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Enhances:
Optimism
Balances/Counters:
Despair, Impatience
Hope is a positive and potent spiritual practice with the power to pull us
through difficult times. It is usually described with light metaphors — a
ray, a beam, a glimmer of hope; the break in the clouds; the light at the
end of the dark tunnel. It is often discovered in unexpected places.
Hope can be learned with practice. Certain attitudes support it. One is
patience, an ability to tolerate delays, a willingness to let events unfold
in their own time. The other is courage, an attitude of confidence even
when facing the unknown. A third is persistence, the determination to
keep going no matter what happens. We have hope when we can say, all
will be well, and we mean it.
But a more common — and very telling expression — is "Hope for the
best, but expect the worst." The more likely outcome, it implies, is the
worst. When we are without hope, we easily fall victim to such
negativism. When the light of hope is absent, we are overcome by gloom
and doom, despair and defeatism.
Quotations
The Chinese have a saying: If you keep a green bough in your heart surely
the singing bird will come. — Chinese saying quoted in The Web in the
Sea by Alice O. Howell
Let us plant dates even though those who plant them will never eat
them. We must live by the love of what we will never see.... Such
disciplined love is what has given prophets, revolutionaries, and saints
the courage to die for the future they envisaged. They make their own
bodies the seed of their highest hope. — Rubem Alves quoted in There Is
A Season by Joan Chittister
There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of
hopefulness. — Jean Giono quoted in The Music of Time by John S.
Dunne
No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless. There's too much work
to do. — Dorothy Day quoted in In a High Spiritual Season by Joan
Chittister
Hope is the foundation for creativity, inspiration, joy and all those
emotions which allow us to transcend ourselves. — Verena Kast in Joy,
Inspiration and Hope
The gift of hope makes every person, as well as the whole family of
humanity, very valuable; the vision of future rightness sends back a
stamp of rightness into the present. It also makes life a little more
playful. What we cannot do in a million calendar squares, God will do in
his own time. — Lewis B. Smedes in How Can It Be All Right When
Everything Is All Wrong?
"The season of Advent, more than any other time of the church year,
invites us to embrace the spiritual discipline of waiting. The season of
Advent will not be rushed. The Advent carols must be sung, the Advent
candles must be lighted week by week, and the doors of the Advent
Calendar must be opened day by day. Christmas will finally come when
all the expectant Scriptures have been read and when the baby has
finally been born.
"Every stage of our lives involves some new form of waiting. When our
children are tiny, we wait years for a good night's sleep. When our
children are toddlers, we wait eagerly for the time when they will no
longer wear diapers, can take a bath on their own, and get dressed by
themselves. When our children are teenagers and driving, we often wait
anxiously until we hear the front door close and know they are safely
home. And at any stage of life, we can experience waiting for the results
of medical tests. This kind of waiting is perhaps the hardest of all. A
weekend can seem like an eternity if we are waiting to find out whether
a tumor is malignant or benign.
"A writer whose retreat I was attending talked about a single friend who,
at age forty, decided she would like to adopt a child. This woman did her
homework and talked to several adoption agencies. When she was told
that the process of adopting a child would take at the very least a year,
she said, 'Forget it. I just don't have that kind of time.'
"We shrink when we are presented with situations where action does no
good at all. We deplore the passivity of waiting. Yet waiting is an
enormous opportunity if we regard it as a wise teacher. Waiting offers us
a great deal when we choose to learn.
"Bingo halls and casinos often post the sign, 'You must be present to win.'
In order to convert the inescapable lessons of waiting into deliberate
spiritual gifts, we, too, have to be present; we need to pay attention.
We need to actively participate in this dramatic conversion from waiting
as something to be endured to waiting as a gift.
"The Bible has many dramatic stories about waiting. The Israelites
wandered in the wilderness for forty years waiting to get into the
Promised Land. Jacob waited fourteen years before winning the hand of
Rachel, his beloved. The Apostle Paul waited over and over to be
released from prison. Jesus waited forty days in the desert temped by
the devil."
Teaching Stories
"We are not saints, we are not heroes. Our lives are
lived in the quiet corners of the ordinary. We build
tiny hearth fires, sometimes barely strong enough to
give off warmth. But to the person lost in the darkness, our tiny flame
may be the road to safety, the path to salvation.
"It is not given us to know who is lost in the darkness that surrounds us or
even if our light is seen. We can only know that against even the smallest
of lights, darkness cannot stand.
"A sailor lost at sea can be guided home by a single candle. A person lost
in a wood can be led to safety by a flickering flame. It is not an issue of
quality or intensity or purity. It is simply an issue of the presence of
light."
Plant trees. Many people plant trees in whose shade they will never sit
during their lifetimes. This act reflects confidence and hope in the
future.
ATTENTION
Enhances:
Awareness
Balances/Counters:
Distraction, Stress
Begin by doing one thing at a time. Keep your mind focused on whatever
you happen to be doing at the moment. It is through the mundane and
the familiar that we discover a world of ceaseless wonders. Train
yourself to notice details.
Sometimes, however, not paying attention has just the opposite effect:
everything registers, and we find we don't know what to do with it all.
We are so bombarded with stimuli that we can't focus on anything. We
feel scattered. We are, to put it simply, stressed.
Quotations
When you gaze at an object, you bring blessing to it. For through
contemplation, you know that it is absolutely nothing without the
divinity that permeates it. By means of this awareness, you draw greater
vitality to that object from the divine source of life. — Dov Baer of
Mezritch quoted in The Temple in the House by Anthony Lawlor
There is a way that nature speaks, that land speaks. Most of the time we
are simply not patient enough, quiet enough, to pay attention to the
story. — Linda Hogan quoted in Listening to the Land edited by Derrick
Jensen
To see the preciousness of all things, we must bring our full attention to
life. Spiritual practice can bring us to this awareness without a trip to
space. — Jack Kornfield in A Path With Heart
Just remember that those things that get attention flourish. — Victoria
Moran in Shelter for the Spirit
"To go through life with eyes open for God, to see Christ in oppressed
and unimportant people — that is what praying and watching is all about.
We believe so that we can see, not so that we can shut our eyes to the
world. We believe so that we can see — and can endure what we see.
"To sum up what watching and praying is about, we would have to say
that it is about an attentive life. Good will and helpfulness are fine, but
they are not enough. Attentiveness is necessary, so that we do the right
thing at the right time in the right place.”
Teaching Stories
Enhances:
Simplicity, Pleasure
Balances/Counters:
Clutter, Habitual Life
The Navaho blessing "May you walk in beauty" catches the essence of this
spiritual practice. Beauty is both a path you travel and what surrounds
you on the path. In the splendor of the Creation, we see its outer forms.
In morality and benevolence, we recognize its inner expressions.
Start this practice with the assumption that beauty is everywhere just
waiting for you to notice it. Allow yourself to feel its effect upon your
soul. Some experiences will stop you in your tracks and take your breath
away. Others will be more subtle but equally sublime. Then make your
actions reflections of the beauty all around you.
Clutter gets in the way of beauty. If we have too many things and tasks
in front of us, we may not notice what is beautiful about them. The
contrast is simplicity; by paring away excesses, we make an opening for
splendor.
Routine and rigid thinking also restrict our appreciation of beauty. If we
are stuck in a rut, we never discover the refreshment waiting just around
the corners of our daily schedule. If we have a narrow understanding of
aesthetics, we are limited in our ability to recognize beauty's varied
manifestations.
Beauty is startling, stimulating, and soothing. Try this practice when you
need to be pulled out of your habitual way of seeing and being. Its
cultivation produces pleasure.
Quotations
The eye that sees nobility and beauty in what another would regard as
ordinary is the eye of prayer. — Wendy Beckett in The Gaze of Love
Even the common articles made for daily use become endowed with
beauty when they are loved. — Soetsu Yanagi quoted in The Temple in
the House by Anthony Lawlor
The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the heart. — Jelaluddin Rumi
The Buddha taught that morality is the true beauty of a human being,
not one's physical appearance or outer adornments. — Joseph Goldstein
in Transforming the Mind, Healing the World
It's the beauty within us that makes it possible for us to recognize the
beauty around us. — Joan Chittister in The Psalms
The names of God for trying to see beauty where it may seem hidden are
ya Jemal (beauty) and ya Latif (subtle). As you repeat these phrases, you
cultivate within your heart the emotional sensitivity to the subtle beauty
that transpires behind what appears to be ugly or repulsive. — Pir
Vilayat Inayat in Awakening: A Sufi Experience
This world is nothing more than
Beauty's chance to show Herself.
And what are we? —
Nothing more than Beauty's chance to see Herself.
For if Beauty were not seeking Herself,
we would not exist.
— Ghalib quoted in The Inner Treasure by Jonathan Star
The soul's beauty is harder to see than beauty of the body. — Aristotle
quoted in The Force of Character by James Hillman
Book Excerpts
"Beauty is to the soul what truth and fact are to the mind. The beauty of
a thing is its depth and meaning being revealed. To perceive that beauty,
you need an eye for both appearances and for the invisible radiance of a
thing. You also need the capacity to be affected. But many people walk
through life defended against all positive influences. They are not open
to the invitations and messages coming at them at every turn. They
wonder why life feels empty and meaningless, when the problem is not
the absence of meaning but their blindness and deafness to it. . . .
"The discovery of your own beauty — and I don't mean this sentimentally
— is the foundation of well-being. Your beauty is complex. It is not all
good and wholesome. It is not a superficial thing but is the very
substance of your being. Truly beautiful people are not necessarily
physically healthy, emotionally together, easy to get along with, or
productive and successful. Beauty usually requires some imperfection,
transgression, or lacuna. The whole of your being, the good and the bad,
is the stuff out of which your beauty makes an appearance. A lover may
see it. A parent may embrace it. A friend may struggle with it but love
it. . . .
"Beauty nurtures the soul by serving the spirit. Beauty takes you out of
your cramped, merely personal worries and sets you down in a field of
eternity. The essence of spirituality is an enlargement of vision. The
experience may only last a moment, but in these matters a moment is
enough. You need a transcendent sense of things, not one that lets you
escape from your situation but one that gives you an added perspective.
In this, beauty and religion serve similar purposes, and so it's no wonder
that they are so often allied.”
Teaching Stories
"Other than that day at the spa, neither poise nor grooming was ever
mentioned. Even so, at the end of four weeks, the visible transformation
in these girls was such that I felt like Henry Higgins — only younger,
female, and American. Nothing had changed in my students' lives in any
concrete way, but they had had experiences that hinted at the scope and
wonder of the world. Their epiphany brought one for me: beauty rubs
off. You cannot stand face-to-face with a Rembrandt and walk away the
same person.
"I believe that when you surround yourself with beauty, a change in your
own energy patterns takes place."
from Lit from Within: Tending Your Soul for Lifelong Beauty by Victoria
Moran
Spiritual Exercises
Beautify your home. Start by clearing out any clutter and things you are
not using. Affirm your commitment to simplify your life by giving away or
discarding at least one excess possession. Then choose one area of the
house to give special attention. Perhaps you will clean and polish the
wood furnishings or scrub all the tiles. As you are working, admire the
textures, colors, and structure of each item.
CONNECTIONS
Enhances:
Holistic way of life
Balances/Counters:
Separations, Dualism
Quotations
Make a bed for the children of other people in the place where your own
children sleep. — Moroccan folk saying quoted in Wisdom of the African
World edited by Reginald McKnight
Everything is integral and interacts with everything else. This means that
nothing is itself without everything else. There is a commonality, an
integrity, an intimacy of the universe with itself. — Thomas Berry quoted
in Listening to the Land by Derrick Jensen
I cannot exist without in some sense taking part in you, in the child I
once was, in the breeze stirring the down on my arm, in the child
starving far away, in the flashing round of the spiral nebula. — Catherine
Keller quoted in Lighting a Candle by Molly Young Brown
I tell them there are no backwaters. There is only one river, and we are
all in it. Wave your arms, and the ripples will eventually reach me. —
Scott Russell Sanders in Writing from the Center
If we look deeply into the evolution of our species, we see that in former
times we have been a rock, a tree, and an animal. — Thich Nhat Hanh in
Going Home
Book Excerpts
"If our hearts are filled with love, our minds with accurate planning, our
hands with steadiness and strength, our souls with openness, then any
act we do will be a mitzvah, will strengthen the great Web of all
connections, will make God more fully God. And any act of connection-
making that we do will enliven life.
"It is a mitzvah for each of us to face the dark and terrible shadows
within her/his own heart, and make sure they do not harm and terrify
another being; it is a m'chayeh to search out the sacred root of their
fearfulness, integrate it into our whole self, and so to clarify our hearts
that they can serve the One in truthfulness.
"It is a mitzvah for us to live in peace with all our brothers and sisters,
and a m'chayeh to weave their stories and our own into a great Torah of
wisdom.
"It is a mitzvah to make sure the poor and the outcast get fed, and a
m'chayeh to make sure that all have the power to help shape the future
and make their own prosperity.
"It is a mitzvah to protect each living species and each pattern of the
chemistry of earth, and a m'chayeh to understand their intertwining and
celebrate the wholeness of all life.
"It is a mitzvah to expect messiah in our own lifetimes, to wait with utter
faithfulness, and a m'chayeh not just to wait but to walk each present
moment in a path of life that comes ever closer to the Messianic pattern.
"To experience Anokhi, I, in Its/My fullness, is to shatter all expectations
and assumptions, to connect us with the All and with the Whole, and to
fill all the deadly, deadening places in the world with life.
"We have lived long enough in the era when we understood the process of
Creation as Division: Dividing light from darkness, land from sea, plant
from animal, human from earth, man from woman. In that world, every
relationship between the separated beings has been a wrestle — close,
intimate, and yet a struggle.
"Let us enter the era when we can affirm these distinctions — and yet
Create a world by Connecting. The era when across each separation, our
beings can see more clearly what connects us, can take our differences
as part of the delightful music of the universe.
Teaching Story
Spiritual Exercises
"We can't, as individuals, take care of every one of our own needs. We
always need help — from God, from friends and family, from colleagues,
and from others. When we try to do everything by ourselves, in fact, we
often burn out and miss much of the richness of life. God did not intend
for us to operate independently of one another. The sum of all of us
together is more magnificent, more wonderful, than any of the individual
parts.
"We, like the Israelites, can be grateful for the manna in our wilderness
— for the people who day by day care, offer support and encouragement,
and teach us how to live a rich, full life. We can be manna for others as
well. Accepting manna and being manna for others are gifts of God to us
and to each other. Partake of it and share it freely."
To Practice: Find ways to be manna for others this week. Then give God
thanks for those who have played this role in your life.
DEVOTION
Enhances:
Self-discipline
Balances/Counters:
Lack of commitment
A devotional life is one lived in the presence of the Lord. The world's
religions tutor us in an amazing variety of ways to practice our devotion.
To name just a few: Sufis dance. Buddhists chant. Catholics pray with a
rosary. Protestants sing hymns. Orthodox Christians meditate on icons.
Hindus gather to receive blessings in temples. Jews wrap themselves in a
prayer shawl. Native Americans bring up the sun. Muslims make a
pilgrimage.
Quotations
The Sufis believe that every aspect of daily life has potential as a
devotional practice. Every bodily movement has its source in the divine.
Everything we do, everything seen or heard, tasted or touched, can be
undertaken as a devotional practice. This level of devotion brings us into
a new relationship with the ongoing creation as we realize that the
entire universe is dependent upon the creative energy that vitalizes each
and every moment. — David A. Cooper in Silence, Simplicity & Solitude
Devotion takes many forms: the solemnity and joy of prayer; the ecstasy
of song, poetry, or art; the intimate connection between individuals in
marriage, family, or community. It involves opening the heart fully to the
presence of love and beauty, which brings a compassionate and reverent
awareness of the Divine in all things. Through the lens of devotion, every
aspect of creation is seen as purposeful, and hence received in gratitude.
— LaVera C. Draisin quoted in Opening the Inner Gates edited by Edward
Hoffman
True devotion and commitment are never made with the mind. These
qualities, which allow us to expand, to grow, and to bloom into our
potential, are developed through the heart and the spirit. — Jamie Sams
in Earth Medicine
"Scholars trace the practice back as far as the year A.D. 110, by which
time it was already established as a common gesture among Christians —
most common, apparently, among those communities associated with St.
Paul. 'Its format is a simple geometry,' said the late Congregation of Holy
Cross theologian Rev. Jeffrey Sobosan. 'It traces out a cross in the
sequence of four points touched: head to chest, shoulder to shoulder.
The early Christians thought it was the way Jesus died, far more than the
way He lived prior to His arrest, that constituted the saving act whereby
He pleased God.' So those early Christian cults honored, in a simply
physical gesture, the geometric shape on which Christ gave his life for
us.
"It is a small miracle, perhaps, that this gesture has persisted unchanged
throughout many nations and centuries — but miracles are not unusual,
are they?
"Such a simple act, our hands cutting the air like the wings of birds,
fingers alighting gently on our bodies in memory of the body broken for
us:
" 'Father,' we say, touching our heads, the seats of our cerebrations, and
we think of the Maker, that vast incomprehensible Coherence stitching
everything together, and 'Son,' touching our hearts, and feeling the ache
and exhaustion of the Father's Son, the God-made-man, the gaunt dusty
tireless fellow who walked and talked endlessly through the hills of
Judea, who knew what would happen to him, who accepted it with
amazing grace, who died screaming so that we might live past death, and
'Holy,' touching the left shoulder, on which we carry hope, and 'Spirit,'
touching the right shoulder, on which we carry love, and the gesture is
done, hanging in the air like a memory, its line traced on our bodies as if
printed there by the thousands of times our hands have marked it. I make
it in the dark, over my sleeping children; I make it at dawn, staring at
the incredible world waking; I make it smiling, cheered by the
persistence of miracles; I make it sobbing over the corpse of a friend in a
wooden coffin, returned now to the Carpenter who made him.
Teaching Stories
from Sins of the Spirit, Blessings of the Flesh: Lessons for Transforming
Evil in Soul and Society by Matthew Fox
Balances/Counters:
Apathy, Boredom
To practice enthusiasm, make others aware when you are excited about
something. Throw yourself into your projects. Be known for your
eagerness, your curiosity, your willingness to give it all you've got.
Proclaim your passions. Hold nothing back. Sing your heart out.
Quotations
We approach craft with enthusiasm, with the desire to learn, the wish to
express something real in the concrete world of objects. — Carla
Needleman in The Work of Craft
Who are the happiest, richest people you know?... These are the people
who are living joyful, enthusiastic lives, regardless of their possessions or
lack of possessions. These people possess something more precious than
material goods. They possess a spark of God that radiates in all they do.
— Shoni Labowitz in Miraculous Living
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. The way of life is
wonderful; it is by abandonment. — Ralph Waldo Emerson quoted in
Lighting a Candle by Molly Young Brown
Don't let your enthusiasms die, but treat them like bright and dim lights
on a car. When you're around people, maybe you should put your dims on
a little more. When you're alone, turn on the brights. The brights want to
search the land to see as far as they can. They have a fierce power to
penetrate. The dims are a bit more subdued but they seem to be more
proper and sensitive around others. — Jose Hobday in Simple Living
Book Excerpts
"We have given sorrow many words, but a passion for life few. Yet it is
the infectious energies of exuberance that proclaim and disperse much of
what is marvelous in life. Exuberance carries us places we would not
otherwise go — across the savannah, to the moon, into the imagination —
and if we ourselves are not so exuberant we will, caught up in the
contagious joy of those who are, be inclined collectively to go yonder. By
its pleasures, exuberance lures us from our common places and quiet
moods; and — after the victory, the harvest, the discovery of a new idea
or an unfamiliar place — it gives ascendant reason to venture forth all
over again. Delight is its own reward, adventure its own pleasure.
Teaching Stories
Balances/Counters:
Hardened heart, Difficulties
In the broad scope of the spiritual life, we see faith not as something you
have but as something you are in — a relationship. It involves an
awareness of and an attunement to God's presence in our everyday
experiences.
Many people assume that the chief challenges to faith are disbelief and
doubt, but the real stumbling block to faith is resistance to God or the
hardened heart. In the Biblical traditions, the heart is used as an image
for the deeper self, the true and total person. The hard heart is not open
to the sacred. It is similar to eyes that do not see and ears that do not
hear.
Quotations
Doubting is not a sin. Nor does it denote a lack of faith. Lack of faith is a
pure and simple disbelief. Doubting is an invitation to enter into the
mystery more deeply, to go beyond the superficial. — John Aurelio in
Returnings
The substance of the faith remains always the same, but the mode of its
expression changes. — Pope John XXIII quoted in A Human Search edited
by John Swindells
Learning to trust — that is the great thing. You realize that you do have
to do your work, you have to provide what you can, but also you have to
learn to believe that Providence is going to provide all that you really
need. One learns to trust like that, day by day. Of course, it does not
mean that you just sit down and wait for things to happen. You have to
do something, and you do what you need to do, in the belief that
Providence is working in and through you, not that you alone are
responsible. — Bede Griffiths in A Human Search edited by John Swindells
The whole future of the Earth, as of religion, seems to me to depend on
the awakening of our faith in the future. — Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
quoted in Spirit of Fire by Ursula King
Nobody knows how the kindling flame of life and power leaps from one
life to another. What is the magic quality in a person which instantly
awakens faith? You listen to a hundred persons unmoved and unchanged:
you hear a few quiet words from the man with the kindling torch and you
suddenly discover what life means for you forevermore.
— Rufus Jones quoted in Rufus Jones: Essential Writings edited by Kerry
Walters
from The Holy Longing: The Search for Christian Spirituality by Ronald
Rolheiser
• As I get ready for bed, I remember that sleep is a sign of trust in God.
• Feeling God's love for me expressed in the support of my family and
friends, I vow to be faithful to the Lord.
Balances/Counters:
Vengefulness
All the spiritual traditions raise up the value of forgiveness, but many
people still find it to be a nearly impossible ideal. Just start somewhere.
Look truthfully at one hurt you have not been able to forgive. Identify
any associated feelings you might have, such as anger, denial, guilt,
shame, or embarrassment. Imagine what it would be like to live without
feeling this offense. Then let it go.
Quotations
The whole witness of Jesus' life and death is to the unfathomable depths
of God's forgiveness. English poet and artist William Blake cites the
capacity of Jesus to forgive another, and to reenter vulnerably into the
deepest relation with another, as the strongest evidence of his being God
in the flesh. — Douglas V. Steere in Dimensions of Prayer
Book Excerpts
"Rabbi Salanter went over to the man: 'Look how late it is; your candle is
about to go out. Why are you still working?'
"The shoemaker, undeterred by the rabbi's words, replied, 'As long as the
candle is burning, it is still possible to mend.'
Balances/Counters:
Shame, Need for control
Quotations
There is a power which inspires the heart, enlightens the mind, and
sanctifies human character. It is the power of Grace. — Paul Brunton
quoted in Meditations for People in Crisis edited by Sam and Leslie
Cohen
Grace can never be possessed but can only be received afresh again and
again. — Rudolf Bultmann
Grace is the kindling of the heart and the illuminating of the mind. —
John S. Dunne in The Music of Time
In becoming grace, you start from a place of emptiness. When you empty
of expectations, you open to the wonders that happen in moments and
nanoseconds of revelation. With God's grace active in you, nothing can go
wrong. Every thought, word, and action, when joined with grace, will be
formless and serve goodness. — Shoni Labowitz in Miraculous Living
Grace is the light or electricity or juice or breeze that takes you from
that isolated place and puts you with others who are as startled and
embarrassed and eventually grateful as you are to be there. — Anne
Lamott in Traveling Mercies
You are seeking for secret ways of belonging to God, but there is only
one: making use of whatever God offers you. — Jean-Pierre de Caussade
quoted in Praying Dangerously by Regina Sara Ryan
God gives his gifts where he finds the vessel empty enough to receive
them. — C. S. Lewis quoted in God Hunger by John Kirvan
The creative life of God is always coming, always entering to refresh and
enhance our lives. — Evelyn Underhill quoted in God Hunger by John
Kirvan
"Every day we have to empty our inner vessel and fill it with God's Peace,
Light and Bliss. We have to feel that God's Light is there all the time and
is more than willing to illumine us. Then only we will be able to utilize
God's Grace. Again, if we miss God's Grace, we should not be doomed to
disappointment. Today we have not allowed the sunlight to enter into
our room, but tomorrow again the sun will be there. If today we have not
allowed God's Grace to enter into us due to our ignorance, no harm.
Tomorrow we will definitely be prepared for God's Light to enter into us."
Teaching Stories
from When the Well Runs Dry: Prayer Beyond the Beginnings by Thomas
H. Green
Imagery Exercise
Breathe out one time. See yourself as a hawk soaring above the earth.
Sense how the air holds you without your effort.
Breathe out one time. See and sense yourself in freefall, floating into the
Creator’s deep embrace. Know that you are being surrounded by the
light of grace. Then open your eyes.
GRATITUDE
Enhances:
Satisfaction
Balances/Counters:
Greed, Entitlement
The spiritual practice of gratitude has been called a state of mind and a
way of life. But we prefer to think of it as a grammar — an underlying
structure that helps us construct and make sense out of our lives. The
rules of this grammar cover all our activities. Its syntax reveals a system
of relationships linking us to the divine and to every other part of the
creation.
To learn the grammar of gratitude, practice saying "thank you" for happy
and challenging experiences, for people, animals, things, art, memories,
dreams. Count your blessings, and praise God. Utter blessings, and
express your appreciation to everything and everyone you encounter. By
blessing, we are blessed.
Why This Practice May Be For You
The rules of the grammar of gratitude are not as simple as they seem at
first glance, however. For example, often instead of rejoicing in what we
have, we greedily want something more, better, or different. We can't
be grateful because we are making comparisons and coveting other
possibilities.
When this happens on a personal level, when it's our ego that is
dissatisfied, then we are ungrateful. But when we want something more,
better, or different for the glory of God or for the benefit of the
community, this greed may be a manifestation of our devotion, our love,
or our yearning for justice. And then we are grateful for these
commitments.
Quotations
Think of something for which you are grateful today. Say thanks.
I am grateful to You, Giver and Sustainer of life, for having granted me
another day of life. Your love and faith in me is truly overwhelming. —
Rabbi Terry Bookman in The Busy Soul
The generosity of God in sharing the goodness of creation with us can
elicit only one possible response — that of gratitude. — Esther de Waal
quoted in To Everything a Season by Bonnie Thurston
I think the dying pray at the last not "please," but "thank you," as a guest
thanks his host at the door. — Annie Dillard quoted in Super, Natural
Christians by Sallie McFague
Notice when you say or someone near you says "Thank you." Think of
those two words as a signpost to the spiritual world. — Lewis Richmond
in Work as a Spiritual Practice
Sanctity has to do with gratitude. To be a saint is to be fueled by
gratitude, nothing more and nothing less. — Ronald Rolheiser in The Holy
Longing
Look closely and you will find that people are happy because they are
grateful. The opposite of gratefulness is just taking everything for
granted. — David Steindl-Rast in The Music of Silence
Any moment that opens us up to the reality that life is good is a parable
of the supreme end for which we were made. — Lewis B. Smedes in How
Can It Be All Right When Everything Is All Wrong?
For many of us, the computer is the means by which we earn a living. To
give it a nod, then, is a way of thanking the tool for what it provides in
life. It helps put bread on the table and a roof overhead. It gives us work
and pleasure, exercises our minds, brings us information, connects us
with other people. It is a partner helping us achieve our goals. Nodding
also thanks the unseen hands and minds who helped create our machine.
— Philip Toshio Sudo in Zen Computer
The greatest thing is to give thanks for everything. He who has learned
this knows what it means to live. He has penetrated the whole mystery
of life: giving thanks for everything. — Albert Schweitzer quoted in
Words of Gratitude by Robert A. Emmons and Joanna Hill
There is a calmness to a life lived in Gratitude, a quiet joy. — Ralph H.
Blum quoted in Words of Gratitude by Robert A. Emmons and Joanna Hill
Book Excerpts
"I've scratched the ears of dogs, laughed at the ballet of cats. I've heard
the cry and gurgle of the newborn, played with children, rocked with
grandmothers, learned from hundreds of teachers, some of them
homeless, poor, and uneducated. I've been enlarged ten times squared by
writers from Shakespeare to Toni Morrison, and yet countless other
storytellers, some in delis and diners, taverns and buses, churches, curb
sides and prison cells.
"I have tasted bread and wine, hog dogs and caviar, somehow in the
alchemy of need and gift and joy, all made holy as God's own overflowing
banquet. I've been loved and forgiven beyond all deserving, and all
breath to tell of it, by family and friends and God.
"I've been shaken, changed, and blessed a thousand times — and still —
by the prophets, and by Christ. I've felt the touch of God, each time
before I realized that's what it was. I've been shrunk and stretched at the
same time by the scatter of stars and found North in one of them. I've
experienced the loneliness of freedom and being human and having hard
choices. I've known the thrill of small triumphs, the instruction of painful
defeats, and so the amazement of being part of the incredible human
pilgrimage from Adam and Eve to the twenty-first century. I've shared in
the cantankerous yet remarkable family of faith called the church. I'm
conscious of being conscious and alive. And all that's just for starters.
"How much does it take to praise God? I have a couple of trips around the
Milky Way past enough for that, no matter if I never receive another
thing. So I best get on with it . . . and praise God that I can."
Teaching Stories
"Where does it come from, this strange unquenchable human urge for
'more' that is both our blessing and our curse? It has caused us to lift our
eyes to the heavens and thread together pieces of the universe until we
can glimpse a shadow of the divine creation. Yet to gain this knowledge,
we have sometimes lost the mystery of a cloud, the beauty of a garden,
the joy of a single step.
"In the book of Micah, the prophet says, 'And what does the Lord require
of you but to do justice, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your
God?'
"Confucius told his followers, 'Bring peace to the old, have trust in your
friends, and cherish the young.'
"Do we really need much more than this? To honor the dawn. To visit a
garden. To talk to a friend. To contemplate a cloud. To cherish a meal.
To bow our heads before the mystery of the day. Are these not enough?
"The world we shape is the world we touch — with our words, our
actions, our dreams.
"If we should be so lucky as to touch the lives of many, so be it. But if
our lot is no more than the setting of a table, or the tending of a garden,
or showing in a child a path in a wood, our lives are no less worthy.
"I crawl into my bed, feel the growing warmth of the covers, hear the
quiet rhythms of my wife's gently breathing.
"Outside, the wind blows softly, brushing a branch from the birch against
the house.
"To bring peace to the old. To have trust in our friends. To cherish the
young.
Spiritual Exercises
"Day and night gifts keep pelting down on us. If we were aware of this,
gratefulness would overwhelm us. But we go through life in a daze. A
power failure makes us aware of what a gift electricity is; a sprained
ankle lets us appreciate walking as a gift, a sleepless night, sleep. How
much we are missing in life by noticing gifts only when we are suddenly
deprived of them! But this can be changed. We need some methodical
exercise in gratefulness. Years ago, I devised a method for myself which
has proved quite helpful. Every night I note in a pocket calendar one
thing for which I have never before been consciously thankful. Do you
think it is difficult to find a new reason for gratitude each day? Not just
one, but three and four and five pop into my mind, some evenings. It is
hard to imagine how long I would have to live to exhaust the supply."
from A Listening Heart: The Spirituality of Sacred Sensuousness by
Brother David Steindl-Rast
PLAY
Enhances:
Free-spiritedness
Balances/Counters:
Earnestness, Predictability
Coyote. Nasrudin. St. Francis and his order of Jesters of the Lord. Zen
masters. Taoist sages. Hasidic storytellers. Clowns and performance
artists. Such prophets — and all the spiritual traditions have them —
encourage us not to take ourselves too seriously. They say that what we
know is not worth knowing, and what's worth knowing cannot be known
through our ways. To our sensible selves, their actions seem silly,
shameless, even shocking. But they have an important role in the
spiritual life. They carry the banner for the spiritual practice of play.
Practice play by doing things on the spur of the moment. Take time out
to experiment, to try on different parts, to relax. Laugh heartily at
jokes, situations, and yourself. Remember, laughter heals body, mind,
and soul, and by extension, communities.
Why This Practice May Be For You
Most of us don't play enough. We're either too "busy," a code word for
workaholism, or we're too serious, mistaking earnestness for
accomplishment. We're predictable, too, equating free-spiritedness with
irresponsibility. The best treatment for these conditions is play. We need
to lighten up.
Quotations
In rare moments of deep play, we can lay aside our sense of self, shed
time's continuum, ignore pain, and sit quietly in the absolute present,
watching the world's ordinary miracles. No mind or heart hobbles. No
analyzing or explaining. No questing for logic. No promises. No goals. No
relationships. No worry. One is completely open to whatever drama may
unfold. — Diane Ackerman in Deep Play
To play is to listen to the imperative inner force that wants to take form
and be acted out without reason. It is the joyful, spontaneous expression
of one's self. The inner force materializes the feeling and perception
without planning or effort. That is what play is. — Michelle Cassou and
Stewart Cubley in Life, Paint and Passion
The comic spirit masquerades in all things we say and do. We are each a
clown and do not need to put on a white face. — James Hillman
Be patient also with life itself. those who love life are tolerant of its ups
and downs, its reversals and leaps forward. Those who love life enjoy
playing it by ear, engaging life without a printed score, simply flowing
with its melody. By keeping our agendas flexible and minimizing our
demands, life can be a melodic song. Whenever circumstances interrupt
the normal rhythm of life, those who cultivate patience and inner
freedom are able to improvise with a life situation like jazz musicians,
making up music as they go along. The emphasis in playing it by ear is on
playfulness. Those who use that gift of the Holy Spirit make their way
gracefully through life. — Edward Hays in The Great Escape Manual
A genuine sense of humor is having a light touch: not beating reality into
the ground but appreciating reality with a light touch. The basis of
Shambhala vision is rediscovering that perfect and real sense of humor,
that light touch of appreciation. — Chopgyam Trungpa in The Essential
Chogyam Trungpa edited by Carolyn Rose Gimian
Book Excerpts
"The play was beautiful, with its sets, costumes, music, and acting. It
centered on a heroine who was searching for her lover, who had
disappeared. It was a metaphor for each person looking for God, who is
hidden from us. She went everywhere, asking, 'Have you seen my
beloved?' Everyone replied that he or she hadn't seen him. I was
appreciating the play from an artistic perspective. But as I looked around
at the audience, I saw that they were all crying: they'd totally identified
with the woman's longing for her beloved. For me, this was excellent
entertainment; for them, it was reality. Once again, I was seeing that
there is a separate reality of God, and that every 'drama' and trauma in
our life is God's leela, God's cosmic play."
Teaching Stories
In this travel book, Roger Housden recalls his visits to sacred sites around
the world. In Bursa, Turkey, he meets with some Sufis.
"That night we returned to the tekke of the Bursa shaikh. More zikrs were
sung, talks were given, there were readings from holy scripture. An
incredible sense of community and Old World courtesy. Uruch's two
daughters had joined us in Bursa, and at one point, while their father
was in the middle of some explanation, one of them, a ten-year-old,
went over to him and started rearranging his hair. All the while she
fiddled with his parting and tried to make his hair go the other way,
pushing his head this way and that, he carried on speaking as if nothing
was happening. I had never seen such consideration for the different
levels of reality. Fatima told me later that Sufis pay great attention to
what children do. They let them play as they like, looking for signs,
noticing which book they pick up or where they open it, because children
are close still to the angelic realms."
• Blessed is the Giver of Life who has provided play as a way to celebrate
the lightness of our being.
HOSPITALITY
Enhances:
Tolerance
Balances/Counters:
Hostility/Criticalness
Hospitality and hostility are both derived from the same word root — but
they couldn't be more different. Whereas hospitality is about welcoming
all, hostility thrives on insider/outsider conflicts. Practice the former to
increase your tolerance of the various groups in our society and their
distinctive lifestyles.
Quotations
A good guest is an example of owning less (not even what is yours is truly
yours) and thus having more. — Nilton Bonder in The Kabbalah of Money
Many years ago, a traveler came to a small town. The custom at those
times was to open your door to whoever comes as "God's guests," as they
were called. When someone knocked on your door and said "I am God's
guest," you were to invite him in, feed him, and give him a place to
sleep. — Sheikh Ragip Frager in Love Is the Wine
How should one live? Welcoming to all. — Mechtild of Magdeburg quoted
in Open Mind by Diane Mariechild
Book Excerpts
"Second, one must come to the table with essential openness. Such
openness refers to trying to understand not only what the partner says
conceptually, but also what the other means and the reality the other is
trying to convey. Because religious language is used differently in various
traditions, this kind of openness requires both an intellectual availability
to new ideas and theological paradigms as well as an intuitive openness
to the deep truth the other is trying to communicate. Another level of
openness is the ability to critically reassess one's own tradition. I must be
free enough to truly be challenged. And finally, one has to be open to
the process. This means not trying to predict or manipulate the dialogue
experience. Perhaps it will be at times disagreeable. So be it. If I enter
into a dialogue with another with the preconception that everything the
other says that does not correspond to what I believe is wrong, this
undermines the experience. In the same vein, if I enter into it with some
need to accept anything and everything offered as if it were necessarily
true, my openness is in the end dubious.
"The fifth criterion for good dialogue is more of a caveat: Make no hasty
determinations about the other, and keep in check the need to
overgeneralize or categorize the religious life of the other. We must
realize that we know and can legitimately say less than we might want to
about the other. Interreligious dialogue is holy ground with much
mystery, and we should walk barefoot and humbly.
"Virtually everyone agrees that dialogue can become a great forum for
internal growth and transformation. John Cobb writes, 'To hear another
articulation of a truth is to be changed by that truth.' And no matter how
one assesses whether or not that articulation should be appropriated,
Cobb echoes· a universalized point of view. It changes one to be engaged
with another, particularly if that other brings a whole new spiritual
perspective and practice.
"Another goal is that it could raise a critique to one's own religious life.
To remain enclosed in one's own tradition provides a danger of not seeing
how it looks from the outside. Its assumptions are never called into
question. How, for example, would Americans look at our foreign policy
if we regularly spoke to Europeans, Asians, Africans, and Latin Americans
about politics? Surely such discussions would make us reassess our own
policies in a very different light. By suggesting the possibility of critique,
I am not thinking of· a wholesale rejection of one's tradition. Instead,
one might discover a distortion of one's own belief, or an overdeveloped
part of the tradition might be balanced by an alternative voice.
"A fourth goal for dialogue is that it can expand one's horizons of a
awareness. We see things from a different point of view, and we can get
an expanded sense of broader human transcendental experience. It may
also be that there are insights from another's religious tradition that
could actually complement deficiencies in one's own faith, even as they
strengthen one's own religious tradition. Shortly before he died, Thomas
Merton wrote that for some Christian monastics, learning a religious
discipline from another tradition could not only assist a given monk, but
also contribute to monastic renewal in the Western church."
Teaching Stories
"The problems that threaten the world community are not merely
political or economic; they arise as well from certain basic religious and
spiritual attitudes. If the faith and integrity of other persons are not
respected, genuine communication and consequent world community will
be at best a dream."
"God of my early childhood, help me to live with the fact that life doesn't
always come out even. I place in my heart and in yours all the people of
my early childhood who come to my mind as having been unfair to me. I
embrace also those who may have suffered some injustice because of
me. Holding these people in my heart where you have made your home is
the best way I know to pray for them. I pray, too, for those whose
kindness I remember. Bless them with your loving kindness now. May it
follow them throughout their lives. Amen."
To Practice: Try the practice of holding people in your heart where God
has made a home. See them all together in this place of many rooms.
IMAGINATION
Enhances:
Creativity
Balances/Counters:
Ratonalism
Quotations
But if we learn to read the signs of life all around us, and if we
discover that we are indeed created to be creative, then we can
rediscover the power and resourcefulness of imagination — another
aspect of soul. — Marjory Zoet Bankson
If you always imagine God in the same way, no matter how true and
beautiful it may be, you will not be able to receive the gift of the
new ways he has ready for you. — Carlos Valles in This Our Exile by
James Martin
We must have new eyes — the eyes of our heart enlightened. That
means that we must see essential realities vividly. We must have
our imagination captured. Matthew Arnold said that conduct is
three-fourths of life. But it isn't. Getting your imagination captured
is almost the whole of life. The minute the eyes of your heart are
enlightened, the minute your imagination gives you the picture of
your path, your goal, your aim — it is as good as done. The way to
become the architect of your fate, the captain of your soul, is to
have your imagination captured. — Rufus Jones quoted in Rufus
Jones: Essential Writings edited by Kerry Walters
Book Excerpts
"A large area of concern for the cultivation of the imagination is the
area of entertainment. What kind of images do we allow entrance
to our minds when we go in search of amusement? What kind of
books do we read and movies and television watch? What kind of
music do we listen to? What kind of dances do we see and do? What
kind of sports? What effect do these things have on our spiritual
life? It is a large subject and deserving of careful study, but one
thing I can tell you: the answer is not 'no effect.' Everything that
ever enters the consciousness has some effect on it and takes up
some kind of residence there. Furthermore, there are no thought-
tight or feeling-tight compartments in consciousness. Everything
seeps into everything else.
"Finally, all our problems with poor self-image and unhappiness over
our lives are rooted in the imagination. We like to attribute our
depressed feelings to circumstances — and indeed there are
circumstances under which some people have to live that are
enough to depress anyone — but we also know that people can
make themselves unhappy in quite neutral circumstances, and on
the other hand can rise above an unfavorable quality of life and be
happy.
"A story I like is that about the gathering in the elevator at nine
o'clock on a Monday morning. Here come the business people, the
executives and their clerical staff, with their Monday morning
blues, looking glum and grumpy. The elevator operator, however, is
bouncy and full of good cheer. He greets everyone with a wide grin
and a hearty 'Good morning! What a fine day!' Finally someone who
can't stand all this cheerfulness so early in the morning asks, 'What
are you so happy about? What's so great about this day?' To which
the operator replies with enthusiasm, 'I ain't never lived this day
before!'
"That's what the imagination can do for you. So it behooves us to
guard our imaginations, to train them, to encourage them to feed
on inspiring and hopeful fare. In the Epistle to the Philippians we
read: 'Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just,
whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there
is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about
these things' (Philippians 4:8)."
Teaching Stories
A Teaching Story from Say Please, Say Thank You: The Respect
We Owe One Another by Donald McCullough
Spiritual Exercises
Balances/Counters:
Sadness, Sorrow
Invite joy into your life by staging celebrations. Host festivities to mark
transitions and changes in your life. Toast moments of happiness you
notice as you go through your day. Dance — jump for joy — as often as
possible. Life is not meant to be endured; it is to be enjoyed.
We often talk about this spiritual practice in the same breath with its
companions. We say joy and sorrow, happiness and sadness, smiles and
tears, the ecstasy and the agony. The experience of one intensifies our
awareness of the other. Sorrow, for example, may be the price we pay
for joy; when we have known great happiness in a relationship, we feel
its loss more deeply. Or think of those times when you laugh so hard you
cry.
Joy will usually be part of a set of symptoms presenting in your life. The
best protocol is to be thankful for the intensity of these feelings. When
you are experiencing sorrow and sadness, when the tears are flowing,
remember they can be stepping stones to joy.
Quotations
These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that
your joy may be full. — John 15:14 in The Bible
The beating heart of the universe is holy joy. — Martin Buber quoted in
Simplicity: The Art of Living by Richard Rohr
We have God's joy in our blood. — Frederick Buechner in The Longing for
Home
The fullness of joy is to behold God in everything. — Julian of Norwich
quoted in Meditations with Julian of Norwich by Brendan Doyle
Finding joy is the hardest of all spiritual tasks. If the only way to make
yourself happy is by doing something silly, do it. — Rebbe Nachman of
Breslov in The Empty Chair
Joy is the most infallible sign of the presence of God. — Pierre Teilhard
de Chardin
Deep joy is both the ground of love and the surest source of strength to
persevere in the course of compassion — even when trials abound, as
they often will. — Robert Ellwood in Finding Deep Joy
This silent ability to impart to others the light of Divine Intelligence, and
all its attendant qualities of joy, warmth, insight, and revelation, is
captured in a Sufi phrase, "the smiling forehead." For illumination is
always linked with a kind of smile, like the mysterious, lingering smile of
the Buddha. — Pir Vilayat Inayat Khan in Awakening: A Sufi Experience
The atom's soul is nothing but energy. Spirit blazes in the dullest clay.
The life of every man — the heart of it — is pure and holy joy.
— George Leonard quoted in Shadow Culture by Eugene Taylor
How many times have I found myself quite simply walking along. And
suddenly I receive one of these gusts of contentment, of, so to say, "joy"
or "well-being," which is a marvelous feeling because one has no idea
where it comes from. — Jacques Lusseyran in Against the Pollution of the
I
The announcement is the great joy that the Lord is present and living in
the world: that the Lord is with us. Dominus vobiscum, the Lord be with
you. This is what we are constantly announcing in the liturgy, that the
Lord is present in the world. — Thomas Merton quoted in Thomas Merton:
Essential Writings edited by Christine M. Bochen
Book Excerpts
"I mentioned in the last section that the New Age movement is often
criticized for what one theologian friend of mine calls the 'Tinkerbell
syndrome.' This is the tendency to always see everything in the best
possible terms and to concentrate just on light, love, and joy, ignoring
the dark side of the world and its pain. I agree with this criticism; yet by
the same token, it is equally possible to get caught in an 'Oscar the
Grouch' syndrome in which everything is dark, troubled, suffering, evil,
and generally going to hell.
"One of the hardest things to be in the world today is an optimistic
idealist, someone who is not afraid to proclaim a positive vision. A person
who has ideals, is optimistic, positive, and joyous, and celebrates the
world is often said to be in denial, refusing to see reality as it is.
"How can one be joyous, though, in the presence of the suffering in the
world? Well, for one thing, suffering, pain, dysfunction, and evil are not
all that are present in the world, though you wouldn't know it from the
fare that is served to us daily by our news and entertainment media.
There are positive, creative, uplifting things going on as well.
"Joy is an active, creative, unconditional force that flows from the heart
of the Beloved; it rejoices not so much at what is happening in the world
but in resonance with the love and wholeness that is the fundamental
reality of the world. It is a connective force that allows the healing and
transforming power of that deeper reality to enter and work its magic in
our world of imperfect and incomplete manifestations.
"Consider for a moment if you were ill, who you would like to minister to
you as a healer: someone who is pessimistic and sorrowful, constantly
reminding you of how much you are suffering and holding out little hope
for your recovery or someone who is joyous, positive, encouraging, and
filled with a vision for your future?
"Joyousness is, as I said, a connecting force linking our hearts and minds
with the presence of the sacred. Joy is what the sacred is. How can we
step into the presence of the Beloved if we cannot understand or accept
the qualities which manifest that presence?
"I do not look for joy in the events or things of my life; I look for joy in
the connection with my soul and in my connection with the world. Joy is
not necessarily the absence of suffering; it is the presence of God.
"For the experience of joy transcends the self and is also an experience
of participation in the well-being and lives of others. Paradoxically, joy
makes it possible to face the suffering of the world and not be seduced
into a dark imagination that says such pain is too big, too daunting, too
overwhelming to ever be healed or transformed; but at the same time,
accepting the presence of suffering and taking it into my heart in
compassionate and empathetic ways — striving to feel in my own being
the suffering of others — opens me to joy because it opens me to the
reality of connectedness. This is not joy because others are suffering and
certainly not using images of suffering as a meditative tool to make me
feel joyous (because what I will undoubtedly feel if I use suffering as a
tool is not joy but happiness that I am not suffering, which is a
disconnecting attitude). It is the joy that is the natural presence of the
Beloved that arises because I am not separating myself from others or
from the world.
"If you have a hard time finding joy, you can look for a spiritual discipline
that will help (and here the emphasis should be on discipline: the
consistent practice of a craft, for true joy comes from depth and
commitment — which is temporal depth — rather than from sampling
things in a surface way, seeing what makes you feel good or brings you
pleasure). However, you can also seek out and associate with people who
are themselves joyous. You can expose yourself to conditions and
artifacts, like great art or music, that arises from joy. For what is
created in a spirit of joy conveys that spirit to others. And if all else
fails, I have found that humor and laughter is the portal into joy, when
that humor is not based on the misfortune or humiliation of others.
Watch a funny movie, read a funny book, be humorous about yourself.
After all, it's a start! Besides, God laughs, why shouldn't you?"
Ten Practices to Warm the Heart and Fill the Soul with Joy
"Rebbe Nachman said that the pathway to our true destiny is joy. Indeed,
joy and enthusiasm are important aspects of the spiritual path in ways.
The wonderful part of this practice is that it nurtures us while we are
doing it, and usually helps us see things from a different perspective.
"Here are ten practices to warm the heart and fill the soul with joy. Any
one of them can change your day.
"Music: If you don't already own one, get a miniature audiotape player
and comfortable earphones. Find pieces of music that move your soul.
Play them repeatedly when you are engaged in mundane activities. Play
them so much that they are in your mind even when the player is not on.
Also, sing! In the shower, in the car, spontaneously, whenever you wish.
"Dance: Find a room in the house where you will not be interrupted and
nobody can see you though the windows. Move the furniture so that you
have a clear space to dance. Play some music you love, and move your
body any way you wish for twenty minutes. This is a dance for you alone.
If it does not make you feel wonderful, choose another piece of music
next time.
"Books: Take an hour and browse your local bookstore or library without
any goal. Let yourself be guided by whim. Find a seat and read parts of a
book or magazine that catch your fancy. The idea is to discover new
areas of interest or simply to be lightly entertained, with no objective in
mind.
"Fantasy: Pick up travel brochures, get videos from the library on nature
or distant lands, and let yourself fantasize about traveling around the
world. Pick a place you would really like to go. Get books from library
and study everything you can find about this place. Plan your trip, even if
it is years away.
"Soak: Fill a tub with warm water. Use bubble bath if you like. Soak your
whole body for at least a half hour, trying to keep your mind free. If you
begin thinking about yourself, make up a fantasy and float away.
"Thanks: Speak words of thankfulness to God. Reflect on your physical
gifts: eyesight; hearing; and the abilities to speak, stand, walk, touch,
smell, taste, and so forth. For each thing, give thanks. Reflect on your
shelter, food, safety, kitchen, bathroom, and give thanks. Whatever
comes to mind, find something in it for which you can be thankful. Try to
get into the habit of thankfulness (rather than the normal habit of
complaint). Each night as you go to sleep, see how many things you can
think of to give thanks for that day. You may discover that the list is so
long, you will fall asleep before finishing it.
"Notice that all of the above suggestions require taking time for yourself.
Of course, there are many joyful practices that involve being with
others. Take advantage of these as well. But be assured, our joy is
ultimately not dependent upon other people, but on our individual
relationship with life.
"Obviously, there are hundreds of activities that lighten the heart and
nourish the soul. As noted above, you do not have to wait for joy to
arrive on its own; you can invite it in through the front door this very
moment."
JUSTICE
Enhances:
Equality, Dignity
Balances/Counters:
Oppression, Fanaticism
Quotations
Maybe Auden was right, and we read mystery stories to have evil
put in its place, and to have justice and righteousness triumph over
personal disorder and society's chaos. — Stephen Kendrick in Holy
Clues
More than a few Christians might be surprised to learn that the call
to be involved in creating justice for the poor is just as essential
and nonnegotiable within the spiritual life as is Jesus'
commandment to pray and keep our private lives in order. — Ronald
Rolheiser in The Holy Longing
Book Excerpts
"I have found one fuzzy area that often needs to be clarified before
spiritual conversion can take place: We have confused justice and
charity. Charity was always considered the highest virtue and was
popularly thought of as a kind of magnanimous and voluntary giving
of ourselves, preferably for selfless motives. As long as we rose to
this level on occasion, such as giving gifts as Christmas or baskets at
Thanksgiving and occasional almsgiving, we could think of ourselves
as charitable people who were operating at the highest level of
virtue. The spiritual trap was that we always remained in charge;
we decided who was worthy and unworthy of our love, and we
garnered significant self-esteem as a byproduct. The question then
becomes: Is this really virtue at all or actually an avoidance of the
Divine Caritas? Is it any type of surrender or just another type of
control? Are we instruments of God's love flowing into this world, or
are we perhaps inhibiting that flow by our lack of true solidarity?
Ordinarily, we wait for some onrush of warm, sad, or guilty feeling
to drive us again to 'an act of charity.' What suffers in both giver
and givee is the redemptive experience of true union and
compassion. Some immediate needs might be met (and that's good),
but the Lord and the great Good News are not well served. In other
words, no new creation unfolds, no new peoplehood is formed, no
healing grace is outpoured. It is just the same old system continued.
Maybe that is why salvation history has proceeded at such a snail's
pace among the comfortable: We have tried to be charitable
without being just, we have tried to give without letting go, we
have wanted to consider ourselves Christians while being only
enlightened pagans.
"What has been lacking is the virtue of justice. The Christian virtue
of justice is indispensable without charity. Justice and charity are
distinguishable but clearly inseparable in the teaching of the
Doctors and the social encyclical letters of the Popes. The giving
and caring spirit of charity both motivates and completes our sense
of justice, but the virtue of charity cannot legitimately substitute
for justice. Persons capable of doing justice are not justifiable in
preferring to 'do charity.' Although this has clearly been taught on
paper, I would say it is the great missing link in the practical
preaching and lifestyle of the church. We have ignored the
foundational obligation of justice in our works of charity and thus
have ended up not even doing charity! For centuries we have been
content to patch up holes temporarily (making ourselves feel
benevolent) while in fact maintaining the legal and institutional
structures that created the holes (making those at the bottom feel
like victims). Now it has caught up with us in unimaginable poverty,
dysfunction, alienation, and human abuse.
"The kingdom reigns not just when the oppressed are liberated but
even more when the oppressors are liberated from their insecurities
and fears. It seems we are essentially involved in one another's
conversion to justice and charity. We cannot hate, compete,
compare, or dominate one another and still expect the new
community of Christ to unfold. Our assurance that this is the Gospel
is that God in Christ does none of these to us!
Right on Jaime!"
Balances/Counters:
Selfishness
This practice also means being generous with your presence, your
time, and your money. Give freely without expecting anything in
return. Just do it. Kindness is not a quid pro quo endeavor.
Quotations
Appreciative words are the most powerful force for good on the
earth. — George W. Crane quoted in Full Esteem Ahead by Diane
Loomans
Great things happen, blessed encounters take place when you throw
yourself on God's mercy and peoples' kindness. — Jose Hobday in
Stories of Awe and Abundance
If there is any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any
fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall
not pass this way again. — William Penn quoted in Lent by Megan
McKenna
When you give something you feel good, because at that time you
feel at one with what you are giving. — Shunryu Suzuki-roshi quoted
in At Home with Dying edited by Merrill Collett
Book Excerpts
"Giving, not because we have to, but for the sheer sake of giving,
just out of love, is something really beautiful — out of this world!
This kind of gratuitous goodness — a lavish kindness — makes our
world a better place in which to live, and makes us better people.
"We cannot be but kind together and to each other. This is written
in our very nature and clearly stated in our Scripture. 'You shall love
the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and
with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as
yourself.' (Lk 10:27) Love is the foundation of our very survival.
Spiritual Exercises
"Stop, close your mouth, and listen. It's the other person's turn."
To Practice: The next time you notice your mouth is full, give
someone else center stage.
LISTENING
Enhances:
Discernment
Balances/Counters:
Disregard for Others
There is perhaps no greater way to show our regard for our friends,
family, and associates than to truly listen to them. The "listening
heart," as this attitude is called, leads to a deepening of
relationships and a greater sense of self for all parties. And this kind
of communication isn't limited to human interactions. Listen to an
animal, the waves on the beach, or the roar of a city neighborhood,
and you will come to a greater appreciation of your place in the
universe.
Quotations
Blessed are the ears which hear God's whisper and listen not to the
murmurs of the world. — Thomas a Kempis quoted in The Sun &
Moon Over Assisi by Gerard Thomas Straub
For listening is the act of entering the skin of the other and wearing
it for a time as if it were our own. Listening is the gateway to
understanding. — David Spangler in Parent as Mystic, Mystic as
Parent
All things and all men, so to speak, call on us with small or loud
voices. They want us to listen, they want us to understand their
intrinsic claims, their justice of being.... But we can give it to them
only through the love that listens.— Paul Tillich quoted in Your
Mythic Journey by Sam Keen
"In times past, people understood and knew how to interpret these
portents and omens. In fact, the entire destiny of a tribe or even a
nation was often decided by signs. However, as technology
expanded, people became more and more isolated from their
connection to the earth and their inner wisdom. Most lost their
ability to listen to the secret messages around them and to see the
signposts giving personal guidance at every moment.
"It is now time to regain this lost ability. Our planet is changing very
quickly, and in the face of this rising tide of change we need to
remember how to taste the messages in the wind and how to listen
to the gentle voices in the clouds. This ability will be increasingly
important in the years ahead. As we hurtle into the twenty-first
century, there is an accelerated awakening of planetary
consciousness. We are entering a time of signs and omens. There
has never been a more powerful time in the history of our planet to
realize our magnificence. Signs can show us the way. It is now time
to relearn how to listen to the whispers of the universe."
Imagery Exercise
Jesuit priest Anthony de Mello has an exercise where you invite God
to pay attention to the sounds of the natural world through you. It
uses an “Altered Point of Ear.”
Close your eyes. Begin by listening to the rhythm and the sound of
your own breath. Then allow the sounds in the room around you to
fall gently on your ears. Do not think about them, simply hear them
as sounds. . . . Now see yourself as a cat wandering through your
house and hearing with the cat’s ears . . . See yourself becoming a
bird flying through the air and hearing with the bird’s ears. . . . See
yourself as a tree standing in your backyard and hearing with the
tree’s ears. . . . Feel yourself becoming part of the earth and
hearing what the earth is hearing . . . Now hear what God is hearing
from the world right now. Rest in the sensation that God is listening
through your ears. . . . When you are ready, open your eyes.
LOVE
Enhances:
Intimacy
Balances/Counters:
Fear
Love of self, love of neighbors, and love of God are the foundational
stones of the world's religions. Spiraling out from the core of our
being, our other loves are also cobblestones on the spiritual path:
love of family, of partner, of friends, of community, of animals, of
nature, of country, of things, of hobbies, of work. Love is not
something that you just fall into, as the romantic songs suggest.
Love is a spiritual practice. You can get better at it over time.
Begin by recognizing that you can't love others until you truly love
yourself — body, mind, and soul. As you move through a day, be
aware of love's expressions emerging from you or coming toward
you — attraction, focus, absorption, desire, adoration, security,
trust, empathy, caring, harmony, contentment, communion.
Practice extending the reach of these feelings. It is through loving
that we experience the love of God.
Hearing all this fretful thinking, God the Beloved writes one
prescription over and over: Fear not! I love you.
Quotations
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you
without leaving better and happier. — Mother Teresa quoted in The
Gentle Smile by Diane Berke
Falling in love is the most important clue a human can ever find to
his or her latent spiritual needs and potentialities. Without this
experience a human's relationship with God remains largely one of
obedience, respect and will, but one that ultimately lacks passion,
heart and love. — Patrick Arnold
Like a lover who spends all his time thinking of his distant love, God
has been thinking of me since before I was born, for all eternity. —
Ernesto Cardenal in Abide in Love
Learning how to love is the goal and the purpose of spiritual life —
not learning how to develop psychic powers, not learning how to
bow, chant, do yoga, or even meditate, but learning to love. Love is
the truth. Love is the light. — Lama Surya Das in Awakening to the
Sacred
Hatred ever kills; love never dies. Such is the vast difference
between the two. What is obtained by love is retained for all time.
What is obtained by hatred proves a burden in reality, for it
increases hatred. The duty of a human being is to diminish hatred
and to promote love. — Mahatma Gandhi quoted in The Way to God
edited by M. S. Desphande
The only reason there is for living is love. There is no other reason
for staying on earth. — Joel Goldsmith in Spiritual Healing
To take good care of yourself and to take good care of living beings
and of the environment is the best way to love God. — Thich Nhat
Hanh in Living Buddha, Living Christ
I believe more and more that the greatest single help to a spiritual
life is a deep and living human love for another. . . . I have
solemnly resolved to love more deeply and more truly and to be a
sweeter man. — Rufus Jones in Rufus Jones: Essential Writings
God may do something silly at any time, because, like any lover,
God does not reason. God is drunk with love. — Ernesto Cardenal
quoted in Finding Deep Joy by Robert Ellwood
This world is nothing but a school of love; our relationships with our
husband or wife, with our children and parents, with our friends
and relatives are the university in which we are meant to learn
what love and devotion truly are. — Swami Muktananda quoted in
The Inner Treasure by Jonathan Star
Teaching Stories
To Practice: Who has been a Teacher of Love for you? When have
you been a Teacher of Love for someone else?
NURTURING
Enhances:
Balance
Balances/Counters:
Deprivation, Codependency
There are many ways to practice nurturing, and everyone will find
his or her own best ways to receive and give nourishment. The
spiritual traditions emphasize two in particular. The first is study.
Be a lifelong learner; read and contemplate sacred texts and other
sources of inspiration that take you deeper into yourself and out
into the wider world. Second, keep the Sabbath. Dedicate some of
your time to leisure and reflection.
Quotations
Looking deeply at any one thing, we see the whole cosmos. The one
is made of the many. To take care of ourselves, we take care of
those around us. — Thich Nhat Hanh in Cultivating the Mind of Love
Personal holiness involves what you take into your body, visually,
aurally, or orally. You are what you see and hear. — Lawrence
Kushner in The Book of Words
In New Zealand, some nurseries plant kiwi fruit vines near other
plants because the kiwi fruit attract bees. The bees then pollinate
not only the kiwi but the other plants as well. The same can be said
about nurturing activities in which we get involved. Such food for
our soul not only feeds us now but also opens up new possibilities
that we might not have even considered. — Robert J. Wicks in After
50
When the body is finally listened to, it becomes eloquent. It's like
changing from a fiddle to a Stradivarius. It gets much more highly
attuned. — Marion Woodman in Interviews with Marion Woodman
I have a thin red fabric from India that I drape around my neck as a
scarf when I take a long-distance flight. Nobody needs to know that
this scarf is sometimes a covering for my altar at home, but I can't
forget that it is soaked with years of prayer. — Regina Sara Ryan in
Praying Dangerously
Book Excerpts
"As important as the romance itself is our motivation for doing it. If
we act out of a sense of duty, then romance simply becomes one
more obligation to fulfill. Anything done primarily out of a sense of
obligation will be more likely to promote resentment and
disappointment rather than fulfillment. The seeds of romance can
be nurtured during those moments when we experience love or
gratitude toward our partner. We can convert these feelings to
romance by coming up with ways to honor, surprise, and delight our
beloved. Romance can be a spontaneous expression of affection, or
it can involve extensive plans that require great preparation."
Teaching Stories
A Teaching Story from The Time Is Now: Sixty "Time Pieces" for
Getting the Most Out of Every Day by Daniel S. Wolk
Rabbi Daniel Wolk has put together a book on his ideas on seeking
the positive in life and breaking old patterns. Here's a parable he
uses to illustrate the timeliness of the Sabbath:
"A Hasidic Jew, a man whose life revolved around the synagogue
and the Sabbath was asked, 'Aren't you depressed on Sunday when
the Sabbath is over?'
" 'Not at all,' the devout man answered. 'On Sunday I still bathe in
the warmth of the day before.'
"The Hasid smiled, 'No, no. On those days I can think back to the
Sabbath.'
Balances/Counters:
Close-mindedness
How available are you to others? How interested are you in people,
especially those quite different from you? How flexible are you? Do you
usually think you already know how things are going to come out? Are you
willing to try something new? These are the questions to ask to assess
your openness and to determine the benefits you might derive from this
practice.
Quotations
Radical openness is not wanting to miss what is going on. The spiritual
dimension of life has always been equated with total self-giving of energy
and vigorous involvement — elements of wholeheartedness.
— Vivienne Hall quoted in Earth and Spirit edited by Fritz Hull
The old divines talked about the gift of faith. It seems to me that there is
an earlier gift, a desire, an openness to receive the light when and if it is
offered. This openness is a quality of perception like poetry or divination
or the wonderful imagination of a happy child. — Morris West in A View
from the Ridge
Book Excerpts
"If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding
back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important moment of
your life. No future time is better than now to let down your guard and
love.
"Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your
posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate
love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your
words can inspire freedom. Your every act can open hearts and minds.
"Opening from heart to all, you live as a gift to all. In every moment, you
are either opening or closing. Right now, you are choosing to open and
give fully or you are waiting. How does your choice feel? . . .
"Your heart always knows the truth of openness. In every moment of your
life, your heart tacitly compares the closed suffering that you are doing
to the bliss of your true openness. 'This moment can be deeper.' 'Our love
can be more full.' 'My life can be more fulfilling.' Your heart knows the
truth of openness and suffers the tense lie of your closure.
"Chronic dissatisfaction is how you sense that you are living this lie. No
matter how much pleasure or pain comes your way, dissatisfaction means
you are resisting the openness of the moment, the openness who you
are, the truth. When you are not open to emotions, people, and
situations, then you are denying your most basic nature, the openness
who you are.
"Practice being openness by opening to feel. Just as you are, even though
you may have habits of closure, you can always practice opening to feel.
Open to feel whatever you are feeling now. Open to feel your breath
moving in and out, feel the posture of your body, feel the space and
motion in your room around you, feel the emotional tone of the people
nearest to you. Open and feel, Open as feeling. Open to feel everything,
and feel as openness itself."
Teaching Stories
Much of the tension in the West is the result of trying so hard to make
things happen and to control outcomes. Alan Watts (1915-1973), was a
great explicator of the Oriental path. In this book, he defines "wu-wei" as
"don't force it" and tells the following story.
"Chuang-tzu tells a lovely tale about a sage who was wandering along the
bank of a river near an enormous cataract. Suddenly, way up at the top
of it, he saw an old man roll off the bank into the water, and he thought,
'This man must be old and ill and is putting an end to himself.' But a few
minutes later, way down below the cataract, the old man jumped out of
the stream and started running along the bank. So the sage and his
disciples hurried, scooting after him and, having caught up with him told
him that what he'd done had been the most amazing thing they'd ever
seen. 'How did you survive?' they asked. 'Well,' he answered, 'there is no
special trick. I just went in with a swirl and came out with a whirl. I
made myself like the water, so that there was no conflict between me
and the water.' "
To Practice: The next time you are in a tight or tough situation, try to
practice the watercourse way of least resistance. Go with the flow and
see what happens.
Prayer
This prayer is from William Penn, an English Quaker who founded the
colony of Pennsylvania in America, which he envisioned as a place of
religious and personal freedom.
Book Review
By Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat
After discussing the cases against thrift made through the years,
Blankenhorn introduces a large and impressive group of thrift visionaries
who have shed light on the subject, including Daniel Defoe, John Wesley,
Benjamin Franklin, Clara Barton, John Wanamaker, Elbert Hubbard,
Booker T. Washington, and Frank Capra. In his examination of institutions
that have advanced the cause of thrift, the author looks at friendly and
fraternal societies, mutual savings banks, producer and consumer
cooperatives, building and loan associations, and credit unions. Also
under this umbrella, Blankenhorn talks about four things which could
come to the fore during our present-day financial crisis: thrift boxes,
gardens, public libraries, and thrift shops. He ends this section with
social movements which have been generated to advocate and promote
pro-thrift social changes by building international solidarity, bringing
people together, organizing sacrifice, and training children.