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December 1, 2011 by Aaron Jackson 142 Comments By Bronnie Ware on November 30, 2011 For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

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People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someones capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 1. I wish Id had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 2. I wish I didnt work so hard. This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their childrens youth and their partners companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 3. I wish Id had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either
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that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called comfort of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness. Sources: http://www.activistpost.com/2011/11/top-5-regrets-of-dying.html http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html
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Joy says: December 2, 2011 at 6:08 am Poignant. I think in some ways we all die a bit each day as we invest energy, time, resources into things that arent necessarily dear to us. We can make the choice to live fully, in the moment we are given.Thank you for this timely reflection!

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angela says: December 2, 2011 at 6:25 am Like Joys Comment Actually Love!!

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Rafael says: December 2, 2011 at 6:28 am Thank you for sharing this.

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Anonymous says: December 2, 2011 at 12:27 pm Thanks for the wisdom.

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Jay Forte says: December 2, 2011 at 1:24 pm Outstanding post. Thanks for sharing. Someone told me once that we learn most about living from those who are dying. Those facing death have given up the false sense of themselves, and the requirement of being something they are not. And with that clarity, they see how a great life is to lived. It is in being authentic and true to who you are having the courage to choose to play to your gifts and inventing life as it needs to be for you. Now if only we would learn and listen so we could live that kind of life now, instead of lamenting what could have been. I call this living in our greatness zone that place that allows us to be who we really are and do what we do best to help transform the world. Keep posting. Thanks.

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Anonymous says: December 2, 2011 at 2:03 pm Thanks for sharing.!

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Anonymous says: December 2, 2011 at 3:43 pm Thanks for the timely reflections as Joys said. I have experienced this with my own parents when they died. Love, friendships brings happiness to life in the end, that is all that counts..

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Edie marie says: December 2, 2011 at 5:45 pm I was told by a very wise man stricken with Parkinson disease that its a lie to believe in the golden years, do not wait until you are too old, sick, &/or scared to do or go whatever your heart desires. These activities are for the young and healthy. And someone also told me that most of lifes regret comes from not what we do.but what we dont do.

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Rhoberta Shaler, PhD says: December 2, 2011 at 6:26 pm It is such a privilege to share this amazing time of life with folks. The very first point you make struck me powerfully. Thats because, in our book, Soul Solitude: Taking Time for Our Souls to Catch Up, we talk about two big predicaments that cause us to give up living our own authentic lives. The first is: living up to the expectations of others. In our work, as in yours, weve found that helping people express who they are from the inside out is the greatest gift. Then, we add the skills to sow peace within, at home & at work. Thanks so much for sharing this. I wish you well.

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Charlene Christiano says: December 2, 2011 at 6:49 pm Having been in nursing for over 27 years, including palliative care, I agree that people often express regrets near the time of death. Two others Ive heard very often are I wish I loved more and I wish I had been more forgiving. Not once did I hear, I wish I had more money. So, Im working to change the concept of wealth to include health, relationships, mindset, wisdom, service to others, and lastly money. I call it Wealth Care. Thank you for a wonderful article to remind people what is truly important about living a full life.

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Anonymous says: December 2, 2011 at 8:06 pm Seldom does someone on their death bed say things like: I wish I had spent more time in the office I wish I had not spent that $5000 on a European tour. I wish I hadnt gone to my granddaughters piano recitals and had stayed home to watch a football game on TV instead.

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Amelia says: December 2, 2011 at 9:49 pm It makes you think, alright. Great article!

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David Sunfellow says: December 2, 2011 at 9:56 pm The original author of this article is Bronnie Ware. Their website is located here: http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html Based on this article, Bronnie has released a full-length book, titled The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

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linda says: December 2, 2011 at 10:01 pm I think you should use spell check before you publish a story. It looks bad for you to put this out like this. Otherwise it was an interesting article.

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Becky Hughes says: December 2, 2011 at 10:26 pm 4 books I HIGHLY recommend: Lessons from the Dying -by Rodney Smith, Final Gifts -by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelly, The Denial of Death -by Earnest Becker, The Grace in Dying -by Kathleen Dowling Singh. Also, A General Theory of Love -by Thomas Lewis, M.D., et al. is an amazinghttp://users.trytel.com/~jfalt/Ene-med/j-p.html book for those who want to better understand the

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biology of love, (how oxytocin works, etc.). Cheers!

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Bob says: December 2, 2011 at 10:26 pm Thanks for sharing this great article with me! It makes good sense and its never too late for a person to make positive changes & better choices. One such good choice is for a person diagnosed with Sleep Apnea to stay on their CPAP therapy. This will promote better health & the chance at living a happier life! Please check out http://www.RemZzzs.com for a cotton mask liner that will make it possible to wear the CPAP mask. You can email & get a free sample!

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Bruce says: December 2, 2011 at 10:30 pm I think you should use spell check before you publish a story. It looks bad for you to put this out like this. Otherwise it was an interesting article Really Linda? Thats what you took away from the articlenot using spell check? You may want to read it again..and againand again until you really understand the message.

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Gweb says: December 2, 2011 at 11:01 pm The first regret strikes me the hardest. It very hard to stop being what you think people want you to be and just be yourself. Its hard to even know what yourself is.

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stephen adams says: December 2, 2011 at 11:27 pm i took redundancy after working 25 years in a job i hated, i am now an actor and even though im earning a lot less than my old job i feel more fulfilled,

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Anonymous says: December 2, 2011 at 11:28 pm Beautiful!

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Thank you.

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Anonymous says: December 2, 2011 at 11:30 pm Thanks for posting this!!!

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Kelly says: December 2, 2011 at 11:35 pm Greetings, We would very much like to share a link to your project on our resource page for our own Human Voice Project. Please feel free to visit our website and contact me if you think this is a good connection. Warm regards, Kelly

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SC says: December 3, 2011 at 1:28 am A lot of these problems are touching and sad. I imagine dying in palliative care puts your mind in this world. But there is no reason to think there isnt life after death, hope inside of ruin and triumph in defeat. Keep your eyes focused there and you can live this life, and the next!

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Frau Duncan says: December 3, 2011 at 1:36 am What a wonderful article. Thanks for sharing so much truth. It affirms what I have been thinking during the past year and a half. I have been living in the shadowlands for so many years, and one of my best friends simply told me not to do it one more year, let alone more. It is time to live a life that glorifies God and is the one I am supposed to live. I can honestly say that my beloved friends who are the family I choose know that I love them more than words can express in either German or English. Speaking of languages: what appears to be misspelled words are the British English spellings of those words. Now you know.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 2:05 am Haha after reading that all you can say is use spell check get a life . It was amazing to hear that much wisdom thank you

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Sheryl Miller Davis says: December 3, 2011 at 2:24 am Thank you for sharing this message. It came across my path right when I needed it. On Monday I am heading to Texas to pack my dad up and move him in with me and my family here in Georgia. He has lived in that area of Texas his entire life, this will be a very difficult move for him. He has several health issues now to where he cant drive or live alone. He doesnt have to many years left and is not comfortable with the loss of Independence. Hes already hit the feelings of denial, fear, anger and remorse I feel like hes even going through a stage of rebellion. I cant wait to share this article with him. I enjoyed reading all the other comments as well, I now have some books I need to get my hands on that will be very helpful to us.

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Barry Radun says: December 3, 2011 at 4:33 am I think you should use spell check before you publish a story. It looks bad for you to put this out like this. Linda Please point out the spelling mistakes you think need to be spellchecked.

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Mohan Kannegal says: December 3, 2011 at 4:50 am Excellent article. Ihave been thinking about this since my parents are aging and it is a painful thing to watch. But then again, I question some it. What we feel when we are about to die should be a basis for making lifes choices but cannot be the only basis. This thing about hard work is tricky. We work hard because we are afraid of dying poor which is a very real risk for everyone. We also want to have an identity/respect/a satisfied ego and a full stomach everyday; work gives us this. While you have met those who could afford care in their older years, I wonder if those dying poor (and probably could not afford the care) would say I wish I had not worked hard. We die a long time after we have lived. So the question is how do we want to live AND how do we want to die. The balance is the hard part. Most times I see that the people who worked hard and got ahead in life early have the most time for love and relationships in later years (some dont because they make a different choice, but most do). Usually wealth is also equal to more leisure and more income to ensure better relationships. All the same, there is a lot to learn from what you have said for me the key learning is do not live another persons life. This means a lot to me, makes me introspect.

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Kathi says: December 3, 2011 at 5:12 am Linda..I hope you dont expect perfection from all people in your life. HE (perfection) died many, many years ago!

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phoebe says: December 3, 2011 at 5:12 am I suspect Linda doesnt realize that words like learnt and realise and honoured are all common variations in British English.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 5:47 am I would say I wished I had nnot changed shifts for others who would not make sure I got to my childrens recitals Hop they regret not being fair

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monique says: December 3, 2011 at 6:42 am Hardwork and financial security are important. The essence of the article highlights the greater purpose of our lives-connecting to our true selves and the ones we love, finding happiness that is not defined or determined by money and fulfilling our dreams and goals as human beings (outside of our profession). Beautiful article!

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 7:48 am To David Sunfellow: The original author was Bronnie Ware? Under the article title it says: By T. Kelly. What gives?

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Gareth says: December 3, 2011 at 8:31 am Thanks for sharing and I remember waking up from a coma some years ago, and sitting down and doing some inner thinking and yes, these were definitely up there and something I work on every day now. So often, we wait until it is too late to realise these things and say to ourselves I dont regret anything

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because it got me where I am today. Whilst this is true not to have regrets, when we sit down on our own and are truly honest, these are definitely up there so make the time now to live your life, rather than letting your life live you and amazing things happen. Thanks again for sharing.

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Chuck says: December 3, 2011 at 9:47 am I think the most valuable of advise is, pursue your passions. Too many people are afraid of failure or get lured away by making more money. Then the responsibilities of raising a family trumps a lot of things and puts them on hold. But if you started off by pursuing your passions, that would be your employment. We are all blessed with gifts and we should use them.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 11:20 am A few weeks before a friends 90 year old father died, he told his children , I am buying my last piece of real estate, a room with dirt for windows A Holocaust survivor who never lost his sense of humor.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 12:56 pm The last tidbit should be the 1st thing taught to everyone. Happiness is indeed a choice, after that what could you possibly regret.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 3:03 pm Its a nice sentiment. But its sad that its plagiarized word for word.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 3:51 pm I am not a frequent computer user ,however this article is a masterpiece ! How anyone can found fault in this is why I usually stick to old social medias ,like books!

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For those speaking of spell check you are idiots. These are British English spellings, which is actually where ENGLISH came from. Talk about completely missing the point of the article

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Susan Murphy says: December 3, 2011 at 3:56 pm It warms my heart to read these 5 last regrets because I witnessed first hand my beloved Mother liviing her life doing each of the above . She was my hero . And an extraordinary example of how to enrich and enjoy life .

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Neil Hanson says: December 3, 2011 at 4:01 pm I published a book last year that explores the regrets and decisions of those who are sitting beside the bed of the folks who are dying. I liked this article, and folks who enjoyed it might also enjoy the book. Contact me through my website or check it out at Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Peace-Edge-UncertaintyNeil-Hanson/dp/0982639104/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272890903&sr=8-1-catcorr

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Jickley Bolair says: December 3, 2011 at 4:05 pm Indeed Linda, using British English just invalidates the whole thing. Best not read it eh?

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tony says: December 3, 2011 at 4:11 pm BeautifulI might add getting in touch with ones purpose to this.

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Jeannette Seibly says: December 3, 2011 at 4:39 pm A beautifully written article. Too many times were too busy until its too late. We fail to hear the truth until its too late. We forget to forgive until its too late.

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Michelle Geddie says: December 3, 2011 at 4:59 pm Worth the read. Dont let your life pass you by!

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Mike Nowak says: December 3, 2011 at 5:27 pm Totally agree with this I was fortunate to meet my wife over 13 years ago now. She is a hospice nurse ( takes care of those near the end of life) Some things she has conveyed to me about her patients are amazing. Not one patient has ever told her for instance, that they wish they had more material things or made more money. We all seem to reflect and feel essentially the same once we know we are near the end of our life. It seems we all wish we would have spent more time with loved ones and our friends. The real pursuit of our own well being and happiness tops the list. live each moment of each day as if it were your last because, honestly, we never really know when it could be.this is an awesome article. Thanks for posting:-)

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Eileen says: December 3, 2011 at 5:28 pm This is powerful reading. Thank you for sharing.

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Missn says: December 3, 2011 at 5:36 pm Thank you for this article. After having lived a life in pursuit of career success and being known, after the loss of everything I truly cared about, including a partner, animals, friends, it took a long time to reevaluate and figure out what life truly is about and what truly matters. So many tears about letting go of all those truly prescious things for what. Thank you so much for this articlereally work on turning everything, everything around. it is never too late to love and care.

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Dave says: December 3, 2011 at 5:51 pm I like the article!!! Thanks for the research and your time! Its sad that some people are worried about spell check. The importance is the wisdom from people whos lives are about to end. Your life is a dash!!! On your tomb stone it reads birthdate-DASH-date of passing. How you live your life defines the Dash! The article has you take a look at your life and maybe do things that you wont regret later!!! Love everyone as though they were your neighbor! Its good for your soul! Thanks for the time and your article! God Bless!!!

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This is article was written by Bronnie Ware: https://www.facebook.com/pages/BronnieWare/215372810021?ref=ts&sk=wall

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Rachel says: December 3, 2011 at 8:20 pm This article was written by Bronnie Ware and should be credited to her at the top of the page. It is good that you felt inclined to share it, but without even acknowledging the author, this is completely wrong, even more so that you put your own name there. Also, to the spell check complainer, Bronnie is Australian and has written with Australian spelling. There are no spelling errors in the article.

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Rachel says: December 3, 2011 at 8:31 pm I notice that even your source has done the right thing and given credit to Bronnie Ware with a link to her website. Exposing the truth.really?

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 8:41 pm I have said for years If you arent fun, you arent doing it right.

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Rosanna says: December 3, 2011 at 10:54 pm If I were able to live my life again, next time I would try to make more mistakes. I would not try to be so perfect. I would be more relaxed. I would be much more foolish than I have been. In fact, I would take very few things seriously. I would be much less sanitary. I would run more risks. I would take more trips, I would contemplate more sunsets, I would climb more mountains, I would swim more rivers. I would go to more places I have never visited. I would eat more ice cream and fewer beans. I would have more real problems, fewer imaginary ones. I was one of these people who lived prudently and prolifically every moment of his life. Certainly I had moments of great happiness: Dont let the present slip away. I was one of those who never went anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, an umbrella, and a parachute. If I could live over again, I would go barefoot, beginning in early spring and would continue so until the

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end of autumn. I would take more turns on the merry-go-round. I would watch more dawns And play with more children, if I once again had a life ahead of me. But, you see, I am eighty-five and I know that I am dying. (Moments, by Borges)

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Carrie says: December 3, 2011 at 11:14 pm Linda do you realise the irony of your post!!!! Love life, dont worry about the small stuff (i.e the need to spell check!) Great article. Simple message.

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Anonymous says: December 3, 2011 at 11:55 pm I wish I hadnt read this #suicidewatch

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Kacie says: December 4, 2011 at 12:08 am Wow people Seriously??? The person who posted this article posted a source for the article its not like they were trying to take credit for the article. Just because they may not have cited it correctly doesnt mean that they have done something wrong! This is a beautiful article and they were just trying to share it with everyone. I dont understand the ungrateful people these days!

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Bud says: December 4, 2011 at 1:01 am Im not dying yet but I think Ive been close enough to comment. This is all good advice, but life is not this simple. I think, for me anyhow, that #1 and #3 cancels #2: I never worked so hard as when I was being true to myself and expressing my feelings. #3 cancels #4 sometimes: discretion is sometimes a cost you pay in a friendship. #4 cancels #5 sometimes: sometimes the loyalty at the heart of a friendship requires hard choices. But life is definitely about choices, and youre better for making your own.

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December 4, 2011 at 1:46 am Writing this is so difficult. I was brought back to life more than once in my 52 years. Most recently it was in May. I had no clue to my mortality. Denial was not in my vocab at the time. If I had been taken my regret would have been not to tell and prepare my daughter and my family in the best way possible. I shed tears because My father in his dying days made an 8 hour drive with my sister to see where I had been living. He needed to know that I was safely home and recuperating. He passed away 2 weeks after I drove down safely to visit him and drove home. He mentioned once that he had been diagnosed with congestive heart disease at the same as my mom. That was July 28th. My mom passed Nov 8. She was lucid and was able to tell me about her passage. She told me that it was almost their wedding anniversary and she didnt want to be without my dad. She spped into a coma on their anniversary and died the following day.

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Kara says: December 4, 2011 at 2:00 am Wowwhat a deeply moving post, and one that packs alot of punch in making us think about our life choices. Thank you so very much for sharing that with us, it was truly valuable. Kara

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TurtleBlue says: December 4, 2011 at 2:29 am This article has a refocusing effect to the meaning of life for us while still young to learn from those before us. Thank you for sharing! I would like to add 2 sources of information regarding the subjects of Living and Dying, which you may find beneficial (1). The book: The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche explores the ancient science of the mind in dealing with living to prepare for time of death; it discusses various topics encompassing the entire cycle of life and death and the meanings of living and dying. One of the most treasured book in my personal library. (2). In case you havent heard, Thay/Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh teaches how to cultivate mindfulness (through meditation) to be present in our lives so that we can live our lives more fully with deep meanings, joy, appreciation, understanding, compassion and love. May we all have the courage to fully express who we truly are and support others in expressing theirs so that we will all be strong and beautiful!

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JoeyH says: December 4, 2011 at 2:50 am This is a lovely article, and Im sorry to see that it was plagiarized (or, for Linda, plagiarised). One point I strongly object to is the characterization of patients getting ill because of their attitudes. This is the kind of

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blame-the-victim mentality that is both incorrect and offensive. No one ever died of something they came down with because they were bitter. I guarantee whatever illness(es) those people had has also killed wonderful, happy people.

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Mary Leek says: December 4, 2011 at 2:50 am When your parents or grandparents begin acting up and getting wild ideas about doing things you dont think theyre capable of anymore, theyre not necessarily senile; thats the message here, after all when life is getting short and these regrets settle in, its only natural to try to do at least one more thing that makes your life feel more complete. So figure out a way to do it take the old man deep sea fishing or skydiving or send both your old, feeble grandparents on a cruise if thats what theyve always wished theyd done if they die on the cruise, that will be okay with them, so it should be okay with you. If Grandma wishes shed volunteered to feed the hungry in India or Africa take her there and let her give of herself to others for awhile shell be so much more at peace when she dies, and so will you. I too have worked in this field and I agree with everything said here. Ive also noted how often the families just dont have time in their very busy lives to set aside some for the old folks. I understand this I worked all my life and didnt have any real time, either, but on the one occasion that I did manage it, it made me a better person and a happier one.

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Caroline says: December 4, 2011 at 3:01 am Seriously.spell check?! If youre North American, yes, you will think theres a couple of errorsbut if youre British, theres none. Excellent article. So thought provoking and inspiring. Im glad I came across itIve got some changes to make.

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AF says: December 4, 2011 at 4:10 am For people who dont understand blogging.by means who posted it and the source is at the bottom of the page with a link directly to it. They didnt steal it or copy without giving credit to the source.

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AF says: December 4, 2011 at 4:12 am Its a blog. The by means who posted it and there is a source link at the bottom of the page. It is not plagiarized.

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Denny Martin says: December 4, 2011 at 4:52 am If you know your going to die and you kown it was due to your actions then all you get is the consequences. Forget any possible regrets and get onto your bucket list!

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Ronna Trapanese says: December 4, 2011 at 6:14 am I am sure that this is the best advice I have ever read in my life.

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Anonymous says: December 4, 2011 at 7:10 am Thank you for this wonderful and heart felt, articalIt reminds me to appreciate my life and the happiness of not only myself and my loved ones, but most of all, the happiness of all humanity! Thank you

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Anonymous says: December 4, 2011 at 8:08 am Nice article, We can spend time to make money but, can not buy a second with it.

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Anonymous says: December 4, 2011 at 8:40 am @Linda gosh ur so negative thats going to be one of YOUR REGRETS who cares about the spelling or whatever Lindas going on about it makes one sit up and think about whether you are happy with your life thanks for this. Awesome reading take care & Good Health

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sarabeth says: December 4, 2011 at 10:48 am Thanks for this post.. it reminded me of Ecclesiastes. chapter 9. the book in the bible written by Solomon after God gave him Great Wisdom he searched out and studied all things under the sun.. and in his conclusion..Chapter 12 verse 13 & 14 : Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter : Fear God and keep his comandments: for this is the whole duty of man.. For God shall bring every work in to judgement

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with every secret thing, whether it be good or whether it be evil.Please pardon the spelling.. I am sitting in a dark room and my eye sight is not what it used to be lol.. (for Linda that mean

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