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A work o of art, way beefore it becom
mes a masterrpiece, must sstart with a p
plain white
canvass. Hidden, and yet unborn, inside it lie th he ponderinggs, the passio
ons and the
promise of hope and beauty. The artist’s creativity would b be severely crrippled, everyy
time he picked up hiss brush, if thee solitude of w
white on the canvass did n
not lure him tto
conceive e and co‐create a brand neew reality. Just like masterpieces require the
emptiness of a canvass to creativeely explode upon; our con nversations allso need
momenttary silences, pauses, to exxpress and hiighlight the mmagic and mo otivation whicch
lie hiddeen in our hearrts and mindss.
Job applicants, job intterviewees, ssalespeople, managers and even senio or executives
across in p of speaking up without thinking in. W
ndustries fall into this trap We forget to
recognize and give way to the feelings within. TThis constantt shooting‐fro om‐the‐hip‐
ness addds nothing buut more noisee to the din annd the mindleessness that engulfs our
world. Thhis aimless an mmunition and a massive w
nd excessive thoughtless vverbosity is aa waste of am waste of
human e energy.
In conversations, befo ore interactio
ons, we can cchose to stop p, to slow dow wn and be still for a few seeconds. This
will allow
w us to put a leash on the chain‐reactioon of reactivee behaviour. This can lesssen our spinn ning off in thee
usual waay of defend, offend, talk uup, talk downn and constan ntly justify ou
ur past perforrmances. A ppause is
power and a pause in nduces empowerment and d trust, as it m
makes the other person feeel listened to o. This little
pause th hen becomes a source of p powerful hum man energy.
The way to increase tthe amount o of pausing before, during aand after all o
our interactioons is to keep
p a mindful
awareneess on our breeathing. Everry now then the din and th he clamour off the world th hat surrounds us tends to
take oveer and engulf us in its toxiccity but an aw
wareness on oour breath accts as an ancchor and help ps us manage
emotionns. A visible sign, and consstant life‐saveer of emotion
nal intelligencce is a smootth, deep and a rhythmic
flow of b
breath.
In many of my workshops, I professs the 3P metthod of poweerful connecttion, engagem ment and influence. In
physically stable, at ease aand have good visibility
any interraction plant yourself in aa position wheere you are p
and expo osure. After pplanting, pause deeply to gather your tthoughts and d visualize emmpowerment of the
listenerss and a successsful outcome of the convversation. Finally, project yyourself with
h power and cconfidence
keeping the goals of tthe interactioon authentic, integral and driven by puurpose. This w will align yourr internal
and exteernal resourcees and also evvoke excellennce from others. That, in eessence, is leadership and d coaching
for excelllence in actio
on.
Pausing consciously iss a momentaary respite beetween beingg completely sself‐absorbed
d to being aw
wake and
present ffor others an
nd for life. Our conversatio nd pauses, to express and
ons need thesse momentarry silences an
high‐ligh
ht the magic aand motivatioon which lie h
hidden in ourr hearts and m
minds.
Raju Mandhya
M an / A
Author, Coachh and Traineer Video Clip
www.m
mandhyann.com A World of Cleaar, Creative andd Conscientious Thinkers!
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