! 20+ years nonproL experlence, 10+ years consulung ! CraduaLe of u1A, Cklahoma ClLy unlverslLy, auendlng Anuoch unlverslLy (hu ln Leadershlp and Change-hu candldaLe) ! 1ralned faclllLaLor on Lhe work of kegan and Lahey of Parvard's work, lmmunlLy Lo Change ! 1ralned on 8elauonal CulLural 1heory ! CurrenLly nauonal CommunlLy LngagemenL ulrecLor, World vlslon uS rograms ! Member, 1exas nonproL Councll ! AuLhor, 8ules of LngagemenL: Maklng Connecuons Who am l? ! lck a parLner ! ?ou have Lwo mlnuLes Lo share wlLh your parLner abouL who you are ! 1he parLner can only llsLen ! 8epeaL AcuvlLy and ulscusslon ! Lhe sLorles people consLrucL and Lell abouL Lhemselves Lo dene who Lhey are for Lhemselves and for oLhers" (McAdams, !osselson, & Llebllch, 2006: 4). narrauve ldenuLy ! Share our ldenuLy ! Share our 8elauonshlps (SLrong or Weak) ! Share our Lmouons and Well-8elng ! Share Lhe SLrengLh or SLagnauon Cur narrauves ! ls..an lndlvldual's posluve psychologlcal sLaLe of developmenL and ls characLerlzed by: (1) havlng condence (self-emcacy) Lo Lake on and puL ln Lhe necessary eorL Lo succeed aL challenglng Lasks, (2) (opumlsm) abouL succeedlng now and ln Lhe fuLure, (3) (hope) ln order Lo succeed, and (4) when beseL by problems and adverslLy, susLalnlng and bounclng back and even beyond (reslllence) Lo aualn success" (LuLhans eL al., 2007, p. 3) sychologlcal CaplLal ! Plgh quallLy connecuons creaLe lasung lmpresslons. ! Plgh quallLy connecuons allow Lhe expresslon of emouons (good and bad) ! Can endure Lenslon, changes and seLbacks ! eople are engaged and paruclpaung Plgh CuallLy Connecuons ! LngagemenL ! LmpaLhy ! MuLual LmpaLhy ! 8elauonal AuLhenuclLy ! MuLuallLy ! ulerence/ulverslLy ! LmpowermenL and MuLual LmpowermenL
Markers of Cood Connecuon
Cur enure well-belng depends on belng lncluded, belonglng, engaglng ln safe relauonshlps and conLrlbuung Lo oLhers. Cur Well-8elng: 1he Case for Connecuon 1he 8ole of Soclal CaplLal and SLorles ! Soclal caplLal ls a soclologlcal concepL, whlch refers Lo connecuons wlLhln and beLween soclal neLworks. ! !usL as a screwdrlver (physlcal caplLal) or a college educauon (human caplLal) can lncrease producuvlLy (boLh lndlvldual and collecuve), so do soclal conLacLs aecL Lhe producuvlLy of lndlvlduals and groups". So WhaL ls Soclal CaplLal? ! varlables such as educauon, lncome and employmenL are assoclaLed wlLh Lhe slze's of one's neLwork. 1he composluon of one's neLwork ls deLermlned by Lhe sLaLus of employmenL as well. (Moore, 1990) Soclal CaplLal can lnform Lhe SLory ! MarlLal sLaLus also plays a parL ln Lhe esLabllshmenL of soclal neLworks. Marrled moLhers sLand ouL as dlerenL from women ln all oLher caLegorles ln LhaL Lhelr frlends are mosL slmllar Lo Lhem ln Lerms of lncome, educauon, and age. Lone moLhers and never marrled and dlvorced or separaLed women noL llvlng wlLh chlldren have frlends LhaL are more eLhnlcally dlverse. Lone moLhers do noL have as exLenslve a neLwork-lnformal or Lhrough organlzauons-Lo fall back on as moLhers ln lnLacL famllles have" (8avenera and 8a[ulLon, 2007) Soclal CaplLal can lnform Lhe SLory ! lor women of color, Lhere ls oen an assumpuon LhaL Lhey lack Lhe soclal and culLural caplLal requlred for soclal moblllLy. (?asso, 2003). 1he experlences of women of color are compounded oen due Lo race, class, and gender. Soclal CaplLal can lnform Lhe SLory And my SLory beglns. My arenLs My laLher-College CraduaLe and Lxposed Lo LnLrepreneurshlp Larly My Chlldhood-1he role of my MoLher My Chlldhood--lamlly Plgh School Craduauon-1he llre, 1he lmpacL Sharon Seulemlre and Caddo MagneL Plgh School College Craduauon-1he role of SLudenL lnvolvemenL aL u1A llrsL !ob-A 8esulL of volunLeerlng on Weekends MasLer's uegree-1he Move Lo CkC and my new world aL CCu Marrlage My Pusband's lamlly-Cross CulLural undersLandlng SouLh uallas CulLural CenLer-Lmployed by ClLy of uallas regnancy kazal klara urew Loss of lamlly Sue Sulllns, lndla, and Lhe Llfe Changlng Lxperlence h.u program-CohorL 10 aL Anuoch unlverslLy 8elauonshlps have been Lhe key Lo my sLory and growLh! 1he resenL-auLhor, sLudenL, moLher, wlfe, leader, frlend and menLor SLrong ues Weak ues 8ondlng Soclal CaplLal 8rldglng Soclal CaplLal 1ypes of 8elauonshlps LhaL a parL of our SLorles ! 1he role of Lhe leader ls a cenLral componenL of Lhelr self- concepL. ! An AuLhenuc leader has achleved a hlgh level of self- resoluuon or self concepL clarlLy." So how does knowlng your sLory help leaders? ! A leader musL recognlze Lhe value of self-awareness ln order Lo address Lhe posslble conlcLs, LempLauons, and confuslon LhaL can arlse. undersLandlng ?our !ourney Wlll Pelp ?ou Lead CLhers ! Leaders ..know emouons are conLaglous and LhaL Lhelr own emouons are powerful drlvers of Lhelr people's moods and ulumaLely, performance." undersLand ?our Lmouons Pow does percepuon lmpacL our sLorles? %&,)- ./012&3&# 4"567/)*7)), &8 & 975#,:;(7<59 /&9=6*)0<, Pome ln Mlddle lncome, !ewlsh communlLy ln new ?ork ro[ecLs ln poor area of hlladelphla, Afrlcan Amerlcan >&*"<(8 laLher and moLher ln home laLher dled aL nlne, slngle moLher headed household ?567 '97))# CraduaLed uropped ouL and reLurned laLer @)##"6" CraduaLed from PofsLra unlverslLy and auended one year of Law School Auended Coddard unlverslLy brley SLorles of 1wo Crlmlnals: Mado and Mumla ;3A#)+3"<( ;<(*"A*"<"0* >&*( B3" C*5("*D *&,5) A"*8)<(+ &<, (&E5 9&/ ,*5F"*D &0(7)* G5< A*58)<H ')95)1;9)<)359 8(&(08 Mllllonalre overLy level @)330<5(+ I<F)#F"3"<( Served on several boards of colleges and presuglous educauonal and culLural organlzauons 8lack anLher arLy, 8lack unlLed Llberauon lronL, and supporLer of MCvL J5*8( B3" )-"<,"*:.6" &( B3" )K )-"<8" ?es, ln sevenues ?es, ln Lwenues .9908"*8:L5(<"88"8:>*)9"88 M"A)*(", /+ 8"F"*&# 5<,5F5,0 (7*)067 (7" +"&*8 /0( ,0" () *"#&B)<875A8 C5(7 ';@D 5<F"8B6&B)<8 C"*" <)( (7)*)067 .**"8(", 533",5&("#+N @)<O59B<6 ("8B3)<5"8 )K C5(<"88"8 &<, 5<F"8B6&B)< P0"8B)<&/#" .Q)*<"+8 ?es ?es, lnlually self- represenLed, llmlLed resources @75#,*"< ?es, Lwo who were lnvolved ln famlly buslness and grew up wlLh faLher ?es, Seven who grew up wlLhouL faLher ln Lhe home @5*9#"8 )K I<O0"<9" ConnecLed Lo wealLhy lndlvlduals Clrcles of lnuence llmlLed unul aer lncarcerauon due Lo celebrlLy, nauonal and lnLernauonal coverage ! 1. 1he role of brldglng soclal caplLal ls lmporLanL ln movlng people from dlerenL classes, genders, and eLhnlc backgrounds for change. ! 2. SLorles are lmporLanL. WlLhouL a beuer undersLandlng of a person, lL ls easy Lo sLereoLype and lack compasslon on who we are and how we arrlved Lo our currenL place ln llfe. ! 3. SLorles share our psychologlcal caplLal. ln bulldlng healLhy relauonshlps, we creaLe a posluve ldenuLy abouL ourselves and Lhe world around us. ! 4. 8ecognlzlng our narrauve ls lmporLanL. SLorles have power Lo lnuence, educaLe, and lnform. 1aklng ume Lo llsLen Lo Lhe sLorles of oLhers ls crlucal. ! 3. Lxposure Lo oLher narrauves opens your mlnd Lo new ldeas, perspecuves and reallues. 1hls exposure can cause us Lo change Lhe way we make meanlng of Lhe world and even changes our mlndseL. llnal 1houghLs Co Lo Lhe eople, Llve wlLh Lhem, Love Lhem, Learn from Lhem, Work wlLh Lhem, SLarL wlLh whaL Lhey have, 8ulld on whaL Lhey know, and, ln Lhe end, when Lhe work ls done, Lhe people wlll re[olce and Lhey wlll say, 'We have done lL ourselves.'" -Lao 1zu - Chlna 700 8.C.
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