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At lastl A guide to

the Japanese language of lovel


Having trouble with your love life in
Japan? Can't get your point across?
Worse yet, are there lots of things being
said to you or about you that you simply
don't understand?
What can you do?
Learn to speak to your Japanese friends
and lovers the way a Japanese would-
using the same colorful , colloquial lan-
guage that Japanese actually speak. From
" I want to know more about you" (Anata-
ni-tsulte motto shiritai) to " Do you want to
come to my place?" (Uchi-ni kuru?), here
is all the language you need to start up a
romance and keep it rolling. If things get
serious, you'll be ready with the right
proposal : "Will you make my mise soup for
breakfast?" (Choshoku-no miso-shiru-o
tsukuttekureru?) And if things don' t work
out , there are plenty of fighting words-
" Two-tirnert" I"wo"'-nono!)-to help you
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t ext books wasn't what he heard being spoken
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Erika Geers studied English under a private t ut or
for six years. and is an accompl ished calligrapher
and il lustrator. She now lives t ogether with her
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Introduction
Information
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1.
2.
Kissing
Petting
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40
3. Making Love . . 54
4. Fighting . . 67
5. Marriage . . 99
6. Health . . 121
So how's your Japanese coming along? Are you nowcon-
versing effortlessly? No? Still don't know what they're talk-
ing about sometimes? Sounds li ke you didn't read Making
Out in Japanese. So go out and buy acopy-over 50,000
other people have. Read it, study it, liveit, and love it. Mak-
ing Out in Japanese wi ll showyou howtheJapanese really
speak. We use lots of shortcuts in our speech, and so do
they. Our colloquial way of speaking is relaxed and infor-
mal , and so is thei rs. OK, with that plug out of the way,
let' s move on to some new stuff.
In Japanese there is a slang use of "A," " B," and "C"
similar to the American English slang use of "first base,"
"second base," "third base," and "home run." These let-
ters denote kissing, petting, and making love, respective-
ly. The focus of this book is love, and the words and
phrases in it are listed in "love groups" corresponding to
these activities. In Chapter 1, "Kissi ng," you' ll find all the
words and phrases you'll need to string and fire Cupid's
bow. Chapter 2, " Petting," will get you into a little more
intimate action, but it's rather tame compared with Chapter
3, "Making Love." If your relationship should deteri orate
before reaching Chapter 3, then Chapter 4, " Fighting,"
is the one for you. But if you hear wedding bells ringing,
head for Chapter 5, "Marriage." Finall y, don't forget Chap-
ter 6, " Health." All those activities in Chapters 1 through
5 are more fun if you're in (or can get into) good shape.
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It's rather difficult to teach the proper pronunciation of a
foreign language in a book, so we're not going to try. To
help you out, though, we' ve joined two and sometimes
three or four words together, to make compound words
or phrases that are easier to pronounce. Most of these
compounds are hyphenated to highl ight merged words,
to emphasizethe slang suffixes and particles, and to facili-
tate pronunciation and memorization. Fuzakenai-deyo, for
example, is a compound phrase meaning " Don't be
stupidl" Its components are: fuzake (from fuzakeru), nai
(arimasen), and the slang suffix -deyo. The compound
phrase is rendered fuzakenai-deyo so that you will not
pause while pronouncing it, but say it entirely in one
breath; a pause in the pronunciation will make the impact
weaker.
We're sure that you' re fami liar with the interrogative sen-
tence forms desu-ka and masu-ka. Forget them. Except
for a few sti ll employed when talking to strangers, request-
ing services, etc., the rest have been dismissed. In infor-
mal speech, rising intonation takes the place of these
forms. Thus, the final syllables of all words and phrases
in this book endi ng with a question mark should be
pronounced with the kind of rising intonation we give to
the question " Right?"
The terms "boy" and " girl" are used throughout the '
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10 INFORMATION
book. Here, we are definitely referring to the sexes in the
post-puberty phase. Still, these sound a bit cuter than
"man" and " woman." If there's one thing you must un-
derstand to make it in the world of Japanese romance,
it's the power of "cute." Suppose, for example, you don't
knowhowto play tennis. It's not really important because,
come the spring, you must, like all the styl e-conscious
Japanese, carry a tennis racket everywhere you go. It' s
not important whether or how well you play. What's im-
portant isthat you have acute cover for your racket, prefer-
ably with three Mickey Mouse patches and some English
words. (Note: the English should not make sense-
something like "Active Sports: Traditional Mind for
Specialty" would do nicely.)
To eliminate the embarrassing problem of boys using
girls' words or vice versa, we've indicated the words suit-
able for use by girls and boys with the symbols " and
a respectivel y. A word designated a " can be used by
both sexes. For example:
Don't be upset.
Make me warm.
Okoranaide. "
Okoruna-yo. a
Atatamete. a"
There are two ways to say ne: the short ne (ne), said
with afallingintonation to showagreement or to add friend-
liness to speech; and the long ne (ne), said with a rising
intonation, often soliciting agreement with the meaning of
" Isn' t it?" or "Aren't you?" Gi rls prefer ne and ne to con-
veythese meanings; guysprefer naand na. But if theguys
wish to upgrade their speech, they should use ne and ne,
especially when talking to girls.
Slang that istoo faddish is not included in this book, be-
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INFORMATION 11
cause such words come and go too quickly. If you use
old slang, the reaction of your Japanese date will likely
be "He thinks he' s being cool speaki ng like that, but
nobody says that anymore. Hah, hahl " So avoid the hot
slang-if it's out of date people will think that you' re funny
or square.
The Japanese have been borrowing foreign words for
so long that they've invented a special syllabary, katakana,
just to spell them with. Many of these loanwords appear
in this book. (To help you spot them, they're printed in
bold.) For example, to tell a girl "I likeyour hairstyl e," you
could say Kimi-no heasutairu suki. The Japanese lan-
guage has only onefinal consonant (n), sowhen Japanese
pronounce English words with consonant endings, they
often tack on a vowel. The word "back," for example, be-
comes bakku; "cute" becomes kyOto; "game" becomes
gemu. The final " r" sound, also, does not exist in
Japanese. This ending is usually replaced with a long "a"
sound when pronounced by Japanese. The word "lock-
er," for example, becomes rokka. And since there is no
English "I" sound in Japanese, an "r" is used in its place.
Japanese enjoy using English words sporadically in their
speech and you should do the same. With a little prac-
tice, it's easy to get the hang of howto " katakana-ize" an
,
English word, that is, to pronounce it the way a Japanese
would. )
Now, shall we get on first base?
ICIIIIMC
Have I seen you before?
Do you come here
often?
You come here often,
don't you?
I've been watching you.
You're really pretty.
You're handscme.
You're fascinating.
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Mae-ni ette-koto aru?
0'9
Koko-ni yoku kuru? 0' 9
Koko-ni yoku kuru-
deshB? 0' 9
Koko-ni yoku kuru-
darB? 0'
Anata-no-koto zutto
miteta. 9
Kimi-no-koto zutto miteta.
0'
Kimi-tte hontB-ni kit e}
dane. 0'
Anata-tte hansamu-ne.
9
Anata-wa miryokuteki-ne.
9
Kimi-wa miryokuteki-da.
0'
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I want to know more
about you.
Come on, tell me more.
Don't be shy.
Anata-ni-tsuite motto
shiritai. 9
Kimi-ni-tsuite motto
shiritai. C7
Ii-janai. Motto oshiete-yo.
CJ9
Hazukashigaranaide.
CJ9
.. Also means "Don't be embarrassed."
Ask me some questions.
Ask me anything you
want.
Except what color under-
wear I'm wearing.
Nanka shitsumon-shite.
CJ 9
Nanka kiite. CJ 9
Suki-ne-koto nandemo
kiite it-no-yo. 9
Suki-na-koto nandemo
kiite-ii-yo. CJ 9
Nani ira-no shitagi-kawa
dame. C7 9
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I like your personality.
You're my type.
What' s your type?
quiet: otonashii (usually
said about girls)
mukuchi-na (usually
said about boys)
loud: nigiyaka-na
funny: omoshiroi
serious: majime-na
big: okii
small: chiisai
considerate: omoiyari-no
aru
bright: akarui
tender: yasashii
manly: otokoppoi
feminine: onnappoi
cheerful: genki-no aru
smart: atama-no ii
cute: kawaii
sexy: sekushii-na
sli m: yaseteru
KISSING' 15
Anata-no seikaku suki-yo.
9
Kimi-no seikaku suki-
dayo. C/
Anata-wa atashi-no suki-
na taipu. 9
Kimi-wa boku-no suki-na
taipu. C/
Donna hito-ga suki? C/ 9
Donna hito-ga konomi?
C/9
chubby: potchari-shita
glamorous: gurama-na
thin-waisted: uesto-ga hosoi
small bull: chiisai ostwi-no
long hair: kami-no nagai
cute smile: egao-no kawaU
pretty teeth: ha-no kireina
small breasts: mune-no
chiisai
rich: okane-machi-no
tough: tafu-na
elite: emo-ne
stylish: sutairisshu-na
shy: hazukashigari-ya
outgoing: shitashimi-no aTU
long legs: ashino nagai
big eyes: me-ga okii
small mouth: kuchi-no
chiisai
sporty: sUpbti
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Substitute the words above in the following sentence:
I like type of
person.
I like your hairstyle.
___ hito-ga ii. o Q
Anata-no haa sutairu
suki. Q
Kimi-no nee sutairu suki.
o
Do you follow the latest
fads?
What' s in now?
You have good taste in
cl othes.
RyOk6-0 ou? o Q
Nani-ga ima hayatteru-
no? o Q
Fuku-no konomi-ga
ii-ne.* 9
Fuku-no konomi-ga
ii-na. * cr
* Konomi can be replaced with shumi.
I'm not very stylish.
"Especially said about cl othes.
Will you give me some
advice?
Shall we go shopping
together someday?
I don't like to shop
alone.
Do you have a steady?
KISSING' 17
Atashi-wa ryOko-ni
binkan-ja nai. 9
Atashi-wa anmari
sutairisshu-ja nai. 9
Boku-wa ryOko-ni binkan-
ja nai. a
Boku-wa anmari
sutairisshu-ja nai. a
Nanika adobaisu-
shitekureru? a 9
Kondo issno-o!
shoppingu-ni ikanai?
a9
Hitori-de shoppingu-suru-
nowa suki-ja nai. a 9
Tsukiatteru hito iru? a 9
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18 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
You must be very
popular.
You must have many
boyfriends/girlfriends.
(You must be popular.)
You must have a girl-
friend/boyfriend.
Moteru-desh6. a 9
Moteru-dar6. a
Kanojo ippai irun-deshO.
9
Kareshi ippai irun-dar6. a
Kanojo irun-deshO. 9
Kareshi irun-daro.* C1
"The nuance is "You are pretty/handsome; therefore, I think
you must have a steady." Use these phrases to check jf the
person has a steady without comi ng right out and asking.
Yes. I had one, but we
just broke up.
I've never dated a
Japanese boy/girl
before.
Will you go out with me?
I don't have anyone to
share ice cream with.
Un demo, saikin wakare-
tao a 9
Ninon-no otoko-no-hito-to
deto-shita-koto-nai. 9
Nihon-no onna-no-hito-to
deto-shita-koto-nai. a
Atashi-to dekakenai? 9
Boku-to dekakenai? a
Atashi-wa aisu kuriinu-o
issho-ni taberu hito-ga
inai-no. 9
Boku-wa aisu kurimu-o
issho-ni taberu hito-ga
inain-da. a
Japanese girls love ice cream. This should get a date for the
boy.

Do you smoke?
Do you drink beer/
liquor/wine?
KISSING ' 19
Tabako SUU? C1 9
Biiru/osakelwa/n nomu?
C19
What do/did you study at
college?
Daigaku-de nani-o
senko-shiteru-no?' C1 9
Daigaku-de nani-o
senko-shita-no?' C1 9
.. Senko means "major study area."
I went to a special
(trade) school.
What type of school?
Allow us to introduce
ourselves.
Atash/-wa senmon
gakko-ni me. 9
Boku-wa senmon gakko-
ni itta. CT
Donna gakko? C1 9
Atashitachi-no jikoshOkai-
sasete. 9
Bokutachi-no j ikoshOkai-
sasete. C1
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Would you introduce
your friends?
Let' s move to a bi gger
table.
Let' s pair off.
Anata-no tomodachi-o
shOkai-shite? 9
Kitni-no tomodachi-o
shOkai-shite? 0'
Motto okii teburu-ni
utsutt: 0' 9
Kogo-ni suwaro." ' 0' 9
Ittai itchi-ni wakareyo. -a
0'9
* 1. To sit down in pairs.
*2. Separate and go do something as couples.

What do you think about


this?
You don't talk very
much.
What do your friends
want to do?
Let's all go out together.
Kore-n! tsuite do omou?
0'9
Anata-wa anmari
shaberanai-none. 9
Kimi-wa anmari
shaberanai-ne. 0'
Anata-no tomodachi
nani-ga shitai-no? 9
Kimi-no tomodachi nani-
ga shitai-no? 0'
Minna-de dekakeyo. "'
0' 9
Minna-de oevs.: 0' 9
* 1. Making plans to go out.
*2. As in "Let's leave this building. "
It'll be a 101 of fun.
Let's go to the beach.
Let' s see a movie.
Who is your favorite
actor/actress?
KISSING ' 21
Zettai lanoshii-yo. a 9
Umi-ni ika. a 9
Eiga-o miya. a 9
YakushalJoyu -de dare-
ga suki?" a 9
* Yakusha means both actor and actress, and joyD means only
actress.
Did you see __?
I like __.
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___ mila? a9
___-ga suki. a 9
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22 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Japanese are fond of onomatopoeias, words that imi-
tate sounds. Used at the right moment, the following
"sound words" will produce a laugh or three.
,
dog barking wen-wen C1 Q
cat meowing nyan-nyan 0 9
heavy rain zii -zii 09
light rain shito-shito 0 9
walking noise teku-teku 0 9
heavy cryi ng en-en 09
light crying shiku-shiku'
09
* Rub your eyes while saying shikushiku.
I'm hungry.
My head feels dizzy.
I have a sharp pain in
my stomach.
What time does the next
show start?
We have plenty of time.
Onaka-ga peko-peko.
09
Atama-ga tura-tura. 0 9
Onaka-ga kid-kiri itai.
09
Tsugi-no kai nanji (desu-
ka)? 0 9
Takusan jikan-ga aru.
0 9
Jikan-ga ippai aru. 0 9
Let's make a line. (Let's
get in line.)
Are you waiting in line?
You wait here.
I'll do/buy it.
Let' s sing karaoke.
KISSING 23
NarabO. a 9
Naranderun desu-ka?
a9
Naranderu-no? a 9
Koko-de mattete. a 9
Atashi-ga suru-wa/kau-
wa. 9
Boku-ga suru-yo/kau-yo.
a
Karaoke-de utao. a 9
NOTE: Karaoke literally means "without orchestra." This popu-
lar activity usually takes place in special karaoke bars, and con-
sists of indivi dual patrons singing the vocal lead of favorite
sonos.to the accompaniment of taped backup instrumentals.
Li ke all their fun. Japanese take this very seriously.
Do you like karaoke? Karaoke suki? a 9
24 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
That person's singi ng is
interesting.
What's a popular thing to
do?
Let's go to Yamashita
Park.
I hear it's a good spot
for a date.
Let's go to the park
again.
I love to hold your hand
as we walk through
the park.
I came here by car.
Would you like to go for
a drive?
I have room for two of
your friends.
"Sure way to get her to go.
Ano hita-no utaikata
omoshiroi. (7 9
Nani-ga hayatteru-no?
(79
Yamashita PfJ.ku-e iko.
(7 9
Deta-spotto-datte kiita.
C/9
Mata pfJ.ku/koen -ni iko.
(7 9
Anata-to te-o tsunaide
koen-o aruku-noga
suki-yo. 9
Kimi-to te-o tsunaide
k6en-o aruku-noga
suki-dayo. (7
Kuruma-de kita. (7 9
Doraibu-ni ikitai? C/ 9
Anata-no tomodachi
tuteti-bun-no seki-mo
aru-wayo. 9
Kimi-no tomodachi lutari-
bun-no seki-mo aru-yo. "
(7
I'll order (for you/us).
Would you like some-
thing to eaUdrink?
What do you want?
Let' s go Dutch.
Let' s have one check.
One check, please.
KISSING 25
Oda-shite ageru. CJ' 9
Nanika taberu/nomu?
CJ'9
Nani-ga ii? CJ' 9
Warikan-ni shiyo. CJ' 9
Denpyo-o issho-ni shiyo.
CJ'9
Denpyo-o hitotsu-ni shite
kudasai. CJ' 9
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Which credit cards do
you accept?
I lost my wallet.
I don't have any money.
Can I borrow 10,000
yen?
I scored (wi th her).
Doko-no kurejitto kfJdo-
ga tsukaemasu-ka?
a9
Saifu-o nekuenn. a 9
Okane-ga nanimo-nai.
a9
fchiman-en kashite-
kureru? a 9
Nempe-sbite.: a
"Nempe means "dishonest person" and the opposite. kOlla.
means "honest person." A nampa person might ask to make
love on the fi rst date. whereas a kOha person might wait till
their ......adding night. In this context, Nampashita means "I went
girl hunting (successfully)." This is a boy's phrase because onl y
girls get nampa 'd. A nampa-yare is a boy who likes girl hunt-
ing. (Koha-shita does not have any meaning.)
Drink up! Ikki! ikkW a 9
/kld! Jkki! is an encouraging cheer which means something
li ke "Dri nk it all up without stopping."
Cheers! Kampai!" a 9
"'Kampail is said as everyone is clinking thei r glasses together
for the toast. It means, literall y, "dry glass."
Drink quickly to catch up.
I' m getting drunk.
Kaketsuke ippai. a 9
Yotte-kichatta, a 9
Yopparatte-kichatta. a 9
KISSING ' 27
I'm drunk. Yotchatta. Cf 9
Yopparatchatta. 09
I have a splitting Atama-ga wsreru-yo-n:
headache. itai. 09
Sugoi zutsu-ga suru.
09
You drank too much last Kino-wa takusan
night, didn't you? nomisugita-ne? 0 9
Kino-wa takusan
nomisugita-na? Cf
By the way, . . . Tokorode, . . . 0 9
I'm sorry, but . . . Warui-kedo, ... 09

)
Who was that? Are dare? Cf 9
28 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Will you be my Japanese
leacher?
I'll teach you English.
What shall we do now?
I want to go to _
I'm lost.
Atashi-no nihongo-no
sensei-ni nattekureru?
9
Baku-no nihongo-no
sensei-ni nattekureru?
C7
Atashi-ga eigo-o oshiete
ageru. 9
Boku-ga eigo-o oshiete
ageru. C7
/ma-kara do-suru? C7 9
_ __-ni ikitai. C7 9
Michi-ni mayotta."' C7 9
Wakaranai. "' C7 9
1 . This is used when you' ve lost your way.
-2. This is used when you don't understand.
Please write down the
directions for me.
Don't forget to list the
train station names.
Will you tell me which
train to take?
How will I know when to
get off (the train)?
I' ll be waiting at __
Get off at __
(station).
KISSING 29
Iki-kata-o kaite. 0 '(
Eki-no namae-no risuto-o
wasurenaide. 0 '(
Dotchi-no densha-ka
oshietekureru? 0 '(
Itsu oriru-ka do wakaru-
no? 09
___ -de matteru. 0 9
_ _ (eki)-de orite. "
Eki, which means "station," is added to the proper name of
some stations, but not to all: e.g., Yokohama Eki, Kanagawa
Shinmachi, etc.
30 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Are you busy right noW?
Let's go to a disco.
Let' s go to your favorite
disco.
Ima isogashii? a 9
Disuko-ni iko. a 9
Anata-no yoku iku
disuko-ni iko. 9
Kimi-no yoku iku disuko-
oi ik6. CI
"Use yoku iku to descri be a place you "go to often."
I've never been to a
disco.
Is it true Japanese boys
dance together?
How much is the ad-
mission?
Does it include food and
drink?
Do we get membership
cards?
Mada disuko-ni itta-koto-
nai. a 9
Nihon-no otoko-no-hito-
tte issho-ni odorutte
honto? a 9
Hairu-no ikura? a 9
Tabemono-to nomimono
komi? a 9
Menbashippu kado-wa
moreemesu-ke?" a 9
"Said to club staff. When talking to friends, use the less formal
moraeru?
I' m a member. Atashi-wa menbi!l. (desu).
9
Boku-wa menba (desu).
a
Here are your tickets.
KISSING' 31
Hai, chiketto. Cf 9
Hai-yo. o 9
Hora-yo. Cf
Hai-yo and Hara-yo mean "Here you go" as one might say
when handing over something.
Are there lockers here?
Let's use the lockers.
Where do you want to
sit?
It' s noisy here.
It' s too noisy here.
Rokkii arimasu-ka? Cf 9
Rokkii aru? Cf 9
Rokkii -o tsukao. Cf 9
Doko-ni suwaritai? o 9
Koko urusai. Cf 9
Koko urusasugiru. Cf 9
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There's too much
"traffic" here.
Hitodori-ga osugiru. "
Cl9
*Hitodori applies to "people traffic" only.
It's dark over there.
These seats look good.
This is a nonsmoking
section.
Let' s sit close to the
dance floor/bar/band/
restroomslexiVaisie.
How many tickets for one
drink?
It takes two tickets for one
drink.
Free drinks are over
there.
Can we buy beer here?
The drinks here taste
terrible!
Asoko-wa kurai. o 9
Kono isu yosaso. o 9
Koko-wa kin-enseki. o 9
Dansu furoalb8/bando/
otearai; toireldeguchi/
tsOro -no chikaku-ni
suwaro. o 9
Nomimono hitotsu-wa
chiketto nanmai (desu-
kay? o 9
Chiketto ni-mai-de
nomimono ipbun.
Cl 9
Fun dorinku-wa asoko.
Cl 9
Koko-de biru kaeru? o 9
Koko-no nomimono
mazui! 9
Koko-no nomimono
mazui-yo! o
KISSING 33
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This is not very strong.
They serve weak drinks
here.
Ask for stronger drinks.
Anmari tsuyokunai. C1 Q
oko-no nomimono min-
na yowai. C1 Q
Motto tsuyoi nomimono-o
tanonde. " I C1 Q
Onaji-no-o tsuyokusuru-
yo-ni itte. * 1 C1 Q
-1 . Telling your friend that you want your next drink to be
stronger.
2. Tailing your friend to order another drink just like you have
now, only stronger.
Stronger drinks, please.
Please make this drink
stronger.
Motto tsuyoi nomimono-o
kudasai. C1 Q
Kore motto tsuyokushite
kudasai. C1 Q
34 MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Let's get some food.
" From the food bar/counter.
Menu, please.
Have you decided?
I'll order (for us).
l!You forgot the chop-
sticks.
Tabemono toro. cr 9
Menyii kudasai. o 9
Kimeta? 0' 9
Atashi-ga oda-suru. 9
Boku-ga oda-suru. 0'
Hashi-o wasureta. 0' 9
"Fork is foku, knife is nenu. and spoon is supiin.
I can't decide what to do
with my chopsticks.
Mayoi-bashi. 0' 9
.. For example, you are indecisive when reaching for food, un-
sure of what to eat.
NOTE: Food should not be passed IrOO1 one set of chopsticks
to another. for the Japanese place the ashes of their deceased
into a funeral urn in this manner. Chopsticks should never be
grasped in the fist, since this is how they would be held for use
as a weapon. It is considered poor manners to lick chopsticks
and extremely offensive to stand chopsticks on end in a bowl
of rice. for thi s is how food is offered to the spirits of the de-
ceased.
We need another chair.
I' ll get that one over
there.
Mo hitotsu isu-ga iru.
0'9
Are mottekuru. 0' 9

..


KISSING' 35

,
I'll bring it with me.
You sit here.
I'll sit there.
Sit by me.
Motteku. CI Q
Koko-ni suwatte. CI Q
Soko-ni suwaru. CI Q
Atashi-no sobalyoko ni
suwatte. Q
Boku-no sobalyoko -ni
suwatte. CI
-Saba means "close" and yoko means "beside."
Sit closer.
If I get drunk, that's
okay.
Motto chikaku-ni suwatte.
ClQ
Moshi atashi-ga
yopparatte-mo heiki-yo.
Q
Meshi boku-ga
yopparatte-mo heiki-
dayo. CI
36 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
I have a futon' in my
pocket.
Poketto-ni futon-ga hait-
teru. a 9
Japanese bedding. This is a joke. of course.
Will you dance with me?
I like to watch you
dance.
I'm not good at dancing.
I like slow dancing.
Are you in the mood?
*Can be used for any mood.
Not really.
I don't feel like dancing
yet.
I'm not going to dance
yet.
I can't dance to this
music.
Atashi-to odottekureru?
9
Boku-to odottekureru? a
Anata-no odoti-o mitu-
noga suki. 9
Kimi-no odori-o miru-
noga suki. a
Dansu umakunai-no. 9
Dansu umakunain-da. a
Sura dansu-ga suki. a 9
Notieru?" a 9
Anmari. a 9
Betsu-ni. a 9
Mada odoru-ki shinai.
a 9
Mada odoranai. a 9
Kono kyoku-ja odorenai. :
a 9
I don't know this song.
I like rock ' n' roll.
I like jazz.
I like American Top-40
music.
The dance-floor lights are
cool.
KISSING' 37
Kono uta shiranai. o '{
ROkkun-roru-ga suki.
Cf'{
Jazu-ga suki. cr '{
Amerikan Toppu-4D-no
ongaku suki. o '{
Furoa-no raito kakkoii-ne.
'{
Furoa-no raito kakkoii-na.
o
38 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Dancing makes me hot.
"Hot as in sweaty.
Let's get a breath of
fresh air.
What time do they close?
What time is the last
train?
What time do you have
to be at work?
What time is your
curfew?
We have plenty of time.
Let's stay to the end .
Let's stay till they throw
us out.
Let's go to a coffee shop
later.
May I see you again?
Let's do this again.
Dansushitara atsukunat-
ta. CI Q
Shinsen-na kOki-o sui-ni
iko. CI Q
Nanji-ni shimaru-no? CI Q
SaishO densha nanji?
ClQ
Nanji-ni shigoto iku-no?
ClQ
Mongen nanji? CI Q
Jikan-ga tappuri eiu.
ClQ
Saig%wari -made iyo.
ClQ
Oidasareru-made iyo.
ClQ
Ato-de kohT shoppu-e
iko. CI Q
Mata aeru? CI Q
Mata kore shiyo. CI Q
Let' s get together later.
KISSING' 39
Ato-de mata-ne. 0' 9
"This means "Let's separate now and get back together later
today."
Let' s see each other
again.
Let' s meet on Tuesday
at your favorite coffee
shop.
I' m glad we met.
I'm happy to see you
again.
If I hadn't taken that
train, we wouldn't
have met.
Do you believe in
destiny?
Mata aB. 0' <;
KayBbi-ni anata-no
okiniui-no kBhl shoppu-
de aB. 9
KayBbi-ni kimi-no okiniiri-
no kBhl shoppu-de aB.
0'
Aete yokatta. 0' <;
Mata aete ureshii. 0' <;
Ano densha-ni
noranakattara
atashitachi awanakatta.
9
Ano densha-ni
noranakattara
bokutachi awanakatta.
0'
Unmei-tte shinjiru? 0' 9
-----Ct)-----
PllllMe
1had a wonderful time
last weekllast night!
last Friday/yesterday.
Do you think of me
often?
I think of you night and
day.
I couldn't stop thinking
about you.
I remember what you
said.
SenshOIKino-no
yoru/SenshO-no kin-
y5bilKin5 -wa
tanoshikatta. C1 9
Atashi-no-koto yoku kan-
gaeru? <;
Boku-no-koto yoku kan-
gaeru? C1
Anata-no-koto ichinichi-jO
kangaeru. 9
Kimi-no-koto ichinichi-jO
kangaeru. C1
Anata-no-koto bakkari
kangaeteta. <;
Kimi-no-koto bakkari kan-
gaeteta. C1
Anata-ga itta-koto
oboeteru. <;
Kimi-ga itta-koto
oboeteru. * C1
-For "remembered," change oboeteru to oboeteta.
40
I wanted to call you
sooner.
What would you like to
do toni ght?
What sounds good?
PETIING 41
Motto hayaku denwa-
shitakatta. a '{
Kon-ya nani shitai? a '{
Nani-ga ii-ka? a '{
D6-shiy6-ka? a '{
NOTE: The boy should make the decision so he doesn't seem
weak. The gi rl wi ll most li kely say Wakannai o 9 ("I don't
know/care"); Makaseru-wa 9 ("It's up to you"-the boy's
equivalent is Makaseru-yo); or Kimete o Q ("You decide").
Can you see me
tomorrow?
Ashita eeru?: a '{
* Also means "Can I see you tomorrow?"
Can you go out this
Saturday?
Kondo-no doy6bi
derareru?* a '{
"This means "Can you go out of the house this Saturday?"
Use . . . dekakerareru? for "Can you go out with me ... 7"
42 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
I can't wait till then.
I can wait till then.
I like holding your hand.
I like kissing you.
You're a good kisser.
Your lips are so soft.
Sore-made matenai. C1 Q
Sore-made materu. C1 Q
Anata-no te-o nigiru-noga
suki. Q
Kimi-no te-o nigiru-noga
sukl. C1
Anata-ni kissu-suru-noga
suki. Q
Kimi-ni kissu-suru-noga
suki. C1
Kissu-ga j6zu-ne. Q
Kissu-ga j6zu-dana. C1
Anata-no kuchibiru-wa
totemo yawarakai. Q
Kimi-no kuchibiru-wa
totemo yawarakai. C1
You're the only one I
want.
I can't wait to tell you.
I was only joking.
Don't take it so seriousl y.
It wasn't your day, was
it?
It's boring, isn' t it?
Do you feel comfortable
in public with me?
I don't want you to get
hurt on my account.
PEnlNG43
Atashi-ga hoshii-nowa
anata-dake. Q
Boku-ga hoshii-nowa
kimi-dake. C1'
lu-noga machikirenai.
aQ
Honrrada -no jOdan-
dayo. a Q
Sonna-ni maji-ni
toranaide. Q
Sonna-ni maji-ni toruna-
yo. a
Kyo-wa tsuite-nakatta-ne?
Q
Kyo-wa tsuite-nakatta-na.?
a
Tsumennei-ne? Q
Tsumannai-na? a
Atashi-to hitomae-ni iku-
no ki-n! naru? Q
Boku-to hitomae-ni iku-no
ki-ni naru? a
Atashi-no sei-de iya-na
omoi sasetakunai. Q
Boku-no sei-de iya-na
omoi sasetakunai. a

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Tell me when someone
talks about us.
Dareka-ga atashitachi-no-
koto hanashitetara
oshiete. 9
Dareka-ga bakutachi-no-
koto hanashitetara
oshiete. a
NOTE: A jealous Japanese boy might make a passing remark
to his buddy about a Japanese girl with a foreign boyfriend;
some boys might even say something to the girt Here are a
few phrases you might hear.
Who does she think she
is?
She must like big ones!
I wish I had a big one!
"This old only has one l.
She has a light butt.
Jibun-na-kato nanda-ta
amatte irun-daro? a
Aitsu okiinoga suki nan-
daze! a
Boku-no-mo motto oki-
kattarana!' a
Shirigaru onna. a 9
.. Means she easily hops from boy to boy, bed to bed,
Public restroom. Kfuhii benjo. a 9
"Means she'll let anyone use her.
She'll be used and then
thrown away.
Yararete suterareru. a
"To say to the girl, add -yo to suterareru. To say to onesetf,
add -noni to the end of suterareru.
She's stupid!
PEniNG ' 45
..
.,
... ..
...
.. ..
..
Aitsu baka-dayo! (J'
You're dirty! (Your rela-
tionship is shameful.)
Don't be jealous!
Kitanai! (J' <;I
Yakimochi yakuna-yo!'
(J'
"Thi s is a good response to any of the above phrases.
Do you care what they
think?
Don 't let them bother
you.
Don't be upset.
Minna-ga do omou-ka ki-
ni naru? (J' <;I
Hoka-no-hito-no-koto ki-ni
shinaide. <;I
Hoka-no-hito-no-koto ki-ni
suruna-yo. (J'
Okoranaide. <;I
Okoruna-yo. (J'
46 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Does your family know
about us?
I told my family about
you.
Do you think we should
see each other again?
Anata-no kazoku
atashitachi-no-koto
shitteru? 9
Kimi-no kazoku
bokutachi-no-koto
shitteru? a
Kazoku-ni anata-no-koto
hanashita. 9
Kazoku-ni kimi-no-koto
hanashita. a
Atashitachi mata atta-ho-
ga ii-to omou? 9
Bokutachi mata atta-ho-
ga ii-to omou? a
Tell me what you think.
Make it clear.
Please don't go.
You don't know.
We've known each other
now for three months.
Are you an only child?
Are you the oldest?
Are you going to support
and provide for your
parents in their old
age?
PETIING 47
Anata-wa do omou-ka
oshiete. 9
Kimi-wa do omou-ka
ashiete. a
Hakkiri-sasete. a 9
Ikanaide. a 9
Anata-wa shiranai-noyo.
9
Kimi-wa shiranain-da. a
Atashitachi shiriatte-kara
san-kagetsu-ni naru. 9
Bokutachi shiriatte-kara
san-kagetsu-ni naru. a
Anata hitorikko?' 9
Kimi nnoti-musume?: 0'
Anata ichiban ue?" 9
Kimi ichiban ue?' a
RyBshin-no rogo-no
mendo miru-no?' a 9
* Usually the only child or the oldest male wi ll live with his
aging parents, supporting and caring for them.
We can make it work. Donika naru-wayo. 9
Donika naru-yo. a 9
48 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
I want to know what
you' re feeling.
It'll all change.
I can' t think of anything
but you.
I can't live without your
love.
Say you' ll be mine.
I' ll make you happy.
Anata-ga do omotteru-ka
shiritai. 9
Kimi-ga do omotteru-ka
shiritai. o
Subete kawaru-wayo. 9
Subete kawaru-yo. o 9
Anata-no-koto igai-wa
kangaerarenai. 9
Kimi-no-koto igai-wa
kangaerarenai. o
Anata-no ai-nashi-ja
ikirarenai. 9
Kimi-no ai-nashi-ja
ikirarenai, a
Atashi-no mono-ni naru-
to itte. 9
Boku-no mono-ni naru-to
itte. o
Shiawase-ni suru-yo. o
-Girts might thi nk this is a proposal.
I' ve never felt this way
before.
We had fun together ,
didn't we?
Konna kimochi-ni natta-
koto-nai. cr 9
Tanoshikatta-ne? 9
Tanoshikatta-nii.? o
PETTING ' 49
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Do you remember our
first date?
Hajimete-no dato
oboeteru? CT Q
Look into my eyes. Atashi-no me-o mite. Q
Boku-no me-o mite. CT
Stay just a little bit
longer.
M6 chotto-dake issho-ni
ite. CT Q
I couldn't have done it
without you.
Anata-nashi-ja
dekinakatta. Q
Kimi-nashi-ja dekinakatta.
CT
50 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Do Japanese couples go
"parking"?
Ka-sekkusu is car sex.
No. There aren't any
good parking places.
Where do they go?
Let' s find a good place.
How do you know of
such a place?
People can see us here.
That'll make it more ex-
citing.
Let' s get in the back
seat.
Let's recline the front
seats.
Take your shoes off.
Relax.
Enjoy yourself.
Nihon-no kappuru-wa
ka-sekkusu-suru-no?'
09
Uun, ii chOsha-basho-ga
nai. a 9
Minna doko-ni iku-no?
09
Ii basho-o sagasa. a 9
Sonna basho nande
shitteru-no? a 9
Koko-ja hito-ni miechau-
yo. a 9
Shigeki-teki-yo. 9
Shigeki-teki-dayo. a
Bakku shito-ni suwara.
a9
Furonto srato-o raose,
0 9
Kutsu-o nugi-nayo. a
Rirakkusu-shite. a 9
Enjoi-shite. a 9
Take your off.
PETTING ' 51
Kutsu-o nuide." 0 9
Buraja-o hazushite. '2
09
Shitagi-o totte. '3 0 9
Yi5fuku-o nuide. '. 0 9
"1 . shoes 2. bra 3. underwear 4. clothes
I'm cold.
Make me warm.
Doesn't that feel better?
Do it like this.
Samui. 09
Atatamete. CJ' 9
Sono-hi5-ga kimochi
yokunai? CJ' 9
Konna-fii-ni shite. 0 9
52 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
That's right. SCrdane. 09
SO-dana. 0
Mane. 0 9
-Mane is often used to mean "I know." If said teasingly, it
means "Yeah, I know (but I might not tell you)." Mane is also
used in the joki ngly conceited response "Yeah, I know. Don't
mention it."
Let' s use the blanket.
The blanket's dirty.
Motu-o tsukao. 0 9
Motu kitanai. 0 9
The following are parts of a conversation about sex
that anyone might have!
Boy: Let's do it now. Ima shiyo. 0 9
Girl : I want to wait till Kekkon-surumade
my wedding night. machifai. 0 9
Boy: Explain. Setsumei-shite. 0 9
Boy: I want to know Naze-ka shiritai. 0 9
why.
Gi rl : It's too soon. Hayasugiru. 0 9
Girl : The first time Hajimete-no toki-wa
should be special. tokubetsu-ja nakucha.
09
Girl: It should be more Motto romanchikku-ja
romantic. nakutcha. 0 9
Girl : Try again next Kondo tameshite. 0 9
time.
Boy: What next time? Kondo-tte nan-dayo? 0
Kondo-tte nani-yo? 9
Boy: Now or never! Ima-ka mo shinai-ka!
09
Girl : OK, let' s go.
Boy: Are you sure?
Girl : Hurry, or I'll
change my mind.
Girl : What' s wrong?
PETIING' 53
Wakatta, iki'J. cr 9
Honto-ni it-no? o 9
Hayaku-shinakya ki-ga
kawatchau. 9
Hayaku-shinakya ki-ga
kawaru. o
OOka shite-no?" o 9
OO-shita-no?" o 9
Nanka atta-no?" o 9
Do-shitan-dayo? o
'These should be voiced with some concern.
Boy: This is my first
time.
Boy: I don't know what
to do.
Girl: Why not?
Boy: I haven't read
Chapter 3 yel.
Kore-ga hajimete-nanda.
o
Kore-ga hajimete-nano.
9
D6-shitara ii-ka wakannai.
Cf9
Nande dame-nano? o 9
Mada Chaputii Surii-o
yondenai. cr 9

IMCWW
Stay with me tonight.
I'll tell you something-I
love you.
I know what's on your
mind.
No, you don't.
You' re thinking di rty
thoughts.
So are you.
54
Konya-wa atashi-to ssro-
ni ite. 9
Konya-wa boku-to issbo-
ni ita. Cf
Chotto kiite-aishiteru.
<79
Chotto kiite- aishiteru-yo.
<7
Anata-ga nani
kangaeteru-ka shitteru.
9
Kimi-ga nani kangaeteru-
ka shitteru-yo. <7
Shiruwakenai-deshO. 9
Shiruwakenai-daro. <7
Anata-wa yarashii-koto
kangaeteru. 9
Kimi-wa yarashii-koto
kangaeteru. <7
Anata-mo. 9
Kimimo. C1
I like that ki nd of
thinking.
A li veli er phrase.
You' re the only one I
love.
MAKING LOVE ' 55
SO-yOkangae suki. C1 9
Jibun-datte. C1 9
Anata-dake-o aishiteru.
9
Kimi-dake-o aishiteru. C1
NOTE: Go easy at first on the sweet talk. Japanese boys don't
throw around a lot of compliments or terms of endearment. so
most girls are not accustomed to such attention: However, in
the long run, most will definitely enjoy it.
I don't love anyone else.
I love you so much I
could die.
I love you for who you
are.
)
Hoka-no dare-mo
aishitenai. C1 9
Shinu-hodo aishiteru.
C19
Anata-rashisa-o eishiteru-
no. 9
Kimi-rashisa-o aishiterun-
da. C1
56 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Now is the right time.
It hurts to be without
you.
Hold me tight.
See me tonight.
I don' t want to be used.
* Asobu means "to play."
Believe in me. (Trust
me.)
Ima-ga sono-toki-yo. 9
Ima-ga sono-tosi-de. a
Anata-nashi-da to tsurai.
9
Kimi-nashi-da to tsurai.
a
Shikkari dakishimete. 9
Tsuyoku dakishimete.
0'9
Konya alte. a 9
Asobaretakunai. a 9
Atashi-o shinjite. 9
Boku-o shinjite. a
I want to know all about
you.
You're so very precious.
MAKING LOVE' 57
Anata-no-koto subete
shiritai. 9
Kimi-no-koto subete
shiritai. cr
Anata-wa tottemo tai-
setsu. 9
Kimi-wa tottemo taise-
tsu." CI
"Ihis is a very powerful expression of love and devotion. Use
with caution.
I want to make love to
you.
Anata-to beddo-in shitai."
9
Anata-to netai. 9
Kimi-to beddo-in shitai. "
o
Kimi-to netai. o
BedcJo..in means "go to bed. " The In is pronounced the same
as the English "in."
I don't want to go home
tonight.
Konya-wa uchi-ni
kaeritakunai. 9
"Popular phrase. If she says this, pat yourself on the back.
Do you want to come to
my place?
Take me tonight.
Uchi-ni kuru? o 9
Konya anata-no mono-ni
shite. 9

"Literally means "Make me yours tonight. "


58 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
NOTE: Japanese do not often directly say "Let's go to bed."
Instead the words are conveyed by the mood. These phrases
are useful in case you miss the mood signals. Also, Japanese
girls will not be the first to mention going to a love hotel (rabu
horeru. a special hotel that rents rooms to couples by the hour)
unless they are real playgirls or long-time steadies. And, nice to
know. most Japanese giris will not take off their own dothes.
Almost always they wi ll wait for the boy to remove them.
It's too early (to go to
bed).
Mada hayai. a 9
Young Japanese people usually live with their parents
right up to their wedding day. With small houses and
paper-thin walls, the living arrangements are not con-
ducive to good sex. Owning a car provides little es-
cape, for there are few pleasant, obscure places to
park short of driving two or three hours to the country-
side. So, where do the non-farmers go for a roll in the
hay? Better yet, where can you go? Have you heard
of a love hotel? No? Come along with us on a trip to
a love hotel and we'll show you firsthand this great
Japanese institution.
Shall we hail a taxi or drive our car? A car is no
probl em, for most love hotels have parking facilities
that are both free and concealed for those extra-
careful people. One would think that the free parking
alone would make the love hotel a popular attraction
for it exists nowhere else in Japan. Anyway, identifying
a love hotel is not so difficult, for most of them are lo-
cated near big train stations (four tracks or more), in
entertainment districts, and along major highways.
They are usually well lit with colorful Japanese charac-
ters or katakana in neon, or just a sign saying "Hotel, "
with some twinkli ng stars floating around it. If there are
J
MAKI NG LOVE 59
no obvious markings, look for big, big objects on the
roof. A 3D-foot mock Statue of Liberty or Queen
Elizabeth (the ship, not the monarch) on top of a
building that has no other visible advertisements or
signs is a dead giveaway. Also, the absence of a
doorman and furnished lobby with a front desk should
scream love hotel.
As we enter the love hotel we see a big display
board with pictures of the rooms. Some of the pictures
are lighted and some are not; the lighted pictures indi-
cate rooms that are still available. There are many to
choose from, all with different themes: hot air balloon,
S & M, boxing, and even a race-car room. Let' s
check out the boxing-ring room. Below the picture is a
button which causes the room key to drop out when

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pushed. Before we go to the elevator, we notice the
two prices below the picture; the cheaper price is the
two-hour rate and the other price, usually three to four
times higher, is for an all-nighter. Most rooms have
yen meters installed to keep you informed of the price
you must pay for your pleasure. (Daytime discount
rates are available at most love hotels; pack a lunch
and enjoy.) At last we arrive at the room. It is identical
to that shown in the picture: bed with ropes and stan-
chions, boxing equipment, refrigerator, TV (regular TV
and pay channels), adult videotapes for rent (usually
fifteen- or twenty-minute movies), and a lar ge, open
shower/bathtub room. Coffee and tea are complimen-
tary, but the sodas and beer are not. "Adult toys" are
available; use the menu located next to the phone.
Five hours and three baths later, we leave the room
and see two Japanese maids scurry into it to prepare
it for the next couple. Before cleaning the room, the
maids will thoroughly inventory the refrigerator and all
proprietary love notions, including the arched foam
pad for the bathroom floor. So, don't put the cap
back on the empty bottle and return it to the
refrigerator-these cleaning ladies are hip to that skip!
MAKING LOVE' 61
We're back in the lobby again, standing before the
pay window. Actually it's not a window but a slit for
passing money through. The service at a love hotel is
very discreet; you don't see them and they don't see
you. ID's aren't even checked. There's a rule of
thumb: If you're old enough to pay, you're old
enough to play.
I
Come closer to me.
I'm so glad I waited.
Your hair smells good.
What perfume/cologne
are you wearing?
Motto chikaku-ni aide-yo.
a9
Matte-ite yokatta. a 9
Anata-no kaminoke ii
nioi. 9
Kimi-no kaminoke ii nioi.
a
Nanna k6sui/koron
tsuketeru-no? a 9
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What color underwear
are you wearing?
Nani ira-no shitagi-o
tsuketeru-no? 0' <;>
I like your underwear. Sono shftagi kawaii-ne. "
<;>
Sono shftagi kawaii-na. "
0'
Sono shitagi suteki-ne.
<;>
Sono shftagi sutekl-
dana.' 0'
Kawai; means "cute" and sutek; means "nice" or "pretty,"
That tickl es. Kusuguttai. 0' <;>
Kusuguttai-yo. 0'
You have beautiful skin. Kirei-na hada-cfane. 0'
I found your birthmark. Hokura-o mitsuketa. 0' <;>
I'm getting excited.
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MAKING LOVE ' 63
Ki5fun-shitekichatta.
o Q ,.r"
"This phrase is only used for sexual excitement.
I forgot to use protect ion.
Did it hurt?
When was your first ex-
perience?
Where was your first ex-
perience?
Hinin-suru-no
wasurechatta. a 9
ftakatta? a 9
Shotaiken itsu?' a 9
Shotaiken-wa doko-datta-
no?: o 9
"Experience" (taiken) here means sex.
I won't tell you.
Do you like to make love
in the shower?
Oshienai. a 9
Shawa-o abinagara
sekkusu-suru-no suki?
a 9
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Do you like to make love
in the morning?
Just joking.
1made love.
I made love to a girl.
Asa sekkusu-sutu-no
suki? (J' 9
J6dan-dayo. (J'''
Beddo-in snite. C1"
Onna-o daita. (J'
" Literally means "I held a girl "-big, bragging words.
breast
nipple(s)
buttocks
hip
waist
nape of the neck
bellybutton
ear lobe
down there
oppai (J' "
mune (J' "
chikubi (J' "
hippu "
oshiri (J' "
ketsu C1
koshi (J' "
uesto (J'''
kubisuji (J' "
oheso (J' "
mimitabu (J'''
asoko' (J' 9
Asoko usually means "over there" but in this sense it means
the "private parts."
MAKING LOVE 65
NOTE: The Japanese believe a high and big nose on a boy in-
dicates he is well endowed, and a small mouth and skinny an-
kles on a girl indicate she is tightly endowed.
Bite my shoulders. Kata-o kande. CI 9
NOTE: Japanese boys worry about their vi rginity and the fi rst
time they make love. Normally, Japanese girls will be passive
for the fi rst love session so as not to act like experienced
lovers.
Sixty-nine. Shikkusu-nain. CI 9
'n's "six-nine" in Japanese, not "si xty-nine."
l
I like to "sixty-nine."
Let's do "sixty-nine."
Show me your
erogenous areas.
Shikkusu-nain suki. CI 9
Shikkusu-nain-de shiy6.
Cl9
Doko-ga kanjiru-ka
oshiete. CI 9
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I like to try different
styles.
.
You think of a new po-
siti on.
I'm tired of that one.
That' s original.
That sounds exciting.
Chigau sutairu-o
tameshitai. Cf 9
Atarashii kakk6-0 kan-
gaete. Cf 9
Are-niwa akita. 0' 9
Sore-wa orijinaru. 0' 9
Wakuwaku-shichau. "
0'9
Wakuwaku-suru. 0' 9
* Wakuwaku-shichaulsuru can be used in nonsexual contexts
such as "That party sounds exciting. "
Let' s do it again.
girl bottomiboy top
boy bottom/girl top
doggy style
M6 ikkai shiy6. 0' 9
selj6i 0' 9
klj6i' 0' 9
bakku' 0' 9
*SeijOi literally means "normal"; kijo; means "to ride"; and bak
ku means, well . you know. To make a sentence meaning
something like "Let' s do it doggy style," one would say Bakku-
de shiyo; for "Let's have the gi rl ride the hobby horse," one
would say Kijoi-de shiyo; and for "Let's be missionaries," one
would say Seijoi-de shiyo. .
FICIJIIMG
You told me that you
love me, didn't you?
Are you telling me you
don' t love me
anymore?
You lied to me.
You lie to me all the
time.
Stop lying to me.
It was stupid of me to
trust you.
I can't trust you
anymore.
67
Aishiteru-tle itla-yone?
Cl Q
Aishiteru-tle itla-dar6? CI
Atashi-o m6 aishitenai-tle
itleru-no? Q
Boku-o m6 aishitenai-tle
itteru-no? C1
Usotsuita-ne. Q
Usotsuita-na. CI
ltsumo uso-bekketi-tsuku.
ClQ
Usotsuku-no yamete. CI Q
Aoara-o shinjiru-nante
baka-datla. Q
Kimi-o shinjirunante
baka-datla. CI
Anata-no-koto m6 shin-
jirarenai. Q
Kimi-no-koto m6 shin-
.. .
Jlrarenal. Cf
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Everything you've said is
a lie.
I knew it wouldn't work.
You've changed, haven't
you?
You messed up my life.
Anata-ga itta-koto minna
uso-da. <;>
Kimi-ga itta-koto minna
usc-de. (J'
Dame-dato wakatteta-wa.
<;>
Dame-dato wakatteta-yo.
(J'
Anata-wa kawatta-ne? <;>
Kimi-wa kawatta-nii? CI
Atashi-no jinsei-o dame-ni
shita. <;>
Boku-no j insei-o dame-ni
shita. (J'
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FIGHTING ' 69
Don't hurt me anymore.
Let's not tie each other
up.
Ma kizutsukenaide. C7 9
Otagai-ni shibaru-nowa
yameya. C7 9
"As in "Let's see other people."
You're the one who said,
" Let's stop seei ng
each other."
Let's not get serious
now.
Anata-ga ma au-nowa
yosa-lle me-rove. 9
Kimi-ga ma au-nowa
yosa-lle ittan-dayo. C7
Ima shinken-ni naru-
nowa yosa. C7 9
"The use of "let' s" here is very Japanese, for it invites the
other party into the decision-making process. Most Japanese
are indirect in their speech. Directl y stating one's wishes will
halve the normal runaround encountered when talking to
Japanese.
I don't want to get
senous.
I don't even want to
think about it.
Shinken-ni naritakunai.
C79
Kangae-taku-mo nai.
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What does that mean?
Wipe your tears away.
You take me for granted.
You're so selfish!
Who am I to you?
Who do you think I am?
I wasn't born yesterday.
06-iO imi? 0' 9
Namida-o tuite. 0' 9
Atashi-o riy6-shiteru-
none. 9
Boku-o riy6-shiterun-da. 0'
Anata-wa totemo
wagamama! 9
Kimi-wa totemo wagama-
mal 0'
Atashi-wa anata-ni-totte
nan-nano? 9
Boku-wa kimi-ni-totte
nan-nano? o
Atashi-o nanda-to
omotteru-no? 9
Boku-o nanda-to
omotterun-da? 0'
Atashi-wa baka-ja nain-
dakara. 9
Boku-wa baka-ja nain-
dakara. 0'
*Literally means "I'm not a fool."
I don't belong here. Atashi-wa koko-ni
awanai. 9
Boku-wa koko-ni awanai.
0'
Do you know what
you' re doing?
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Do-iO tsumori? CJ' 9
Don't tell me what to do.
I don't tell you what to
do.
Meirei-shinaide. * CJ' 9
Atashi-wa meirei-shinai-
desha. * 9
Boku-wa meirei-shinai-
dara." Cf
.. Meirei-suru means "to order" and it can be used for anything
similar to "Don' t order me to ... "
I'll do whatever I want.
Don't try to change me.
Atashi-wa atashi-no suki-
nayoni suru. 9
Bokuwa boku-no suki-
na-yo-nl suru. C1
Atashi-o kaeyo-to-
shinaide. 9
Boku-o kaeyo-to
shinaide. CJ'
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I can't be what you want
me to be.
Let me be me.
Leave me alone.
What are you doing?
What the hell are you
doing?
Don't you have some-
thing to do?
Stop following me
around.
Stap checking up on me.
Stop troubling me.
I didn't mean to.
Anata-ga omotteru-yo-ne
onna-niwa narenai. Q
Kimi-ga omotteru-yo-na
otoko-niwa narenai. o
Atashi-no mama-de
irasete. 9
Boku-no mama-de
irasete. cr
Hottoite. C/ 9
Nani shiten-no? C/ 9
Nani yatten-no? C/ 9
Hoka-ni sutu-koto-nei-no?
C/9
Okkakemawasu-nawa
yamete. C/ 9
Atashi-no-koto shiraberu-
nawa yamete. 9
Baku-no-koto shiraberu-
nawa yamete. CJ
Kamarasenaide. CJ 9
Sanna tsumori-ja nakatta.
CJ9
Don't embarrass me,
Don't disappoint me
(again).
I'm disappointed in you.
So, what do you want
me to say?
FIGHTING 73
Hazukashii-omoi
sasenaide. 0' 9
Hazukashii-omoi saseru-
na. CI
(Mo) gakkari-sasenaide.
0'9
(Mo) gakkari-saseruna.
0'
Anata-niwa gakkari-shita.
9
Kimi-niwa gakkari-shita.
0'
Atashi-ni nante itte
hoshii-no? 9
Boku-ni nante itte
hoshiin-da? 0'
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Don't pretend nothing
happened.
How can you act like
that (to me)?
You made me do it.
How many girls have
you made cry?
How many boys have
you made cry?
Think about the way you
treated me!
Are you playing around
with me?
Nani-mo nakatta-yo-na
luri-shinaide. '{
Nem-mo nakatta-yo-na
tun-surune. CI
D6-shite sonna taido-o
suru-no? '{
D6-shite sonna taido-o
surun-da? o
Anata-ga atashi-o s6
saseta-no. '{
Kimi-ga boku-o s6
sasetan-da. o
Nannin-no onna-no-ko-o
nakasetano? '{
Nannin-no otoko-o
nakasetan-da? o
Anata-ga atashi-o donna-
IO-ni atsukatta-ka
kangaete mite-yo! '{
Kimi-ga boku-o donna-
ID-ni atsukatta-ka
kangaete miro! o
Atashi-no-koto asobi-
nano? '{
Boku-no-koto asobi-
nano? cr
FIGHTING 75
It was just a game.
Stop playing these
games.
Tada-no gemu-datta-no.
"
Tada-no gemu-datta. a
Gomakasu-nowa
yamete. a"
"Ihis means something like "Stop trying to hide the truth,"
"Don't change the subject," and "Stop acting like nothing hap.
pened" all rolled into one.
Grow up!
Don't act like a child.
Dtona-ni natte! "
Dtona-ni nare! a
Kodomo-mitai-na-koto
shinaide. a"
Kodomo-mitai-na-koto
$uruna. 0'
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Act your age.
Don't get too big for
your britches.
Toshi-soo-ni furumatte. 9
Toshi-soo-ni furumae-yo.
a
JiJ-nen hayai. a 9
*Literall y means "Ten years early."
Stop nagging. Gocha-gocha iwanaide.
9
Gocha-gocha iuna. a
After the first love session, some Japanese girls will become
very possessive. They'll want to know what you're doing at all
times. Although they were once shy, they'll now act like your
wife-even in public. The following phrases might be needed.
We went to bed only
once.
Don't act like my wife!
Ikkai neta-dake-deshO. 9
Ikkai neta-dake-daro. a
Nyobo-kidori-suruna! a
Don't act like my
husband!
Don't act like I'm yours.
I'm mad.
Don 't make me mad.
You shouldn' t have done
that .
How dare you!
I'm leaving!
Let me speak frankly.
Do you want me to tell
you the truth?
FIGHTING' 77
Teishu-zura shinaide! 9
Wagamono-gao shinaide.
09
Wagamono-gao suruna.
o
Atama-kichau. 9
Atama-kita. 0'
Mukatsuita. 0' 9
Mukatsuku. 0' 9
Okorasenaide. 9
Okoraseruna. 0'
Sonna-koto shinakya
yokatta-noni. 0' 9
Nande sonna-koto
dekiru-no! 9
Nande sonna-koto
dekirun-da! 0'
M6 iku! 0' 9
M6 iku-ya! 0'
Sh6jiki-ni iwasete. 0' 9
Hanto-na-kota itte hashii?
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What you say isn' t
important.
Don't make excuses.
Don't trick me.
I' m tired of you.
Are you tired of me?
I' m tired of looking at
you.
Go look in the mirror!
Anata-ga iu-koto-wa
juyo-ja naino. '(
Kimi-ga iu-koto-wa juyo-ja
nainda. a
fiwake-shinaide. a '(
fiwake-suruna. a
Damasanaide. a '(
Anata-niwa akita. '(
Kimi-niwa akita. a
Atashi-ni akita-no? '(
Boku-ni akita-no? a
Anata-o mi-akita. '(
Kimi-o mi-akita. a
Kagami mite denaose-
bal" '(
Kagami mite denaoshi-
na!* Cf
An English equivalent might be "Look at yourself in the mirror
and come back again because you are ugly!"
I' ve had it! Mo tekusen! : a '(
"For extra emphasis stop abruptly on the "n. "
I need excitement, not
restriction.
Shigeki-ga hoshii-no,
shibararerun-ja
nakutte. '(
FIGHTING' 79
Shigeki-ga hoshiin-da,
shibararerun-ja
nakutte. 0
You don't excite me
anymore.
You aren't any good in
bed.
You' re the one!
Anata-to-dewa shigeki-
teki-ja tiel-no. 9
Kimi-to-dewa shigeki-teki-
ja nain-da. 0
Anata-wa beddo-de
yokunai. 9
Kimi-wa beddo-de
yokunai. 0
Jibun-deshi)l" 09
Jibun-dar61" 0
- Implyi ng "on the contrary." For example:
Who farted?
You did.
Dare-ga onara-shita?
09
Anata/(name) -ga shita. 9 .
Kimi/(name) -ga shite. 0
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Wrong!
You're the one!
That' s not right!
You mean nothing to
me.
I'm glad we broke up.
It seems like you' re

uSing me.
Chigau-yo! a Q
Jibun-desh6! a Q
Jibun-dara! a
Chigau-mon! Q
Chigau-wayo! Q
Chigau-yo! a Q
Anata-wa atashi-ni-totte
nan-no itni-mo nei. Q
Kimi-wa boku-ni-totte
nanno imi-mo nai. a
Wakarete yokkatta. a Q
Atashi-no-koto riya
shiteru. Q
Boku-no-koto riya shiteru.
a
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Pack your stuff and hit
the road!
Give me back the apart-
menUcar key.
Give me back all the
presents I gave to you.
I've already thrown them
away.
Why did you do such a
thi ng?
Nimotsu-o matomete
dete-iIIe! 9
Nimotsu-o matomete
dete-ike-yo! C1
Apato/kuruma -no kii-o
kaeshite. C1 9
Atashi-ga ageta pure-
zento minna kaeshite.
9
Boku-ga ageta purezento
minna kaeshite. C1
M6 sutechatta. C1 9
Nande sonna-koto shita-
no? 9
Nande sonna-koto shitan-
dayo? C1
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I wanted to forget you.
Don't do such a thing.
Let' s talk about this later.
Let' s change the subj ect.
Don't change the
subject.
(You' re such a) worrier.
(You' re such a) crybaby.
I'm not your toy.
Don't think that I'm only
yours.
Anata-no-koto
wasuretakatta. 9
Kimi-no-koto wasuretakat-
tao a
Sonna-koto shinaide.
a 9
Sono-koto-wa etc-de
hanaso. a 9
Wadai-o kaeyo. a 9
Wadai-o kaenaide. 9
Wadai-o kaeruna. a
Shimpai-chan. a 9
Nakimushi-chan. a 9
Atashi-wa anata-no
omocha-ja nai. 9
Boku-wa kimi-no
omocha-ja nai. a
Atashi-ga anata-dake-no
mono-datte
omowanaide. 9
Boku-ga kimi-dake-no
mono-datte omouna-
yo. a
I don't belong to you.
Now I' ll feel better (be-
cause we broke up).
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Atashi-wa anata-no
mono-ja nai. 9
Boku-wa kimi-no mono-ja
net. C1
Kore-de seisei-shita. "
0'9
.. Literally means "Now I'll feel better because of what hap-
pened." The "what" can be anything.
You said bad things
about me.
". z-:
f1
Atashi-no waruguchi-o
itta. 9
Boku-no waruguchi-o itta.
0'
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How can you talk to me
like that?
You talk down to me.
You talk to me like I' m a
fool.
Who cares?
I hate you!
I can find someone bet-
ter than you.
Do it!
Di5-shite sonne-tu-n:
hsnssetu-no? 9
Di5-shite sonne-tct
hanaserun-dayo? CI
Anata-wa eteshi-o
mikudashite hanasu.
9
Kimi-wa boku-o
mikudashite hanasu.
CI
Anata-wa etestil-o baka-
ni-shite hanasu. 9
Kimi-wa boku-o baka-ni-
shite hanasu. CI
Dare-ga sonne-koto ki-n!
suns-novo? 9
Dare-ga sonne-koto ki-n!
surun-dayo? CI
Anata-nanka kirai! 9
Omae-nanka kirai-dayo!
CI
Anata-yori ii bito-qe
sagaseru. 9
Kimi-yori ii ko-ga
sagaseru. CI
Sure-bet CI 9
Shiro-yo! CI
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Who would want you?
I'm leaving.
Don't make me laugh.
You're not the only girl
in this world.
You're not the only boy
in this world.
You can't find anyone
better than me.
I can see whomever I
want.
Dare-ga anata-nanka
hoshii-noyo? '(
Dare-ga kimi-nanka
hoshii-monka? a
M6 iku. a '(
Warawasenaide. a '(
Kimi-dake-ga onna-ja nai.
a
Anata-dake-ga otoko-ja
nai. '(
Atashi-ij6-no-ko-wa
sagasenai-wayo. '(
Boku-ij6-no-yatsu-wa
sagasenai-yo. a
Atashi-wa atashi-ga aitai
hito-ni au-wa. '(
Boku-wa boku-ga aitai
hito-ni au-yo. a
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Go find yourself a new
boyfriend/girlfriend.
I've cheated on you.
I don' t want to believe
that.
Cheater!fTwo-timer!
Atarashii giiru-furendo-o
sagashite. 9
Atarashii bOi-furendo-o
sagase-yo. a
Anata-o damashiteta-no.
9
Kimi-o damashitetan-da.
a
Shinjitakunai. a 9
Uwaki-mono!' a 9
"Literally means "Floating mind."
I have another
boyfriend/girl friend.
I' ve tried to teil you
many times, but I
couldn't.
Atashi-wa hoka-ni bOi-
furendo-ga iru. 9
Boku-wa hoka-ni giiru-
furendo-ga iru. a
Nando-mo io-to shita-
kedo. a 9
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I know you' re seeing
another person.
I know how you look at
other girls.
I know how you look at
other boys.
I love someone else.
I saw you with another
boy.
Futamata kaketeruno
shitteru-wa. "
Futamata kaketeru-no
shitteru-yo. o
Anata-ga donna-IO-ni
hoka-no-ko-o miteru-ka
shitteru-wa. "
Kimi-ga donna-IO-ni
hoka-no-otoko-o
miteru-ka shitteru-yo.
o
Hoka-ni suki-na hito-ga
iru-no. "
Hoka-ni suki-na hito-ga
irun-da. Cf
Kimi-ga hoka-no-otoko-to
iru-no-o mita. C1
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"
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I saw you with another
girl.
What kind of a girl is
she?
What kind of a boy is
he?
I won't forgive you.
You' d better believe that.
Be nice to your new
sweetheart.
Anata-ga hoka-no-ko-to
itu-no-o mita. Q
Ano-ko dare? C1 Q
Ano hito dare? C1 Q
Anata-no-koto yurusanai.
Q
Kimino-koto yurusanai.
C1
Shinjita-h6-ga ii-yo. C1 Q
Atarashii koibito-ni
yasashiku-ne. Q
Atarashii koibito-ni
yasashiku-na. C1
Don't make her/him sad.
I believed in you, yet
you tricked me.
Let me explain.
Please listen to me.
Choose: him or me.
Choose: her or me.
Have you already de-
ci ded which one?
Don't make promises
you can't keep.
I can't stand it.
It happens all the time.
You forget everything.
FIGHTING 89
Kanojo/Kare -0 kanashi-
mase-naide. 0 9
Anata-o shinjiteta-noni
damashita. 9
Kimi-o shinjiteta-noni
damashita. 0
Setsumei-sasete. 0 9
D6ka kiite. 0 9
Boku-ka kere-ke erande.
o
Atashi-ka kanojo-ka
erande. 9
Dotchi-ni suru-ke kimeta?
0 9 '
Mamorenai yakusoku-wa
shinaide. 0 9
Gaman-dekinai. 0 9
itsumo so-neno. 9
ftsumo s6-nanda. 0
Anata-wa nandemo
wasurechau. 9
Kimi-wa nandemo
wasureru. Cf
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90 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Have you forgotten so
soon?
You forgot my birthday.
You forgot our anni-
versary.
You never came over.
You left me at _
You left me (stranded) .
You left without telling
me.
What a coincidence see-
ing you here.
Sonna-ni hayaku
wasurechatta-no? '(
Sonna-ni hayaku
wasureta-no? 0'
Anata-wa atashi-no
tanj 6bi wasureta. '(
Kimi-wa boku-no tanj6bi
wasureta. 0'
Anata-wa atashitachi-no
kinenbi wasureta. '(
Kimi-wa bokutachi-no
kinenbi wasureta. 0'
Anata-wa konakatta. '(
Kimi-wa konakatta. 0'
Anata-wa atashi-o
_ __-ni oitetta. '(
i m ~ w boku-o -nt
oitetta. 0'
Anata-wa atashi-o oitetta.
'(
Kimi-wa boku-o oitetta.
0'
Nani-mo iwanaide
itchatta. 0' '(
Konna tokoro-de
au-nante. 0' '(
FIGHTING 91
I was just about to call
you.
I tried to call yOU.
Why didn't you call me?
I was busy.
I didn't have ten yen.
Anatani denwe-sutu-
tokoro-dstte, '(
Kimi-n; denwe-suru-
tosoto-deue. Cf
Anatani denwashita
noyo. '(
Kiml-nl oenwe-snnen-
dayo. Cf
Nande aenwe-
kurenakattano? Cf '(
Isogashikatta. Cf '(
JDenga nakatta. o '(

92 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE


I warted all night for your
call.
You never called.
Where were you?
That' s a secret!
I don't play around.
1was busy playing
around.
Don't do that again.
I'll forget about it.
I'm not mad anymore.
Are you still mad?
You're still mad, aren't
you?
Hitoban-jfJ denwa-o
matteta. 0' 9
Denwa-o kurenakatta.
rY9
Doko-ni ita-no? o 9
Himitsu-yo! 9
Himitsu-dayo! 0'
Atashi-wa asobanai. 9
Boku-wa asobanai. o
Asobimakutteta. o 9
M6 sonna-koto shinaide.
rY9
M6 sono-koto-we
wasureru-wa. 9
M6 sono-koto-wa
wssuretu-yo. Cf
M6 okottenai-wa. 9
M6 okottenai-yo. o
Mada okotteru? o 9
Mada okotteru-desh6? 9
Mada okotteru-dar6? o
I think I was wrong.
I shouldn't have done
that.
I don't know why I did
that.
I think I was too excited.
I think I was too nervous.
I was out ot my mind.
It was silly of me (to do
that).
FIGHTING 93
Atashi-ga machigatteta-to
omou. 9
Boku-ga machigatteta-to
omou. Cf
S6 shinakya yokatta. 9
S6 surun-j a nakatta. a 9
D6-shite s6 shita-noka
wakannai. a 9
K6fun-shisugiteta. a 9
Ira-ira-shiteta. a 9
Ki-ga chigatteta. a 9
Atashi-ga baka-datta. 9
Boku-ga baka-datta. a
~ ~ I I ~
1 ~ P h ole
c:
94 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
You have so much more
than they do.
If you change your mind,
let me know.
What changed your
mind?
I didn't mean to hurt
you.
I should've thought
about it more.
Anata-wa minna-ga
mottenai mono-o
motteru. 9
Kimi-wa minna-ga
mottenai mono-o
motteru. 0'
Moshi k ~ kawattara
oshiete. 0' 9
Nani-ga anata-no
kangae-o kaeta-no? 9
Nani-ga kimi-no kangae-
o kaeta-no? 0'
Kizutsukeru tsumori-wa
nakatta. 0' 9
Motto kangaereba yokat-
ta. 0' 9
I hurt your feelings,
didn't I?
I know I hurt your
feelings.
I' ll do anything to make
you forgive me.
Anything?
I was blind to the truth.
You should understand
how I feel.
You didn't even listen to
me.
I didn't mean to.
Let's get back together.
FIGHTING' 95
Ki-ni sawatta-desh6? 9
Ki-ni sawatta-daro? a
Anata-no-koto
kizutsuketa-ne. 9
Kimi-no-koto kizutsuketa-
na. 0'
Yurushite-morau-tame-
nara nandemo suru-
wa. 9
Yurushite-morau-tame-
nara nandemo suns-yo.
a
Nandemo? a 9
Shinjitsu-ga mietenakatta.
a9
Atashi-ga donna omoi-
datta-ka wakatte-yo. 9
Boku-ga donna omoi-
datta-ka wakatte-kure.
a
Kiitekuresae-mo shinakat-
tao cr 9
Sonna tsumori-ja nakatta.
a9
Nakanaori-shiyo. a 9
96 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Promise it will never hap-
pen agam.
I promise.
I wish I hadn't done
such a thing.
Please take me back.
I' m always doing silly
things.
I feel so lonely.
I'm losing sleep.
You were the first and
you'll be the last.
Whenever you need
someone, I' ll always
be there.
Mo nido-to okoranai-tte
yakusoku-shite. C1 9
Yakusoku-suru. C1 9
Anna-koto shinakereba
yokatta. C1 9
Yori-o modoshite. C1 9
Atashi-tte itsumo baka-
na-koto suru-ne. 9
Boku-tte itsumo baka-na-
koto suru-na. C1
Samishii-no. 9
Samishiin-da. C1
Nemurenai-no. 9
Nemurenain-<Ja. C1
Anata-ga hajimete-<Je,
saige-yo. 9
Kimi-ga hajimete-<Je,
saigo-da. C1
Dare-ka hitsuyo-na toki
atashi-ga itsumo iru-
wa. 9
Dare-ka hitsuyo-na toki
boku-ga itsumo iru-yo.
C1
Whatever you want I' ll
give it to you.
Come back to me.
I believe you still love
me.
Don't throw away this
chance.
It might be your last.
FIGHTING ' 97
Nandemo hoshii mono
ageru. <:7 9
Atashi-no-toko-ni
madotte. 9
Boku-no-toko-nt madotte.
<:7
Mada aishitekureteru-tte
shinji-teru. <:7 9
Kono chansu
nogasanaide. <:7 9
Saigo-kamo shirenai.
<:79
1
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Don't be sad. Kanashimanaide. o 9
Cheer up. Genki dashite. o 9
Don't worry; be happy. Shinpai-shinaide,
akarukushite. o 9
I can't give her/him up. Kanojo/Kare -0
akiramerarenai. Cf Q
I can't forget her/him. Kanojo/Kare -0
wasurerarenal. o 9



. , .


C'!J


,Q>

D..

When do you want to


get married?
At what age do you want
to marry?
Are you going to work
after you' re married?
Do you think you're
ready to get married?
Itsu kekkon-shitai?' a Q
Nansai-de kekkon-
shitai? ' a Q
Kekkon-shita-ato
hataraku tsumori?'
a Q
Kekkon-suru junbi-wa
dekiteru?' a Q
'These are "beati ng around the bush" questions to ensure it's
OK to ask the big question.
Are you Christian or
Buddhist?
Why all these questions
about marriage?
Stop beating around the
bush!
Are you trying to pro-
pose to me?
99
Kurisuchan soretomo
Bukky6? a Q
Nande kekkon-no-koto
bakkari kiku-no? a Q
Gucha-gucha iwanaide!
aQ
PuropOzu-shiy6-to
shiteru-no? a Q
100 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
What' s the question?
What' s the answer?
What' s on your mind?
Will you marry me?
Will you use my last
name?
Shall we share the rest
of our lives together?
Will you make my mise
soup for breakfast?
Will you have my baby?
Nani-ga kikitai-no? 0 9
Kotae-wa? 09
Neni-o kangaeteru-no?
09
Kekkon-shitekureru? 0 9
Boku-no myi5ji-o tsukat-
tekureru?" o
Nokoti-no jinsei-o issho-ni
sugosanai?' 0 9
Chi5shoku-no mlso-shitu-
o tsukuttekureru?' 0
Boku-no kodomo-o
undekureru?' 0
"The above phrases are "Will you marry me?" substitutes. Miso
soup is made from soybean paste. It can be eaten at any meal
but is an important item in a traditional Japanese breakfast.
I can't marry you.
I don't want to marry
you.
Anata-to kekkon-dekinai.
9
Kimi-to kekkon-dekinai.
o
Ana/a-to kekkon-
shitakunai. 9
Kiml-to kekkon-
shitskunel. 0
I can't get married now.
Why not?
MARRIAGE' 101
Ima kekkon-dekinai. a 9
Nande dame-nano?'
a9
"Go back to Chapter 4 to continue this conversation.
I have some good news
to tell you.
I can't tell you on the
phone.
You're going to be a
daddy!
Ii nyiisu arun-da. a 9
Denwa-ja ienai. a 9
Anal8.-wa papa-ni naru-
noyo! 9

.,
o
, ..
o
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I' m pregnant.
Congratulations!
Are you sure?
I haven't had my period
yet.
When was your last
period?
When did you find that
out?
Why didn't you tell me
sooner?
I' ve been wanting to tell
you, but (I didn't).
What month are you
now?
When's the baby due?
It' s going to change our
lives.
Atashi ninshin shiteruno.
9
Omedet6! a 9
Honto-ni? a 9
Seiri-ga konai-no. 9
Saigo-no seiri-wa itsu
atta-no? a 9
Itsu sore-ga wakattano?
a 9
Nande motto hayaku
iwanakatta-no? a 9
litakatta-kedo . . . a 9
Ima nankagetsu? a 9
Yoteibi-wa itsu? a 9
Atashitachi-no jinsei-o
kaeru. 9
Bokutachi-no jinseio
kaeru. a
' Remove the tach; to say "It's going to change my life. "
I want a boy/girl.
It' s our destiny.
There's no better news
than this.
When will your stomach
show?
c9
L
MARRIAGE' 103
Otoko-no-ko/Onna-no-ko-
ga hoshii. CI 9
Kore-ga atashitach/-no
unme/_ 9
Kore-ga bokutachi-no
unmec 0'
Kore-/jB ii nyiisu-wa nai-
yo. CI 9
Itsu-goro-kara onaka-ga
medachi-hajimeru-no?
Cl9
104 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Take good care of
yourself.
Start reading books
about babies.
We should think of a
name.
Maybe it was too early to
take the test.
Take the test again.
Are you sure it's mine?
I won't answer that!
Karadani yoku kio
tsukete. C1
Akachanni/suiteno bon-
o yomihajimenayo. C1
Namae-o kangae-
nakucha. C1 9
Tesuto-o ukeru-niwa
hayasugirun-janai. C1 9
MB ichido tesuto-o ukete.
C19
HontB-ni boku-no-ko? C1
Kotaenai-wa! 9
Kotaenai-yo! C1
I guess that our protec-
tion wasn't good
enough.
You said it was safe.
I can't be held
responsible.
Don't run away from
your responsibility.
Accept the responsibility.
See you later.
Don't call me.
I' ll call you later.
It's a bad time.
It's too early.
It' s your fault.
MARRIAGE' 105
Hinin-ga jDbun-ja
nakattan-dane. 0 9
Hinin shiteru-tte itta-janai.
9
Hinin shiteru-tte ittadar6.
o
Sekinin torenai. 0 9
Sekinin-nogare shinaide.
09
Sekinin-o totte. 0 9
Ato-de-ne. 0 9
Ato-de-na. 0
Denwa-shinaide. 0 9
Atashi-ga ato-de denwa-
suru. 9
Boku-ga ato-de denwa-
suru. cr
Jikiga warui. 0 9
Hayasugiru. 0 9
Anata-no sei. 9
Kimi-no sei. C1
106 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
What will happen to us?
I want to keep the baby.
Atashitachi do narun-
desha? 9
Bokutachi do narun-
daro? 0'
Akachan-o umitai. 9
" Literally means "I want to deliver the baby."
It' s our baby.
What do you think?
Let' s have the operation.
You' re such a cold
person!
I can't kill our baby.
I can't do that.
We don't have a choice.
We're not ready yet.
Atashitachi-no akachan-
yo. 9
Bokutachi-no akachan-
dayo. 0'
Do omou? 0' 9
Shujutsu-o shiyo. 0' 9
Anata-tte hontb-n!
tsumetai-none! 9
Kimi-tte honto-ni
tsumetai-na! 0'
Atashitachi-no akachan-o
korosenai. 9
Bokutachi-no akachan-o
korosenai. 0'
Sonna-koto dekinai. 0' 9
Sonna-koto itterarenai.
0'9
Mada hayai. 0' 9
MARRIAGE 107
Let's raise the baby.
I don't need your help.
You'll be sorry.
Please give it up this
time.
Akachan-o sooete-y.
C19
Anata-no tasuke-wa
iranai. 9
Kimi-no tasuke-wa iranai.
C1
Kokai-suru-yo. C1 9
Konkai-wa akiramete.
C1 9
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108 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE


We have to think about it
carefully.
I'll pay for it.
How much does it cost?
Do you have that much
money?
I don't make enough
money.
I'll make the money for
it.
I can get it.
It's impossible to have a
baby now.
What do we do now?
I'm scared.
Will you go with me?
Yoku kangaenakucha.
a"
Atashi-ga harau. "
Boku-ga harau. a
Ikura kakaru? a "
Sore-dake okane
motteru? a"
Sonna-ni okene-o
kaseganai. a"
Okane-o tsukuru-wa. "
Okane-o tsukuru-yo. a
Te-ni hairu-yo. a"
Ima akachan-o motsu-
nowa muri-yo. "
Ima akachan-o motsu-
nowa muri-dayo. a
Do-suru? a"
Kowai-wa. "
Atashi-to issho-ni
ittekureru?' "
As in "Will you accompany me?"
MARRIAGE' 109
Do you have to stay in
the hospital overnight?
Is there anything I can
do for you?
We'll be able to have a
baby another time.
I wish it were a dream.
I don't know what to do.
It's up to you.
Byoin-ni ippaku _
shinakucha ikenai-no?
a'(
Nanika atashi-ni dekiru-
koto aru? '(
Nanika boku-ni dekiru-
koto aru? a
Mata itsuka akachan-o
moteru-yo. a '(
Yume-dattara yokatta-
noni. a '(
Do-shitara ii-ka wakannai.
a'(
Anata-ni makaseru. '(
Kimi-ni makaseru. a
110 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
You decide.
Let me think it over.
Whatever you want to do
will be fine with me.
The child is ours, not just
mine.
You knew it could hap-
pen, didn't you?
Let's decide together.
I should tell my parents.
I should call my parents.
What will your parents
think?
Anata-ga kimete. 9
Kimi-ga kimete. a
MB ichido kangae-
sasete. a 9
Anata-ga shitai-yB-ni
shite-ii-yo. 9
Kimi-ga shitai-yB-ni shite-
II-yo. a
Akachan-wa atashi-dake-
no mono-ja nai-yo. 9
Akachan-wa boku-dake-
. .
no mono-js. nal-Yo. a
KB-naru-kamo shirenai-tte
wakattetan-deshB? 9
KB-naru-kamo shirenai-tte
wakattetan-darB? a
Issho-ni kimeyB. a 9
RyBshin-ni iwanakucha.
a9
RyBshin-ni denwa-
shinakucha. a 9
Anata-no ryoshin dB
omou-kana? 9
Kimi-no ryBshin dB
omou-darB? a
I already told my
parents.
What did they say?
Were they mad?
Are your parents on our
side?
Will your parents help
us?
MARRIAGE ' 111
M6 ry6shin-ni itta. o '(
Nante itteta? cr '(
Okotteta? o '(
Anata-no ry6shin
atashitachi-no mikata?
'(
Kimi-no ry6shin
bokutachi-no mikata?
o
Anata-no ry6shin
tasuketekureru-kana?
'(
Kimi-no ry6shin
tasuketekureru-kana?
o
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v c
Let me meet your
parents.
Introduce me to your
famil y.
Now is not a good time.
Maybe I shouldn't meet
your parents now.
Now is as good a time
as any.
I - ~ I
Anata-no ryoshin-ni awa-
sete. <;>
Kimi-no ry6shin-ni awa-
sete. a
Anata-no kazoku-ni
shOkai-shite. <;>
Kimi-no kazoku-ni shOkai-
shile. a
Ima-wa yokunai. a <;>
Tabun ima anata-no
ryashin-ni awanai-hO-
ga ii. <;>
Tabun ima kimi-no
ryoshin-ni awanai-hO-
ga ii. a
Itsu-datte onaji-yo. <;>
Itsu-datte onaji-dayo. a .
I'll meet your parents as
soon as possible.
Do you think your par-
ents will accept our
baby/marriage?
We can live with my par-
ents for a while.
How long is "a while" ?
What are you going to
do about your
job/school?
Are you going to quit
work/school?
MARRIAGE 113
Dekiru-dake hayaku
anata-no ry6shin-ni au.
9
Dekiru-dake hayaku kimi-
no ryOshin-ni au. C7
Anata-no ryOshin
atashitachino
akachanlkekkon -0
mitomete-kureru-
kana? 9
Kimi-no ryOshin
bokutachi-no akachanl
kekkon -0 mitomete
kureru-kana? C7
Atashi-no ryOshin-to
shibaraku issho-ni
sumeru-wa. 9
Baku-no ryOshin-to
shibaraku issho-ni
sumeru-yo. C7
Shibaraku-tte dono
gurai? C7 9
Shigoto/Gakk6 -0 d6-suru
tsumori? C7 9
Shigoto/Gakk6 -0 yameru
tsumori? C7 9
114 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
I should get a better
paying job.
I'd better get a second
job.
I don't want my wife to
work.
Motto kyfJrya-no ii
shigo/ero
sagasanakucha. a 9
Arubai/o-o shi/a-M -ga
ii-ne. 9
Arubaito-o shi/a-M-ga
n-ne. C1
Boku-no kanojo' -niwa
ha/arai/e hoshikunai.
a
Kanojo in this case means "wife."
We have to hurry to
have the wedding.
Do you cook often?
Isoide kekkon-shiki-o
agenakucha. a 9
Yoku ryi5ri-suru? a 9
[
~
- (( ~ = =
,\
I'd like to try your home
cooking.
What's your best dish?
I want to try that.
Are your parents fat?
Don't worry.
I'm sure the neighbors
will talk about us.
Are you worried about
what your neighbors
might say?
Does your family care
what they say?
MARRIAGE 115
Anata-no teryori-ga
tabetai. 9
Kimi-no teryori-ga tabetai.
o
Tokui-ryori-wa nani? o 9
Sore-o tabete-mitai. cr 9
Anata-no ryOshin
tuttoteru? 9
Kimi-no ryOshin tuttoteru?
o
Shinpai-shinaide. o 9
Kinjo-no-hitotachi
atashitachi-no-koto
hanasu-ne. 9
Kinjo-no-hitotachi
bokutachi-no-koto
hanasu-daro. o
Kinjo-no-hito-ga nante iu-
ka ki-ni naru? o 9
Karera-ga iu-koto anata-
no kazoku kini suru?
9
Karera-ga iu-koto kimi-no
kazoku ki-ni suru? o
116 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
Tell me what to do in
front of your family.
Anatano kazoku-no mae-
de d6-shitara ii-ka
oshiete. 9
Kimi-no kazoku-no mae-
de d6-shitara ii-ka
oshiete. (J'
NOTE: You shouldn't kiss or hug in front of a girl 's family unUt
they know you reall y well. It's OK to hold hands though.
What should I talk
about?
What shall I bring?
Tell me what to say.
Do you think your family
will like me?
Does your father smoke?
Does your father drink?
Nani-o hanaseba ii? 0' Q
Nani-o motte-ik6-ka? 0' 9
Nanika iu-koto osblete.
0'9
Anata-no kazoku atashi-
no-koto ki-ni ifte-
kurerukana? Q
Kimi-no kazoku boku-no-
koto ki-ni itte-kureru-
kana? (J'
Anata-no otasan tabako
suu? 9
Kimi-no otbeen tabako
suu? CF
Anata-no ot6san osaka
nomu? 9
Kimino otasan osaka
nomu? CI
What's your father 's
hobby/work?
MARRIAGE 117
OtBsan-no shumi/shigoto
-wa nsni?" Cf 9
"Typical hobbies are: shagi, Japanese chess; tsufi, fishi ng;
gorufu, golf; keiba, horse racing, which means "betting on
horses"; and pachinko, a pinball-style game, actually more of
an addicti on than a hobby.
What's your father proud
of?
Who will like me the
most?
Anata-no oti5san nani-o
hokori-ni shiteru? 9
Kimino ot6san nani-o
hokori-ni shiteru? o
Dare-ga atashi-o ichiban
ki-ni itte-kureru-kana?
9
Dare-ga boku-o ichiban
ki-ni itte-kureru-kana?
cr
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Who will oppose our
marriage?
Who will support our
marriage?
Is anyone on my side?
Maybe some other time.
We can do it later.
How much will the wed-
ding cost?
How much will your
parents pay?
We should begin prepar-
Ing now.
Dare-ga atashitachi-no
kekkon hantai-suru-
kana? <;>
Dare-ga bokutachi-no
kekkon hantai-suru-
kana? C1
Dare-ga atashitachi-no
kekkon oen
shitekureru-kana? <;>
Dare-ga bokutachi-no
kekkon oen-
shitekureru-kana? C1
Dare-ka atashi-no mikata
iru? <;>
Dare-ka boku-no mikata
itu? Cf
rabun chigau-hi. C1 <;>
Ato-de dekiru. C1 <;>
Kekkon-shiki-no hiyo
ikura kakaru? C1 <;>
Anata-no ryashin ikura
dashite-kureru? <;>
Kimi-no ryoshin ikura
dashite-kureru? C1
Ima-kara yoi-shita-hO-ga
ii. C1 <;>
MARRIAGE 119
Should we have a Japa-
nese- or an American-
style wedding?
What' s the difference?
Amerika-shiki-to Nihon-
shiki-to dotchi-ni suru?
0'9
Nani-ga chigau-no? 0' 9
A Japanese-style wedding is performed by a Shinto
priest and the wedding ceremony guests are limited to
the family. Conversely, an American-style wedding in
Japan is performed by a clergyman from any of the
Christian denominations and the guests include both
fami ly and friends. Both bride and groom usually wear
kimono for a Japanese-style wedding ceremony,
whereas a weddi ng dress and a tuxedo are worn for
an American-style wedding. A dinner party follows
both ceremonies, in which a full-course dinner is
served to the wedding party and guests as friends
120 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
and relatives take turns giving speeches and singing
songs. In a modest wedding, the bride will wear the
same wedding dress throughout the dinner party, but
she might change her hairstyle. For a more elaborate
wedding, the bride might change her clothes twice
during the dinner party alone. The following factors
determine the cost of the wedding: how many guests
are invited (which will determine the number of
presents that are to be given to the guests and the
number of dinner settings), what is served for dinner,
how many times the bride changes clothes, and the
location of the wedding hall. Incidentally, in Japan the
wedding hall takes care of everything; you walk in sin-
gle and leave married. t
You have a nice figure.
You're slim.
Did you lose weight?
Did you gain weight?
Sutairu-ga ii-ne. 9
Sutairu-ga ii-na. a
Yaseteru-ne. 9
Yaseteru-na. a
Surimu-dane. 9
Surimu-dana. a
Yaseta? a 9
Futtota? a 9
Do you think I need to
diet?
No, I like the way you
are now.
You need to be on a
diet.
You should stop
smoking.
Daietto-shita-hi5-ga ii-to
omou? a9
Uun, sono-mama-no
anata-ga suki. 9
Uun, sana-marna-no
kimi-ga suki. a
Daietto-shita-hi5-ga ii-yo.
a9
Tabaka yame-nayo. a 9
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Stop smoking.
Smoking is not good for
your health.
You need to exercise.
Do you exercise?
Do you like to exerci se?
We can exercise
together.
What type of exercises
do you do?
I run three kilometers
every day.
I go to the gym.
Tabako yamete. a 9
Tabako-wa karada-ni
yokunai. a 9
Ekisasaizu,shita-hOga ii-
yo. a 9
Ekisasaizu suru? a 9
Ekisasaizu suki? a 9
Ekisasaizu issho-ni
dekiru-yo. a 9
Donna ekisasaizu-suru-
no? a 9
Mainichi san-kiro hashiru.
a9
Jimu-ni lku. a 9
I go to the pool.
I like to swim.
HEALTH 123
Piiru-ni iku. C1 <;>
Oyogu-noga suki. C1 <;>
NOTE: After a good exercise session, say Koshi-ga itsi, which
means "My back hurts." People listening to you will reall y think
you had some good sex last night and that is the reason for
your backache.
I'm a vegetarian.
I don't eat fried food.
I can't live without
McDonalds.
Saishoku-shugi desu.
C1<;>
Atashi bejitarian. <;>
Boku bejitarian. C1
Agemono-wa tabenai.
C1<;>
Makudonarudo nashi-ja
ikirarenai. C1 <;>
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