The Top 10 Secrets of NLP Coaching Language

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The Top 10 Secrets of NLP Coaching Language

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Table of Contents ,ead This -irst.............................................................................. /ho is this e0book for1................................................................. 2 3ntroduction................................................................................ 2 /hat is NLP Coaching Language1................................................... 4 /hy Learn NLP Coaching Language................................................ 4 51 6 Prepare 7ourself -irst............................................................) 5( 0 8elieve 3n 7ourself and 7our Client..........................................9 5. 6 Pre0-rame for Success.......................................................... : 52 0 ;stablish and <aintain ,apport............................................... = 54 6 Set + >irection...................................................................10 5) 6 /atch ? Listen...................................................................11 59 6 Clear @bstacles and Aather ,esources...................................1( 5: 6 Bse Softeners.................................................................... 1. 5= 6 Aather ;vidence................................................................. 12 510 0 /ire 3n The Language Patterns........................................... 1) <ore 3nformation....................................................................... 19 +bout the +uthor........................................................................(0

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"ea# This $irst

/elcome to The Top 10 Secrets of NLP Coaching Langauge. <y nameCs *amie Smart. 3Cm an NLP trainer! author! and creator of NLP Coaching CardsT<, the orldCs leading resource for learning NLP coaching language! and 3Cd like to say Dthank0youE to you for reading this e0book. 3Cd also like to ask you to please send this e-book to your friends and colleagues, because it ill help them! it ill help me to reach more people! and because it will make you feel good tooF 3f youCve been sent this e0 book by someone else! then make sure that you sign up for the FREE NLP Coaching newsletter that accompanies it! hereG .saladltd.co.ukHnlpcoaching.htm @nce you do! you ill be sent ne issues on a regular basis to learn from. 3t ill only take a minute to read! but youCll be amaIed at the skills you start developing %uickly. This book complements our NLP Coaching CardsT<. 3Cll be referring to the cards in the ne sletter! but hen you buy the cards and get the patterns now, you can unlock the massive potential this book reveals immediately 3f you ant to really accelerate your learning! go to the Salad ebsite and order your own deck of NLP Coaching CardsT<. These cards are %uite simply the fastest ay there is to develop your skills in using NLP coaching language. The insights youCll be getting from the ne sletter complement the patterns on the cards! so hen you have both! it ill really turbo-charge your learning. -or more information about ho you can learn fast !ust by playing cards! go to httpGHH .saladltd.co.ukHNLPJCoachingJCards.htm

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ho is this e%boo& for'

This e0book is for people ho are interested in helping themselves to resolve issues and reach their goals more %uickly and easily! and for helping others to do the same. 3t ill be of particular interest to e#ecutive coaches! life coaches! therapists! hypnotists! trainers! managers! salespeople! consultants! net orkers! students of NLP! health0 orkers! doctors and other healers.

(ntro#uction
@ne of the first things that attracted me to Neuro0linguistic Programming "NLP$ as language. 3Cve al ays loved language! and as amaIed hen 3 heard about some of the things that you can do ith it. @ne of the things that as mentioned in many of the books 3 read as a po erful set of language patterns called The <eta0model! a set of %uestioning tools modeled by ,ichard 8andler and *ohn Arinder from t o of the therapeutic geniuses of the (0th century! -ritI Perls and Kirginia Satir. 3t as the first creation in the field of NLP! and formed the basis for subse%uent discoveries in the field. The <eta0model orks on the follo ing principleG people donCt e#perience reality directly! but rather through the LmapsC of reality they create in their minds. /hen people have a problem or challenge! it does not typically e#ist Lin realityC 0 it e#ists in their map of reality. 3f you can enrich their map! their e#perience of the orld ill become richer. ;nrich their map enough! and their problems ill be solved! their challenges overcome. The <eta0model is the principle tool for discovering here and ho to enrich a personCs map. 3 as hooked. 3 told myself D7ou have to learn ho to do thisFE So 3 did. 3n the course of my studies! 3 tried lots of approaches! and e#perimented. 3 tried things that orked! and many more that didnCt. This short e0book is a distillation of some of the most po erful approaches 3Cve learned for ensuring that your coaching is effective. +s you read this youMll start to see ays that you can fine0tune and improve our coaching abilities right a ay. ,ead on and 3Mll sho you a ay you can accelerate your learning of these patterns later.

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hat is NLP Coaching Language'

NLP Coaching language is a set of %uestions and linguistic tools that are amaIingly po erful for helping people to solve problems! enrich their maps of reality! and get the results they desire. -or a detailed list of the sort of linguistic tools you can learn! check out the NLP Coaching Cards page at httpGHH .saladltd.co.ukHNLPJCoachingJCards.htm 0 it contains a list of LfeaturesC that ill start to give you an idea of the kind of things that become possible as you begin learning to use language in this po erful ay.

hy Learn NLP Coaching Language

NLP Coaching Language "including the infamous NLP <eta0<odel$ is the most po erful set of %uestions and linguistic tools there is for helping people to solve problems! make changes and get hat they ant. /hy1 8ecause they use the po er of a personCs unconscious mind to help them discover resources and solutions. /hile the conscious mind en&oys the illusion of control! itCs actually the unconscious thatCs making the important decisions in a personCs life. That means that if you can get in touch ith someoneCs unconscious "including your o n$! you can make an incredible diffeence! %uickly! easily and elegantly. Nere are &ust some of the reasons for you to learn NLP Coaching Language"

$eel confi#ent that you can discover the information that really matters in any situation. People pay goo# money for this) *s& +uestions that ama,e your clients! you colleagues! your friends and even yourself ith the %uality of ans ers youCll get. "ela-! kno ing that you ill never be stuck for hat to say or ask again.

./ercome barriers an# obstacles that have been holding people back. 7ouCll see real progressF Feel goo#0 kno ing that you really ma&e a #ifference in peopleCs lives.

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11 2 Prepare 3ourself $irst

8efore you set out to coach someone! itCs important to prepare yourself. There are three things that you can do in advance to make a huge difference in the %uality of the coaching e#perience! hether youCre coaching yourself or another person. They areG Set a Lcoaching intentC Ao %uiet inside +ccept yourself and trust

Set a 4coaching intent5 ,obert >ilts "a leading developer of NLP$ studied e#cellent LhealersC in many alks of life "doctors! therapists! coaches! medicine men etc$. Ne found that hile they had many different approaches! there as something all these great healers shared in commonG they all had a Lhealing intentC. + healing intent is the intention and desire that hatever they are doing be for the healing of the person involved. /hen it comes to coaching! and using NLP Coaching Language! it is important to have hat 3 call a Lcoaching intentC 6 the intention and desire that hatever you do has the effect of helping the person to move for ard in their life in a ay that is positive and appropriate for them. 3f you use NLP Coaching language ithout a coaching intent! people can LfeelC it! and sometimes react defensively or &ust Lshut do nC. So set a coaching intent for your interactions. *ccept yourself an# trust 8efore you begin! accept yourself e#actly as you are! and trust that you ill be able to help the person you are coaching in some ay. 3f your beliefs include the idea of an unconscious mind! or Aod! or universal life force etc! you might like to trust that this Lpo er greater than yourselfC ill help you ith the process 6 or you may &ust ish to trust yourself and your abilities. ;ither ay! the combination of acceptance and trust puts you in a po erful space to begin the coaching process. 6o +uiet insi#e 3nternal dialogue significantly hampers sensory acuity! so turn it off. <inimise your internal dialogue by breathing deeply! rela#ing your throat muscles! placing the tip of your tongue &ust behind your upper front teeth and letting your &a drop slightly. 7ouCll see and hear moreF 3f your internal dialogue interrupts your a areness! say DShut the ?OFP upFE inside your head.E ,epeat as necessary. This may take some practice at first! but as you persevere! you ill be amaIed at ho much you are able to see and hear hich used to be invisible. -or a number of methods for turning off your internal dialogue! check out NLP for $usiness % Personal &uccess

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5( 0 8elieve 3n 7ourself and 7our Client

7our beliefs about yourself and the orld have a massive effect on ho you respond. 7our beliefs about your client ill be communicated to them in everything you say and do. 3f you believe that your client onCt go into a trance! then they onCt. 3f you believe that theyCre an e#cellent hypnotic sub&ect! then theyCre much more likely to be. 3f you have difficulty believing that your client can find the solutions to all their problems! and live an amaIing life! then &ust pretend. <ilton ;rickson used to say D7ou can pretend anything and master itE! so hile youCre at it! pretend that youCre an e#traordinarily fast learner! and have already begun to master NLP Coaching Language This idea of LpretendingC may seem a bit Llo 0techC! but it actually has a proven track record. 7ou see! your unconscious mind doesnCt distinguish bet een a real e#perience and a vividly imagined one. 3f you 'i'idly imagine that your client is capable of making changes! your unconscious ill start to communicate that belief to them. These communications ill come out in the language you use! the gestures you employ! your voice tone etc. The amaIing thing is that these subtle communications are e#actly the sort of thing that their unconscious mind ill pick up onF 3tCs actually a far more po erful level of communication than &ust saying to someone D7ou are capable of far more than you think you areE! so itCs ell orth e#ploring. -or more about belief change! visit the Salad archive or check out our Art of Being C>s.

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5. 6 Pre0-rame for Success

/hen 3Cm coaching someone! 3 do various things to Lset the frameC in a general! positive ay before setting H eliciting a specific direction for the interaction. 3 got this idea from a book hich said something like DThe fact that youCre reading this means you can easily incorporate these ne ideas into your lifeE. 3 set the frame by saying things like thisG

DThe fact that youCve come here today means youCll be able to make changes you ant in your life.E D7ouCve decided to engage me as your coach! achieve your goals en&oyably.E

hatever

hich means youCll be able to

The logicians among you ill recognise that these statements ouldnCt pass a logic test! but the unconscious mind isnCt too stringent about logic. 3f the person accepts the statement as true "and they usually do$! then the unconscious ill act accordingly. The structure of these frame0setting statements is thisG Q means 7 + causes 8 So! ho do you ant to positively influence1 3t could be actual coaching clients! other clients! employees! friends! family etc. +s you take a fe moments to think about the situation! you can start to become a are of some ideas you could use. @ne of my favourites for almost any coaching situation is something like thisG D7ou learned to alk and talk! and you donCt even kno ho you did it. That means that the things youCll be learning today are going to be really straightfor ard for you.E 3 use these all the time! and the @NL7 time 3 get rumbled is by e#perienced NLP Practitioners "and even then! itCs usually only the ones 3Cve trained to pay close attention to language$. @ne of the things you start to find after you spend some time on a training course ith me or listen to some Salad C>s is that it becomes a lot more fun to listen. Sometimes my assistants and more e#perienced students have trouble keeping a straight face on trainings hen 3Cm embedding positive suggestions in seemingly LinnocentC stories and sentencesF

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52 0 ;stablish and <aintain ,apport

,apport has been described as hat happens hen e get the attention of someoneCs unconscious mind! and meet them at Ltheir map of the orld.C 3t is more commonly understood as the sense of ease and connection that develops hen you are interacting with someone you trust and feel comfortable with 8eing able to get into rapport ith other people isnMt &ust a key for successful coachingR itMs also one of the most fun! en&oyable and rela#ing skills you can learn. People like to be around people ho get into rapport ith them. NLP Coaching Language orks most effectively person or people you are communicating ith. /hy is it important1 People are social creatures! and e often need to ork ith other people to achieve hat e ant. This means that an ability to communicate influentially is one of the most valuable skills a person can have. arning! (f you use NLP Coaching Language an# meta%mo#el +uestions 7ithout rapport0 the other person may become #efensi/e8 +n important aspect of influential communication is creating a connection ith the other person! and making them feel understood. CouncilCs in ancient Areece had a po erful approach for helping resolve disputesG The first person ould state their case. The second person then had to re0state the first personCs case to the satisfaction of the first person before stating their case. <arshall ,osenberg! creator of Non0violent Communication! claims that he can resolve longstanding marital disputes ithin (0 minutes of the point here each partner can accurately state the needs of the other partner. Ne says! ho ever! that it often takes %uite a bit longer to get to the point here they can do that. These are e#amples of meeting someone at their map of the orld using verbal techni%ues. There are many ays to get into rapport both verbally and non0verbally! using behavioural techni%ues! vocal fle#ibility and internal shifts of consciousness. -or details and e#ercises! check out NLP for $usiness % Personal &uccess hen you are in rapport ith the

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54 6 Set + >irection
Numan neurology is Lgoal0seekingC and ill al ays tend to organise around a specific result or set of results. These results are referred to in NLP as LoutcomesC. /hether you help a person ork on a specific outcome "eg earning a million dollars$ or help them e#plore a certain direction ";g. becoming financially free$! itCs important for them to have something to aim at. -inding out hat someone ants sets a direction for the coaching session. /ays of finding this out include the follo ingG 0 0 0 0 /hat do you ant1 /hat have you come here for1 /hat can 3 do for you1 /hatCs the problem1 The <iracle Suestion "see NLP Coaching CardsT< for this and other fantastic goal0discovering %uestions$

+ll of these have different presuppositions "D/hatCs the problemE presupposes that the person has some problem theyCve come to solve! and may not be useful in many situations! but in some it is. -rank -arrelly! creator of Provocative Therapy! uses this %uestion as his starting point$. <y fave is still D/hat do you situations. ant1E! but the others all have value in different

@nce you kno hat someone ants! you can further clarify their goal using other %ueries hich youCll find on the NLP Coaching CardsT< The key is to help a person get a clear idea of ho they you have this! you have a direction for the process. ould like things to be. @nce

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5) 6 /atch ? Listen
D/atch and listen1F1E 3 hear you ask. DNo dullE. 8ut ait. +ccording to NLP co0 developer ,ichard 8andler! 9:; of NLP is information%gathering8 3 often get emails from people asking things like D/hat techni%ue do you use to help a one0eyed mother of four overcome her ine#plicable fear of d arves hich emerges hen sheCs doing the dishes1E The techni%ue 3 use isT atch and listen. 3 believe that hen youCre orking ith someone and you have the attention of their unconscious mind "rapport$! the unconscious ill do everything ithin its po er to tell you e#actly hat you need to kno in order to help the person make he necessary changes. The coachCs role involves having the sensory acuity to intercept those messages from the unconscious. So ho are those messages sent1 8ody language Aestures ;ye movements Thro 0a ay comments Sensory language +mbiguities @rgan language etc

3Cd like you to consider the possibility that your clients are offering you a ealth of clues to help them find solutions to their problems and the paths to their desires. =4P of NLP is information0gathering. /atch and listen. @f course! sometimes you need to LstimulateC a personCs nervous system in order to gather the necessary information. +nd ho do you stimulate their nervous system1 Suestions. +nd the most useful set of %uestions out there isTThe <eta <odel. The <eta <odel "created by 8andler and Arinder$ is the most po erful set of %uestions there is for helping people enrich their maps of the orld. 8andler credits it as being the tool hich helped them create all the other NLP models. +stonishingly "to me$ the <eta <odel is not taught in depth on most Practitioner trainings these days. This is because itCs traditionally seen as being DdifficultE! but itCs notF /eCve pioneered using approaches for learning the <eta <odel %uickly and easily using games hich make it fun. The great thing is! by the time you realise ho easily you can do it! the learnings have already gone in. 3f you donCt have a set of NLP Coaching CardsT< yet! go to httpGHH .saladltd.co.ukHNLPJCoachingJCards.htm to get yours no . 7ouCll learn the <eta0<odel! the most po erful information0gathering tool there isF

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59 6 Clear @bstacles and Aather ,esources

/hen youCre coaching someone! you can assume that they have already tried hatever theyCve been able to think of consciousl to make the changes they ant to make 6 thatCs hy theyCre talking to youF Part of your role as coach is to help someone set a clear direction! then gather the resources theyCll need for the &ourney! and clear obstacles out of the ay. There are some LNLP PresuppositionsC that are particularly useful 6 pretend that these are true "if you donCt believe them already$G ThereCs a solution to every problem People already have all the resources they need +nythingCs possible

/hen you LbelieveC these in relation to yourself and your coaching clients! you suddenly start to find ans ers appearing that may previously have evaded you. @f course! there are specific %uestion that are particularly useful! for e#ampleG 3f someone has an obstacle! and says D3 canCtTE! you can ask D/hat stops you1E! or D/hat ould happen if you did H could1E D/hat stops you1E verbal. ill get you information about the obstacle! both verbal and non0

D/hat ould happen if you did H could1E gets the person to imagine going beyond the obstacle! hich is often something theyCve never imagined. /hen you go through your NLP Coaching Cards! youCll find variations on thes %uestions that can help you to clear obstacles! gather resources! and often make changes instantly "sometimes helping people let go of something thatCs held them back for years! !ust by well-chosen (uestions)! Learn about all the tools you get hereG httpGHH .saladltd.co.ukHNLPJCoachingJCards.htm

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5: 6 Bse Softeners
Legend has it that hen 8andler and Arinder first taught the <eta0<odel to a group of university students! the students immediately ent out and alienated friends and family by using the %uestions inappropriately! and ithout gaining rapport "D3 love you.E 6 D/hat ould happen if you didnCt1E etc$. +s a result! NLP Practitioners are no taught to build rapport before being taught the <eta0<odelF NLP Coaching language is so po erful and revealing that it can seem intrusive and even LbullyingC if not asked in an appropriate ay "remember! body language and voice tone make up a significant amount of hat you communicate to someone$. So 3 suggest that peopleG Bse a gentle! curious voice tone Bse softeners

Softeners are short phrases that you can put at the beginning of a %uestion that make it more gentle and palatable. -or instanceG "a7 <uestion /hat do you ant1 /hat stops you1 No do you kno 1 Softene# <uestion 3Cm ondering hat it is that you ant1 3Cm curious to kno hat stops you1 3Cd like to ask you ho you kno that1

/hen you combine the softeners ith a gentle! curious voice tone and rapport! people really start to open up and give you the information you are looking for. @f course! mind and body are one system! so one ay to ensure that your voice tone is curious is to get into a curious state! or a state of hat ;ric ,obbie "top NLP trainer$ calls D3 onderTE This makes the difference bet een an interrogation and a positive in%uiry! and the results ill speak for themselves.

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5= 6 Aather ;vidence
@ne of my favourite NLP %ueries is DNo do you kno 1E /hile 3 love using it for information gathering! 3 as pleasantly surprised back in -ebruary hen someone on our NLP Practitioner training asked me DNo do you kno hen someone youCre orking ith has e#perienced a real change1E @ne of the things that those of you doing coaching or change ork of any sort may already have e#perienced is that clients often ant to please you. Sometimes! this means that they ill consciously report that some sort of internal change has taken place! even hen it hasnCt. 3 got fooled by this a fe times hen 3 first started doing change ork ith people! so over the years 3Cve developed a kind of Lspidey0senseC about hether people have really e#perienced a shift! or hether theyCre &ust trying to please me. /hen the Practitioner asked me DNo do you kno 1E! 3 had to go inside my o n e#perience ? make e#plicit some of the things 3Cm responding to that let me kno a change has taken place. So! some of the things that let me kno that someone 3Cm orking ith has made a change or a shift in a certain area areG Long%term change in circumstances This is the most reliable indicator of change. 3f you help someone to stop smoking! ? a year later they still arenCt smoking! thatCs an e#cellent sign that the change has taken place. 3f theyCre en&oying life as a non0smoker! thatCs even betterF "eality%base# testing 3f you do a phobia cure ith someone ho has a fear of dogs! go find a dogF 3f you think youCve sorted out their fear of heights! find a tall building. 3f they ere scared of talking to people! get them to go out ? speak ith strangers. /henever 3 do change ork ith people! 3 ant to find the most immediate ay to test my ork that 3 can. @ne of the great things about doing this is that if the change has orked! the test creates a strong convincer for the person. 3f it hasnCt orked! then you kno asap that thereCs more to do. (maginary testing Sometimes! it isnCt practical to go out during a session and conduct a test. 3f you do a phobia cure ith someone ho has a fear of flying! you may not ant to ait until they ne#t fly to find out if itCs orked. -ortunately! the nervous system processes a vividly imagined e#perience in a very similar ay to a LrealC e#perience. Aet them to vividly imagine the conte#t here they anted a change "DSee hat youCd see! hear hat youCd hear! ? feel hat youCd feel etc$! ? notice their non0verbal responses "skin colour! breathing rate! e#pression etc$. 3f you already kno ho to use hypnosis! you can intensify the e#perience by leading them into a trance first.

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By Jamie Smart (n/oluntary =shifts> /hen a person e#periences a shift in their patterns of thought ? associated behaviours! their Linvoluntary patternsC also change. 3f you are tracking these patterns prior to the change! you can notice the differences after the change has taken place. ;#amples includeG 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 Skin colour changes "especially around the face! neck ? upper chest$ Postural shifts "general posture! head0tilt! etc$ ;ye0accessing "the patterns of their eye0movements$ Sensory ords 3nternal strategies "their se%uences of internal sensory processing$ <eta0programs etc

Co/ert +uestioning This is one of my favourites. 7ou can use an embedded %uestion ";g. D/ith some clients 3 ask LNas your unconscious mind really accepted this changeC! but ith you it seems clearE$ ? observe their unconscious response. 3f you are in rapport! their head ill nod or shake depending on their unconscious mindCs ans er to the embed LNas your unconscious mind really accepted this changeC. Sneaky! huhF Changes in other patterns / no/elty 3f the client reports sudden ? ma&or shifts in other areas of their life! or changes a habitual pattern during the session! this can be an indication of change. The conscious min# report The conscious mind report "D<y goodness! 3 feel so much better. Thank0you! you really are amaIingFE$ is "sadly$ the least reliable evidence of change. 3n my opinion! the unconscious mind is running the sho . +ll of the above evidences of change are reports from the unconscious mind. These are al ays more reliable than the conscious mind report.

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510 0 /ire 3n The Language Patterns

NLP Coaching Language "particularly the NLP <eta0<odel$ is the most powerful tool there is for enriching peopleCs models of reality! solving problems and helping reach goals. The great thing about it is thisG the fact that you can read this book means you already have all the skills necessary to learn NLP Coaching Language. +ll that is re%uired no is some practice. There are a number of techni%ues that can help you learn to use this language ith effortless eleganceG

Aet a set of the language patterns to study. They are available on Salad"s NLP Coaching CardsT<! ith e#amples of ho to use them. /rite out e#amples of the language patterns to wire them in to your neurology at a deep level. 3f you rite out e#amples of the <eta0<odel patterns and challenges 100 times! it ill go a long ay to embedding them automatically in your speech. Bse Salad"s NLP Coaching CardsT< to play card games using the language patterns. Play makes learning fast and fun! so games increase your learning speed. Then you can become curious about &ust ho %uickly your unconscious ill begin to surprise you by allo ing these patterns to emerge in your language spontaneouslyF Choose a pattern each day! then practice using that pattern in your conversations that day. 7ou ill be surprised at &ust ho %uickly you are able to integrate the patterns. +s usual! set a goal for your communication "remember the Coaching 3ntentF$ Then allo your unconscious to help reflect this in your %uestions.

See! once you have internaliIed these %uestions! you donCt have to think about them anymore. 7our unconscious ill automatically come up ith the best %uestion to ask. +ll you have to do "consciously$ is think about here you ant to go ne#t! hat information you ant to gather! and hat youCd like to kno . 7our unconscious can do the restF

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