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Kino Escalation

By Don Diego Garcia for StyleLife

I took you to an intimate restaurant, then to a suggestive movie,
There's nothin' left to talk about, unless it's horizontally,
Let's get physical, I wanna get physical,
Let me hear your body talk.

~Olivia Newton-John

Warning & Disclaimer: Abide by the Law of the Land

Kino relates to touching. Forms of touching may be considered criminal in some
jurisdictions, punishable by fines or imprisonment. Consult federal, state, and local laws
regarding touching, age of consent, and intoxication as well as your employers harassment
policy. The following is not advice but opinions to be used for entertainment purposes only.
By reading this e-book you agree to hold Don Diego Garcia and StyleLife.com harmless.

Arent you glad that is over? I hope you werent scared too badly.

"The language of love is not spoken with words." ~ Don Diego Garcia

Ride the Kino Escalator

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Kino is derived from the word kinesthetic which relates to the way our bodies detect
position, weight, and movement. Roughly translated it relates to the workings of our bodys
motor neurons and sensory neurons. Motor neurons control how we move our body by
sending signals to our muscles, and sensory neurons give us information in the form of body
sensations from the skin.

So, kino can be interpreted as transmission of information from one persons body
movements to another person through sensors in the skin. The information communicated
varies from World Culture to World Culture. And even within a single culture, different
people will have subjective interpretations of what different kino actions mean. The lines
defining different types of kino are quite fuzzy and not clear at all. Formal Kino for one
person might be considered Friendly Kino to another. Friendly Kino to the same person
might be considered Sensual Kino to someone else.

Regardless of what culture or upbringing you were raised in, we all have some basic needs
for kino touch. Harry Harlow conducted research tests with laboratory monkeys. He
provided two synthetic mothers for the baby monkeys. One robot mother was made of cold,
hard wire, and the second mother was composed of soft, warm terry cloth. The wire mother
was the only one providing milk. It turned out that after feeding, the baby monkeys liked to
go hang out with the warm fuzzy mommy. Go figure. We all have a primitive side to us that
responds to soft touch in a nurturing way. In some ways, kino communicates more directly
than words do. Certain kinds of kino stimulate the release of oxytocin and other hormones
that promote bonding and trust.

Energetic Kino is the transmission of the same types of body-to-body information, only
without physical touching. You dont have to touch someone physically to excite the
kinesthetic system. If I thrust my fist within inches of your nose, you may react. Similarly, if
I trace my open palm and fingers above your forearm in a sliding motion, you may feel that
too. Some spiritual disciplines teach a form of healing energy emanating from your thumbs,
fingers, and palms. Energetic Kino can also extend from your eyes. To practice activating
your Energetic Kino transfer system, simply imagine light, water, fire, lasers, or whatever
flowing medium you choose, in whatever color you choose, emitting from your body.

So, what kind of information can kino transmit?

Formal Kino

Formal Kino expresses, I wont hurt you.

Examples of Formal Kino include:

Handshake
Standing Bow (Exchange of Energetic Kino)
Seated Kneeling Bow
Fist Touch or Double Fist Touch (In Boxing)

Consoling Kino

Consoling Kino expresses, I empathize and sympathize with you.

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Examples of Consoling Kino include:

Shoulder Pat
Shoulder Rub
Upper Back Pat
Upper Back Rub
Head on Shoulder Hug
Upper Arm Squeeze
Knee Squeeze

Consoling Kino can either be sincere or joking. A good way to escalate kino is to tease your
partner about some magnified difficulty.

Wassa matta, you cant open that twist top? Poor thing. (Upper Arm Squeeze) Here, let me
get that for you.

Back-rubs may also be applied during consoling expressions. You might even try
exaggerating consolations.

"My boss sucks!"
"Oh, I'm so sorry." (Upper Back Rub).

Friendly Kino

Casual Friendly Kino expresses, "I respect you."

Examples of Friendly Kino include:

Shoulder Pat Knee squeeze
Back Pat Hand Rest on Closest Shoulder
Upper arm poke Forearm Rest on Closest Shoulder
Upper arm squeeze Cheek Pinch
Wrist Pat Polite Hand Kiss
Wrist Squeeze
Knee pat
Hand to forehead touch
(Familial Respect Attestation in Philippine Culture)
The "Butt Pat" is a part of Friendly Kino in some sports

An early precedent of playful Friendly Kino is best established from the get-go of a new
relationship as a demonstration of the suave, gregarious person you are. Good friends can
be rough and tumble with each other to create bonding rapport, but a new friend should be
treated more gently. Think of a bird landing on a branch. The bird doesnt go SMACK into
the branch forcefully. It slows down and hovers just for an instant before alighting
comfortably onto its landing. Be the bird.

Look for opportunities in your dialog to experiment with Friendly Kino. For example, upper-
arm squeezes may be applied at exclamation points in your speech, or at the punch lines of
jokes.

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If you are presently not someone who participates in Friendly Kino with those around you
naturally and continuously, you may want to change some habits. It will not happen
overnight. Conscious effort, attention, and practice will be required to change those habits
and there may be some awkward moments along the way. Thats just part of learning new
social skills. If you take an attitude of adventure, experimentation and light-hearted fun on
your mission, it will be that much more enjoyable. Pay attention to how friends kino each
other on television and in the real world. Model and copy their behavior.

Kino Games

Initiating friendly Kino Games with a new partner is a great way to break the
ice:

Slaps / Hot Hands
Thumb Wrestling
Simon Says

Sensual Kino

Sensual Kino expresses, "I like you."

Sensual kino gives pleasure to the person receiving the attention, and sometimes to the
giver at the same time.

Examples of Sensual Kino include:

Finger Play
Hand Hold Around Waist
Hand Rest on Far Shoulder
Yawn to Hand rest on Far Shoulder
Extended Hand Kiss
Caresses
Massage
Hand Play

The Caress as Sensual Kino

Caressing motions can be in a straight line, circles, figure eight formations, or
random meanderings. Eons of trudging through forests and jungles left thick
skin on our back, and the outsides of our arms and legs. The skin is thinner
and more sensitive to caresses on the insides of the arms and legs, as well as
the front part of the body. A variation of the moving caress is the still caress,
simply touching, resting, or pressing according to the following strengths:

Energetic Caress

Float your fingertips above the skin, never actually touching the skin or the
body hair, but only transmitting warm energy into your partners body. Some
people are less sensitive to body energy than others.

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Floating Caress

Float your fingertips above the skin, never actually touching the skin, but only
stimulating the hairs above the skin.

Feather Caress

Touch the skin as lightly as possible, barely on and barely off.

Soft Caress

Apply moderate pressure into the skin, just enough to feel the pliability of the
body part.

Deep Caress

Apply maximum pressure, just before the point of pain, to stimulate deep
tissues.

Common Caress Locations

Hand Head Hair
Wrist Eyebrow
Upper Arm Nose
Lower Arm Cheek
Upper Back Jawbone
Lower Back Chin
Earlobe Knee
Neck Leg

Massage as Sensual Kino

Massage is the process of rubbing and stroking the body to relax muscles,
increase blood flow, and provide sensuous stimulation.

Massage can be Friendly Kino, for example if the massage was paid for.
Massage can also be Intimate Kino if sexual arousal is initiated. Most Massage
certainly gives relaxation and pleasure to its recipient, so well classify it
under Sensual Kino.

Types of Massage

Body Part Massages

Hand Massage
Neck Massage
Back Massage
Forearm Massage
Foot Massage

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Massage Styles

Deep Tissue Massage works gradually into inner bodily
structures with a gradual application of pressure.
Swedish Massage uses six basic strokes consisting of:
1. Effleurage to warm up the muscle with soft pumping
motions into the body.
2. Pertrissage works the deep muscles with kneading,
squeezing and lifting motions.
3. Friction works in lines or circles creating heat and
increasing circulation.
4. Tapotement is a soft tapping, percussive motion,
sometimes with karate-chop hands.
5. Compression works to squeeze soft body parts, moving
lymph and stimulating organs.
6. Vibration works after applying pressure, to initiate a rapid
sideways shaking motion to loosen the muscles.
Hawaiian Lomi Lomi Massage uses four rhythmic strokes to
increase circulation and lymphatic drainage.
Reiki is an ancient healing technique that channels healing
energy through our hands promoting physical, mental,
spiritual and emotional balance.
Shiatsu is a five thousand year old Japanese physiotherapy
approach based on the body's energy channels and pressure
points.

Hand Play as Sensual Kino

If the eyes are windows into the soul,
then the hands are windows into the heart.

~ Don Diego Garcia

The movie Soapdish with Kevin Kline and Elisabeth Shue has a great scene
where Kevin explores hand play with Beth.

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Hand Shake

The Hand Shake certainly may start as Formal Kino, but can be extended
temporally into to Playful Kino.

Same Hand Pinky Swear

The Same Hand Pinky Swear is a brief playful game where you ask your
partner to swear to keep a secret or make a promise. The first step is to
interlock pinky fingers.

The second step is to press thumbs together:


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Opposite Hand Pinky Swear

The same game can be played with opposite hands.

Step 1:

Step 2:


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Resting Hand Brush

If seated at a table together, you can place your hand adjacent to your
partners. The most subtle contact can be made just by resting your hand
close to your partners. As an option, you can just place your hand nearby, but
not physically touching, and practice your Energetic Kino.

If your partner takes the initiative and rests their hand on yours, they are
sharing in mutual Kino Escalation.

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Index Finger Hold

Babies will instinctually grasp a finger placed in their palm. You can test your
partners grasping reaction by placing your index finger in their open hand.
This may be a little sensual, so make sure you have established some friendly
rapport first.

If your partner grasps onto your index finger, they have accepted your Kino
Advance test.


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Thumb Interlace Hand Hold

The Thumb Interlace hand hold is your basic hand hold. Holding hands may
be interpreted as playful Friendly Kino or more serious Sensual Kino.

Snaking Hand Hold

A variation of the hand hold can be discovered by snaking your hands around
each other, similar to walking arm-in-arm, but at the hand level.

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Finger Interlace

If you interlace fingers with your partner and their hand remains open or
limp, this is a sign that they are not expanding their Kino Comfort Zone to
meet your Kino Advance. You should probably gracefully let her hand go
without sulking, and develop more rapport.

A finger interlace that is met with your partners fingers closing around your
hand is a sign that your partners Kino Comfort Zone has been expanded to
include this activity. A finger interlaced hand hold is a bit more sensual than
the thumb interlaced hand hold.


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Finger Interlace From Behind

The Finger Interlace can be approached from the back of your partners hand.

Of course, Reverse Kino where your partner takes your hand from behind is
nice too.


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Fingertip Hand Hold

The Fingertip Hand Hold is a fun variation of the hand hold where only the
fingertips of the hands are touching. This light hand hold is airy, giving a
sense of freedom and connection at the same time. It could be friendly or
sensual.

Non-Hand Sensual Kino

Hands are not the only means of kino communication. While standing you
could softly bump your partner with your hip. While seated you could play
footsies or kneesies.

Intimate Kino

Intimate Kino expresses, I love you.

Examples of Intimate Kino include passionate kissing and other erotic touching. The
cornucopia of intimate activities that you can share with your partner could fill volumes
larger than the Kama Sutra. Specific kino that expresses arousing sexual bliss is out of
scope for this e-book. By the time you reach a level where both you and your partner are
ready for the exchange of Intimate Kino, nature will take its course.

Kino escalation from Formal to Consoling to Friendly to Sensual to Intimate, involves a
series of Kino Advances. Before we can discuss the Kino Advance, we must first establish
the Kino Comfort Zone:


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The Kino Comfort Zone

The Kino Comfort Zone is a Don Diego Garcia original model for StyleLife.com discussion
purposes. No model captures all the nuances of the real world. Even supercomputers can
only predict the weather out to eight days or so.

The colors in the Kino Comfort Zone represent the Kino Escalation steps found on the front
page, namely:

I consent to exchanging Formal Kino with you: RED
I consent to exchanging Consoling Kino with you: ORANGE
I consent to exchanging Friendly Kino with you: YELLOW
I consent to exchanging Sensual Kino with you: YELLOW-GREEN
I consent to exchanging Intimate Kino with you: GREEN

Your partners Kino Comfort Zone will be different with different people, and also at different
times. It is a completely dynamic variable.

When you first meet someone, they will probably greet you with their Kino Comfort Zone
set to Formal. The BLUE circle defines a persons acceptable range of kino exchange with
you at any given time.


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The Default Kino Comfort Zone: Formal Kino

Most people live their lives with their default Kino Comfort Zone set to formal. Introductions
to new friends and associates are usually met with Formal Kino, for example.

The Kino Advance

The movie The Piano with Holly Hunter and Harvey Keitel, demonstrates a torturously long
series of Kino Advances. Holly spends most of the film covered head to toe in 19
th
century
multi-layered couture. In once scene Harvey crawls under the piano, and finds a single
solitary hole in her sock eaten away by a moth. He carefully touches her there with the tip
of his finger to give her the kino that escalates the relationship.

Kino escalation is composed of performing a series of Kino Advances. Each advance needs
to be evaluated for its result before making another advance. Kino Advances are a form of
experimental test to see how your partner is receiving your body communication.

Lets say, as a case study, that you have spent some time with your new partner, and have
already established an exchange of Friendly Kino as mutually acceptable. You are now in the
process of making a Kino Advance to Sensual Kino with an attempt to squeeze your
partners knee and leave your hand there while seated together.


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Case Study: Kino Advance From Friendly Kino to Sensual Kino

A Kino Advance does not guarantee a change in your partners Kino Comfort Zone. As we
said, in this example, your partner started at level YELLOW: Friendly Kino. Now, wile
seated next to them, when you squeeze your partners knee and leave your hand there, this
is an attempt to advance your partners Kino Comfort Zone into the YELLOW-GREEN zone:
Sensual Kino. What are the possible results of your Kino Advance test?

Kino Comfort Zone Collapse
Kino Comfort Zone Contraction
Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance
Kino Comfort Zone Expansion
Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration


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Kino Comfort Zone Collapse

This would be the worse case scenario. A complete blow-out. In a Kino Comfort Zone
collapse, your partner will shut down completely and become frigid and cold. No further
kino, not even Formal Kino will be accepted. A Kino Comfort Zone collapse might not
happen often, but its not unthinkable. Perhaps your partners father used to beat them with
a stick on the knee, and by touching that area, you stimulated some terrible memories that
causes your partner to cry.

Dont touch me. Take me home, now. I just want to go home!

Game over. I dont mean to scare you and insinuate that this is a common scenario, but
because it is possible, I want you to be aware of it. A negative, but less severe outcome to
your Kino Advance, which allows you to still stay in the game and recover, would be a Kino
Comfort Zone contraction:


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Kino Comfort Zone Contraction

If your Kino Advance is not met with acceptance, you may lose points and Kino Credit may
be revoked. If your partner is not pleased with your Kino Advance, they may respond with a
Kino Withdrawal, resulting in a Kino Comfort Zone Contraction. In our example, your
partner may remove your hand from their knee and return it to your knee and even give
you a stern look or wag their finger at you.

In this case, Even Friendly Kino (YELLOW) is temporarily outside of their comfort zone, and
you will have to take a step back and return to Formal Kino (RED) and Consoling Kino
(ORANGE) for the time being.

If your partner stands their ground and does not allow your Kino Advance, but does not
contract their Kino Comfort Zone, then this would result in Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance:


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Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance

If your partner responds to your Kino Advance by limiting the behavior, but not thinking any
less of you, then they have maintained their Kino Comfort Zone at the level previous to the
Kino Advance. Some people need time in the status quo to develop rapport with a new
partner before they are willing to expand their Kino Comfort Zone around them. Press the
Reset button on your Kino Advance and save it for later. How long to wait before your
next Kino Advance will depend on your partners Kino Comfort Zone viscosity.

In our example, your partner might take your hand from their knee and return it to your
knee while smiling at you and holding your hand at your knee for a few seconds to let you
know their feelings arent hurt.

Conscious and Unconscious Kino Averseness

Some people are touch averse. They respond negatively to most kino advances. Learn to
tell the difference between conscious and unconscious touch averseness by being aware of
the timing of the rejection. If your partner instantly jerks away from any attempt to touch
them, there may be an unconscious touch aversion present. If your touch is accepted for a
few seconds and then calmly rejected, the aversion is probably conscious. They probably
accepted you at an internal level, but then reconsidered the propriety of the advance with
their logical mind. People with unconscious touch aversion will take much longer to establish
a sensual relationship with than those without it.

If your partner accepts your Kino Advance, then you have succeeded in expanding their
Kino Comfort Zone.


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Kino Comfort Zone Expansion

When your partner accepts your Kino Advance and adapts to the new familiarity that you
two are enjoying, they expand their Kino Comfort Zone to include more activities that you
two can share together. In our example, by squeezing your partners knee, and leaving your
hand there, you have given your partner pleasure that they are enjoying by your touch.
They leave your hand there, and may even give you a smile, lean in to you a bit, or place
their hand on top of yours softly.

Some people respond very positively to touch, and they kino you back! This is called Kino
Comfort Zone Acceleration:


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Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration

Because our example started at Friendly Kino (YELLOW) with an advance to Sensual Kino
(YELLOW-GREEN) the only accelerated level available for demonstration purposes is
Intimate Kino (GREEN). The way the diagram is presented actually shows a Kino Comfort
Zone Explosion, where every possible form of kino is accepted and even encouraged. Kino
Accelerations and Explosions happen now-and-again between people who really click with
each other to become intimate within hours or even sometimes minutes of meeting each
other.

As a reminder, this is just a model of the chaotic real world. Further, this example also is
only illustrative. There may be different shades of sensual touching that are inside and
outside of their comfort zone. This refinement might be represented by a BLUE circle that
was part-way between the Friendly Kino and Sensual Kino boundaries, not pictured.

As you can see there are a variety of reactions that can be made in response to a Kino
Advance. Constantly gauge your partners reaction. If they do pull away, push you away,
respond coldly, or negatively to any one Kino Advance, don't get all freaked-out and think
it's Game Over. You may not even have to mention it. Just chill, backtrack, regroup, and
get back on the horse!

Some people are touch-averse and are more challenging to warm up to. Others will paw you
upon meeting you. Be flexible. Work with what you are comfortable with and don't overdo it
or under-do it. Balance in all things, all things in balance. Be flexible, and dont forget to
lead with harmony.

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Case Study Review: Possible Kino Advance Results

There are many possible responses to a Kino Advance. Your partner could shut down
completely in a Kino Comfort Zone Collapse. They could be offended by your advance and
revert to a Kino Comfort Zone Contraction. If the status quo is guarded, the Kino Comfort
Zone will be maintained at the level prior to the Kino Advance.

With practice and care, your Kino Advances will be met with an Expansion of your partners
Kino Comfort Zone, allowing for a greater number of sensual activities you can share
together. A few people who are Kino Multipliers will magnify your Kino Advance, and
accelerate you into kino bliss.

Adopt a Kino Attitude

Its tough enough to be out in the field, trying out new openers, timing your disqualifiers,
getting your stories just right, and memorizing new Kino Moves. You can ease your
transition to being the King of Kino by adopting the following attitudes at the appropriate
times:

How would I be exchanging kino with my partner as if they were my friend or buddy?

How would I be exchanging kino my partner as if they were my sensual significant other?

By asking yourself these questions and using the answers to guide your Kino Advances, you
can learn to know what to do at the right time. As in all arts and disciplines, it will take
practice and lessons learned, so dont get discouraged.


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Some relationships are almost entirely indirect verbally, but direct when it comes to
kino.

Once a level of Friendly Kino has been established, your kino relationship is subject to
Relationship Building Blocks and Relationship tests:

Relationship Building Blocks Relationship Tests

I advance kino. I withdraw kino.
Im warm to you. Im cold to you.
I encourage formal kino. I discourage formal kino.
I encourage consoling kino. I discourage consoling kino.
I encourage friendly kino. I discourage friendly kino.
I encourage sensual kino. I discourage sensual kino.
I encourage intimate kino. I discourage intimate kino.

As with all Relationship Tests, great care must be considered as to timing and degree. When
fishing, if you pull the line too hard it will rip the hook out. If the line has too much slack,
the fish may wiggle loose. Sensory acuity, repetition, persistence, and most of all learning
will earn you the skills required to dine on the finest the sea has to offer.

San Francisco houses a wonderful hands-on museum called the Exploratorium. There they
have this huge 300 pound concrete block suspended from the ceiling with a metal sheath
around it. Standing behind a rope fence, you are armed with only a flimsy shoe string
attached to a refrigerator magnet. With this meager apparatus, you are supposed to swing
the magnet, latch it onto the cement block, and gently pull the humungous block with just
enough force to move it, but not enough to break off your magnet. Wait until the pendulum
has swung away, and then oh-so tenderly pull with your magnet again. Each miniscule pull
adds to the total momentum of the giant weight. With enough successful pulls you have this
behemoth swaying back-and-forth like a dancing elephant. Be the magnet.

Fertilize with Kino Fractionation

The best kino relationships are not always advancing; sometimes you need to take two
steps forward, and one step back. In Hypnosis Theory, fractionation is the process of placing
the subject in a light trance, then back to a normal state, then into a medium trance, then
back to a normal state, then into a deep trance. This process can also be applied to your
intermediate-level kino technique.

If your kino advances are always on with your partner, they may become desensitized or
even irritated by them. By carefully shifting between being on and off, moderating your
kino advances and withdrawals, you can fertilize your relationship with a kind of Kino
Fractionation that will feel better and stronger to you both. Many people do this naturally or
unconsciously as part of their relationship in the form of mood cycles.

Public and Private Kino

Maintain awareness of who witnesses your Kino Advances. Public displays of affection may
cause embarrassment to your partner depending on their disposition.

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Consider the hand-on-the-knee example above. If you were seated next to your partner at
a park bench, this would be a Public Kino Advance. But if you were seated together at a
dinner table, then this could be a Private Kino Advance. Exercise caution in when in public,
and consider who may be watching.

Turn on your Kino-Radar for Public Kino when you are out of the house. Watch-and-learn
how people kino each other. Your observations will serve as examples of socially acceptable,
out-in-the-open, Public Kino.

Once you have some ideas, you can start to practice with your friends, both men and
women. The reason you should practice all the time with everyone is so that it will feel more
natural when you are with your special someone.

Most of the time you are not privy to watch lovers perform their Private Kino dance of love,
but you can watch romantic movies and soap operas to get plenty of demonstrations of
Private Sensual Kino.

For example, as a Kino Advance, you could relate a story about a romantic show you saw:

"You know, I was watching my hero, James Bond, the other day, and at one point, he just
stopped, looked deeply into the Bond Girl's eyes, and gently took a lock of her silky smooth
hair and placed it behind her delicate ear like this (Demonstrate Kino) Do you think the
actress who was playing the role got as excited as her character appeared to get in the
movie?

Reverse Kino

There may be times when you find a partner who rubs you affectionately all over your arm,
shoulder and back, in a way that no one else can see, but you can certainly feel. This is
known as Reverse Kino, when your partner Kino Advances you. They might put their hands
on you, or you might place their hands on you, as in this example:

Her: ... Im a cosmetologist, I do facials.
Me: Oh, really, how is my skin? I presented my cheek.
Her: Huh? I dont understand. The bar was too noisy.
Me: My skin, how is my skin? I lifted her hand and raised it to my cheek.
Her: She made soft caressing circles. Mmm. Soft! She smiled.

A nearly infinite number of options are available for Kino Advances and Kino Withdrawals.
Im going to share with you a small sampling of the Kino Methods I have developed:

Anchoring Kino

When an internal state of mind becomes temporally associated with a specific touch, that is
called a Touch Anchor. In comparison, Pavlov used an Auditory Anchor, the sound of a bell,
to condition his dog to salivate on cue. Anchors are fun to play with. Here is an example of
an experience I had involving anchoring:

I met a lady who liked to talk about psychology, so I introduced her to anchoring. Now, I
didn't have a routine prepared, but I do understand the concepts, so I had her recall and

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associate strongly with experiences of Happiness, Anticipation, and Warm Sensuality. At the
highest point of remembering, I anchored with a gentle stroking motion on her thumb. For
each state, I took her through a detailed, sensory-rich description and returning. When I
fired the anchor at the conclusion of our session she blushed, laughed and covered her
mouth shyly.

Don Diego Garcia (DDG) Hug Test

A good time for the Don Diego Garcia Hug Test is upon meeting, taking leave, or anytime
really.

Plant your feet and open your arms. Your partner will enter your personal space. Close your
arms around your partner and hug them. Don't use physical energy to put pressure into the
hug. Use Spiritual Energy to hold the hug. Use your imagination to create a powerful, warm
Energy Beam encircling the two of you, gently binding you two together. The Energy
penetrates your body, flowing from your shoulders to your elbows, to your fingertips, pulling
your arms around her. Loosen and soften your entire shell with a firm internal support.
Straighten your spine and un-slouch your back.

Melt into your partner. Melt your partner into you. Be aware of their response and the time.
Don't let them go first. If they let go due to automatic conditioning, take that separation
energy and immediately return it to the hug, you may be able to recover. If they let go with
serious intention to disconnect, open your arms. Being sensitive to this difference is critical
and takes acute awareness and calibration skills. If you misread their intent, and they
misreads yours, they may feel you are being pushy.

Friendly goodbye hugs rarely last longer than three seconds. If the hug has gone longer
than six seconds, it has morphed into an embrace, and a green light for a Kino Advance has
been turned on.

DDG Hug Test Semi-Embrace Option

If they pulls away and dont let go, they may separate into a semi-embrace at arms length.
Touch foreheads and whisper sweet nothings. If you are tall, swing both of you around and
lean your butt on the car, wall, or firm object behind you. Open your legs and bend your
knees so that you can see your partner and talk to them at eye level, which also happens to
be mouth level. Keep your hands around their mid-section; their hands should be around
your neck. Mesmerize your partner with soft, adoring eye contact. Evaluate if they need
more verbal rapport building, while in an arms-length semi-embrace, or if it's time for a
Kino Advance.

DDG Hug Test Lift Option

When you go to scoop your partner in with your arms, also scoop them upward. This will
remind them of being a little child in Daddy's arms. If they are conservative, it may be best
not to do a complete lift, lifting them off the ground and spinning around. It's more of an
Energetic Lift, barely perceptible to the conscious mind.

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DDG Handshake to Arm-In-Arm

Make sure you get on the right side of your partner. In addition to preparing for an arm
hold, another reason to stand on their right side is to talk into their right ear. The brain's
language centers are in the left hemisphere of the brain, which read from the right ear.

You: "Oh, my. We haven't been introduced properly... I'm Diego."
Them: "I'm Soanso."

Shake hands. At conclusion of hand shake, don't let go. Lower the right hand
slightly still holding theirs. Raise the left hand and reach over the right hand, and forward.
Start turning your body in direction you both are headed.

Take their hand that you are holding, raise it up slightly, behind your left forearm, and
forward over your left forearm. Lower your left forearm slightly and bend your left elbow.

When letting go of their hand, lightly press and melt their hand onto the top and front of
your left forearm.

Let go of their hand with a sliding downward motion. You both should be facing the same
direction.

You could either remain standing, or start walking arm-in-arm.

If they pull you in tight and grasp their right hand with their left, or grasps your left arm
with both of their hands, this is an indication of a Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration.

If they let their hand slip off, it is an indication of Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance.

In this case, recalibrate, continue walking and resume conversation naturally as if nothing
has happened.

Practice with a friend before pulling this off for the first time in the field.

DDG Seated Femur Hold

To be exact, it's not precisely knee-holding, like cupping the patella, but extending body
energy into the area just above the knee and below the thigh. The middle-finger and
opposing thumb can get a nice solid, firm but gentle grip on the lower neck of the femur.
This hold connects directly to the hormone releasers in their brain.

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Seated Car Kino

Sitting together or riding together in the car is a great place to escalate kino, for example:

Soft Belly Pokes
Hand on your leg or center console, barely touching their knee
Squeeze your partners knee at emphatic expressions in your conversation
Resting your hand on your partners knee
Resting your hand on your partners knee with their hand resting on top
Putting your partners hand on your knee (Reverse Kino)
Putting your partners hand on your knee with your hand resting on top (Reverse Kino)
Holding hands
Arm around shoulders
Arm around waist

For example:

"My hands are cold, could you warm them up, please." (Light command tonality.)
"Use both hands together and rub in circles."
This can proceed naturally into a finger-interlace hand-hold, or finger-tip caresses.

Standing Kino

Many social situations take place while people are standing, like at a bar. Examine the
samples above and consider adapting them to standing situations, or experiment with
createing your own.

"Kino, Kino, Kino, Kino,
Kino Cha-me-le-on,
You Come and Go,
You Co-ome and Go-o-o-o"

~ Boy George (Not Really)

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