teens & technology

Navigating the Digital Era

By Karen Lee, LCPC, CSAT, Agape Counseling

ndroid. iPhone. iPod. iPad. Tablet. Nook. Wii U. Are these common names in your household? Is Google a verb or command shouted across your family room? If your house is anything like mine, your kids cant imagine life before electronic devices and conveniences. Navigating the digital era can be both surprising and confusing for parents who arent techie. Times have changed from parents teaching their kids to kids teaching their parents. Its not unusual for todays teen to know more about software, apps, and devices than their parents do. The list of whats cool seems to change quickly: texting, Snapchat, Facebook, Tumblr, Pinterest, Twitter, YouTube, IMing, Wii, Xbox. In a 2012 survey of teens ages 1217, 78 percent now have a cellphone and almost half of those own a smartphone. Times are changing! Among teen smartphone owners, half are "cell-mostly" Internet users. (Pew Research Center) Gone are the days where the family fights over the computer to surf the web because now we can surf wherever we are.
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As parents, we need to be aware of our influence, etiquette, and the dangers facing our kids today. We have the opportunity to expand our knowledge and protect our kids; yet also give them freedom to explore all the positives technology has to offer. Todays teens could quite possibly be better multitaskers than any previous generation! So, what can parents do? Set the Example! Model for your teens what behavior you think is appropriate. Beware, you are being watched.  If you dont want them texting during dinner, then set your phone away from the table.  If you dont want them talking or texting while driving, then dont do it yourself. Even your younger kids are watching your example!  If you dont want them waking during the night to text their friends, turn phones off and put them away during the night. Model good, healthy boundaries.

Set Clear Expectations!  Talk with your teen about your expectations regarding technology use. Have real discussions with your kids. Set time limits. Turn in devices at a specific time each day. Follow your teen on social media sites. Be familiar with whatever wireless devices your kids are using.  Teach your kids to be emotionally present with whoever theyre physically with! Be consistent. Know the Potential Dangers  Cyberbullying: A serious problem among teens right now is the potential to harm their peers. There have been cases of suicide after teens have been bullied online. Being excluded from activities or pics, intentionally targeted and labeled, or sharing inappropriate photos of others are just a few examples of recent cyberbullying.  Pornography: Being exposed to online porn is a concern. The average age of first exposure to internet porn is 11 years old. Images downloaded to the brain cant just be deleted. In fact for some people, a sexual addiction can start with just looking at a few images online.  Sexting: Its so easy now to take provocative pics and send them out. However, once sent, the sender loses complete control over what happens next. One cannot get back whats already been out there in the digital world.  Strangers/Privacy: Teens are vulnerable if their identifying info is out there for others to see. It doesnt have to be as extreme as a

Dateline NBC special; with the use of webcams and chat, hook-ups can be all online. Keep privacy controls high and encourage your kids to avoid posting their phone number, address, etc. Investigate Protective Software and Parental Controls New tools are being developed every day, so become familiar with all the options. Talk to your kids about why the protection can be helpful. The tech world can be a little scary, but it is my hope that we dont overreact to the potential dangers. I hope we can engage and connect with our kids like never before. They need our time, attention, and focus! So dont delay, text your teen and set up a face-to-face coffee date. There is a lot to catch up on! Karen Lee, LCPC, CSAT is a therapist at AGAPE Counseling. As a mom of two boys, Karen recognizes the impact and concerns of technology; as a therapist she specializes in the treatment of addiction and trauma. Karen is the Clinical Director of our Morton office and sees clients in both Morton and Bloomington. For more information, please contact Agape Counseling at 309692-4433. They are a group of Christian counselors, social workers, psychologists and support staff committed to a therapeutic process that ministers to the whole person. Their Peoria office is located at 2001 W. Willow Knolls, Suite 110. The Morton location is 75 E. Queenwood Road. They also have an office in Bloomington, IL. Visit their website: www.agapecounselors.net.
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