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HYPNOSIS : 40 FEBRUARY 2014 TRANCE : 8

HYPNOTIQUE
40
Years
FOR PRIVATE CIRCULATION ONLY
POOR AND RICH
One day, a rich dad took his son on a trip.
He wanted to show him how poor someone can be. They
spent time on the farm of a poor family.
On the way home, the dad asked, Did you see how poor
they are? What did you learn?.
The son said, We have only one dog, they have four. We
have just one swimming pool, they have a nice lake and the
beautiful river.
We have glass chandeliers and lanterns at night, they have
the multi coloured stars and the moon to illuminate their night.
We buy foods, they grow theirs. We have walls to protect
us, they have their friends.
We have encyclopedias, they have the Bible.
Then they headed and the son said, Thanks dad for
showing me how poor we are
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THE HYPNOTIQUE CIRCLE
MADRAS
40
Years
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MUTHIAH RAMANATHAN Dr T M PERUMAL Dr C N RAMGOPAL MAJOR V V NARAYANAN
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JUST 7 WEEKS OF 2014 COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Compiled by Showkat Ali
Its a brand-new year and the second month is just the time when
everyone is resolving to improve something about themselves.
Rather than making a big resolution with no concrete plan on
how to make it happen, why not start taking steps to change your
heart instead?
If you can change your way of thinking, youll be more likely
to make big changes in your life that will actually stick instead of
being forgotten by the spring.
Spend the next seven weeks changing your attitude and I
promise this year will be flled with opportunities you never noticed
in previous years.
Focus on one new attribute each week:
Week 1: Gratitude: Write seven things you are grateful for.
Demonstrate your gratitude for at least one item on the list each day.
Week 2: Courage: Write seven things that cause you fear or
stress. Work each day to remove the illusion of fear from at least
one item on the list.
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Week 3: Commitment: Write seven things that have taken root
in you as a result of walking in gratitude and releasing fear. Commit
to creating a new path at work based on these discoveries.
Week 4: Loyalty: Write seven things you are willing to sacrifce
to show your loyalty to support and uplift others. Discover and
implement at least one item each day.
Week 5: Trust: Write seven areas where your trust for yourself
and others has developed and grown. Nurture each item one day
at a time.
Week 6: Belief: Write seven new things you have found to
believe in about yourself. Strive to increase your belief in at least
one of these areas each day.
Week 7: Respect: Write the names of seven people you respect
more than anyone else. Pattern your behaviors and attitudes after
theirs to see what happens, focusing on one person each day.
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What Can You Expect When You Reach the End of Week 7?:
You will likely lose the desire to judge others harshly and instead
discover signifcant changes that need to occur within your heart
and mind.
You will no longer need to demand credit for everything you
do in order to demonstrate your value to others. This journey isnt
about beating yourself up. Its about making small improvements
day by day until you are surprised to fnd yourself standing far
above where you used to be.
By doing this, it is found that we focused less on changing
others and lived less in judgment and more in self-discovery mode.
May 2014 be the best year in your life !
FIVE WAYS TO PERSUADE ANYONE
TO DO WHAT YOU WANT
By Michael Lee - Author of How to Be an Expert Persuader
Having good persuasion skills has become a necessity in todays
fast-paced world. A large part of our success depends on the
cooperation of other people. Infuencing them to our way of thinking
is now a very essential step in the fulfllment of our goals.
Here are 5 simple yet effective persuasion tactics you may use
everyday to build loyal and lasting relationships through the power of
persuasion and infuence.
Tactic # 1: You Must Enter Their World.
Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they
think. If they rub their forehead while they think, act like them. If they
speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called
mirroring. In due time, the people youre mirroring will subconsciously
feel more comfortable with you. Its as if they see themselves in you.
However, you must proceed with caution. Do not let them be aware
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that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and
youll just get into trouble.
Tactic # 2: Meet Their Existing Needs and Desires.
People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their
own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will
provide more advantageous benefts to them than to your own, then
they will probably accept it. If you could focus more on their interests,
desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings
for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them.
Mutual trust and respect would be established. Satisfy the Whats In
It For Me? test frst, before convincing others to do what you want
them to do.
Tactic # 3: Provide Them with Compelling Evidence.
Explain to them how your ideas or suggestions could be the most
effective techniques to implement. Show them undeniable proof that
you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after
scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just
make sure that all your claims are true and verifable. Always maintain
a good reputation. Be friendly and nice. Smile to brighten up the day.
Make a sincere compliment to raise their spirits. Little things like these
count a lot. Make them feel that whenever they need help or just
someone to look up to, youll always be there to lend a hand. They
would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust.
Tactic # 4: Communicate Wittingly But Clearly.
Most people, if not all, would like to be accepted and to be perceived
as likeable. But what if you have to tell something undesirable which is
just for his or her own good? How can you get your message across
without hurting their feelings? Substitute negative statements with
positive ones. Instead of saying You dont understand, say Let
me explain. Instead of remarking Youre wrong, say Permit me to
clarify. Instead of stating You failed to say, just mention Perhaps
this was not stated. There are certain words that affect a person
more negatively in comparison with other words that have the same
meaning.
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Tactic # 5: Agree with Them First...
Nothing could be more pleasing to the ear than hearing someone
else say that you are right. In this case, be prepared to let other people
know that you respect their opinions. You may add your comments
at the end, but acknowledge them frst. Say: Youre right, although ...
Great suggestion, however ... I agree with your opinion, however ... I
would feel the same way if I were you, although ... I understand your
situation, however ... Reassure your counterparts that the decision
made will beneft both parties. People need to feel that they have
made the right choice.
Happy Persuasion !
9 WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF
Psychologists say that you will never learn to truly love someone
unless you learn to love yourself frst. Many people are so busy trying
to please others to prove their love that they forget giving importance
to their own being. We have to learn to love ourselves frst. Only then
will we be able to love others completely. Here are nine ways to love
yourself.
Create Balance
Many people make sacrifces to prove their love for others. In the
process they sometimes neglect their own needs just to make others
happy. When this happens, there will come a point when the person
who gives so much would feel empty and used. Love yourself and
know your limits of giving.
Take Care of Yourself
One way to love yourself is by taking care of yourself. Eat healthy,
exercise and maintain an active lifestyle. Save something for a rainy
day and spend a little of your hard earned money on the things that
make you happy. Keep your home pleasant and tidy so that you can
relax and sleep peacefully. Love yourself by maintaining a healthy
body, mind and soul.
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Be true to what you feel
If you love someone you should be honest to that person, right?
Be true to yourself and acknowledge how you feel for every situation.
Analyze why you feel that way and do something to address feelings
that prevent you from being truly happy.
Believe in yourself
Of all the people around you, it is you who need to believe in your
own capabilities. Know your strength and best qualities and use these
to enhance your personality. Stop focusing on what others have or
can do. Focus on what you have and believe in yourself.
Stop Listening to Putter-Downers
There are people who like putting others down just to make
themselves feel good. Ignore these bullies and what they have to
say. If it is not constructive criticism then it is useless. They have a
right to their opinion about you, but that doesnt mean you should
be affected by what they have to say. Again, believe in yourself and
prove them wrong.
Stay away from Negative People
Just like putter-downers, people who constantly complain and
focus on their problems are bad company. Stay away from negative
people because they will just pull you down and infuence you into a
life of negativity. Surround yourself with happy, supportive and positive
people if you care about your mental health and would want to live
a stress free life.
Love your Work
What you do for a living is a big part of your life. Not many can fnd
work that they love to do. But you can always learn to love the work
you have. Find things that you love about your work and again focus on
the positive things that will make you want to go to work with a smile.
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Do things for the right reasons
Many people dont realize that they do things for the wrong reasons.
May it be to impress someone or to earn enough for retirement, at
some point you will realize that your goals have been wrong and you
have been wasting most of your time. Do things for the right reasons.
Refect on your tasks and ask yourself, is this really important to me?
Get Spiritual Support
Religion or belief in a higher power plays a vital role in a persons
overall well being. Your faith in this force will guide you to fnding the
true meaning of love. Understanding the supreme beings unconditional
love towards us will help you love yourself more.
AN NLP TECHNIQUE-TO MEND A BROKEN HEART
(Separating Bad Feelings From a Loved One)
By Cris Johnson, NFNLP Trainer
The part of you that has been protecting you by making you feel
bad is an important and valuable part. We need to preserve this ability
to help you protect in future situations. The purpose of this technique
is to refne and improve your brains ability to protect you by updating
its information. We will not remove the memories, just the strong
negative emotional response.
Here is the process :
1. With your eyes open or closed, imagine youre sitting in the
middle of a movie theater and you see a black and white snapshot of
yourself on the screen.
2. Now, foat out of your body and up into the projection booth. See
yourself sitting in the movie theater seat, and you notice the black
and white photo on the screen. You may even wish to imagine the
fexiglass over the booths opening, protecting you.
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3. Now, watch protected in the projection booth, as the other you
in the movie theatre watches a black and white movie of a younger
you going through the entire relationship with ______(Your loved
one, the good, the bad, from the earliest memory till now. Watch it
all, starting before the beginning up till now. Observe until you are
in the current time.
If you are not fully detached, make the theater screen smaller and
farther away, make the picture grainier and stop and start the flm so
that when youre done viewing it, youre completely detached. End
the movie with today, with a freeze frame of yourself.
4. Next, leave the projection booth and slip back into the present
you in the theater seat. Then, step into the freeze photo of the younger
you, who is feeling OK again, at the movies end. (This is double
dissociation.) Now, run the entire movie of that relationship backwards
in color, taking two seconds or less to do so.
Be sure to go all the way back to before the beginning. See, hear,
and feel everything going backwards in those two seconds or less.
Add some funny music, you may want to see your loved one with a
clown nose, fools cap and feet.
5. Repeat this process 2 to 3 times.
6. Now bring up a collage of all the negative times you had with
this person. Be honest, all the hurts and slights should be here.
7. Let this fade away into your past.
8. Now bring up an image of this person, and notice all of the
connections you have with this person. You may notice cords of light,
or energy strings. Pay attention to all the connections, both good and
bad. You may notice that the positive connections are of a different
quality than the negative.
Now, keep the good connections because you love this person
but only wish to sever the negative feelings the grudges, etc. In
whatever way is right for you, cut the cords.
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You may want to use a silver sword, or a special scissor. Once you
have cut the cords, reattach them to yourself, and let them reattach
theirs to them.
Allow yourself to see or feel about this person in positive ways,
allowing any negativity to fade into the past where it can never again
maintain its hold on you.
To test the process, attempt to return to the bad feeling state in any
way you can. What if you were faced with that person now?
(If you still get a negative response, repeat
the steps 1 to 8 exactly, but faster each time, until none of the
phobic response remains.)
Thank your higher self for helping to focus on the positive aspects
of this relationship in your life. Now your relationship is purely positive !
TEN WAYS TO WORRY LESS
We all get worried sometimes. But when it happens too often it
can prevent you from being productive and it can even affect the way
we deal with the people around us. Worry is a result of fear, mostly of
mistakes, rejection and failure from achieving our goals. Although it is
considered as a normal emotion, we should also know that we should
learn to shake it off as soon as we recognize the feeling.
1. Not Problems But Challenges
The frst step is to change the way we see things that bother us.
When problems come our way we start to frown and sigh even before
we realize just how grave the situation is. But if we look at it in a
different perspective where problems are considered as challenges
that we need to solve, then it becomes a positive force that drives us
to fnd a solution.
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2. Stop Focusing on the Problem
People tend to focus on the problem and forget that they need to
fnd a solution. Learn to state the problem once and then focus all
your energy in fnding the solution. You will be surprised to see just
how fast you will fnd it.
3. Organize
Most of our worries come from lack of preparation for a situation.
Learn to organize your schedule and the things that need to be done.
The less work you set aside for later, the less things you will need to
worry about.
4. Prioritize
List down your tasks and learn to prioritize. Solve the most urgent
challenges frst then move on to the next ones. This way you are sure
not to leave out any important tasks or challenges.
5. Expect the worse
Worry can get the best of us if we allow it. Before you start giving
in to your worries always ask yourself Whats the worst that could
happen? Expect the worst case scenario and prepare for it.
6. Hope for the Best
Hope is an essential way of keeping your spirits up. Always hope for
the best thing that could happen and make this your way of reminding
yourself that you should never give up.
7. Dont take things too seriously
Sometimes after some time we would realize that we were
worried about the silliest of things. Dont take things too seriously and
if you fnd that your concern is not that big a deal, just laugh about
it.
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8. Get support
If you fnd yourself worrying about something, talk to a friend.
Having someone listen and give you advice can help you overcome
your worries.
9. Forgive yourself
If you worry about something wrong youve done, do something to
make things right. Of course it is important that you learn to forgive
yourself and move on from a mistake.
10. So What?
Another reason for worry is when we bother to think about what
other people would say about us. Learn to say So what? and stop
minding what others think. As long as you know that what you are
doing is right, you have nothing to fear.
THE SUITCASE
By Ms Ananthi Karthic
A man was about to die and saw God coming closer with a suitcase
in his hand.
God said: Alright son its time to go.
Surprised the man responded: Now? So soon? I had a lot of
plans... Im sorry but its time to go.
What do you have in that suitcase? the man asked.
God answered: Your belongings.
My belongings? you mean my things, my clothes, my money?
God answered: Those things were not yours they belonged to
the earth.
Is it my memories? the man asked.
God answered: Those never belonged to you, they belonged to
Time
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Is it then my talents?
God answered: Those were never yours, they belonged to the
circumstances.
Is it my friends and family?
God answered: Im sorry they were never yours, they belonged
to the path.
Is it my wife and son?
God answered: They were never yours, they belonged to your
heart.
Is it my body?
God answered: that was never yours, it belonged to the dust.
Is it my soul?
God answered: No that is mine.
Full of fear, the man took the suitcase from god and opened it just
to fnd out the suitcase was empty.
With a tear coming down his cheek the man said: I never had
anything???
God answered: That is correct, every moment you lived were
only yours.
Life is just a moment. A moment that belongs to you. For this reason
enjoy this time while you have it. Dont let anything that you think you
own, stop you from doing so.
Live Now
Live your life
Dont forget to be happy, that is the only thing that matters.
Material things and everything else that you fought for, stay
here.
YOU CANT TAKE ANYTHING
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HOW TO DEAL WITH DIFFICULT EMOTIONS
We all experience moments of weakness at some point in our
lives. The challenge would be how to deal with the diffcult emotions
that come with these trials. Even the strongest people are sometimes
overwhelmed by sadness, fear and anger. These are normal emotions
that we should learn to deal with and overcome.
Cry
Some people are ashamed to cry when they have problems. But I
say, it is healthier to let it out. Cry when you feel like crying. It doesnt
mean you are weak when you cry. It only means you are true to what
you feel. A good cry about a problem can make you feel a lot better.
Sleep
In times that you feel burdened by a diffcult emotion, sometimes
the best thing to do is go to sleep. It is easier to think with a rested
mind. It helps you calm down and put your troubles aside for another
day.
Pray or Meditate
Taking time to refect can also help you overcome negative feelings.
The silence and the time alone can help clear your mind and help
you see things in a different light. Seeking help from God and asking
for strength through prayer also helps a lot in dealing with diffcult
emotions.
Talk to a friend
When you feel troubled you can always call a friend and tell him
or her about your woes. Friends can give you advice on how to solve
your problems. Although friends may not always have the answers
or the solutions to your problems but having someone to support and
to listen to you can lighten your load.
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Hug It Out
Sometimes it just takes a warm hug from someone you love to
make you feel better. When dont feel like talking about your problems,
spread out your arms and hug someone you love. This will surely
make you feel better.
Release The Negativity
When you feel the urge to hurt someone because of anger or
frustration, release that negative energy by doing something physical.
I release my negativity by cursing. We have all been told that cursing
is bad, but scientists have found out that it actually helps reduce pain
levels. Some people tear up letters. Some do some shadow boxing.
fnd a way to release that negative energy.
Distract yourself
Another way to deal with diffcult emotions is to distract yourself.
Go on a vacation or do something you really enjoy. This may not solve
the issues that have caused your negative emotions but it would surely
make you feel more relaxed.
Eat Comfort Food
Many people who are going through a bad breakup seek comfort in
food. Although this may cause you to gain a couple of pounds, stress
eating helps soothe a broken heart temporarily.
Get Counseling
When the emotions seem to have been there for much longer than
it should, then maybe it is time to seek professional help. It doesnt
mean you are crazy when you go and get counseling. It is just seeking
help when you fnd that you cannot do it on your own.
Lastly, no matter what you try, it is in your hands on how you will
deal with your diffcult emotions. You cannot blame anyone for your
misery. At the end of the day it is you who will have to pick yourself up.
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2.29 pm : Welcome Address
2.35 pm : Self In(tro)duction by Members and Guests
2.45 pm : Hypnotism - What it is and What it is not
- Mr Muthiah Ramanathan,
President, Hypnotique Circle
4.15 pm : Tea
4.40 pm : Pecha Kucha 20 x 20 - A Japanese Concept
- Mr Patt, Toast Master, Life & People Skills Trainer
5.20 pm : Geology, Archeology & Psychology
- Master Vishnu Vijay
5.40 pm : Mass Relaxation
- Ms Ananthi Karthic, Psychological Counsellor
Hypnotique Circle (Madras)
Heartily invites all its Members and Guests for the
Monthly Meeting on Sunday, the 9th February 2014
at Hotel Palmgrove, Kodambakkam High Road, Chennai - 34
* Free for Members * Guest Investment Rs 150/-
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