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HYPNOSIS : 39 JUNE 2013 TRANCE : 12

HYPNOTIQUE
39
Years
FOR PRIVATE CIRCULATION ONLY
FAME vs SUCCESS
There is a story of a singer, well known in his locality, who was
on a holiday with his wife and kids in another part of the country.
It was raining one of the days, so the singer, his wife and four kids
went to a nearby movie. When they arrived, the lights were on and
there were about ten people in the seats.
When they entered, all the ten people jumped to their feet and
applauded loudly. The singer was thrilled to be recognized so far
away from home. He gestures at them smilingly and waves wildly.
A man came over and shook his hand and the singer said, I am
just amazed that you should recognize me so far away from home
and give me a standing ovation.
Recognize you ? said the man. I havent a clue who the hell
you are. All I know is that the manager of the cinema said he would
show the flm only if six more people turned up.
Moral : Worldly fame is so feeting. It vanishes like the hollow
bubbles. Wise men never count on it. Talent is God-given. So
be grateful. Fame is man-given. So be humble. Conceit is self-
given. So be careful. And, never confuse fame with success.
Madonna is one. Helen Keller is the other.
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THE HYPNOTIQUE CIRCLE
MADRAS
39
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THE MIRROR EXERCISE
How many of us fail to applaud ourselves for the successes we
achieve each day - whether big or small - simply because we are
so unaccustomed to receiving praise and acknowledgement in
general ? Here is a great technique which can help people become
more open to receive validation and praise - and therefore be more
willing to accomplish praise worthy acts.
Called The Mirror Exercise, it is based on the theory that we all
need acknowledgement, but most importantly from ourselves. If
we do not think our successes are worthwhile, why on earth would
we bother to achieve anything worthwhile ?
The Mirror Exercise gives your sub conscious mind the positive
strokes it needs to pursue further achievements. It helps change
any negative beliefs we have toward praise and accomplishment
and puts us in an achieving frame of mind.
Preparation
Set aside a couple of minutes daily, towards the end of the day
when you can spare some quiet time. Step in to a room with a
mirror and request your people not to disturb you.. Tell them it is
your Mirror Exercise time. Relax yourself, mentally and physically.
Recollect any achievement you have achieved that day - big or
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trivial - it does not matter. May be you successfully completed a
deadline or accomplished a project. May be you helped somebody
in the offce or on the road.
Now, Begin Acknowledging Yourself
When you are ready, stand or sit in front of the mirror and begin
by saying Good Evening. I want to appreciate you for the following
things today. Then acknowledge yourself for everything you did
that was a success.
If you were doing it tonight, it will read something like this - Okay,
you got up early, reached offce on time, were friendly with your
co-workers, got that order from so and so. You negotiated well with
the client, handled the staff meeting without losing your temper.
You went to lunch and stayed on to your diet. You exercised/played
football in the evening and kept your body in shape. At home, you
spent quality time with your kids. You watched one hour of TV
instead of two. And then you look yourself in the eye (and this
is the hardest part) and say One more thing (insert your name), I
want you to know that I really love you.
The frst time you do this exercise, you will feel awkward,
strange, weird and may be lots of other things as well. You may
hear little voices in your head saying This is outright stupid. Very
few of know what it is like to totally acknowledge ourselves. While
you may be uncomfortable in the beginning, keep doing it. We
have had lot of people confding how much better and confdent
they feel about themselves and others after doing this exercise
just a week or less.
Ideally, we want you to do the Mirror Exercise diligently for at
least three months. After 90 days of telling yourself how successful
you are, will there be any question that you truly are? Or that you
can go on to succeed even more ?
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7 USEFUL PRACTICES TO KICK START YOUR DAY
Our hectic lifestyles often have us running around in circles
wondering what to do next. Its not that we dont have an agenda
in place; its that we often feel scattered or derailed when a wrench
is thrown into the plans.
Here are 7 useful practices to kick start your day no matter what
happens to threaten your sanity! You can implement some, one,
or any combination of them into your daily routine. Either way its
bound to give you a boost!
1. Upon rising take a minute or two to stretch: According
to the Mayo Clinic, stretching increases muscle fexibility, which
improves daily performance and overall movement. It also
increases blood fow to your muscles and your brain, while at the
same time it relaxes you, thus easing tension and stress.
2. Take a moment for mindfulness refection: After stretching,
slow down your breathing by taking in a few deep breaths and
then concentrate on how you feel, what you see, and what you
smell. Not only will being mindful sharpen your senses, it will help
prepare you for the day ahead by increasing your awareness and
ability to focus.
3. Have a little book of inspirational quotes or passages
handy: Have some inspirational quotes handy from which you can
choose one appropriate for the day ahead. For example:
A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds
Francis Bacon
In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the
stream always wins - not through strength, but through persistence.
Buddha
Whose day wouldnt hold promise with a fresh, bold attitude to
begin it?
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4. Visualize a successful outcome for the day: Go over what
you want to accomplish for the day and visualize it turning out well.
Of course there are always little glitches to contend with, so see
yourself dealing successfully with anything that may threaten to get
in the way. Visualizing is a great way to anticipate what lies ahead
and alerts you to any possibilities. Indeed research has shown that
both physical and psychological reactions in certain situations can
be signifcantly improved with visualization. An advantage indeed!
5. Take a moment for gratitude: Acknowledge all the good
things going for you your health, your family, your opportunities
and everything else going well in your life. When you appreciate
what you have, somehow more good things fnd their way to you.
Likewise, studies have shown that maintaining a sense of gratitude
can help you sustain a more positive mood and sense of well being
throughout the day.
6. Let go of any negative thoughts or grudges you may be
harboring: Know that harboring ill feelings or negativity towards
someone will only drag you down and prevent you from being at
your best. Keeping your head clear will leave room for creativity
and all the productive things you want to accomplish for the day.
Letting go and forgiving others is also good for your heart. A
study from the Journal of Behavioral Medicine found forgiveness
and letting go to be associated with a lower heart rate and blood
pressure as well as relieving stress. Having a healthy heart and
mind would certainly help anyones overall performance on a daily
basis.
7. Come up with a personal positive affrmation to motivate
you: Invent a slogan, or saying, that pertains to you and will inspire
you to be at your best. It could be something like, I endeavor to
make a positive difference whenever I can, or, Challenges help
me grow. It has been shown that positive affrmations (realistic
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ones, of course) serve as a great tool to program your subconscious
mind to help you perform well and have a productive mindset.
As many athletes, performers, business people and politicians
can attest to, there are many little techniques you can employ to
help you rise to an occasion - in this case to positively kick start your
day. So why not begin every day with these helpful little practices?
SUCCESS STATE EXERCISES
(Very powerful NLP exercises which will lead you into great
states and empower you in all aspects of life. From Conversations
by Richard Bandler and Owen Fitzpatrick)
These tasks need to be performed on a ongoing basis,
consistently:
1. Awareness
Spend fve minutes every day paying attention to what you
see, hear and feel in the world, noticing the differences that exist.
Notice the difference between what you can see, hear and feel on
the outside and be aware of how you are thinking on the inside.
2. Openness
Spend fve minutes everyday taking a belief that you have about
something in the world and practice looking at it from the opposite
point of view. Construct as many arguments as possible thinking
about it from different perspectives.
3. Curiosity
Begin to ask more questions of everything. Read more books.
Find the people who do things you really admire and ask them
how they do it. Realise you can learn from everything. When you
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meet people from a different background than your own, fnd out
about their culture. Have and ask enough questions to gain a good
understanding of it.
4. Flexibility
Every day practice new things. Try new meals in restaurants, try
new routes to and from work. Take up something you have never
tried before and give it a go. At least once a week do something
that you have not done before.
5. Determination
Every time you dont get what you want, simply focus on what
you want and change your approach and start again. Keep going
and only focus on how good it will feel once youve done it. Avoid
the possibility that it might not be achieved.
6. Pragmatism
Practise repeating the question: What is the most useful thing
to do now? Each time you come face to face with a problem repeat
this question.
7. Responsibility
Whenever a problem crops up, always ask the question: What
can I do now?. Make this a habit too.
8. Creativity
Once a week, spend 20 minutes and take three ideas which
have nothing to do with each other and invent some new product
or philosophy from combining them. No matter how ridiculous it
seems at frst, practice engaging this exercise.
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THE POWER OF DISCIPLINE
7 Ways It Can Change Your Life - by Brian Tracy
No steam or gas drives anything until it is confned. No Niagara
is ever turned into light and power until it is tunneled. No life ever
grows great until it is focused, dedicated and disciplined.
~Harry E. Fosdick
Self-discipline and self-motivation are joined at the hip. Why
is that? When you practice self-discipline you feel like you are in
control of your life. You feel content and motivated because youre
moving toward your goals.
.If I had to pick the #1 key to success, it would be...self-
discipline. It is the difference in winning or losing; between
greatness and mediocrity.
Why are some people more successful than others? Why do
some people make more money, live happier lives and accomplish
much more in the same number of years than the great majority?
I started out in life with few advantages. I did not graduate from
high school. I worked at menial jobs. I had limited education, limited
skills and a limited future.
And then I began asking, Why are some people more
successful than others? This question changed my life.
Over the years, I have read thousands of books and articles on
the subjects of success and achievement. It seems that the reasons
for these accomplishments have been discussed and written about
for more than two thousand years, in every conceivable way. One
quality that most philosophers, teachers and experts agree on is
the importance of self-discipline. As Al Tomsik summarized it years
ago, Success is tons of discipline.
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Some years ago, I attended a conference in Washington. It was
the lunch break and I was eating at a nearby food fair. The area
was crowded and I sat down at the last open table by myself, even
though it was a table for four.
A few minutes later, an older gentleman and a younger woman
who was his assistant came along carrying trays of food, obviously
looking for a place to sit.
With plenty of room at my table, I immediately arose and invited
the older gentleman to join me. He was hesitant, but I insisted.
Finally, thanking me as he sat down, we began to chat over lunch.
It turned out that his name was Kop Kopmeyer. As it happened,
I immediately knew who he was. He was a legend in the feld of
success and achievement. Kop Kopmeyer had written four large
books, each of which contained 250 success principles that he had
derived from more than ffty years of research and study. I had read
all four books from cover to cover, more than once.
After we had chatted for awhile, I asked him the question that
many people in this situation would ask, Of all the one thousand
success principles that you have discovered, which do you think
is the most important?
He smiled at me with a twinkle in his eye, as if he had been
asked this question many times, and replied, without hesitating,
The most important success principle of all was stated by Thomas
Huxley many years ago. He said, Do what you should do, when
you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.
He went on to say, There are 999 other success principles
that I have found in my reading and experience, but without
self-discipline, none of them work.
Self-discipline is the key to personal greatness. It is the magic
quality that opens all doors for you, and makes everything else
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possible. With self-discipline, the average person can rise as far and
as fast as his talents and intelligence can take him. But without self-
discipline, a person with every blessing of background, education
and opportunity will seldom rise above mediocrity.
I realized that success is not a one-time act or a moment of
luck and that Overnight Success is never true. Success is created
through a habit caused by proper self-discipline. It is simply an act of
cultivation. It requires you to connect todays actions to tomorrows
results. Theres a season for sowing and a season for reaping.
Self-discipline helps you know which is which.
7 BEST LIFE LESSONS FROM THE LEGENDARY
BRUCE LEE
Bruce Lee is an iconic fgure who should need no introduction.
The screen presence that the man possessed was undeniable.
Lee infuenced the generations after him in multiple ways. Though
he is probably most famous as a martial artist and a movie
star, Lee also had an incredible outlook on life. Many of his
quotes and overall philosophy on how to live life are still inspiring
people today. Let us take a look at some of the advice Lee had
to give.
1. Get up and do it.
Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough;
we must do.
Possessing the knowledge of something is a good starting point,
but in order to actually achieve anything in this world you must
apply that knowledge to your actions. There are those who dream
and then there are those who make dreams a reality. When you
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commit to taking action in your life you can do great things. The
frst step to greatness is simply putting one foot in front of the other.
2. Thoughts are important.
As you think, so shall you become.
A persons thoughts determine so much about them. What
you go around thinking about others, the world around you and
especially about yourself helps to mould your perception of the
world. The way you perceive things affects you in such a way so
as to guide your actions. A confdent individual who believes in his
abilities and affrms his capability is more likely to succeed in life.
3. Blind anger will get you nowhere.
A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.
Being quick to anger is not a good trait to possess. When you
let your temper control you, you become a reckless person who
winds up making many mistakes. Cooler heads prevail. When you
look at something from a calm standpoint, the results you get will
be better. Being in control of your emotions will always allow you
to come out the better man or woman.
4. Live for yourself.
Im not in this world to live up to your expectations and youre
not in this world to live up to mine.
In life you should strive to live by your own standards. There are
so many people in the world that worry about what others think of
them. If you live your life just to impress others or try to meet their
expectations, then you are ignoring your own individuality. Humans
are individual creatures. We possess unique abilities, thoughts
and feelings. Life should be explored thoroughly in the pursuit of
happiness for the self. Oftentimes personal happiness includes
the happiness of those close to you, but ultimately you should be
your biggest critic and judge, not others.
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5. Time is fnite.
If you love life, dont waste time, for time is what life is made
up of.
Time moves forward at the same pace for all. It will slow down
for no man, and no man can truly know how much time he has.
Time is a very precious thing, just like life itself. Live in the moment
and dont take things for granted. Everything that you do should
be enjoyed, because you never know when your time will be up.
When you waste time, you are cheating yourself out of precious
time. Make sure that your time is being spent wisely towards your
own ends.
6. Be fexible in life.
Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the
bamboo or willow survives by bending in the wind.
When you hold fast to certain plans or old ways, you can
be doing yourself a disservice. The world is ever changing and
presents many new challenges. When these challenges present
themselves, being rigid and sticking to your old ways will not allow
you to come through unscathed. If you can be fexible like the
bamboo bending in the wind, you will not crack from the pressure.
Your mind needs to be able to adapt in life. When new problems
arise be ready to meet them. Rigid business models are the most
susceptible to sudden failure. Flexibility is formidability.
7. Simplify your life.
Its not the daily increase but the daily decrease. Hack away
at the unessential.
In life it can be easy to get wrapped up in so many different
things. When you take a step back and truly look at your life, you
might be surprised to fnd that there are many unessential elements
that could be cut out to save time for truly important things. By
streamlining your life you can increase your quality of life. When
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you can live your life with a conviction to focus on the things that
matter to you, you can get so much accomplished.
There we have it. As you can see, Bruce Lee was quite the
philosopher. He had many great ideas on how to live better life, and
how people can be inspired to make changes in their own lives.
At their core, these are very practical. Take heed to these words
if the meaning behind them touches you. You might fnd that you
can glean some new happiness in life because of it.
For many, they discover the secret to achieving success lies in
an old yet extremely life-changing concept known as Pelmanism.
It has helped tens and thousands of people and it might just
help you.
PRECISE COMMUNICATION
Professor Ernest Brennecke of Columbia University is credited
with inventing a sentence that can be made to have eight different
meanings by placing ONE WORD in all possible positions in the
sentence: I hit him in the eye yesterday.
1. ONLY I hit him in the eye yesterday. (No one else did.)
2. I ONLY hit him in the eye yesterday. (Did not slap him.)
3. I hit ONLY him in the eye yesterday. (I did not hit others.)
4. I hit him ONLY in the eye yesterday. (I did not hit outside the eye.)
5. I hit him in ONLY the eye yesterday. (Not other organs.)
6. I hit him in the ONLY eye yesterday. (He doesnt have another eye..)
7. I hit him in the eye ONLY yesterday. (Not today.)
8. I hit him in the eye yesterday ONLY. (Did not wait for today.)
This is why it is important to be precise!
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WHY DO PEOPLE SHOUT IN ANGER ?
A saint asked his disciples, Why do we shout in anger? Why
do people shout at each other when they are upset?
Disciples thought for a while; then, one of them said, Because
we lose our calm, we shout . But, why to shout when the other
person is just next to you? asked the saint. Isnt it possible to
speak to him or her in a normal voice? Why do you shout at a
person when youre angry?
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfed the saint.
Finally, he explained, When two people are angry at each other,
their hearts get distanced. To cover that distance they must shout
so as to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will
have to shout to hear each other through that much more distance.
Then the saint asked, What happens when two people fall in
love? They dont shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because
their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very
small...
The saint continued, When they love each other even more,
what happens? They do not speak, only whisper; they get closer
to each other in their love.
Finally, they even need not whisper, they only look at each
other and thats all. That is how close two people are when they
love each other.
MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant,
do not say words that distance each other more, else there
will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not
fnd the path to return.
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EVEN LITTLE THINGS HAVE PURPOSE
You do remember the TWIN TOWERS? The 3,000+ people
who died that day?
Below is actual stuff that happened that sad day. It was just not
their time to die. Thats all.The events narrated are really something
to ponder. I guess we are all lucky in all different ways. And now
the LITTLE THINGS...
As you might remember, the head of a company survived 9/11.
Because his son started kindergarten right on that morning.
Another fellow was alive because it was his turn to bring donuts
to his family of eight. One woman was late because her alarm clock
didnt go off in time.
One was late because of being stuck on the NJ Turnpike freeway
because of an auto accident. One of them missed his bus. One
spilled food on her clothes and had to take. Time to change.
Ones Car wouldnt start. One couldnt Get a taxi on time. The
one that struck me was the man who put on a new pair of shoes
that morning, Took various means to get to work. But before he
got there, he developed a sore blister on his foot. He stopped at a
drugstore to buy a Band-Aid. That is why he is alive today.
Next time your morning seems to be Going wrong, You cant
seem to fnd the car keys, You hit every traffc light, Dont get mad
or frustrated;
It May be just that God is at work watching over you. May God
continue to bless you with all those annoying little things. And may
you remember their possible purposes.
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2.15 pm : Registration
2.29 pm : Welcome Address
2.35 pm : Self In(tro)duction by Members and Guests
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4.40 pm : Magic of Five Fingers to Heal Body and Mind
- Mr Sunil Mour, Mudra Healer
5.10 pm : Medical Tips-How to Prevent Pneumonia
- Dr T M Perumal
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