October 2009

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M a rri a g e i n I s l a m

Photo credit: Robert Proksa

I n Th i s I ssu e :

Lessons Learnt_____________________________ 2
The Dower (Mahr)....................................................................... 2
The Fiqh of Love Poem............................................................... 3

Credits

Tayybah Times Ameer:

Br. Abed
Tayybah Times Ameerah:
Sr. Asma

G.E.M.s....................................................................................... 5
Word Search............................................................................... 6

Editor:
Sr. Mashal
Layout/Design:
Br. Abed

Identifying Problems_______________________7
Reflections on divorce and marital problems.
Divorced People: Why Love is Blind.......................................... 7
Marriage: Why Are We Failing?..................................................8
Learning From Super Moms....................................................... 9

Moving Forward__________________________ 10

Online Edition:
Br. Waleed
Contributors:
Sr. Areefa
Sr. Juana Martinez
Sr. Shehnaz Khan
Sr. Saadia Yunus
Sr. Shamim Sheema
Br. Abdur Rehman Mirza
Br. Abed

Okay so we know divorce is on the rise, how do we give rise to

success instead?
One Car, Two Drivers................................................................. 1 0
How to Transform Yourself Into Mrs. Right................................ 1 1
Top 1 0 Things You Need to Know About Marriage.....................1 3
Marriage & Family Therapy Programs.........................................1 4

In the Spotlight___________________________ 15
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October 2009

Lessons Learnt

The Dower (Mahr)

by sr. Areefa

Photo credit: Klaus Post

October 2009

Lessons Learnt

The

FIQH of LovE
poem

October 2009

Photo credits: debz wildie (photos), Moi Cody (illustration)

-Anonymous

October 2009

Lessons Learnt

G.E.M. s
Alsalamu alaikum Uncle/Auntie ___. I'm sorry I'm late.- Bad
Alsalamu alaikum Uncle/Auntie ___. I'm really glad to be here! - Good
Make sure that the first thing your potential spouse and in-laws hear is
something good.

Flirting: The Decaf Zinna

Istikhara:
Allah bless my choice! not Allah, make my choice for me!
The choice is ultimately yours and only you will be accountable. But the dua
can change it so that if this relationship would have been bad for you, Allah
would bless it and make it good.
Sh. Waleed: Some say the best mahr is the least amount...but that's a weak hadith .
Brothers: Aww!
Women needs a lot of Vitamin A: Affection, Attention, Appreciation, Assurance, Acceptance
...................... and all the women agreed upon this ..............lol
Divorce rate is sky rocketing; it increased 50% from the 1 970 - 2000! & in Muslim
communities theres a divorce every 9 minutes.

Genuinely Enlightening Moments

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Photo credits: Hanafi Jamil, Louise Fogh

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Identifying Problems

Divorced People:
Why Love is Blind

October 2009

by Abdur Rahman Mirza

Marriage:
Why Are
We Failing?

by Abdur Rahman Mirza

October 2009

Identifying Problems

Learning from Super Moms

October 2009

by Abed Islam

Moving Forward

One Car,
Two Drivers

Written by sr. Shehnaz Khan

Photo Credit: Sean Carpenter

Love.
Sex.
Marriage.

October 2009

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Moving Forward

How to Transform
Yourself Into Mrs. Right
by sr. Juana Martinez

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October 2009

Photo credits: Sundeip Arora

October 2009

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Moving Forward

Top 1 0 Things You Need

to Know About Marriage

by sr. Shehnaz Khan

1 . If your job gets all your energy, the marriage
withers.

6. Your opinion isnt the truth.

2. One of the greatest gifts you can give your

spouse is your own happiness.

7. If you think you arent the person I married,

youre right.

3. Its never too late to repair damaged trust.

8. Authenticity is contagious and habit-forming.

4. The cost of a lie is higher than whatever

youre going to get from escaping it.

9. There is violence in silence when its used as a

weapon.

1 0. Never outgrow the need for romance.

5. Expectations set up resentment.

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October 2009

Marriage &
Family
Therapy
Programs

http://www.hofstra.edu/Academics/Colleges/SOEAHS/HPFS/MAMFT/
http://www.liu.edu/cwis/west/programs/marriage_family_therapy.htm

Long Island University

M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy at

Hofstra University

October 2009

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In the Spotlight

ChariTree

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October 2009

Tayybah Gone Practical

Inscripticon

October 2009

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