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what “wasting seed” means. Some argue that it refers to coitus interruptus
(withdrawal of the penis from the vagina before ejaculation). The text tells
us that Onan had sexual relations with Tamar, so that would seem to be a
logical conclusion. But those who coined the term may also have believed
that, by masturbating, a man weakens his ability to impregnate a woman,
and so they assumed Onan masturbated in order to avoid his obligation.2
Hence “onanism” is defined in the dictionary as both withdrawal before
ejaculation and solitary sex, and even, in some cases, all sex that does not
involve vaginal penetration.
Thinking about onanism in reference to solitary sex has strong prec-
edent in the Babylonian Talmud, where Onan’s crime is used as a proof
text to support an antipathy toward male self-arousal. The deed is emphati-
cally condemned in the Mishnah: “Every hand that frequently checks: in
women, it is praiseworthy but in men you should cut it off ” (Nidah 2:1).
The text does not support female masturbation; in fact, the Gemara here
assumes that women can check because they will not experience a sensa-
tion through self-examination (BT Nidah 13a). This viewpoint, however,
is inconsistent with other rabbinic passages. One text in BT Avodah Zarah
44a3 indicates an awareness that women used phalluses to masturbate, and
comments about lesbian behavior indicate that the Rabbis were aware that
women rubbed against one another (presumably also by themselves) to
achieve orgasm (BT Yebamot 76a).4
But this text is concerned primarily with men, not women. Although
it reinforces women’s obligation to check their genitals for any flow that
might indicate the start of their menses — defining their entrance into their
monthly state of nidah, or seclusion — its main focus is to remind men, in
no uncertain terms, of their obligation to refrain from touching their pe-
nises because, as the Gemara explains, it may lead to self-arousal. Whether
that arousal is intentional or unintentional doesn’t matter; the Gemara’s
only concern is with the resulting semenal emission. But although the
Rabbis warn against all possible emission of semen, they take particular
notice of self-arousal with intent to achieve pleasure.
The Gemara that focuses on intentional self-arousal (BT Nidah 13b)
makes it clear that this is unacceptable because it will result in terrible and
dangerous consequences, including having one’s hand cut off. According
to Rav, “anyone who willingly causes himself to have an erection will be
banned by the community.” Rabbi Ami calls such a person a “renegade”
(avaryen) and blames the yetzer ha ra (the evil inclination) for inducing
a temptation that the masturbator cannot resist. Rabbi Ami assumes that
self-arousal will ultimately lead a man down a slippery slope that ends in
idol worship. The connection to Onan is attributed to Rabbi Yosi, who
suggests that “anyone who incites himself lustfully is not brought into the
precinct of the Holy One, blessed be He” (in other words, one who arouses
himself will not be welcome in the World to Come) because he, like Onan,
“did what was displeasing to the Lord.” Death, Onan’s fate, would also be
the fate of the lustful inciter. Finally, Rabbi Eliezer is credited with accus-
ing masturbators of “committing adultery with their hand,” citing Isaiah
1:15 (“Your hands are full of blood”) in support.
The discussion in the Gemara concludes by considering whether the
mishnaic punishment, to cut off a man’s hand, is a law or merely a curse.
According to Rabbi Tarfon, it is better to be without a hand than to end
up “descending into the pit of destruction.” Although it is unlikely that
masturbation was a crime that was actually punished, and the Gemara is
inconclusive as to whether cutting off the hand is a law or simply a curse
that serves as an admonition, the text gives us a sense of how strongly the
Rabbis felt about the evils of male self-arousal and the lengths to which
they would go to warn against it.
So, according to Jewish tradition, solitary sex is unthinkable for men
and rarely considered for women. Men who masturbate are doing wrong
because they should work to control their impulses. A man’s yetzer ha ra
needs to be managed through appropriate sexual engagements with his
wife. It is important to remember that, unlike Onan’s obligation simply to
produce an heir for his dead brother, those sexual encounters were sup-
posed to result both in procreation and sexual pleasure for both partners,
as concretized in the law that a man is required to satisfy his wife sexually,
known as onah. As long as sex was channeled properly, it was not viewed
negatively. Just about any sexual position was considered acceptable in
marriage, as was contraception in certain circumstances. But orgasm, even
if viewed positively, was to be experienced only within the context of ap-
propriate relationships, and certainly not by individuals in solitary exer-
cises that encouraged sexual fantasy or had the potential to turn them away
from their social obligations.
To understand the rabbinic view of solitary sex with the goal of mov-
ing Jewish thinking beyond negative pronouncements, it may be instruc-
tive to look at the parallel case of homosexuality.
The most obvious similarity between these two phenomena is the way
the differences between same-sex desire is described in men and women.
In the Hebrew Bible there is no same-gender sexuality for women and
NOTES
I am grateful to Sarra Lev and Danya Ruttenberg for their helpful editorial com-
ments on this essay.
1. For a full discussion of the history of the definitions used to define the
practice, see Martha Cornog, The Big Book of Masturbation: From Angst to Zeal
(San Francisco: Down There Press, 2003), 3 – 14; for a list of slang terms in all
languages, see 15 – 22. Cornog distinguishes solitary sex from masturbation that is
a component of sexual activity involving others, as do I throughout this essay.
2. See Michael Satlow, “ ‘Wasted Seed’: The History of a Rabbinic Idea,” He-
brew Union College Annual 65, no. 1 (1994): 159.
3. R. Jose answered them: “But has it not been stated, And also Maacah the
mother of Asa the king, he removed her from being queen, because she had made
an abominable image . . . he made dust of it, and burnt it at the brook of Kidron!
. . . What means miplezeth [abominable image]? Rab Judah said: [An object which]
intensifies licentiousness [maphli’lezanutha] as R. Joseph taught: It was a kind of
phallus with which she had sex every day.”
4. Greco-Roman civilization was also aware of similar practices of female
masturbation. See Vern L. Bullough, “Masturbation: A Historical Overview,” Jour-
nal of Psychology and Human Sexuality 14, no. 2/3 (2002): 22 – 23.
5. See Arne Decker and Gunter Schmidt, “Patterns in Masturbatory Behav-
ior: Changes between the Sixties and the Nineties,” Journal of Psychology and Hu-
man Sexuality 14, no. 2/3 (2002): 35 – 48.
6. Thomas Walter Laqueur, Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation
(New York: Zone Books, 2003).
7. See Eli Coleman, “Masturbation as a Means of Achieving Sexual Health,”
Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality 14, no. 2/3 (2002): 5 – 16. Coleman
cites research which indicates that masturbation is an early marker of healthy
sexual development. It has also been used as a technique to help those with hy-
poactive sexual desire disorder. See Brian Zamboni and Isiaah Crawford, “Using
Masturbation in Sex Therapy: Relationships between Masturbation, Sexual De-
sire, and Sexual Fantasy,” Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality 14, no. 2/3
(2002): 123 – 142.
8. Zamboni further argues that sexual fantasies are necessary in many cir-