A warm good morning to the respected teachers, parents and my beloved

students. On this wonderful morning, I am standing here to delivere a speech on

Parenting Tips. First of all, i would like congratulate each and every parent attended
today for your great dedication towards your children's progress. In order to make my
speech more effective I would like to focus on the topic about
What does it take to be a good parent?
Ladies and gentleman,
Each and every parent would like to be the best parents for their beloved
prince and princess. But in this challenging era, there should be some characteristics
to be followed in order to be a great parent. Parenting is a word which containing
thousands of responsiblities. Parenting is not an easy job but it is a full time and
dedicated practice which needs a lot of patience. Knowledge on certain elements
and acquired skills will make each and every parent to lead a successful child.
Parenting cannot be taught theoretically as it is an art to be learned by see, listen,
know, experience, and practice. Raising a child can be very difficult. Children learn
how to be adults from their parent. Parents need to have willing to teach their
children.
Availability is the main element that makes a good parent. Being available for
the children is most important in parenting. This is because the presence of parent
will bring a lot of meanings to their childrens growth. They need to experience the
love, care, and concern of the parents by living with them. In this fast moving world,
parents are chasing after careers and money while forget to spent their valuable time
with their children. This will create a communication gap between the parent and
child and make the children to be depressed and cant share their goods and bad
with their parents. This situation will lead them to find a friend or someone who really
can spent time and share everything. So, a good parent should be a good friend first
to their children.
Beloved audience,
There was a study among 2,000 parents was conducted by a psychology
professor and researcher, Robert Epstein and was published in a 2010 issue of
"Scientific American". According to that research, they found that being loving and
affectionate while still providing parental guidance was most important in being a
good parent. Children are very sensitive and they expect the unconditional love from
their parent. Good parents should give the unconditional love to their children without
look into their childrens goods and skills. Loving parents choose to respect,
encourage and accept their children as they are rather than comparing them with
other children and blaming them for their disabilities. They constantly affirm their love
and affection by all their actions verbally, through their behaviour and even in facial
expressions. Good parents should use positive reinforcement to build self-esteem in
their children rather than tearing it down with criticisms. Apart from that, when their
child makes an achievement even it is small but they are quick to offer enthusiastic
praise. A loving parent might say, "It's great that you finished your homework without
being asked" or "I'm so proud that you won the second price in public speaking".
Loving parent will always take good care of their childrens feelings. They will really
concern in their each word because it may hurt and demotivate their children. Loving
is the most important characteristic that a good parent needs to demonstrate. When
parents love to their children, they are consciously sharing their thoughts and
feelings. They are tenderly touching and holding the child with care. Parent are
playful and joyful in their actions and in their guidance. Good parent should take
time to listen and to explain things to their child so they are able to understand.
Parents must always response to the child's questions. Parents should create quality
time where they can look into the child's eyes and connect with their soul. Parents
must create an environment that comfortable for the children. So, each and every
parent should always be there for their child to teach good things, help them to clear
their doubts and issues and motivate them in positive way.
Other than that, respect is an important element to be a good parent. Most of
parent feels very hard to build the respect among the children. Some parents use
autocratic methods to bring the respect. A good parent need to be respectful to their
child, even when practice discipline. They should be strict and should work like the
phrase " Give respect and take respect ". This is because the Children will learn all
the behaviours from their parents, so a child who is consistently treated respectfully
by a parent is more likely to develop a healthy self-respect, and respect for others,
including their parent. Parents should keep in mind that it is possible to be respectful
and firm at the same time.

Parents should respect and give importancre to their child's interests and get
involved in their life. They should participate in all activities that brings happiness to
the entire family. Parents should teach and try out new things according to their
children's interests such bringing them outings, involved in sports together with
them, make diffrrent kind of dishes for their children to taste.
Ladies and gentleman,
More over a good parent should be a good listener too. Good parents know
how to listen, more than talk. Most of the times, the childrens need to have a good
listener, a friend who keep all the secrets, a safe place to talk things out, and for the
parent to put themselves in their child's shoes rather than critic and blame them all
the time. A parent who is willing to tune into their child's words, tone of voice, and
body language, will have a better chance to hear what the child is really want to say.
Empathic listening sets the stage for open communication and can go a long way in
strengthening the parent-child relationship. Parents are sometimes too quick to judge
their children's actions and words that they do not hear them cry for love, attention or
help. Parents need to listen to their child's feelings and reactions to things. Also, they
need to let them have their own opinions and voice them too. They should look after
their child and show them that they are listening to them. Understanding their point of
view, objectives, determination and idea will make them to be a good and friendliest
parents.
Besides that, a good parent should trust their children's abilities and should
give them oppurtunities. They will take advantage of opportunities to allow their child
to make age-appropriate decisions, thereby, instilling a level of trust in the child's
ability to do so. Children in this era, really open minded and matured to take their
own decisions. They expect that parents to give freedom for them to make choices in
their life and not force them to obey our likes and dreams. Entrusting a child to make
certain choices is a great way to empower a child, and ultimately help a child learn
how to become responsible for their decision. When parents try to control too many
things in a child's life, it shows the child that parents don't trust them to make the
right decisions and always parent can make a better decision. Consequently, the
more a parent controls their child, the less attachment and love the chid with their
parents.
The parnts should be a role model to their childrens. The parents should act
as a leader in the family in order the childrens can adopt it and learn many good
things from the parents. A parent's main role is to influence their childrens and show
them all the good things in life to be followed. Leadership in parenting requires being
firm when necessary, and a willingness to put rules in place, even when those rules
are not readily accepted by the child. As a leader, the parents should understand
and accept that sometimes their childrens will not like them for putting certain limits
in place, but they should know how to encounter this situation and enforce them
anyhow, knowing that it's their duty to do what's best for their child.
It takes courage to be a good parent. The need for courage in parenting can
show up in different ways, such as taking an unpopular stand to instils values, rules,
and limits, even if it goes against what their child, or others may believe. At other
times, courage may be needed to let go and allow a child to make certain choices
and experience the consequences of such choices, so he can learn and grow.
Courage is not reckless, nor is it the absence of fear; it's the willingness to try, and
do what need to be done, despite having fears.
Parents who are confident might not have all the answers, but they are
confident in their abilities to do the best they can. When they don't know the answer,
they will try their level best to look for it. Rather than dwell on their own mistakes,
confident parents are willing to admit them, learn from them, and make better
choices in the future. They see problems as opportunities to learn and grow. As a
result, they will be in a better position to help their child develop self-confidence, as
well.
Ladies and gentleman,
Gratitude in parenting helps a parent appreciate their child as they are.
Gratitude says, "I like who you are and who you are becoming." Gratitude helps
parents become aware of, and help build on a child's strengths. A grateful parent
focuses on and accepts the present moment, doesn't afraid about past mistakes, or
worry about the future. Gratitude in parenting helps parents become more
approachable, and a positive influence in their child's life.
Probably one of the hardest characteristics to develop in parenting, but the
most needed, is the characteristic of understanding. Many times it can be hard for
parents to deal with a child's misbehaviours, mostly because they don't understand
them. One of the worst things a parent can do is take their child's misbehaviours
personally. As part of their growth and development, children are going to misbehave
and do things that go against the rules. Knowing this can help parents anticipate and
redirect a child toward more positive and acceptable behaviour, and avoid a lot of
unnecessary anger. Understanding can also lead to forgiveness.
Happiness is not given to everybody but we need to search for it and create it
for our beloved family. Happiness is available for those who choose to make it as a
part of their daily life. Many people wait for things, events, and other people to make
them happy, but this is a mistake. Choosing to be happy is a choice we can all make
because it comes from within. It's a reservoir that we can tap into whenever we
choose. It's not designed to make problems go away, although, sometimes it may.
Happiness can help us rise above our problems, and not just survive, but thrive, in
spite of them. Plus, it just feels good to be happy. Parents who practice happiness
have a greater chance of influencing their child's perception of happiness, and their
attainment of it, as well. Most children are naturally happy and enjoy being around
happy parents.
Dear sir and madam,
Good parents will help their children become independent. When the children
feel they are given proper freedom, they are able to learn skills freely and becoming
self-sufficient, children will grow more confident in their abilities. Each year, every
child should be able to point with pride to a newfound skills or added responsibility
that comes with age. Good parents will help their children to grow independent and
flourish by teaching the children to pick out their clothing, dress themselves as they
grow older, tie their own shoes, and put away their books and organising
themselves.
If parents want their child to do what is right, I think that they need to set an
example by doing what is right. Children should be taught how to be responsible,
caring, hardworking and patient from watching and learning these traits from their
parents.
Making time and traditions for your family is another part of being a good
parent. True, many parents do have to work a lot to provide their family with the
things they need. Spoiling children does not mean parents don't need to show love
and spend quality time with their kids. Parents should invest time, not money into
their children. Children shouldn't have to ask if they are important to their parents to
know. They should just know. The time a parent puts into their family and the
traditions they have will always be there.
Another major characteristic that a good parent demonstrates is being a
positive role model. A positive role model demonstrates and presents a healthy
lifestyle that involves exercise, nature, art and self-expression. A positive role model
prepares food that nourishes the eyes, the mouth and the body. They are wise in
their words and actions. They strive to express their wants in a positive manner.
They have hindsight, now-sight and foresight. They are not afraid to say they made a
mistake and they are open to feedback on how they can do things better. They don't
blame others, nor do they portray themselves as a victim. They teach the concept of
acceptance by using everything for their up liftman, advancement and growth. They
demonstrate the concept of patience by being present, enjoying what is going on in
the moment no matter what. They consciously present the concept of cause and
effect so the child can learn through its experiences what is effective, and what is not
effective. Since they know they are more than just a mother or a father, they take
time to nurture and care for themselves so they can give from their overflow.
Ladies and gentleman,
Another key to become good parents is demonstrates moral and spiritual
responsibility. This will lead the children to be on corrrct pathway always. The
childrens will be able to consider the right and bad things. They hold a space for their
child to develop into the truth and trying to make the child into something they want.
They consistently demonstrate good boundaries and give their child permission to
say "yes" and "no" when it's appropriate. They encourage the child to dream, to be
more, and to think outside the box. They teach the child to regularly look into the
mirror and say, "I'm loving you."
Good parents create a social environment where the concept of "family"
extends out into the community and expands to all our brothers and sisters on the
planet. Friends are welcomed and play is an opportunity to learn, to grow, to
communicate, and to share. Formal education is embraced and the development of
the intellect is valued and praised. Discipline and consistent daily routines, that
support the family and the community, are demonstrated and reinforced. The child
knows that they can count on their parent to hold, to comfort, to listen, to understand,
and to love them.
Being a successful parent helps to develop qualities in children such as
honesty, empathy, self-control, self-reliance, cooperation, cheerfulness and
kindness, and provide them the motivation to achieve, according to author and
Temple University psychology professor Laurence Steinberg. The role of a good
parent is also to protect their child from developing psychological problems, such as
depression, anxiety and anti-social behaviour, which increases the risk of substance
abuse. An ideal parent strives toward their ideal, however they knows it's not
reasonable or realistic to expect or demand that they always are ideal. An ideal
parent extends forgiveness to their child when they miss the mark. An ideal parent
knows parenting is an on-going learning process.
Parents who are skilful communicators show genuine interest in all areas of
their child's life and are always available for him. They demonstrate respect for their
child by explaining the reasons behind rules, rather than simply ordering him to do as
they told. To become a skilful communicator, encourage your child to express his
feelings and then listen with understanding. Being an interested listener shows him
that his feelings and opinions are appreciated and valued. Instead of belittling his
feelings by telling him he's "wrong" to feel a certain way, show empathy by saying, "I
can understand why your little sister made you upset" or "I'm sorry your best friend
made you so mad."
Ladies and gentleman,
Another essential characteristic of a good parent is the ability to manage their
stress and temper, which leads to well-adjusted children, according to Epstein.
Children often handle stress by mirroring how their parents manage emotions during
stressful situations. Parents who come home and complain about their job, boss, use
foul language, argue or take out their frustration on their kids, set a poor example for
healthy stress management. If parents are unable to cope with stress, it also causes
their kids to feel anxious and less secure. But if your child watches how you're able
to manage your emotions even during heated circumstances, he'll follow your lead
and learn how to handle the stress.
Rebellion on occasion is a healthy part of your child's attempt to develop his
autonomy. Parents who value their kid's emerging independence choose to nurture it
rather than attempt to tamp it down. Instead of dictating rules, they ask for their
child's input and make setting rules a joint project. Children who are allowed to
participate in making decisions become more motivated to carry them out, according
to the Kids Health website. If your child refuses to stop playing a video game and go
to bed, you might agree to a compromise by saying, "You can play for an extra 15
minutes, but then it's bedtime." Remaining flexible shows you're honouring his
needs, but still setting limits.
Being a positive role model for appropriate behaviour is more effective than
specific disciplinary measures or training in raising your children, according to a 2010
article at PsychologyToday.com. Children learn through observation and often mimic
the behaviour of their parents. When they watch their parents arguing and losing
control, they feel less safe. They might try to resolve conflicts by fighting and
arguing, just like their parents do. But parents who are able to work out their conflicts
and disagreements through calm discussions rather than heated arguments become
healthy role models. Be those traits you hope to develop in your child, such as
kindness, compassion, honesty, respectfulness, tolerance, patience, honesty and
unconditional love.
In conclusion, I would like to thank everybody for giving me this wonderful
oppurtunity to deliver this speech on Parenting Tips. I hope all my ideas and
suggested ways would give you more tips on developing your own parenting skills
towards your childrens. And for all my beloved students, please take note on all my
advices and be a good children for your parents as well become a good leader for
the nation. By this i would like to end my speech. Have a wonderful day.
Thank you.