The Basic Girl Handbook for Guys

Inspired by: NUHusky14 By: Crazy Girl abroad

PRE-LAY GAME

Have good banter = cheeky, funny and playful conversation Use unnecessary contact: E.g. adjusting her clothing/hair, touching her hips as you move past her, poking her in the arm gently, lightly grazing your fingers over hers for a second or two. Especially when you think no one else is watching Private moments in public spaces is sexy A sincere compliment will get you far

Texting reply with more than a few words or one sentence.

Ask her questions about herself and her life/interests/day. Answer questions she asks you, openly and honestly. Ask more questions. Initiate flirty/sexually suggestive conversation. Respond graciously to flirty/sexy conversation from her dont just ignore it and move subject on, relish in it! Use double entendre, build up sexual tension hours before seeing her. Always text a catch up message next day after first kissing or sleeping with them. Dont not text for a week after hooking up with a girl. Text her sometimes out of the blue. Arrange dates, have suggestions of things to do and make decisions. Dont leave her to always decide everything. Call/text/respond when you say you are going to or have agreed to. Keep communication lines open and honest. Avoid cancelling or postponing meet-ups. Dont ever cancel with less than a few hours notice without a serious reason. If you do have to cancel remember Sorry is a word, not an apology. You need to give a good explanation, and be super attentive next time you see her in the not too distant future.

KISSING
Kissing is a doorway not a house. If you cant find the doorway you are not going to get into the house Redacted Move in slowly when 2 inches away from her lips Keep those teeth out of the way! Start softly, dont use too much pressure or a pointy tongue There is such a thing as too much saliva Caress her tongue with yours, dont just push down her throat Sometimes go left mix it up! Start off slow and build dynamics Lip pecks and grazes are good Sometimes suck on bottom or top lip for a couple of seconds Grabbing passionately when you kiss, pull her hips in towards you Stroke hair of face using fingertips Holding her head behind her neck Run your fingers through her hair Spontaneous make-outs not just leading to sex. During the day too! Steal a peck in a public space or when in a group when others are distracted Passionately against walls or other interesting surfaces No hard tongue biting Be playful; run your fingertips all over her, back, thighs, up her sides, over her neck and body whilst Kissinger her. Then mix up the pressure stroking her firmly with the palms of your hands Pull away and show a moment of breat taking Cheeky butt squeeze is nice when used in moderation Intersperse with neck kissing

Getting there
Heavy eye contact Prolonged touching or body contact If she is walking a few paces in front of you, watch her occasionally graze her sides with your fingertips If she stops to open a door hold her hips, press yourself into the back of her, perhaps kiss her neck Interject with some humor and laughter

MOOD MANAGEMENT
Always compliment her on how she looks, her body, her sexiness. Undress each other in stages whilst kissing dont rush this stage, this is part of anticipation and foreplay! Female sexual pleasure begins in the mid 80% of it is stimulating her imagination. Watch every part of her when you undress her. Atmospheric music can be nice. Do you drive with the lights off at night no coz you cant see what you are doingLights on is acceptable! -Redacted

Never ever go straight to the main attraction areas

Foreplay
If she isnt into it its never going to work for you! It should be wet before you even begin getting down there Yes it is a necessity no matter how quick the session!
Areas of distinction: Clit (Outside) Has all the same nerve endings as the head of the penis, inside an area the size of a pea, it is exceptionally sensitive. From this head, imagine a chicken wishbone that extends down the length of both outer flaps these areas are the equivalent to the shaft in terms of sensitivity. 90% of female orgasms will be clit-based. Please note the clit is not self-lubricating. G-spot is found 2 inches up inside front wall (towards tummy) of vagina. Area feels slightly grainy compared to surrounding areas. Can be reached with both bent fingers and penis in certain sex positions. Minimum Timing Suggestions: Kissing, Teasing & Caressing: Fingering and Oral: Sex: 20 mins 20 mins 20 mins

Teasing and Caressing

Body Kissing
Anywhere and everywhere is good! E.g. in a straight line from her sternum, in between breasts, down stomach to down there. Pay special attention to kissing neck and collarbone as well as shoulders and back, all the way down the spine Kisses can be a mixture of light pecks and wet-lipped tiny sucks

Nipple Attention
Kiss boobs all over with slightly wet, sucking action Move to sucking nipples one at a time, can suck with quite a bit of pressure Can graze nipples using teeth or bite them very gently Can twist them around like they are the little tuning knobs on an old radio.

Teasing
Can stroke her legs using your toes Very lightly glide fingers in lines up and down her body and sides, across her tummy and pelvic line. Work you way up inner thigh slowly hold off for 20 seconds start teasing her with these actions again, moving slightly further up the thigh this time, repeat this until finally you reach the pubic bone. Alternatively you can use kisses. Then lightly stroke the lips of her vagina back and forth few times then move into actual fingering.

Finger Play
It takes you more than 10 minutes to come when you are jerking yourself off, so show her the same courtesy. Be patient and just keep going! Keep nails clean and short

Stimulating Clit Note: The clit is not self-lubricating meaning you must use saliva either from sucking your fingers (or her sucking them) first or use her natural juices that should already be present around the entrance hole. Using one finger (middle or index) lightly trace a line up the length of her clit.

Then you can rub either up and down or side to side, depending on what feels better for her. In time, gaining in pace. This action is very small and doesnt have to move too far. It should mainly be concentrated on the pea-like tip. Imagine running your finger very fast back and forth over one of the ear buds in a pair of headphones - this is the type of action you are after. You can alternate going between the clit and inside, when one action is getting too intense for her or you need to adjust your movements. As she is getting closer to the edge, dont change the type of action or pace unless she indicates for you to do so as this can suddenly stop her from coming and you have to start the pace build up again from the beginning!

Stimulating Inside
Bend fingers slightly, and stroke walls of vagina using pads of index and middle finger. Imagine a tickling action. Explore every surface inside her using this action. Dont just poke fingers in and out; the advantage of fingers is they can reach places a penis cant Start gently but dont be afraid to be quite vigorous once she is warmed up After a little exploration dont forget to return to the G-SPOT! Can twirl fingers round quickly sometimes If you can, rub clit up and down or side to side using your thumb whilst sustaining same tickling motion inside. Hitting both spots at once, increases chance of orgasm. It also feels good if your palm can graze over her clit whilst you are pressing the front of your fingers down into the back wall.

Going Down
Start by a few solitary upward licks to her clit Then press your lips to her and attempt to roll the clit from side to side using your tongue Mix it up with circular motions and upward licking keeping your lips to her Can intersperse some gentle sucking action to create a sensation of light pulling Sometimes lick and poke tip of tongue in entrance hole Creating buzz sound with lips or humming sound can feel nice too Dont be afraid to pull her flaps slightly up and apart using your thumb and index finger, to get better contact with clit. Again when she is getting close, dont change the type of action or pace unless she indicates for you to do so. If you can finger at same time, it is even more amazing as you are hitting both key spots at once, doubling the opportunity for orgasm!

Female Orgasm can be recognized by a rippling effect of shakes through her body. Sometimes you can feel it like a pulsing sensation on your penis if you are inside her at the time. Some women have one main orgasm and then cant be touched for a while after and some women can go for the multiple orgasms and tend to have lots of smaller orgasms over and over that build in intensity with more stimulation.

A woman is far more likely to come during foreplay than actual sex.

Foreplay also makes it easier for a woman to come during sex.

THE MAIN EVENT

As you go to enter her, tease her for a few seconds more by grazing your penis over her clit and the entrance hole, then slip inside her Use eye contact especially when coming or about to Show enthusiasm on face Be vocal Let each other know what and where feels great

Basics: In Missionary move your body up hers by two inches, start by moving hips in circular motion. This position (CAT) is excellent for rubbing her clit as you thrust. Her lying down at the edge of the bed and you entering her from standing position is another classic. From Behind is great for hitting the G-Spot. Again you might have to move yourself up her body slightly. Her lying on her side at a right angle to you is also good for G-Spot. Dont forget you can reach around and play with her clit for even more pleasure for her. Girl On Top play with her clit, stroke her up and down her sides, squeeze and hold her breasts, run your fingers down her back. Can guide rhythm and pace with hands on hips/thighs. Leave clothes half on and high heels on sometimes Stand up sex is always steamy

POST-COITAL
Stay inside her a few minutes after you have come. Concentrate on the breathing and sensations still occurring in both of your bodies. Always withdraw really, really slowly, it feels amazing! Hold and cuddle the girl for quite a while after sex, even better if she can fall asleep still in your arms. Now is the time for any questions or honest sex conversations. What is said in this post-coital space is kind of sacred. The pumping hormones of sex can make a girl feel vulnerable physiologically. It is not uncommon for a girl to occasionally cry after/during sex. Dont freak out; just be gentle and kind in your understanding. Nothing is wrong, its just hormones, so lots of hugs are needed!

Morning sex is always a must if there are no time constraints. You must initiate the morning spooning! When you first wake up, roll over and pull her body into yours squeezing her tightly for a minute, then relax into a softer grip. Soft, gentle kisses on the back of the neck after stroking her hair out of the way slowly. Also kiss shoulders and along spine. Stroke forehead Whisper a compliment softly in her ear Begin foreplay again timings suggestions arent relevant in AM it usually takes a shorter time to get to the main event!

Showering together
Slowly lead her into the shower by her hand or guide her into the shower from behind with your hands on her hips. Neck kisses are great from this angle! Always stand very close together adds to sensuality and warmth Embrace her firmly and kiss Massage her all over her body Graze her nipples with tip of your finger You are in charge of washing and drying each other systematically! Push her against the wall and make out. Gently massage your groin into hers. Brush tip of your penis over her clit. Lifting her up with her legs wrapped around you or having sex in the shower is always hot!

SEX-IQUETTE
Language in moment DO NOT USE: bang, boner, titties, pussy munching, like, awesome, dude, eating out. Telling her how much you wanna fuck her, lick her, make her wet, make her shiver, how good you feel inside her is acceptable. You should want to pleasure her, make her feel good, so she will want to reciprocate and/or be desperate to have sex with you. Do not complain about hair or make faces or distressed sighing or remarks when dealing with hairs in the mouth. Fix without comment. Do not ever mention look, smell, taste or sound of down there Dont make comments on sweat Avoid loud, visual spitting, such a massive turn off. If you need to for lubrication, do it surreptitiously into your hand covering your mouth or get her to suck your fingers instead. Never spit directly on vagina! Do not sigh, groan or complain about cuddling and spooning or her hair in your face, just adjust. Sneakily watch her get dressed after.

ADVANCED TECHNIQUE
Massage even better with oil! Dont forget to use every part of your hand and vary pressure Licking her through her underwear until she cannot take it anymore Gentle biting, hair pulling (especially in doggy) and spanking Vibrators in play Tie each others hands together above head and/or blindfold using silk tie or scarf Experiment with ice cubes/chocolate sauce/whipped cream Try out new challenging positions/locations/semi-public spaces Tell each other a fantasy/read erotic fiction to each other out loud/watch porn together Costume and wigs