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Relationship Advice For Women By Experts in the fields of Love, Romance and Relationships. He wants to get rid of me He doesnt want me anymore I dont know what to do. I cant live without him. What do you think Alex did next? The story starts in the middle of the presentation, so make sure you stay till the end

From Hurt To Love Get Him Back

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Tears, tears and more tears. Ouch, I mean seriously ouch. I was just watching a presentation about a guy named Alex, and his friend Heather. I must say their story surprised me. Here is a snippet It was around 6 oclock in the evening, when Alexs best friend Heather showed up at his doorstep, with tears burning down her face. Alex felt a huge thump in his chest, his heart started to beat faster, and he felt his palms getting sweaty. Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time

With a lump in his throat he asked Heather, whats wrong? In a very weak, and shaky voice she said
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When Should You Sleep WIth A Guy?

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And it depends on why you want to sleep with him in the first place. Lets break this down a little bit in reverse order

Today I answer one of the toughest questions I get from single women and the answer might not be an easy one to hear Maria asks Mike, when should I SLEEP with a guy a like? Will he think Im a $#@$ if I do it on the first date? Will he lose interest if I make him wait? When I was 20 this all made sense but now that Im older and am back in the dating world I need help! Hey Maria (and the thousands of other women asking this same question.) Great question And heres my great answer

WHY Do You Want To Sleep With Him?

I harp on this a lot, but its really important for you to understand that sex simply doesnt carry the same emotional weight or importance for guys as it does for most women. Sure, we obsess about the S-word pretty much constantly, put every woman we see through imaginary carnal contortions, and are basically ruled by our testosterone We want sex a lot (and, frankly, we want it with a lot of women though we can also learn to be pretty darned happy in a monogamous relationship with the right girl.) But just because sex is a huge motivator for a guy (and even a great point of leverage if you want to manipulate a guy) doesnt mean it actually means that much to him once its said and done. To be blunt: Sex is more important to a guy before he has it than it is after he has it, and that first time with a woman is always going to have way more power with a guy than any other time you make love.

Uhh it depends. Dammit! I bet you wanted something magical like on the third date But nope. It depends It depends on the guy (and his attitudes towards women and sex.) It depends on what you want from the guy (fling, boyfriend, wedding?)

Lets list out a few good reasons and a few really bad reasons to have sex with a guy you recently started dating:

Totally Cool Reasons to Sleep With Him:

1. Because you sincerely like the guy, have gotten to know him well enough to trust him, and think its time to add a physical element to your relationship that youll both enjoy. (Plus, you really want to try out these new ping pong paddles youve got. Weird.) 2. Because after everything that happened with your ex, its been 4 freaking years since you were made love to properly and you really just need a man to treat you like a woman. 3. Because well, because youre in the mood and he smells AMAZING. Nothing wrong with that at all, as long as you know thats why youre doing it. Totally Awful Reasons To Sleep With A Guy:
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1. Because hes leaning on you and pressuring you to do it even though youre not ready. (He is a douchebag. Let him leave.) 2. Because you think having sex with him will make him Like you more or will make him Fall in love with you. Sorry, it just doesnt work that way. Its a awful trick of biology but For women: sex creates feelings of love and closeness. For guys: sex reinforces feelings we already have around a woman but doesnt create any new feelings at all. Thats a fancy way of saying Sleeping with him wont make him like you more. Sucks, huh? Its also worth noting here that for most guys, theres no implied commitment after you sleep together. Unless you both already agreed that youre a couple and are monogamous, hes probably not going to make that jump himself (and then youll be SHOCKED and ANGRY later when you found out he slept with someone else.)

baggage hes going to have around the sex topic and the more serious its going to be to him. (Sometimes REALLY conservative guys can actually turn on a woman who has sex with them. Lame.) Now lets boil all this down and answer your question as bluntly as I can 1. If its a guy you like and you think theres potential for something great there, wait a little while. Not months and months or anything like that, but wait until youve had a few dates, have gotten to know each other and he feels like hes had to do a little work to get into your pants (even if youve been desperate to get into his.) 2. If its a guy you dont see long-term potential with, its up to you, but youve got to be careful with your heart. For an incredible assortment of great romantic ideas to try with a man, youll really want to check Michael out (I immediately downloaded Text The Romance Back and loved it so much thats why Im recommending it here) Go here to discover how you can nearly instantly create way more romance with a man just by texting. Know how to build up the heat before and after you decide its time to sleep with him->

What Do YOU Want From The Guy?

Is this guy just a fling for you with no serious longterm potential? Or is he somebody who makes your stomach do back flips and has you daydreaming about weddings and minivans? Not all guys are created equal, and youve got to be honest with yourself about a guys potential before jumping into bed with him. And finally Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time

Whos the Guy?

Even though all guys are powerfully driven by sex, weve also got very different levels of guilt and culturalization around the topic. Its a generalization, but oftentimes the more conservative or religious a guy is, the more

What Men Say About Women

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by Bobbi Palmer Below are answers to a few of the questions asked on the two man panels I hosted recently. These are from the horses mouth. So its truth. I didnt make this stuff up. (Its not verbatim but close to it.) Enjoy and let me know what you think. Anything surprise you?

A: A smile. Any smile. From any woman. When women smiles at me it makes me giddy even though Im 42 years old. It doesnt matter who she is. Women usually dont even look at us so when she does its beautiful. A: A woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get it. Thats confidence. A: When she is just being herself. A. Women bring empathy, love, tenderness and warmth. I love that. Its beautiful. A. Its not competitive like it is with men. Men and women can talk about relationships. Men dont talk about relationships. We only talk about what were doing. A. Women are just beautiful creatures. They are so different from usbut beautiful. Q: Do you want us to ask you out? A: The majority of guys said approach us and show interest so I know youll say yesbut let me take lead. A: Yes, help me! If a woman asks me out I think Wow, Im that good! A: I might not even notice you. If youre interested in me let me know youre interested. It feels good when women show interest. I realize thats a potentially vulnerable place to be but if you dont ask you dont get! (Note from me: my Father always used to tell me that. Seems to be true in many ways.) Q: What is one tip youd give a woman who is dating and looking for love? A: Be yourself. A: Have fun. A: Know what you want. (Note from me: Do these sound familiar???) Q: What do you want from your woman? A: I want her to be like my mom: I want my woman to love me unconditionally and always think Im better than even I think I am. A: Loveand acceptance for who I amjust the way I am.

What Men Say About Women When Looking for Love

Q: If you can tell women one thing you think they dont know; what would it be?

A: I want you to feel happyI want to help you be happy. A: You often think that if you have to tell me what you want and I give it to youit doesnt count. If you tell us what you want were more than happy to give it to you 99% of the time! This goes into the bedroom and everything. A: When you know a woman feels uncomfortable or unhappy she thinks its our job to know what she wants. We love you but we cant read your minds. A: Dating at this time of our life should be enjoyable. Everyone just likes to have fun. We often look for whats wrong when we should be looking for what works and just enjoy each other. Its about two people meeting and getting to know each other. And if it worksgreat! Q: What turns you on about a woman/what do you get from women?

See ladiesthey really arent different than us in the ways of love. They want to give and receive it. They just think a little differently. And once you learn how they think and how to communicate with them, you too can have a fantastic relationship with a loving man. (Like I do!) Speaking of love: I want you to know that I love you. I so admire you for taking this journey with me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for trusting me and letting me be part of your life. Remember to always be good to yourself, Bobbi From Sarah: Bobbi is absolutely adorable! You will SO identify with her and her story personally, and her FREE Man-O-Meter test is really helpful. Just go here to take the test and get Bobbis great free stuff and advice about how to Date Like A Grownup to get the man, relationship and romance you want->>

Abandonment Fears In Your Relationship

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by Dominique Does any of relationship? this feel familiar from your

You feel varying degrees of anxiety, anything from a vague twinge all the way to an out and out panic attack, some time after your man leaves after having spent some time with you, a date or maybe a weekend together, or it could be between phone calls. You might even feel this when you live together or are married, say hes gone on a business trip or even simply after he has left for work. Slight or larger shifts in his behavior at times can also give you a pang or maybe leave you scrambling frantically, afraid, wondering whether hes mad at you, tiring of you, withdrawing, or worse.

Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time And then your insecurities start in, maybe flooding you along with the gremlins who just seem to love finding a crack in your love shield and begin whispering to you all kinds of things, worsening, deepening your feelings of inadequacy and fear. This can be especially prevalent though not exclusive to a long distance relationship or a relatively new one. This can still show up after youve been together for many years and in most every way you DO feel secure with your man. Yet sometimes, maybe often,
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your sense of stability with him can be rattled. Even a small thing can sometimes send you reeling. Either way, this kind of reaction will be more marked if youre already feeling shaky for whatever reason. For example maybe you dont feel well or your hormones are spiking or dipping or you had a bad feeling encounter with a friend or family member or colleague or even a stranger or any number of other possible scenarios which might cause wobbliness. And all of this could be running underground unconsciously. Everything might be feeling great UNTIL he says goodbye for the evening. Or he forgets to call. Or fails to message you during the day. Or leaves your text unanswered. Or you dont hear from him for days or hours. And your entire sense of self might falter. Youre not sure which way to turn. You can feel almost frozen while your brain loops bad feeling thoughts seemingly endlessly.

Every time a call is missed or a text not returned or its been too long since the last contact whatever this looks like at that moment, you panic. You might find yourself dropping into an all or nothing place, almost forgetting how much your man DOES stay in touch, how sweet and good he really is. The urge to control a wavering sense of stability and calm within can then manifest in wanting to control the man around whatever is making you feel insecure. And/or the walls around your heart will tend to go up, bracing for the hurt you feel sure or so fear is coming. This is the natural response for those who did not receive security in love as a child. All you knew growing up is that if there was any love present at all, it was conditional, often dependent on what you did or did not do, so you would desperately try to demonstrate how good you are, maybe how obedient, maybe how accomplished, maybe how pretty, well behaved, or something else. And when security in love still wasnt forthcoming, you likely shut down, a little or a lot as protection. And these patterns can become SO deeply ingrained. As an adult, you might look for things to control around love, for example receiving the right amount of contact, and for a while you might feel better, but very quickly you dont. You will then wonder if the contact is genuinely given, if he REALLY wants to talk to you, be with you. And the same kind of snowballing thoughts and fears will arise. Awareness around all of this is the first, most crucial piece towards what will help you to a better feeling place. When you are aware of YOUR patterns with abandonment fears, you have something to play with. And please DO look at this kind of transformation as play. Your habits of retreat or the urges to control DO NOT serve you or help you in any way, at least not long term. Once youve recognized what youre doing, a good place to go to next is to remember all which is SO lovely about your man, all the love, attention, and affection he DOES provide, all the ways he shows his adoration of you which could be HIS way, not necessarily YOUR way, or the way you think is your way.

What Is This? Why Is This Coloring Your Relationship?

If you have come from a place of physical and/or emotional abandonment, you will tend to suffer the most with this. You may have been working hard to gain confidence, self-esteem, feeling okay if not good within yourself, yet this peace which was not given to you as a small one can still feel tenuous. Your already not solid sense of self can be easily thrown off balance even with an obviously loving and adoring partner. It certainly gets easier to deal with, working with these feelings, quieting down the gremlins, getting it all to a more manageable level, getting yourself back to your truth, the more you feel safe with your man. Yet this stuff can still come up. And sometimes this can all feel SO not worth it, the relationship I mean. Especially when the relationship is new, for in the newness, you know nothing at all really. Nothing feels safe or secure. Some/many may look at this as refreshingly exciting, the anticipation as delicious, the unknown as a lovely challenge. But for those with abandonment fears, this all just feels terrible, at times as awful as the prospect of death.

And when attention does come your way in ways which feel good, do you then find yourself feeling greedy for more? This too is common in those with abandonment issues. The void which was created as a small child has a difficult time feeling filled, so very often we can feel as though whatever it is is not enough. I remember clearly telling K very early on in our relationship that Ive been starved for affection, and it may never feel as though its enough. Fortunately for me, he is a very attentive and affectionate man. And there really is nothing wrong with this, AS LONG AS you are aware of what youre feeling and doing, AND you actively find ways to fill this void yourself for yourself when your man is not there.

doesnt mean he isnt traversing the world for you, quietly, metaphorically. He may just be showing his profound love for you in HIS way. Can you notice when you find yourself on the verge of whining or complaining or withdrawing? Can you instead play towards feeling thankful for all that you DO have with this man? Can you appreciate ALL the progress you HAVE made in filling yourself up? Can you love those thoughts which push you to the brink of a freak out, thinking you will push him away with what may seem like continual dissatisfaction even though most of the time you ARE beautifully melty and appreciative. We as abandonment babies feel this delicate and fragile sense of self and security so acutely. The imprinting we received as children has created this in us. Our primary care givers, the most important people to us at that time were not there, and this left a huge void, a big ball of fear. If these crucial people left us, whether it be physically or emotionally or both why would anyone else want to be with us is where our scared little minds go. We revel in the attention, and we quake in its withdrawal. So we tend toward perfectionism, thinking and feeling to our core that we MUST, MUST, MUST get it right. If we dont they will leave us, reject us, abandon us.

When You Feel Fear About Your Relationship

One important thing to summon up in those times when you falter is to remember that your man is not a robot. No one is, not even you. Patterns will change, and this has NO bearing on his feelings for and about you. Youve been told that to accept anything less then being number one is accepting crumbs. So confusion can set in because when almost constant attention isnt present, you have great difficulty discerning what being his number one might look like, feel like. Real life can involve preoccupations of all kinds, and this happens to everyone, your man AND you included. So when hes not right there in front of you, when hes not in constant contact, when hes having stuff come up, this DOES NOT mean you are not important to him, a priority even. A man may have many priorities, and honestly his number one priority will be his mission, usually career, BUT this doesnt mean you are not VERY, VERY important to him, right up there with his mission. Please dont get caught up in the fantasy that a man will swim the oceans for you or scale tall mountains. A really good man can still be head over heels crazy in love with you, want you in his life and in his heart forever; you may very well be the woman of his dreams and then some, yet just because this doesnt involve cold water or steep slopes, this

When you have any history of rejection and/ or abandonment, i.e. shaky attachments with parental/guardian figures, this will spill over into your relationship leaving you feeling scared. You might panic at the tiniest sign of perceived withdrawal which inevitably is all YOUR perception, your interpretation as seen through the filters of your fears. And the fears are profound and primal. And this can be a tough one. Something I have had to deal with and still do. My best suggestion is this
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Keep telling yourself all is well. Keep drawing on the good feeling memories with him, the more recent the better. Keep redirecting your thoughts in the good feeling direction, telling yourself THIS IS MY TRUTH. I TRUST HIM. I TRUST MYSELF. And its perfectly okay sometimes to just come clean, tell him you feel shaky and insecure, that you miss him, that you feel like a spoiled brat for wanting more, yet you feel starved. Could he please, please, hold you. This is so heartbreakingly AUTHENTIC, how could a good man possibly resist this. I cant promise that these insecure, shaky feelings you get will ever go away completely, but they will become far less overwhelming and far more doable. Remember that love will bring up anything unlike itself to be healed. So if this is LOVE, then try to look at these triggers as an opportunity, a wonderful gift. RELEASE LET GO ALLOW OPENNESS CURIOSITY xxoo Dominique From The Editors: We love Dominique as a person, and think shes one of the best coaches around. Shes the ONLY coach we recommend to women who want to open their hearts and find their true selves in a deep emotional, physical, spiritual, sensual and sexual way. Start with her ebook Sex and Heart and then email her for coaching for your relationship->

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Get Into His Mind

by Mark at How To Read A Man

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Im going to let you into a little secret today, so pay very close attention here. I want to give you a secret that will give you the capability to penetrate any mans mind so intensely that your presence alone will make his heart race with crazy love. It doesnt matter how many times youve failed in the past

Because now every man will feel an overpowering urge to be so close to you, that he wont be able to restrain his feelings, and will wish, want and need you to be his forever. Regardless of how bad, ugly or downright humiliating your current situation is, by using this secret any man will go out of his way to look after you, protect you, satisfy your every little desire & will crave to be with you for the rest of his life. It doesnt matter if youre single, married, divorced or going through a complicated situation

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Because now youll be able to influence him to your way of thinking, diffuse arguments & connect with him on a level that no other woman can even dream of. I know this sounds too good to be true right now but, if you pay very close attention to every word you hear and stay till the very end of the presentation, you will be able to make any man feel an immediate and overwhelming attraction for you.

Heres our link to uncover your hidden super power, your power to: read a man and seduce his mind>>

Missing the Relationship

Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time Youll think of love you shared and assume it should still be there. Even if there were signs before the break up that things were changing for the worse, you will find yourself clinging to the memory of the past and how good it was. Why do we persist in continuing a sense of disbelief and longing for a relationship and a man who is no longer there? Well, brain specialists have recognized this can be a biological occurrence in our brains. You can become addicted to a state of mind that keeps you in state of longing for the past. After a break up you can actually remember everything that happened in an ultra-positive light. You see the past through rose-colored glasses and only focus on the times when he was good and loving. This is a mental trap. It will keep you stuck in the present with a broken heart and broken dreams. By longing for the past youll keep obsessing on an old relationship for months and even years.

Why Its Hard To Let Go After A Break Up

by Virginia Clark

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Most romantic relationships start out strong. Theres usually instant physical attraction and the heady feeling that you actually may be falling in love. As things progress, you get more confidence in the relationship, in your ability to love and be loved. Soon you have no doubt that you have found your perfect partner. But most of the relationships youll go through will suffer a break up until you actually meet Mr. Right. These relationships are not meant to last and will begin to fall apart anywhere from a few months to a few years. If the man is the one who makes the decision to walk away, it can leave you devastated and confused. After a break up like this, you will be desperate for answers.

Rethink the Relationship

The best way to change these obsessive thoughts and release the past for good is to make yourself do an autopsy of the relationship. You need to make yourself get real; remember the things that were not so good. After all, if it was all good youd still be together. You have to burst the bubble of your fantasy and let yourself see how he wasnt perfect, and neither were you. Telling yourself that because love was there once it should therefore still be there is the formula for selfdelusion. The nature of being human is our feelings change, and sometimes we dont know why they just do.
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After a break up be aware of your thoughts. If you find yourself reaching back to the past for proof he still loves you, stop! Dont let longing take over your thinking. The best thing you can do is accept the change in his feelings; even he cant explain it and you dont understand it. Avoid looking back and start to look forward again to meeting your Mr. Right. Virginia is the real deal. Her story of meeting her man late in life and getting married (shed never been married before) is amazing, and her ebook Its Never Too Late To Marry will give you the hope you need, step-by-step instructions on how to make it happen for yourself, and the inspiration to transform your love life. Go here to check out Virginia and learn how to have the relationship you want->

with the byline youd like and written permission for us to publish it. Be sure to leave some comments for Diane so she can get help from you on the path shes taking! by Diane My marriage has been a little rocky lately and I decided to do some research on how to win back love.

The first thing I learned was we need to learn how to communicate better. How hard could this be really, we used to talk about everything all the time. I am going to follow the tips and steps I learned and start as soon as we both get home tonight. We can cook dinner, have some wine and start talking while we eat. Bring Him Close Free Report... Get your free report, exclusive discounts, bonuses & our FREE newsletter to help you: Talk to a man in the way that works! Make him fall for you quickly Turn your love life around...now... Email: No Spam | Cancel at any time I learned that I have to be honest with myself and that no matter how much I want my marriage to work I may not be able to save it. My husband needs to want to save it, too, and be willing to work on everything that needs work. I cant do it all by myself and I cant force him to want to work on it if he really does not want to.

Communicating for Love

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To Win Back Love And Keep It

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I also realized that we dont have a clue on how to communicate correctly. Sure, we talk, but we dont really get each other most of the time. So often when I try to tell him how I feel he gets mad and thinks Im attacking him. I am not trying to attack him in any way, I am just trying to tell him how I feel and express my worries or fears. I am going to suggest we talk about why we havent been getting along lately, and try to get his take on things, too.

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He may have a different way of looking at everything that I do and maybe we can compare notes, so to speak, and come up with a good strategy.

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Hopefully if dinner goes well we can start to figure out how to spend more quality time together. I will tell him that I think we should have a date night every week. We get so caught up in the day to day managing of the house we forget we need to just feel connected to each other. I need to feel in love with him again and stop feeling like we are two people living in the same house. Maybe if we both agree to try to fix what is wrong, maybe we can find our happily ever after. Then there is the subject of making love. The research said that if you and he have not made love for some time then one of you needs to seduce the other. On that note, I bought some sexy lingerie and some patchouli scented oil. After dinner I will go put on the lingerie, dab on some oil, light some candles, and put on some romantic music, too. Then I will lead him into the bedroom. If we make these changes starting tonight and maybe, just maybe, we will be able to win back love. Diane

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Could you imagine going to a concert where the musician just played one note? How much would you pay for THAT concert? Imagine a painting that was just one gray blob of paint? How much would you pay for THAT picture? Relationships, just like music and art are places to bring out your creativity. You can add color, vibrancy and joy to your relationship.

When most people are courting, they are full of creativity- dates are planned, romance happens and sex is hot. So why do most relationships end up lifeless and devoid of passion?

Two Reasons Why This Happens to a Relationship:

1. We have not experienced or observed a whole lot of creative relationships in our ancestors (i.e.parents, grandparents) 2. As relationships go on, there always is pain and disillusionment. So what do you do about this?

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Regarding reason # 1- you need to be a maverick, a pioneer. You need to think thoughts, do things and say words that you have not seen before. You need to remember your power; power to raise the energy of your partner, your relationship and you.
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You need to practice thinking the best thoughts about your partner and you. You need to do things that uplift your partners energy. (Ask yourself- what does my partner need from me that if I did that thing, she would feel GREAT?) You need to say words that are kind, encouraging and uplifting. Life is not about being neutral; it is about bringing something to life and when you do that, life usually brings something back to you. The areas of life where you thrive are when you show up and stand out. In relationships, it is no different. Your relationship is your personal art project. What can you do to make it a masterpiece? This is not how we usually think regarding our relationships. In order to make a masterpiece, you need to bring your attention to the project. You can make that happen; dont even wait for your partner to make the relationship a masterpiece.

(emotionally or physically withdraw, do drugs or alcohol, have an affair). Dont let your pain push you around or end your relationship. Before you quit, try getting creative with your pain. This requires building your emotional muscle so that you can communicate successfully with your partner. This requires creative management of your emotions in such a way that you increase and not decrease your emotional connection with your partner. If you become creative in communication and sharing your pain with each other, the pain can actually be a launching pad to new heights of closeness and connection with your partner. Pain never ends relationships; disconnectedness ends relationships. As you develop a creative, receptive and successful way of communicating your feelings, these painful feelings dissolve into more positive experiences such as warmth and compassion. places to LIVING IN THE LIGHT of joy and love by developing the emotional muscle to be creative in the midst of experiencing intense emotional pain. It can be done. This transformative process is the key to not only surviving dark times but thriving in your committed relationship. Interpersonal creativity is the intent and followthrough to lift your relationship to new heights of joy and love. You cannot wait for it to be easy; you cannot wait to be in the mood. Decide to develop your interpersonal creativity. Get some help if you need to. As I wrote before, the prize is waiting- a relationship that keeps giving back. One of my greatest joys is witnessing couples experience that shift from a negative or neutral relationship to a creative, nourishing one. You deserve this; even if you have not seen too many creative relationships before. Dont be average. Be amazing. Be interpersonally creative. Heres to getting the love you want!
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So Here Is the Recipe for Making Your Relationship a Masterpiece: I have seen many a couple shift from the darkest
Mix significant amounts of kindness with significant amounts of appreciation towards your partner every day. Then add consistent attention and practice the skill of seeing the best in your partner. Take care of yourself and make sure that you have significant amounts of energy left for your partner. Find ways to surprise your partner, plan dates and be romantic. Touch frequently and make your sex life a priority. Dont hesitate to reach out for a therapist or coach if you are stuck. And keep your eye on the prize- a phenomenal, loving, satisfying, passionate relationship. That will get you through your inertia and laziness. Regarding reason # 2 you feel pain. Maybe youre disappointed, hurt and/or angry. Maybe you feel betrayed in some way. Maybe your partner feels these things toward you. Every relationship has emotional pain; it is inevitable. Here, too, you need to be interpersonally creative. Most people are tension reductive when it comes to their pain; they feel pain and they either fight (i.e. raise their voice, bicker, get intense) or flight

From Sarah: Todd Creager is an accomplished Speaker, Therapist, Consultant and Author. At his website: The Todd Creager Center for Successful Relationships, you can find out more about how to have a successful relationship.

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