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Mindset For Approaching Orgasms

Goal of this module is to introduce you to the healthy
mindset you need to have in order to give a woman an
orgasm.
The truth is every healthy woman is capable of
multiple full body orgasms
Sadly most women will never reach their full
orgasmic potential
Stats
o Around 29% of women have never had an
orgasm at all
o Around 70% report never having an orgasm
during sex
o Only 20% of women have experienced a vaginal
orgasm (deeper orgasm than clitoral orgasm)
There are a number of reasons for this but the
biggest is lack of knowledge and understanding of
how it works
Very few people realize this but guiding a woman to
orgasm requires leading both her mind and body
What Im about to teach you is not just about having
more techniques to use in the bedroom, its about
understanding how a womans body and mind come
together to give her an orgasm. Having this
understanding will give you a lifetime of
experimentation and incredible sexual experiences.
When you first start out with a woman
You want to teach her to have an orgasm using your
fingers and tongue
Allows for direct stimulation
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Give her an orgasm before sex and she will be
orgasmic enough to have more orgasms during sex
Goal is to eventually get her to orgasm so easily that
shell be able to orgasm with just sex alone
By this point she will want you more, she will crave
sex
Things will always get better as you get to know
each other and build a bond of trust
Correct way to approach giving a woman an orgasm
Whether you are fingering her or going down on her,
it should always be something you are doing WITH
her, not to her
YOUR goal should be to give her an orgasm. But you
do NOT tell her this is your goal. Let her experience
the orgasm through you. Dont tell her about it,
bring her to it.
Her goal should never be the orgasm. Approaching it
this way will put to much pressure and focus on the
outcome and this will cause a mental block for her.
Frame the experience to her like this. Babe, I want
to share the most incredible experience with you to
get to know your body, and find out what you like.
Just enjoy the experience of giving yourself to your
partner, take the pressure off and youll be amazed
how much easier it will be to achieve an orgasm.
Different types of orgasms
This goes for the different types of orgasms as well.
We will be talking about clitoral orgasms, g spot
orgasms, deep spot orgasms, and squirting orgasms.
Dont get discouraged if you dont achieve all types
of orgasms right away. All women are different
Communication
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The key to achieving orgasms is effective
communication
Men dont be afraid to ask her what she likes best
o This opens up the dialogue for her to feel
comfortable telling you what she wants
Women dont hesitate to tell your man what you like
o Tell him how much it turns you on when he (fill
in the blank)
Remember this is all about having fun and enjoying
each other
That concludes this module
The goal of this module was to give you the correct
mindset for approaching orgasms so you can be
successful when you apply the concepts in the rest of
this program.
Go ahead and move on to the next module and well get into
the meat of this program.













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Guiding Her Mind To Orgasm

You must guide a womans mind to orgasm
Orgasm is the act of letting go and giving yourself to
your partner
It is so incredibly important to have her trust and
respect
o She wants to feel comfortable letting down her
guard and letting you lead her to orgasm
o She has to let herself be vulnerable and she
needs to trust that you will respect her
o Email quote sometimes when we have sex she
tells me to stop because she's afraid to lose
control. Perfect example of a woman who
needs to let herself lose control and let go
completely to allow herself to orgasm.
o Tell her this to assure her mind that she can
give herself to you completely: Babe, I
absolutely adore every moment I have with
you. I love how close I feel when were
together. I want to come together and be
completely close to you. I want you to give
yourself to me completely. I want you to know
that you can trust me and let go
o DO NOT SAY THIS if you dont mean it! Dont
tell her to let down her guard and give herself
completely if youre just having a casual
relationship. Feelings get involved, never lead a
woman on by saying this JUST to get her to let
go and get to orgasm!
o This will free her mind up and if she really does
trust and respect you she will want to liberate
herself and let go when shes with you.
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When a woman has an orgasm she must be
completely present in her mind. This means no
chatter going on in her head.
o When a man or woman lets go to orgasm there
is a complete absence of thought
o Think about it guys you dont think when you
ejaculate
o Email example from woman: I dont know what
it is, its like he doesnt even give me time to
think and next thing I know Im having an
orgasm
o This is something all men who are skilled at
giving orgasms are good at is bringing a woman
into the present and not letting them think
about anything but the pleasure being given to
them.
o In fact studies have shown that at the time of
orgasm both men and women have a reduction
of activity in the cerebral cortex in the brain.
What this shows is very little thought, almost
running on primal brain.
o That is why its so important for you to create
an experience that allows her to be completely
present and stops the chatter in her head.
So lets talk about some of the possible mind blocks
that might bring chatter to a womans head during
sex.
o Self Conscious about body
! If shes self conscious about her body she
will not be able to let go of her inner
dialogue
! Women with high self esteem usually have
an easier time achieving orgasm
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! Woman with a great sense of humor
generally has a high self worth
! The more comfortable she is with her body
and sexuality, the more likely shell be
able to orgasm
o Giver not a receiver
! Many people are givers and when it comes
to receiving they have a hard time with it.
! When it comes time for her to lay back and
relax her self worth might start causing
dialogue that makes her uncomfortable
receiving pleasure.
! Some times she will ask you to stop and
start initiating sex to over come this
! You need to reassure her that you love
going down on her and that it turns you
on. If she starts to think of it like that she
will make it ok in her mind because its
doing something for you to.
o Stress and distractions
! People in general have a hard time staying
in the present
! Our minds are constantly causing
unnecessary dialog about the past or
future that prevents us from being in the
present
! She might be thinking about some drama
that happened at work rather than being
present with you
! She might be thinking about what she has
to get done tomorrow
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! These thoughts might not be happening
consciously but unconsciously her mind is
grinding away and she is not fully present
o To focused on the orgasm
! Like we talked about before if she is to
focused on having an orgasm she will not
be able to let go to have the orgasm.
! Its the times when she doesnt think
about the orgasm and has complete
absence of thought and gives into the
feeling of pleasure that shes going to have
an orgasm.
How do we lead her into the present? How do we
keep her out of her own head?
o Anticipation is our biggest ally
! Try this: Send her a dirty text message 5
hours before youre even going to see her.
Make her wet her panties while shes at
work or shopping with her friends. Let her
mind start thinking about how good its
going to be.
! Key to anticipation is to change things up.
If she know what youre going to do next
or if you get in a routine it will kill it.
o Before you start:
! Have her lay down and get completely
relaxed.
! Tell her to close her eyes and take a deep
breath
! Guide her through a few deep breathes
! While her eyes are closed ask her to
completely clear her mind and only listen
to the sound of your voice
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! Babe, I want the next hour to be just
about us. I want us to come together like
we are the last two people on earth. I
want you to completely give yourself to me
because I will be giving myself completely
to you. Lets escape to our world where we
can be free
! Ask her to open her eyes and begin
foreplay
! Is this cheesy? Not with someone you care
about. Obviously you wont do this with
the cocktail waitress you bring home for a
one night stand.
o Foreplay is extremely important.
! Warming a woman up and taking your
time will make her 10 times more likely to
orgasm.
! The more time you take the more she will
lose her thoughts and become completely
present.
! Kissing down her body and not going right
for her sensitive spots will build up until all
she can think about is how bad she wants
you to touch her there.
**The following is for the women reading this**
o Many people have success barriers that keep
them from getting what they actually want.
o You might really want to have an orgasm but
deep down inside you might have self-limiting
beliefs telling you that you dont deserve it.
o I just want to say that as a woman you
absolutely deserve to experience the deepest
levels of pleasure. Its part of your humanity
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and you have every right to explore what
makes you feel good.
o Dont ever get discouraged or down on yourself
if you are unable to orgasm, you have the rest
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Female Anatomy

Introduction (Slide images are available at the end of this
document)
This is going to give you an overview of female
anatomy
Things discussed in this module will help you
understand later modules
Im not here to describe every single bit of the
female anatomy and give you scientific names. Im
here to tell you what you need to understand to
make her cum!
Slide 1 Vagina Exterior (Vulva)
A lot more to the vagina than most men realize
All vaginas are slightly different
Clitoris and Clitoral Hood
Slide 2 Vagina Spread
Clitoral Hood
Clitoris
Area under the clit corresponds to sensitive part of
male penis just below penis head
Urethra
o This is where pee comes out
o But its also where a woman ejaculates
Vaginal Opening Very sensitive as well
Perineum
Anus
Lets start by talking about the clitoris
Slide 3 Clitoris
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Same amount of nerve endings in your entire penis
are in a womans clit.
Small clit is more sensitive
The legs of the clitoris are like two ends of a
wishbone
Slide 4 Clitoris up close
Clitoris contains 6 to 8 thousand nerve endings
Clitoris is very sensitive, women can get tons of
pleasure from having their clitoris stimulated, but
always make sure shes aroused first or it can be
painful
Notice wishbone again
Slide 5 G Spot and Deep Spot
G Spot is 1-2 inches inside the vagina along the front
wall, or about a knuckle and a half to two knuckles
deep
Deep spot is located almost all the way back in the
deepest part of the vagina just before the cervix
Deep spot is sensitive all the way around
Back of deep spot is slightly deeper because it is
tilted
Notice: urethra and urethral sponge
Notice: pubic bone
Slide 6 Side view of woman
Vagina
G Spot
Urethral Sponge and ejaculation
Deep Spot
Cervix dont rub her cervix, this can be very
uncomfortable for her (although a small number of
women like this)
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Sphincter women who ejaculate describe the
feeling of trying to urinate after ejaculating as trying
to switch gears. This is similar to the way a man
has to switch gears after ejaculating in order to
urinate.
Anal Back of deep spot
Slide 7 Another side view
Another view of g spot and urethral sponge
Slide 8 Skenes Glands
Also called periurethral glands or female prostate
Drain into urethra near the opening
Equal to the prostate gland in men
Part of the urethral sponge and swells during sexual
arousal
Very small and hard to see
Clitoral Vs Vaginal Orgasms
Clitoral Orgasm
Stimulation of the clitoral body
Most Common way a woman usually orgasms
How a woman typically masturbates
More localized orgasm
Very sensitive after orgasm, hard to have
multiples
Vaginal Orgasm
Stimulation of G Spot or Deep Spot
Majority of women have never had one
Can lead to ejaculation
Fully body experience
Not overly sensitive after orgasm
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Can have multiple vaginal orgasms
What does a Vaginal Orgasm feel like to a woman?
Quote from woman about Vaginal Orgasms:
When it happened the first time to me and then a couple
more times I didnt even know what it was. The only thing I
knew it felt good, but its different from clit orgasms. Clitoral
orgasm is more localized and that other feeling was more
like your mind switches off for some time, I dont even know
for how long because at that moment I dont realize whats
happening.
Quote from woman about Vaginal Orgasms:
I can feel it building up until it takes over me completely
and suddenly it explodes and a rush goes from my crotch to
my head then it rushes all over my entire body. I can feel it
all the way in the tips of my fingers and my toes!















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Clitoral Orgasms

Setting up the experience
Built up anticipation
Plenty of foreplay, plenty of arousal. Always make
sure a woman is already aroused and her clitoris is
erect or engorged before touching it. Touching it
otherwise will be painful
Bring her into the present
Plenty of lube
o Grape seed oil (Dont use with condom)
o Astroglide (Safe with condom)
Make sure hand is well manicured
o Reason women dont like their man to use their
fingers often times is because their hand is ruff.
Warming her up for clitoral stimulation
Never go straight in for the clit
Rub around the outside of the vulva stimulating the
wish bone, some women will come from this alone,
some women even masturbate this way
Basic clitoral stimulation technique
This is how a lot of women masturbate, but its
always better when someone else does it
Demo
Take shaft of clit between fingers
Grab shaft of clitoris and roll it between your fingers
Try stroking up and down
Demo
Grab entire pussy in comparison feels to them like it would
to you if you grab the shaft of your penis
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Pull up and down, will almost feel like your jacking
off her clit
Hold it still and have her do kegels, this will jack off
the head of the clit. Well talk about kegels later in
the squirting orgasm module.
Demo

Read your partners body language and see what she likes
best. Communication is the best way to find out what she
likes.

After shes had an orgasm she will often times ask you to
stop touching her clit because its to sensitive. Stop
stimulating it but try just leaving your finger on it,
sometimes you can give her another orgasm from doing
this.

It can be a little harder to tell when shes had a clitoral
orgasm. Watch for her body to jump, for her to make a
sound, or she will ask you to stop. You can also stick the tip
of your finger in her anus and watch for an involuntary
contraction.

Stimulating the clitoris during sex
Positions
Girl On Top
Doggy Style with reach around
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G Spot Orgasms

Setting up the experience
Built up anticipation I cant wait to touch you where
only I touch you
Plenty of foreplay, plenty of arousal, maybe already
given her clitoral orgasm. Always make sure a
woman is already aroused before penetrating her.
Bring her into the present
Plenty of lube
Make sure hand is well manicured
Probably want to position yourself to the side of her
or between her legs
Stimulating the G Spot
G Spot is 1-2 inches inside the vagina along the front
wall
At rest the g spot is flat
When a woman is aroused the g spot with begin to
swell
G Spot has a wrinkled or ridged feel compared to the
smooth part
As you stimulate the g spot and she gets closer to
climax it will begin to swell and balloon out
Single Finger Technique
Insert the middle or index finger about 1 ! to 2
knuckles in. You will feel a spongy area on the front
wall
Use a come here motion, almost like your trying to
pull it out of her
Firm pressure and build intensity
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Vary it up between short firm strokes, and long
strokes
Use two fingers if necessary
Use your other hand and press down on her pubic
bone from the outside, it will feel like your hitting her
g spot from both sides
Talk to her during this and tell her how good her
pussy feels to you
Can take up to 30 minutes to climax, dont go longer
than this
Your hand might get tired, but deal with it
Two Finger Running Man
Insert both index and middle finger
Make sure she is warmed up, never jam two fingers
in her right away
Same as before but youre going to run both fingers
in come here motion
Two Finger Bull Horn
Demo
Might seem kind of ruff but remember this is where
babies come out.

Make sure to watch her breathing and remind her to breathe
deep

Best Way to know what feels best is to communicate with
your partner.
Women dont be afraid to tell your partner what you
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You will know when she has an orgasm, you will feel her
muscles of her vagina squeeze down on your finger. They
might flutter a bit then let go.
In the case of female ejaculation her g spot will balloon out
and actually push you out of her.
If you are still unsure whether shes had an orgasm stick the
tip of your finger up her anus. When she has an orgasm
there will be an involuntary contraction.

Sexual Positions
Doggy style aimed down
Woman on bottom, elevate her butt with a pillow
Shallow strokes will put the head of the penis in
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Deep Spot Orgasms

Setting up the experience
Built up anticipation I cant wait to feel myself deep
inside your body
Plenty of foreplay, plenty of arousal, maybe already
given her clitoral orgasm. Always make sure a
woman is already aroused before penetrating her.
Bring her into the present
Plenty of lube
Make sure hand is well manicured
Probably want to position yourself to the side of her
or between her legs
Stimulating the Deep Spot
Deep spot is located almost all the way back in the
deepest part of the vagina just before the cervix
Deep spot is sensitive all the way around. We call it
the front and back of the deep spot. Back of the
deep spot is slightly deeper because this part of the
vagina is tilted
Be careful not to rub the cervix as most women do
not like this. A small percent of women actually do
like it though.
Cervix will feel like the tip of a nose or a button with
a dimple in it. We want to stimulate the smooth area
just before it.
Deep spot orgasms can be very powerful and women
can have multiple.
Ive made women squirt from deep spot orgasms,
even though its more common from g spot
stimulation.
Single Finger Technique Front of Deep Spot
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Insert the middle finger about 3 ! to 4 ! inches in.
You are going past the spongy area and looking for
the smooth part just before the cervix.
Make sure knuckles dont press into her
Dont worry if you cant get all the way to the back
with your finger, go as far as you can.
You might feel a rim, sort of like the rim of a Frisbee.
Use a come here motion
Firm pressure and build intensity
Vary it up between short firm strokes, and long
strokes
Use two fingers if necessary
Use other hand and press down on her pubic bone, it
will feel like your hitting her deep spot from both
sides
Talk to her during this and tell her how good her
pussy feels to you.
Can take up to 30 minutes to climax, dont go longer
than this
Twist your finger technique
Try varying it up using this technique
Remember the deep spot is sensitive all the way
around
Back of deep spot technique
Flip fingers around or try it doggy style
This will be a different feeling to her
Some women say at first it almost feels like theyre
getting butt fucked
Women can have a powerful orgasm from anal sex if
you are able to hit this spot

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Sexual Positions
Any position that hits the deep spot
Girl on top can work well for this
Doggy style
Girl on bottom with pillow under her butt
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Oral Sex
Oral sex on a woman is sometimes called Cunnilingus
I like to call it eating pussy or tasting my girl, sounds
much sexier!
Never treat oral sex as a way to get to sex, make it
a main event in of itself
Women can be self conscious about the way that
they taste. If you can show her that you really love
the way that she tastes its going to make her
excited about it. Text her and tell her you cant wait
to taste her tonight. While performing oral sex tell
her how good she tastes and how hard it makes your
cock.
Positioning can be tricky. Position her at the end of
the bed and get on your knees. Use a pillow under
your knees for comfort
The key to eating out a woman is patience
Number one complaint women have is men go
straight for her clit
You want to wait until shes practically begging for it.
Demo
Start with plenty of foreplay
Lick all the way down her body
Kiss her inner thighs and work down
Kiss and lick the entire outside area of vulva
Take your time as you work your way around
Lick smooth area below clit, above urethra (area that
corresponds to sensitive part of mans penis just
below the head. Talked about this in Female
Anatomy Module)
Lick opening of vagina and do an ice cream lick, from
bottom to top
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Sucking the clit
Once shes completely aroused and practically
begging for you to touch her clit go for it
DO NOT FLICK YOUR TONGUE
Flicking the tongue is often learned from porn. This
is the wrong way to do it. They do it this way in porn
to allow for a better camera angle, its called painting
the fence.
Make face as if youve just bitten into an apple and
you are trying to stop the juice with your bottom lip
Suck on the clit like a small penis
Move your tongue vertically and horizontally
Work in moaning or humming to create a vibrating
sensation
Penetration During Oral Sex Finger in and down
Hook your fingers in and push down to the deepest
part of the pussy. Her cervix rests on top of your
fingers
This will make her feel like shes getting fucked
No poking and jabbing
There is a ligament here that needs to relax during
sex
G Spot
Vary it up and try g spot and deep spot stimulation
while sucking her clit
Jack Lawrence technique
Idea is to create a vacuum to cause the g spot to
swell
Put fingers inside the vagina, press against the g
spot and flick them away slowly
As you flick them away it works like a penis pump
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Makes the g spot swell
Put fingers together, must be air tight. Try dripping
water through
When entering her with two fingers first go down
first until she opens up and relaxes. Then pull out
and twist.
Create vacuum by putting mouth all the way around
clit with lower lip meeting with the fingers. Suck
while you flick your fingers backward.
This makes blood rush to the g spot
Once its swollen finish her off with basic g spot
techniques

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Squirting Orgasm
Female ejaculation or Squirting orgasm is when a woman
ejaculates during orgasm
Ejaculate comes out the urethra during orgasm, NOT
VAGINA
What you see in porn is generally not real female
ejaculation
Female ejaculation is not pee
Female ejaculate is sweet tasting because it contains
glucose. The fluid is not urine, but is similar to a
mans prostatic fluid
Comes from the Skenes Glands also known as the
Female Prostate
Squirting orgasms are generally from G Spot
stimulation, however some women can have them
from deep spot and clitoral stimulation
During g spot stimulation the urethral sponge begins
to swell when it is aroused.
Urethral sponge will often times balloon out and push
you out of her just before she comes
Most women, before they orgasm, feel the urge to
urinate
This is the ejaculate filling up in the female prostate
Most women think they are going to pee so they
tighten up their PC muscle
This keeps the ejaculate from coming out during the
orgasm and forces it up into the bladder
This is why many women have to pee right after sex
To ejaculate she needs to let go of her pc muscle and
push out like she would when she urinates at the
time of orgasm
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Most women will not do this because they fear
peeing on their partner
Take note whether your partner has to pee after sex
or after you give her an orgasm.
This is a good indication that she was close to
squirting
Approaching her about squirting
If your partner tells you that she often time has to
pee after orgasm, or you notice this on her own tell
her about female ejaculation
Say: Babe, the reason you have to urinate is
because you are holding back your ejaculate. Next
time push it out
Go on to explain what female ejaculation is and that
its perfectly normal.
Encourage her to push out next time she has an
orgasm as if to urinate.
Explain to her that it will not be pee, it will be
ejaculate
Getting her past her fear of peeing
Before you even start tell her to empty her bladder
Tell her how much it would turn you on to see her
soak the bed
If shes still afraid of peeing explain the worst case
scenario is shell pee a little bit and it will be cleaned
up afterward.
If thats not enough take her in the bathtub or
shower
Have her push out
Just before she has an orgasm you will feel her g
spot balloon out, and often times it will actually push
you out of her
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She should relax her pc muscles at the time of
orgasm and push out.
Help guide her to this by telling her to push out at
the time of orgasm, you will get to know when shes
going to come because she will balloon out
When she relaxes and pushes out she will feel an
involuntary contraction and ejaculate will be expelled
out the urethra
Her entire body might shake and contract
involuntarily as the orgasm pulses throughout her
entire body
Women typically feel a sense of release similar to the
way a man feels after he ejaculates
The amount of actual ejaculate that comes out varies
from just a few drops to a lot. Will likely be more and
more as she becomes used to it.
Kegel Exercises
Squirting is all about muscle control
Teaching her to do Kegel exercises will not only help
her to achieve squirting orgasms but it will give her
more powerful orgasms in general
Kegel exercises are designed to strengthen the pelvic
floor
Originally created to help pregnant women
strengthen the pelvic floor in preparation for child
birth
Two ways to locate the muscles
o Try stopping the flow of urine midstream and
then release
o Insert a finger into the vagina and try
squeezing down with the surrounding muscles,
then relax and feel the pelvic floor return to the
starting position
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o This should isolate the muscle to contract
during exercises
Contract the pelvic floor muscles.
Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for
three seconds.
Repeat 10 times.
Once you've perfected three-second muscle
contractions, try it for four seconds at a time,
alternating muscle contractions with a four-second
rest period.
Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10
seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between
contractions.
Perform a set of 10 Kegel exercises three times a
day
Make sure you are isolating the muscle and only
contracting that muscle. Try not to contract the
abdominal, thigh, or buttocks muscles.
Vary it up by performing sets of quick mini-kegels
one second contractions with set of 15 then relax for
15 seconds
Within a week or two you should see a dramatic
difference
She will likely notice a big difference in the power
and intensity of her orgasms, plus have more control
over her ejaculate.
Make sure she continues to do kegels, once she
stops shell lose what shes gained.
Extra note: men can do kegel exercises to
strengthen their pc muscle. This gives you more
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Troubleshooting

This section is designed as a reference incase you are still
unable to get your partner to orgasm. Even if youve already
achieved giving your partner full body orgasms its good to
be aware of these issues as eliminating all of them is the
best path to total orgasm mastery.

If your partner is unable to have an orgasm, only able to
have clitoral orgasms but not vaginal, or can not orgasm
during intercourse it could be one of the following.

Make sure your partner takes care of her body,
doesnt abuse alcohol or drugs, eats healthy, is not
over weight, and is overall physically healthy.
The biggest obstacle to achieving orgasm is a
womans mind. Make sure of the following
o She has a sense of humor
o She is comfortable being naked with you, and is
overall comfortable with her body
o She trusts you and is able to give herself to you
completely
o She respects you and will follow you as you lead
her to orgasm
Women who are very visual in nature can have a
hard time being in the moment or letting themselves
concentrate on the feeling of pleasure. If you think
this is the case try using a blindfold on her and tell
her to relax and let you guide her.
Make sure she is relaxing and letting go of her PC
muscle to allow orgasm. Tensing her body or her PC
muscle will hold her orgasm back, she needs to learn
to let go.
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Women who use vibrators can become accustomed
to climaxing only from the vibrating stimulation.
Over time this can make it difficult for her to have an
orgasm using any other stimulation. If your partner
uses a vibrator you might want to bring this up.
Masturbation is healthy and you should not make her
feel shame for using the vibrator. When you
approach her explain that you would like to help her
to achieve a much more intense level of orgasm and
using the vibrator may inhibit some of her sensation
during other types of stimulation. If she is going to
masturbate she should use her finger or a sex toy
that is very similar to a real penis.
Some women get the urge to pee when their g spot
is stimulated. It is important to help her get over the
fear of peeing. She should not be tensing her PC
muscle. Ask her to concentrate only on the feeling
and let go of the fear. If she is still afraid of peeing
tell her nothing would turn you on more than to see
her totally soak the bed! The worst thing that could
happen is she makes a puddle and it gets cleaned up
afterward!
If youre partner has deep rooted anxieties about
sex or unhealthy fears about her sexuality it could be
from physical or emotional abuse from her past. If
this is the case there is no substitute for getting help
from a trained professional. Help your partner by
supporting her as she works to clear her mind of
unwanted beliefs about her sexuality.
Physical and emotional stress leads to high levels of
tension in the body. This body tension can severely
inhibit your partners ability to have an orgasm.
Massage is one of the most powerful tools for
eliminating tension in the body and reaching deep
relaxation. Try giving your partner a deep tissue full
body massage to relieve tension. Massage is very
sensual and increases blood flow in the body. Try
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giving her a massage just prior to intercourse and/or
other sexual activity. If you dont know how to give
a massage I highly recommend learning this skill.
You can also have a couples massage at a spa. This
is where both of you lay side by side and enjoy a
massage together.

Final Note All women respond differently to different types
of stimulation. As long as you take the time to get to know
her mind and body and apply the techniques youve learned
here you should be able to get her to orgasm. It will take
some time for some women as you get to know what they
like and what they respond to. For others you will get very
powerful responses right away. With a little bit of patience
and your new found understanding of female orgasms you
will be sure to be the best shes ever had!
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