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A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. William Shakespeare If it wasnt for friends, I would have never survived some of the most difficult moments in my life. When I was going through one of the most challenging and painful events in my life after a divorce, it was friends old and new that came to the rescue and saved not only the day but my sanity! Friends were there to give me advice and a perspective on my life. Friends were there for strength and courage. They were also there for laughter and encouragement. I now realize that friendship is tested during lifes tough moments and become strengthened when facing and overcoming adversity. While I am not seeking more problems in my life merely for the sake of nurturing friendships, Ive found that we can always deepen and strengthen our relationships with others. Here are ten ways to encourage stronger relationship with your friends:
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doesnt mean they will be tomorrow. Be aware that the people you spend time with as friends is the first step in building stronger relationships. 2. Dont take friendships for granted Dont forget that friendship is a choice, not an obligation. If you dont value your friendships, theyll eventually disappear. In todays hectic world, we are constantly on the go. If we ignore our friendships, they drift away until one day we wonder what happened to the people who were so important in our lives.
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When friends are lost, confused or seek your advice, listen and help guide them. Many people in life are quick to shoot down someones dream or passion, but without goals or dreams our lives become a meaningless existence. Share your passion to inspire others and see what a difference it makes to your life and theirs. If youre seeking to strengthen a friendship, try to provide valuable and constructive advice. Even if you think your friends ideas are a little out there, help them navigate the pros and cons of their dream without shooting it down.
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{ 2 trackbacks } Link Salad Putting More Life in Your Day | Thriving is Better March 10, 2013 at 5:33 am Forget Forging New Friendships; Nurture the Ones You Got (a guest post) March 10, 2013 at 10:29 pm { 32 comments read them below or add one }
1 Tommy March 5, 2013 at 11:04 am i like this post. With Social Anxiety i realized theres nothing worse then not having friends to encourage and love. Reply
2 Vishnu March 5, 2013 at 12:00 pm Thanks Tommy. We all benefit from our friendships but nurturing and maintaining them, we usually dont take the time to do. These are some of the ways Ive maintained my friendships over the years. Reply
3 THANDI March 5, 2013 at 12:43 pm i would like to thank mary about this 10 simple ways to strengthen friendship,there are no people like your best friend who stick with you through thick and thin Reply
4 Vishnu March 7, 2013 at 7:39 am Thank you for reading. Yes, our friends are the ones who stand with us during lifes most challenging moments.
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5 Dr.P.Amrutha March 6, 2013 at 1:21 am I am very happy to know many things. Thankyou very much. Reply
7 Celeste Smucker March 6, 2013 at 6:54 pm For me this post is a great reminder not to take our friends for granted, and to make friendship a priority. That means taking time to stay in touch, stopping by regularly for a chat, inviting them to join me in an activity and/or remembering them on their birthday. It is so easy to just assume theyll be there, or to call on them only when we have a problem or a concern they can help with. Thanks Vishnu for your post. Reply
8 Vishnu March 7, 2013 at 7:48 am Thanks Celeste yes, we take not only friendships but sometimes all important relationships in life for granted. Making friendships a priority will ensure we work on those relationships that really matter to us. And yes, with strong friendships, youll have the people in your life you can call at 4 a.m. Reply
9 Chris Akins March 9, 2013 at 1:51 am Vishnu, Great insights. Friends are indeed important, and its not about the big things you do for friends. Its about consistently doing the little things that strengthen the bonds of friendship. One of my best long time friends started our friendship by helping me move out of my house when I was getting a divorce. I did not know him well at all at the time, though we were both officers in the Navy and he had just joined the command. I was very appreciative of his help. But what sealed it for me was that after the move, without me knowing, he went to his house and packed up a bag of
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groceries, and brought them over to me because he knew I did not have any. From that day on we became great friends, and despite the fact I am in the US and he has been serving overseas in Europe and now in Japan we are still great friends. Chris Reply
10 Vishnu March 9, 2013 at 2:32 am Thanks Chris thats an inspiring story about friendship and how a couple small acts of kindness can spark a lifelong friendship. I think he made your life better and was there for you during a real time of need. The fact that you nurtured and continued that friendship is whats inspiring. Why make a whole lot of new friends when we can appreciate and nurture the ones we already have. Friendship is the gift that keeps on giving. Thanks again for sharing your story and highlighting the importance of little things in strengthening friendships. Reply
11 Hiten March 11, 2013 at 8:43 am Hi Vishnu, Wonderful post, indeed! What you wrote in your post is spot on. I could definitely resonate with the point you made about making effort to maintain and nurture our friendships. I also agree that not having time for friends is really an excuse. Yes, we are busy people but we can always make time for our friends. Im off to give a friend a call, now! Thank you. Reply
12 Vishnu March 11, 2013 at 11:38 am Glad you enjoyed the post Hiten. It takes us some time to make the friends we do have, why not try to keep them? Good friends are hard to come by. Yes, call your friend theyll be thrilled to hear from you Im sure Reply
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Wise words Vishnu, and an important reminder in the digital age where we are all connected, but it is still somehow possibly to feel lonely and separate from other people, especially for those who work at home or remotely. I also think there is a rush to make new connections online but people often dont take the time to see the real person behind the number and take time to get to know them in any depth. Real friendship requires the willingness to be vulnerable and open, and in the midst of busy, demanding lives it is not always easy to open ourselves up in this way to others. Reply
14 Vishnu March 11, 2013 at 1:40 pm Thanks for your comment Milo! I completely agree. Yeah, forget the numbers (online and offline haha) Focus on the quality of the friendship, not the quantity. 100 people arent going to show up to help you fix your bicycle tire when youve broken down on the side of the road 1 or 2 are We do not realize that being vulnerable and open is really the key to strong friendships. IF we look at the ones in our lives, the strongest one are where we are the most open. Thats a good additional tip on maintaining stronger friendships more vulnerability and openness. The people who accept you for who we are are the friends worth keeping. Appreciate the comments and your friendship Milo! Reply
15 Razwana March 11, 2013 at 5:09 pm Item 8 strikes a cord with me, and applies to everyone in my life. Making time for them as a priority is the only way I can ensure the friendships that matter are being nurtured in the way they should be. After all, we chose them to be in our lives, right? Nice job Vishu! - Razwana Reply
16 Vishnu March 11, 2013 at 10:19 pm Thanks for your thoughts Razwana. Interesting we do chose them to be in our lives but so many people often dont prioritize them. Glad you do and glad you nurture the friendships that matter. Friendship is the gift that gives for a lifetime! Reply
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17 Sandra Pawula March 12, 2013 at 4:58 am I like the idea of encouraging your friends dreams! You have reminded me of the value of reaching out and communicating with friends more regularly. Thank you! Reply
18 Vishnu March 12, 2013 at 9:14 pm Being there for your friends with their dreams and life ventures is a sure way to improve your friendship with them. Yes, reach out and call a friend or two today Reply
19 Jammie March 12, 2013 at 1:06 pm Too often I have been guilty of #2, and havent done #6 and #8 enough. I often wonder why its easier to keep in contact with/be nicer to the stranger you have just met than to your closest friends and family. This article has been a great reminder to me of what I really should be doing. Thanks! Reply
20 Vishnu March 12, 2013 at 9:17 pm Hey Jammie yup, we all tend to take friends for granted sometimes. If we consciously think friendship is something valuable and we want more of in our lives, we should spend more time on them. Glad you found the article to be a good reminder. Heres to better friends! Reply
21 Ntathu Allen March 12, 2013 at 3:47 pm What a breath of fresh air and such a timely reminder, to me, to nurture and reconnect with friends. As a busy mum it is too easy to get caught up with our/my childrens lives and neglect caring for friendsnow that my girls are olderyoung adults, I finding the time to reconnect and revisit friendsand my life is definitely richer sharing it with my friends. Thanks Reply
22 Vishnu March 12, 2013 at 9:35 pm Glad you liked the post Ntathu and found it to be a timely reminder. Sometimes just consciously thinking about friendship will help us become better friends with the people weve known a lifetime. Yes, our lives are richer with friendship!
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23 Galen Pearl March 12, 2013 at 9:44 pm I commented on your blog about two friendships I have lost to time, but maybe Ill just give one of them a call right now and see what happens. Reply
24 Vishnu March 12, 2013 at 10:34 pm Hey Galen yes, do:) hopefully youll be able to rekindle these long-lost friendships. Thanks for your comment. Reply
25 Wendy Irene March 13, 2013 at 3:09 pm Vishnu, I loved this post about friendship. Life is busy and it can be really easy to neglect our friendships. Ive been hosting a girls night every other month to keep close to some of my local friends. With running in all different directions with our kids if we dont set aside time together life quickly passes by. Thank you for your inspiration! Reply
26 Vishnu March 15, 2013 at 1:54 am Glad you enjoyed the post Wendy and sounds like youre trying to keep up your friendships with your girls nights. Its hard to maintain our friendships unless we prioritize them and put our time, energy into them. Reply
27 Jennie March 13, 2013 at 7:41 pm Be a GREAT Listener. I am reminding myself this more than anything else. What I noticed about people is the lack of listening skills. We have 2 ears but only 1 mouth and should use them proportionately! Since you dont see your friends/family everyday when you get together LISTEN to what they have been going through in their life. Take your time talking to people, connect with them, and be sensitive to their feelings, wants, and needs. Be Engaged! Stop using your latest gadgets I-phone, itouch, or crackberry etc Reply
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28 Vishnu March 15, 2013 at 2:02 am Yes, listening can probably dramatically improve our friendships more than anything else. I think the best friendships are when both people are able to express themselves to each other equally. In addition, simply being more present and caring for them also will improve our friendships. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and adding to the discussion Jennie. Reply
29 Cathy Taughinbaugh March 14, 2013 at 1:31 am Hi Mary and Vishnu, Wonderful post here! I love your list of tips. Life can get busy, but its those close friends who will be there for you when the going gets rough. Time can get away from us, but good friends are worth the effort. Reply
30 Vishnu March 15, 2013 at 2:06 am Yes, they are Cathy! Friends are there for the good times but we really need them for the rough patches along the way. Thanks for your comment. Reply
31 Corinne Rodrigues March 14, 2013 at 11:36 am Took a while getting here, Vishnu, but Im sure glad to have read this. I value intimacy allowing the other person to see the real you in a friendship. I love the part about encouraging your friends dreams. Great post! Reply
32 Vishnu March 15, 2013 at 2:09 am Glad you made it Corinne and appreciate your feedback. Vulnerability and supporting a friend are two key ways to have solid friendships. Reply Leave a Comment Name *
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