Love Systems Insider

Date: April 2007

If She's Sitting Down

Have you ever been in a situation where you see a beautiful woman or group of people sitting
down, but you have no idea how to approach? Just because you might not know how to handle
this situation, that doesn't mean you can't approach women or groups who are sitting down. You
can and should. In many ways, they are the easiest.

In any situation, you can always approach the table and use whatever conversation starter you
would normally use. If there are extra seats at the table (or nearby chairs you can easily drag
over), you can sit down while delivering a false time constraint. Sit in such a way that implies
that you are about to leave any second. A couple of ways to do this include turning the chair
around so it is "backwards" (i.e., you are looking over the back of the chair), and/or, about a
minute or two later, standing up from the chair as if you are about to leave, before they say
something that "catches your interest" again and entices you to sit back down.

If there are no obvious extra seats, you need to steal hers. Reach your arm out, palm up. Tell her
to stand up. Raise your arm directly up to "spin" her (she is doing all of the spinning; you just
touch her hand) and while doing this, move behind her and sit on her chair. Tease her for a
second that you stole her chair and deliver another false time constraint. You're implying that
you're about to leave and that you will give her the chair back. Within a couple of minutes, you
will either need to let her sit back down and go get another chair, move her somewhere else
where you can both be comfortable, or put her on your lap.

Here are two scenarios you might encounter, along with a solution on how to handle each of
them.

Scenario 1: She is sitting at a large table, there is space available, most nearby tables are full,
and there is a reason to be sitting down (e.g., a coffee shop).

This is the easiest scenario, but fairly rare. Just walk straight over to the table and say "do you
mind if I sit down?" in the same way you would if it was a man at the table. Then, not right away
but within the next 20 seconds, begin a conversation. You should use a very low-energy opener
in this situation. This is the easiest way to approach this situation, but you can also use the
strategies from earlier in this article if you prefer.
Scenario 2: She is sitting at a table either without extra room or where nearby tables are empty.
Sit at a table close enough to hers so that you could comfortably have a conversation. Ignore her
for the first couple minutes, and then initiate conversation in the same way as in the previous
example. Again, this is just a shortcut. If you prefer, you can still use one of the strategies from
earlier in this article.

The general rule is, don't keep standing while everyone is seated. This will lower your social
value. Take a seat as soon as you can, use a false time constraint, and go from there like you talk
to any other group of people.

Savoy