and start to work out and by morning you will try to explain her what all you understood. You want to go to some other place, but you try to take some long route so that you can surprise your girl/boy, all you may want to see is innocent smile on her face for each of such small things you do. You forget to wish your mom dad anniversary while you keep yourself busy in thinking how to celebrate your GF/BF birthday. You start to get to know each other so well that you try to make every possible thing which makes her/him happy. You start to take care of other so much that you start to give her/him more importance than anything. Smallest thing that causes problem to her/him may look big for you. You may start to think on what makes them problem free. For you taking care of them, giving whatever love you have with you to them is the only thing that takes the priority. You may have or you may face any problem

because of her still you want to be with them because they meant you so much. Sometime problems becomes so severe that you start to suffer within yourself and yet you will remain in confused state that whether I should share with her/him or not? Thats because you want them to be happy, you may not be interested in sharing your sorrows, slowly you will never notice when you became introvert (suffering within, hate to express the pain). You will start to get irritate or feel unhappy or getting upset if you find your girl/boy sharing or giving importance to someone else. You start to develop expectations from them. Slowly your attachment towards them increases exponentially, there comes a time where in they will become your world. As time passes by attachment will slowly become obsession and you will find yourself most beautiful stage of life. Its good to be obsessed by someone until unless they respect it. Guys if you think above said lines suits to you almost, I say you belongs to special kind of people called Loving too much or Loving very much. If you doesnt belongs to this kind, then please do check your better half, BF/GF, bro/sis, or your friend or anyone with whom you have intimate relation that whether they belongs to Loving too much ?? If so you have to handle there feelings very precisely. Do respect there efforts, do respect there feelings towards you, appreciate there small efforts that was tried to make you happy, be with them in there tough time and happy time because your smallest response, smallest care, smallest appreciation, a cute smile, a complete acceptance will make them feel very special and happy. Most of time breakups or separation that you do will hurt them so much that it makes them tough to trust back again, to get that confidence back, they loose themselves, they end up with being alone and they always start to feel insecure within themselves. It makes them to keep themselves away from any other relation. You may start to get irritated with there care, with there love, with there surprises. You may feel like to take time gap and you may get separated by any reason. ( most of the time the main reason for separation is mis understanding , mis reading the people, mis judging them, giving more importance to your ego). I have heard lot of time if you are hurt or if you are having some mis communication or mis understandings , please go ahead and apologise and make sure your relation is back on track. If you apologise, it wont make you feel low or it is also not like you are wrong and he is correct, it just mean that you give hell lot of importance to your relation that your ego. If both belongs to loving too much kind, then I am sure you will be most happy. Why so ?? its because you will make each others happy by being yourself, you need not have to do something extraordinary or something special to make other happy. You feel that your partner has some expectations from you, you do respect those expectations because Expectations are gift, not a

curse.. when people start to expect something descent from you that means you have given them reasons to believe in you. Loving too much kind of people doesnt believe in defeating others, they just win other. Sometime even though mistake is yours, they tend to apologise 1st. It will be very nice when someone knows every single details about you, your likes, dis likes.. Not because you told them its because they were part of your life with so much attention in it. Life will become very serious sometime, but remember you constantly need company of those lovely people with whom you can be completely stupid with. They dont expect these Formal words like thank you, sorry, miss you, take care, and love you. But when you say it you make sure you meant it with its true meaning. Its not hard to sacrifice everything but its difficult to find those who can respect your sacrifice. Relationships are like illusive... It may appear something to you and may mean something to others. But its your relation and so its up to you to beautifully define it and admire it. Each relation will start to fade slowly; its up to you to re-energise and to give good quality of time with that relation. As you grow old you may not have same interest with the job and making name, but you surely need some good company, a good spouse, a good friend, a good lover, a good sister, a good brother or a good partner with whom you can spend some time with, with whom you can talk too. Smallest things in your life is what really matters in any relation, its not your position , its not your mansion, its not your car, property or any bank balance. They just create a environment for safer life but they cannot give happiness by themselves unless you have a life to live with you. Find good quality time to be your best husband/wife, or to be your friends friend. Have a very intimacy in your relation. Make your life a happy one.