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• About Friendship
Do you have friends? Who are they? How did the friendships begin? What
makes them your friends? What is friendship? Many questions that one can have when
thinking about this vital subject. In this article I will try to answer some of those
questions.
When you browse the Bible in your mind, who pops up first when you think of
“a friend” or “friendship”? I first thought of God and Moses:
When I read this verse I was wondering how a friendship comes to pass. Every
time you move to a new town/city/state or join another church you go through the
same thing again – making friends. You see new people, observe what they do, how
they speak, look for the things that you highly estimate in a friend then meet them to
find out that they are maybe not even keen on going out for a coffee with you. How
can this happen after you selected this person so carefully?
In the Bible, the only reference that I found for how friendship comes to pass is
in 1 Samuel 18: 1:
“And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of
Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
When I look at the friendships in my life I must say that it was just that way –
looking at the relationship after some time I realized that we had become friends. I had
not chosen that friend, something was just there that I hadn’t found with all the others,
a mutual liking.
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I met my best friend Maria in a home fellowship, invited her for a breakfast the
first evening for the following weekend and she said that she wouldn’t accept my
invitation because on a weekend it would take her too much time to get to another city
using public transport. I didn’t have a car either and thus suggested that she could
come the day before which would be a weekday, and public transport would be more
readily available. She agreed. When she came we had such a great time that she stayed
for the whole weekend.
Before I had invited her for breakfast I didn’t even think of what kind of person
she was, if she was up to my standards, if she was “spiritual” enough, if she was
behaving all right, etc. I just invited her.
The Bible gives a manifold answer to this question and I will put down the
verses and let them speak for themselves:
Be willing to help
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1 Samuel 20: 4:
“Then said Jonathan unto David, Whatsoever thy soul desireth, I will even do it for
thee.”
Can be a mirror
Proverbs 27: 19:
“As in water face answereth to face, so the heart of man to man.”
John 15:13:
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
Of course we know that it was our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ who laid
down His life for us. He calls us His friends. What does this mean for us?
James 2:23:
“And the Scripture was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was
imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God.”
James 4:4:
“Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity
with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.”
We choose to spend time with God or not, speak with Him and listen or not. I
shared the same flat with my best friend Maria for 6 ½ years until I got married. Our
friendship rests upon a good foundation which cannot be shaken easily. Maria taught
me that relationships are about love and forgiveness. Many things we learned while
going through them rather than avoiding them. We chose to be friends no matter if
each of us gets married because we realized that it is very difficult to keep up a
friendship from a distance. God knows that too:
James 4: 8a:
“Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.” Or as the The Message puts it,
more “friendly”: “Say a quiet yes to God and he'll be there in no time.”
Abraham is also called a friend of God and it is written about him that he
walked with God. He didn’t walk before Him or was miles behind Him but with Him
and that made the difference.
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My mom taught me to treat my friends the way that I wish they would treat me.
I know that not every friendship is like the one of David and Jonathan or Andrea and
Maria. But I encourage you and me to be a genuine (same inside as outside) friend
without expecting anything back, loving unconditionally and forgiving one another,
walking in the steps of our friend and Saviour, Jesus Christ. Amen.
Andrea Kioulachoglou