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What To Do If He Wants To Play The Field

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Hello, In fall of 2011, I began dating a 30 year old guy who was in the process of divorcing his wife. They did not have kids. He said that they dated for almost 7 years, before their year long marriage, and it was really expected that they would marry. They quickly realized it wasnt working, and though divorced, are still friendly. He and I got together for 4 months, and he was truly respectful and sweet. We spent a lot of time together, both alone, and with friends (mine really like him). Then, he fell off the grid. He contacted me a couple of days later, to say that our dating wasnt working for him. It was completely out of the blue. We never argued or fought, and I thought everything was great. We remained in touch, and 4 months later, got back together. His divorce had been finalized. Again, he was respectful, fun, encouraging, and we meshed really well. However, I always felt like the other shoe was going to drop. He included me (to a point) in his life, and I met his dad and best friends, but he was always skittish talking about our relationship. I got the feeling he might bolt. He would get comfortable

By Michael Fiore Im going to tell you what to do if a guy your love insists he doesnt want a relationship and wants to play the field . . . And were going to give some harsh advice to a womans whos boyfriend spent a night in a hotel room with another woman. Here we go . . . Amanda asks

with me, and when he realized it, would push me away and keep me at a distance.

Heck, hes not even a wounded bear like so many of the guys I get emails about (guys who were married for 15 or 20 years and had their hearts ground into powder by a woman who just couldnt accept their love.) Nope, Dave isnt a wounded bear. Since hes so young, hes more of a wounded puppy. And like all guys, this puppy needs to play a bit before hes in any way ready to settle down.

Well, 5 months later, he fell off the grid again. After a day or two, he called and said it wasnt working. This time, I was kind of expecting it, and asked him why. He said that he had always been in committed relationships, and wanted to play the field. He even had a girl he wanted to ask out (incidentally, a few days later, we were matched on Match.com at 93%. Awkward!). I took your quiz of 7 questions to tell if hes in love with me, and scored 6 points (no, he never said the words). We havent kept in touch this time around. I would very much like to be with him, and things were always so good between us. Of course, I would want him to fully commit to me. Do you think I should talk to him, and if so, how should I approach him? Or should I just cut my losses? Amanda

Whats going on in Daves head and heart right now is kind of a war. He IS attracted to you. He DOES like you. He DOES have feelings for you. He IS a nice guy whos actually honest and isnt trying to manipulate you or use you. But hes also a guy who spent 8 years doing the commitment thing with a woman who ended up not being for him. And after 8 years of tamping down his raging sex drive (and 8 years of turning from a 23 year old boy into a 30 year old man) he wants to know what its like to go out into the world and date and seduce and be seduced by and sleep with women. (Plural.) And really theres nothing wrong with that. Its kind of like ice cream. Dave spent 8 years with a flavor of ice cream that just wasnt that great. And then he tasted your ice cream and it was delicious. But no matter how delicious your ice cream is hes NEVER going to appreciate it until hes had a chance to go out and have some other flavors. (Man, this metaphor is weird.) So heres my advice for you in a nutshell: 1. Move on. (For now.) This guy just isnt cooked enough to be with anybody seriously right now and even if he DID agree to be your boyfriend there would ALWAYS be part of him that resented you for taking away his chance to go out and play the field for a bit. 2. DO NOT DATE MARRIED MEN. I say this a LOT but until the ink is dry on the divorce papers a guy is MARRIED and is NOT EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE. Its not worth it. 3. This has nothing to do with you. Its not that youre not good enough. Its not that youre not attractive enough. Its not you at all. Its that you
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My Relationship Advice
Hey Amanda Thanks for your question. And heres your bad news . . . You need to let this guy go. At least for now. Probably for at least a year. And chances are even after that year is up hes never, ever going to come back to you and is going to end up with somebody else (whos not nearly as cool or beautiful or as awesome as you.) Sucks, huh? But theres really nothing you can do about it and heres why: (For the sake of not driving myself crazy Im going to call the guy Dave.) Dave actually sounds like a really nice guy. Hes not a player, hes not a douchebag, hes not a dweeb.

dated a guy whos in transition and needs to go out there and be a dumb dude for a while before settling down. Got it? Good.

A Tough Relationship Question

Carolyn asks Michael i just found out that my man spent a night with another woman in a hotel room but claimed nothing happened, and danced with her then shared a kiss, should i believe him or should i end the relationship? Hey Carolyn Fun question. But I really cant give you the answer because I dont know the guy in question. Is he generally a trustworthy guy? Has he cheated on you in the past? Was the relationship FREAKING AMAZING before this happened? Are you looking for an excuse to dump him in the first place? No idea on my end so I cant tell you what to do. I will say this though: There are more options than you listed out here. Cheating happens. (Its crazy common.) And ONE instance of cheating is not ALWAYS grounds to ruin a perfectly good relationship. If youre with a guy who seems totally incapable of being faithful then yeah, you dump him. If a guy (or a girl) youre with makes one boneheaded mistake and its out of character and doesnt seem like its going to happen again? Well . . . Best, Mike P.S. Much Love. For an incredible assortment of full texting scripts and great romantic texting ideas to try with a man, youll really want to check Michael out (I immediately downloaded Text The Romance Back and loved it so much thats why Im recommending it here) Go here to discover how you can nearly instantly create way more romance in your relationship-> Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time

Avoid Dating Burnout By Thinking More Like A Man

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by Bobbi Palmer This week I spoke with my client, Sue, who recently entered the online dating world. Right off the bat she had scoped out a profile she really liked and emailed him. He seemed interested, attentive and pretty fabulous on paper. The next thing you knowshe has a date! When they met in real life, he complimented her generously, told her he felt so lucky to have met her, and talked about doing lots of things together. At the end of the date, they both agreed they wanted to see each other again. She felt a major connection. Sue was understandably thrilled and got that hecould-be-the-one tingle thing goin. Im sure you know that feeling.
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But its likely you also know the end of this story: he never followed through.

happened twice. That doesnt count as always in my book. And the major, most important answer I gave her was this: You will never know what happened. Ever. And it doesnt matter. She didnt even know this guy. She was totally disregarding his bad behavior and holding on to her initial, uninformed impression. She was hitching her wagon to a fantasy: a wish that she was finally in the presence of The One (at least potentially). After one date she jumped in HEART firstand created her own crash and burn drama. And the kicker is, while she was spending all her energy on a relationship that never existed, she wasnt responding to the dozens of men in her Match.com inbox waiting for her attention. Seriouslydozens!

He didnt call when he said he would. He cancelled two dates. He had long story for why each time and professed his interest and desire to be with her again. And then he stopped calling.

Damaged by Dating
By the time Sue and I connected, this entire story had transpired. When I talked to her, she was in damage mode. You know: rumination hell, where we gals cant help but go. Why had he said all those things to me? What did I do wrong? Do you think he ever liked me? Maybe he just has too much going on in his life right nowshould I tell him Ill wait? Why do guys keep doing this and not following through??? Sue was emotionally drained, and her dating confidence was in the dumps. She was exhausted. And then those words I hate to hear started coming: Why does this always happen? Im done! This is bulls#%! Listening, I felt the same here-we-go-again feeling. But it wasnt about the guy; it was about her. First, let me answer her questions: Why had he said all those things to me? Because he probably liked you. What did I do wrong? If you showed up, had fun, and were realabsolutely nothing. Do you think he ever liked me? Again, yes. I do when he was with you. Should I wait? NO! For what? Why does this always happen to me? It doesnt. Youve gone out with about 10 guys in the past several months, and this disappearing act has

Whats the Guy Thinking While Dating?

So let me guess the guys side of this: Oh, she was nice and kinda pretty. Fun to hang with. Yeah, It would be nice to see her again. Ill make a date. Oh look! Something shiny! That shiny thing could have been another woman, his career or some family thing. Who knows? But he found something hed rather do, and he did it. I agree it would have been gentlemanly of him to tell her that he was moving on, but I dont think he was a jerk or a liar. He was not yet invested in her, and he was taking care of himself. Ladies, it would help you to approach dating a little more like the guys. Yes, I said it: like the guys. Most women go on a date hoping hes the one. Even though he might be seriously looking for the one, most men go on dates thinking something like, She seems nice. Itll be cool to see her and get to know a little about her. And if what he learns doesnt knock his socks off, he may get waylaid if something shiny comes along. Remember, the purpose of dating is to DISCOVER whether hes your guy, not to DECIDE if hes your guy. Thats what a relationship is for. It isnt about getting him to like you or making him fit your expectations. Not only did Sue lose three weeks of potential fun dates, but she burned herself out and brought
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herself to the verge of giving up on finding loveall over a guy she never knew. Start slow, keep an open mind, stay in the moment and dont go ALL IN on anyone too soon. This is the grownup girl part of dating: manage your expectations and keep your fantasies in check no matter how strong the guy comes on. Balance your heart with your head. By choosing the crazy womans path of dashed hopes and disappointments (I think I can say that because that was me for many years.), you will likely burn yourself out. The ups and downs will get the best of you. And then you miss out on so many opportunities to enjoy yourself and to stay open to many guys, one of which will your last first date. Slow and steady wins THIS raceand the right guy. From Sarah: Bobbi is absolutely adorable! You will SO identify with her and her story personally, and her FREE Man-O-Meter test is really helpful. Just go here to take the test and get Bobbis great free stuff and advice about dating - how to get the man and relationship you want shell teach you how to Date Like A Grownup->>

Can You Love Me Now?

Can you love me now? What about now?

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Its amazing how we twist ourselves into human pretzels to try and fit another persons idea of how we should be, just for them to love us. Its distressing, too, how we women have been trained to do this to turn ourselves inside-out for a man and so fall into it even more than men do. If only I were short, taller, thinner, had bigger this or smaller that he would love me more, pay attention to me more. we say. How many times have you heard that story from a girlfriend, or even thought it yourself?

For me, Ive discovered that if I can become AWARE of how Im doing this to myself it fades away a little bit, and I can experience myself being more myself. Rori Raye is the relationship guru who turned me on to this kind of thinking to learn to love not only the physical parts of me I tend to not like, but the thoughts and beliefs and attitudes in my HEAD I dont like, either. By accepting myself radically no matter what I may be thinking (and even loving those nasty thoughts Im thinking about myself!) I can feel myself changing everyday. And feeling happier every day. Sarah, editor for LoveRomanceRelationship

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with him but Im afraid it will drive a bigger wedge between us. Is he loses the feelings he felt for me, or is it a phase.

Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time How do I start the conversation of how I feel and what I need from him in return, and where we are going as a couple since he doesnt mention that anymore? Hey Sarah Thanks so much for your question and honestly, congratulations. By using our little Does He Really Love You tool you get to address the problems in your relationship from a realistic place instead of from a place of anxiety. Now lets dig into your question by breaking it down into a couple parts:

How To Talk With Him Without Starting A Fight

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1: How to Get a Guy to Do What You Want in a Relationship Without Starting a Fight
Hey, its Mike Fiore Im going to tell you how to Fight-Proof your relationship with a man so you never fall into stupid fights and anxiety and anger again Sarah Asks I want to talk to my boyfriend about how he is suddenly treating me or not treating me. According to the How to tell if he really loves you test, he does love me. He does all of the steps except actually saying the words that he loves me. He still makes plan for the future with me. However lately he doesnt seem to care about what I want or how I feel, and our conversations and time together seems strained. I want to ask him what is going on Let me tell you a story about a trip to Mexico I took recently. A couple weeks back my (awesome) girlfriend and I took a trip down to Cancun for a business trip. (It was a lot of fun.) And while we were there we got into a little fight. And the reason we got into a little fight was because she hit me with a stick when she should have offered me a carrot. See, we were in a bar in Cancun with a bunch of other folks from the conference when I glanced over and saw my girlfriend in a conversation with a guy. In the past, weve had a small problem because she feels like whenever I see her talking to a guy I come over and mark my territory by wrapping
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my arms around her or otherwise making it VERY clear that shes MY woman when shes just having an innocent conversation. (Personally, when I was single I always appreciated it when guys let me know a girl was taken, but whatever.) Anyway, this time I glanced over, saw she was talking to a guy and very specifically did NOT go over and interrupt or interject into their conversation in any way. I was pretty proud of myself. Until 5 minutes later she came over and all hell broke loose. See, my (awesome) girlfriend came over and said: Mike, I really need you to not do that thing you do where you get all lovey on me when Im talking to someone. And all of a sudden I got mad. Because I DIDNT do that thing and I was getting yelled at for it anyway. What my girlfriend SHOULD have done was come over to me and say Hey, thank you so much for not coming over and getting all handset on me while I was talking to that guy about business stuff. Youre awesome. I love you. In other words, she should have used POSITIVE reinforcement instead of NEGATIVE criticism. And this can apply to your situation too. If you go to your guy from a place of anger, pain and criticism its going to put him on the defensive and make him blow up the way I kind of did. But if you go to him praising him for whatever little thing hes doing right, it gives you a chance to broach the topic in a less confrontational way. So Bad: I feel like youre ignoring me!! Good: Its really great knowing how much you love me. But then that brings us to the second part of your question:

In any relationship theres going to be ebbs and flows in the feelings you have for each other. Theres going to be days you wake up INCREDIBLY in love and obsessed with your man. And theres going to be days you wish you could replace him with an animatronic teddy bear. And the same goes for him.

But here are a few principles: A. What hes going through probably has very little to do with you or how he feels about you at all. (Hes obviously got something on his mind.) B. Hes going internal because a lot of guys simply dont know how to share their feelings or are afraid of being judged. So what do you do? For now Id recommend something along the lines of making him a little card that says Seems like youve been going through something lately. Just wanted to let you know how much I love you no matter what it is. In other words, show support without prying. If that doesnt work, youll need to bring out the big guns and flat out tell him I know you love me, but I really need you to talk to me. It might blow up in your face, but at least youll get somewhere. Best, Mike For an incredible assortment of great romantic ideas to try with a man, youll really want to check Michael out (I immediately downloaded Text The Romance Back and loved it so much thats why Im recommending it here) Go here to discover how you can nearly instantly create way more romance in your relationship->
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2: Is He Losing Feelings for You, or Is It a Phase in the Relationship?

Well, I dont know. And neither do you. And neither does he.

Imagine yourself pressing your palms to your cheeks in absolute shock When you see that absolutely dry & unromantic man, turn into this hopeless lover who grabs you firmly, lifts you up in his arms Comes so close that you can feel his warmth, and with a passionate glare in his eyes gently whispers Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time There is something about you that I just cant resist You have no idea how special you are to me. I am really lucky to have you in my life. To discover this formula right now, just follow this link to the video: Make Him Desire You>> Men really ARE easy you just have to know what button to push. You just have to know something that other women dont. Check out the Make Him Desire You video and see for yourself how quickly you can turn a man onto you>>

Give Him Adrenaline Spikes Of Love

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Do you know about the Impulsive Desire Formula? This formula is known to less than 1% of some very lucky women on this planet AND, it can make any man shower you with so much love, attention and adoration that its almost scary. I want you to take a deep breath right now, and imagine something for a second Imagine feeling sweet tingles in your stomach, when you finally witness the very man who didnt want to be with you Literally turn into an obsessive stalker, who wont leave you alone and yearns for you so badly that he cant sit straight.

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You Can Kill New Love Before It Starts

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all sorts of wonderful attributes ignoring that only the test of time will reveal someones true character. This is a dangerous practice and the leading cause of broken hearts. You end up with a terrible feeling of having given yourself to someone you thought was wonderful and he turns out to be not at all who you thought he was. You try to make a good impression: You think youre in love, which makes you more vulnerable. Hes too good to be true and you worry if youre enough for him. To hide your feelings of insecurity, you put on a show of confidence. Before you know it, youve lost your self as you start doing things to impress him and to make yourself look better. All these mistakes can be avoided if you develop a strong sense of your own worth a healthy self-esteem. Its the foundation of any successful relationship. Without it youll make bad choices and act in ways that limit your ability to love.

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by Virginia Clark We know its not easy to find a man you really click with and could love. If you are Internet dating or just going to singles events, it can take a lot of false starts and disappointing dates before you find a man who really captures your interest. The fact that you go through so many unsatisfying dating experiences before you meet a man who rings your bell, puts you at a definite disadvantage. Its like trudging through a hot desert and finally seeing an oasis up ahead. Your natural reaction is to run towards water and drink your fill, but this can be a problem you dont yet know if the water is real or just a mirage.

Here Are 3 Big Mistakes That Could Ruin a New Love Before It With self-esteem youll be able to allow for the natural unfolding of new love without losing Gets Off the Ground: yourself along the way.
You try to make something happen: Because of the excitement at this new chance at love, you have a hard time letting things develop in their own time. Your need for assurance makes you start to manipulate and push to make things happen. Virginia is the real deal. Her story of meeting her man late in life and getting married (shed never been married before) is amazing, and her ebook Its Never Too Late To Marry will give you the hope you need, step-by-step instructions on how to make it happen for yourself, and the inspiration to transform your love life. Go here to check out Virginia and learn how to have the intimacy you want->

Examples: making up rules in your head for how much and when he should text you or call; planning your life around his schedule rather than your own or starting to plan where you go and what you do on your dates. You put him on a pedestal: This is a big one. You go out with a man on 3 or 4 dates and feel as if you know everything about him. You get swept off your feet and decide hes a perfect match. You endow him

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You may have the knowledge about something that you enjoy very much. Maybe you have an interest that you like to read about and this is your hidden passion. Think about something you are very knowledgeable about because you choose to be, not because you are required to be at work. Some of the highest times in your life may be the passion you wish you had back in your life. Everyone is good at something. If you dont have a hobby like making candles, beaded jewelry, or working on cars on the weekends it doesnt mean you dont have a skill. This just means that you havent quite figured out what your skill is yet. You need to know what it is that interests you the most. The majority of people are very good at what they do when they enjoy it. The Editors

Peak Experiences And Existing Talents Bring Out Your Passion

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Your capabilities are very important when youre thinking about taking your dreams and making something of them AND what interests you and what you ENJOY are even MORE important! You need to think about peak experiences and existing talents you have that you can use toward the benefit of making your dreams come true. This can also help you build the confidence you need to be successful. Your peak experiences include times in your life where you excelled. You dont have to have won an award. These peak experiences include the best times of your life. What are some of the things you have done in your life that you really enjoyed you wish you could do again?

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Men Dont Fear Commitment, Men Fear Making the Wrong Choice
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The irony is that fear of commitment may mask a desperate desire for the intimacy and security that comes from a healthy long-term relationship. Sometimes we most fear what we most need. What men want most is to feel safe. What men crave most is a sense of home. Sometimes men get so bound up in what is wrong now, we stop looking at how things could be right in the future. There are many benefits, both physical and mental, to being in a healthy relationship. Women know this, men dont. So, what can you do? As my sweetheart said before I left for the studio. HOW COOL IS THIS?

by Jonathon Aslay In a few hours, I am being interviewed on live television for a Valentines Day Special on an ABC Talk-show. They say public speaking ranks as the highest fear someone might face, higher than dying. So as I prepared for this segment, my girlfriend gave me a GREAT suggestion: rather than focusing on the negative, she said, say this in your mind HOW COOL IS THIS? Yes, cool is associated with FUN. How can there be fear when we are having fun.

How Cool Is Your Relationship?

How much fun are you really having together? Do you play together? Are you laughing together? Men dont fear fun.right! Is your relationship FUN? Fun is a cornerstone to a healthy relationship. When I wrote my eCourse The Relationships Men Commit To and Why, I included one key to commitment. On page 102 of the ebook the chapter is called: Keys to the Kingdom There are four keys. Have you heard of them?

So, what about men and commitment.

Can you guess what they are? Are you thinking or do you already know? Without a doubt, FUN is on the top of the list. Fun is associated with cool. How cool is this? How cool is my relationship? Men have no problem making a decision when it involves FUN. When the choice is fun, the decision is already made. He chooses YOU! Wishing you all relationship success. Sending smiles,
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When It Comes to a Relationship, Men Dont Fear Commitment

Men fear making the wrong choice. Often, people who fear making decisions tend to vacillate and procrastinate in an effort to avoid the choices they must make Making decisions requires confidence. It requires a degree of certainty.

Jonathon Your Guy Spy to the Male Mind From The Editors: Jonathon KNOWS the male brain. He coaches women on how to choose better when it comes to men, and he has a huge following. We just LOVE him and know youll love his free tips, too so go here to find out how you can succeed at your relationship->

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